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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the total opposite problem I am on sertorline antidepressant which stops me from Cumming altogether which is fun but you never get to finish but I can go for hour and hour no getting to the point of my post on the paper work they say it is to treat premature ejaculation

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Do you lose your desire once you ejaculate OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip.."

Thanks for the kind words. Never heard of the condoms before. Thanks for the tip

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have the total opposite problem I am on sertorline antidepressant which stops me from Cumming altogether which is fun but you never get to finish but I can go for hour and hour no getting to the point of my post on the paper work they say it is to treat premature ejaculation "

Wow. I consider you lucky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you lose your desire once you ejaculate OP?

"

I lose my desire for sex. But I don't completely switch off. I don't develop aversion for it. I can still kiss and give oral.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Try and remember some of us actually like quick cummers..I have met a few women and men who don't mind at all..

Gimme a sprinter over a stayer every time...

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

I used to meet a guy, he would finish within seconds.. for some reason I really enjoyed it. plus he was amazing with other things.

I wish you to figure it out, but it's not as bad as guys think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try and remember some of us actually like quick cummers..I have met a few women and men who don't mind at all..

Gimme a sprinter over a stayer every time..."

I hope to meet someone like that

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Try and remember some of us actually like quick cummers..I have met a few women and men who don't mind at all..

Gimme a sprinter over a stayer every time..."

That's the reason for my earlier question.

However, was hoping for a repeater.

I hope I didn't sound greedy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip..

Thanks for the kind words. Never heard of the condoms before. Thanks for the tip "

Think they’re called performa - I used them when I was younger and was far too excited x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to meet a guy, he would finish within seconds.. for some reason I really enjoyed it. plus he was amazing with other things.

I wish you to figure it out, but it's not as bad as guys think "

I was at a fetish party where a couple were having sex with people watching and I was one of them. The wife was a sub. Out of the blue, her hubby asked her to blow me. The second after her tongue touched mine, I exploded. Luckily I was expecting that to happen and turned it a bit to dirty the floor. But it was wild. I could never forget the shocked faces in the room

They were even asking me about it before they left the party. Looks like that was the first time they met someone who cums so soon.

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

"

Try Dapoxetine, brand name Priligy. You can get it from your Doctor or the likes of Superdrug online.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

It maybe worth mentioning on yr profile..That way you would attract those who don't mind and it would let others know about it..

j

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

Try Dapoxetine, brand name Priligy. You can get it from your Doctor or the likes of Superdrug online."

I am a bit afraid of taking drugs for these purposes. Worried about the side effects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I used to attend clubs with the former wife she hated guys that held back or took hours to cum, she enjoyed the satisfaction of satisfying others, so quick cummers were her favourite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It maybe worth mentioning on yr profile..That way you would attract those who don't mind and it would let others know about it..

j"

Ah. Good point. I will update it right now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I used to attend clubs with the former wife she hated guys that held back or took hours to cum, she enjoyed the satisfaction of satisfying others, so quick cummers were her favourite."

Ha ha. Is she on fab

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Do you come immediately when the first touch is from yourself during masturbation, or only when others are doing the touching?

As others have said, there are situations where a quick and frequent cummer is welcome. You'd be popular at a bukkake for example. And you should try a densitising spray or medication to see if it helps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do you come immediately when the first touch is from yourself during masturbation, or only when others are doing the touching?

As others have said, there are situations where a quick and frequent cummer is welcome. You'd be popular at a bukkake for example. And you should try a densitising spray or medication to see if it helps.

"

It doesn't happen when I touch it myself. In fact, I can edge myself for hours while masturbating. But when I put it in a toy pussy I cum immediately. I know it sounds weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I used to attend clubs with the former wife she hated guys that held back or took hours to cum, she enjoyed the satisfaction of satisfying others, so quick cummers were her favourite.

Ha ha. Is she on fab "

Possibly

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich


" It doesn't happen when I touch it myself. In fact, I can edge myself for hours while masturbating. But when I put it in a toy pussy I cum immediately. I know it sounds weird "

In that case, it's psychological and your over stimulated by anything that's not your own body. You say foreplay is fine, are light touches or stroking in your genital area acceptable?

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By *cooby5555Man
over a year ago

galway

I was watching a cpl in paradise spa a few years ago just three of us in room she was on top watched for a while from a polite distance he asked if I wanted her bum was a bit shocked at this offer but walked over to take my place but before I got there bang blew my load was so embarrassed I legged it never happened before or since didn't even have my hand on my cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" It doesn't happen when I touch it myself. In fact, I can edge myself for hours while masturbating. But when I put it in a toy pussy I cum immediately. I know it sounds weird

In that case, it's psychological and your over stimulated by anything that's not your own body. You say foreplay is fine, are light touches or stroking in your genital area acceptable?"

By foreplay, I meant giving oral to others. Touches and stroking in my own area triggers ejaculation.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich


" By foreplay, I meant giving oral to others. Touches and stroking in my own area triggers ejaculation."

What's the minimum that gets you off? Is it OK for someone to kiss you or stroke your chest? Is playing with your balls without touching your penis OK?

I'd probably take slow slow steps and start with massage sessions and then gradually introduce some genital contact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" By foreplay, I meant giving oral to others. Touches and stroking in my own area triggers ejaculation.

What's the minimum that gets you off? Is it OK for someone to kiss you or stroke your chest? Is playing with your balls without touching your penis OK?

I'd probably take slow slow steps and start with massage sessions and then gradually introduce some genital contact. "

I think you got it now. Kissing works. Stroking my chest and nipples are fine. It's just my penis and balls which break my resolve on touch though I feel my balls can handle it relatively better than my penis. Massage sessions sound like a good idea.

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

Try Dapoxetine, brand name Priligy. You can get it from your Doctor or the likes of Superdrug online.

I am a bit afraid of taking drugs for these purposes. Worried about the side effects.

"

The side effect is you being able to delay your orgasm.

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore

I don't last long if Ive been teased etc for ages ,but have found thinking about your tax return or something helps,don't think about how horny something is,

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

S is exaxtly the same. But he enjoys it. Makes our domme sub relationship all the more hot. When he cums almost instantly i remind him thats why I fuck other men

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Went a fancy dress party once as one.. come in my pants

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I've helped a few married blokes build up stamina by edging them ,it takes patience and understanding but edging does work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

I'm just the opposite which is a pain as well.

For your condition, there are medication available that do the job

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Have you considered making a feature of it? Your own USP? You could advertise the efficiency of it all.

'Meet me and we can do it in the adverts,'

'Book me for your gangbangs and squeeze in an extra cock, with little extra time.'

'Need an ego boost? Meet me and you too can boast that a guy came at the sight of your naked body.'

It's not all bad news

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't last long if Ive been teased etc for ages ,but have found thinking about your tax return or something helps,don't think about how horny something is, "

How is it even possible to think about something else in these situations?

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Don't know much about PE but there's usually a root cause to everything. I know some people who suffer from it because they watch too much porn and that makes them aroused too easily. Could be medically related so seeing a gp might be a start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"S is exaxtly the same. But he enjoys it. Makes our domme sub relationship all the more hot. When he cums almost instantly i remind him thats why I fuck other men "

He is living my dream

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Went a fancy dress party once as one.. come in my pants "

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip.."

I second that.

Very brave

Yep try those condoms

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've helped a few married blokes build up stamina by edging them ,it takes patience and understanding but edging does work "

Maybe I should try edging by someone else instead of doing it myself. Good suggestion like the massage idea given above.

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By *xxsomonMan
over a year ago

rugeley


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

I have had thd same problem for years,its cost me many a relationship and ive tried everything,some of my encounters have been very embarrassing to the point where i have no confidence at all.

Message me if you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem.

I'm just the opposite which is a pain as well.

For your condition, there are medication available that do the job"

I would consider medication, but only as a last resort.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you considered making a feature of it? Your own USP? You could advertise the efficiency of it all.

'Meet me and we can do it in the adverts,'

'Book me for your gangbangs and squeeze in an extra cock, with little extra time.'

'Need an ego boost? Meet me and you too can boast that a guy came at the sight of your naked body.'

It's not all bad news "

Great ideas. That ego boost thing is true. I came within seconds with an older lady. I apologised a lot to her and she was like "Why are you saying sorry? I am actually proud that I could do that to a younger guy"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't know much about PE but there's usually a root cause to everything. I know some people who suffer from it because they watch too much porn and that makes them aroused too easily. Could be medically related so seeing a gp might be a start. "

Good point about porn. There was a time when I used to watch too much porn. But reduced it in past two years. But could well be the reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip..

I second that.

Very brave

Yep try those condoms "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My partners think I cum quick but it’s only pre cum . Then they get a big surprise when I finally erupt .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if having sex everyday for a month would improve this naturally

In all honesty the thought people go for hours must be frightening to some women,I bet most stayers only last 5-6 mins tops full penetration,but I do think watching to much point subconsciously contributes to this

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By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I cum really quick 1st time but stay hard and then 2nd time last for 5 minutes. If i make it 3, then it's hard for me to cum within 20 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if having sex everyday for a month would improve this naturally

In all honesty the thought people go for hours must be frightening to some women,I bet most stayers only last 5-6 mins tops full penetration,but I do think watching to much point subconsciously contributes to this"

Porn not point

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By *ungfunfellaMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

I used to suffer with this but age n practice helped a lot...though still being able to do the five minute wank is handy and a quick cum then being able to stay hard n go again tends to impress

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to suffer with this but age n practice helped a lot...though still being able to do the five minute wank is handy and a quick cum then being able to stay hard n go again tends to impress "

Definitely need to work hard on getting hard again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to suffer with this but age n practice helped a lot...though still being able to do the five minute wank is handy and a quick cum then being able to stay hard n go again tends to impress

Definitely need to work hard on getting hard again."

You can get treatments for PE. Dapoxitine is one.

Another thing that might help is something like Cabergoline. It shortens the refractory period, so you might cum, then be able to keep going.

Opinions above are not from a medical professional and for information purposes only

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I feel for you OP it doesn't help the self confidence especially when approaching others with the potential to meet, knowing what is likely to happen.

As mentioned numbing creams can help, along with numbing condoms, durex do one called performa, you ideally need to apply/fit them a little bit before you have sex to give them time to act.

If your able to keep it hard after cumming then that is a bonus especially if you've used a cream/numbing condom as that will reduce the sensitivity. This isn't always easy to do I think it always depends upon the person who you are with.

If your in a mfm 3some then cumming first may not be such a problem, at least the other guy can keep her occupied while you recover and hopefully last longer the second time round.

The biggest thing that I have found to help is regular sex once or twice a day, the more you have the longer you last to point when it's almost down to you as to when you cum. It's not necessarily a final solution as if you then have a period of little sex then you can revert back and have to build up again.

And yes there are people out there who don't like a guy who can bang on for hours or not even cum at all.

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Over the years I've tried all kinds of numbing creams with disappointing results. The only thing that really worked for me is Dapoxetine (Priligy) a little pill you can get on prescription from the Doctors or online from the likes of Superdrug in the UK.

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By *antiedguy83TV/TS
over a year ago

Shropshire

For me I’m always pretty quick out of the blocks with my wife (usually pulling out to calm down after 10-15 seconds ). We tend to use the durex performa condoms, put them on and spread the cream then eat her pussy for 5-10 mins while it takes effect. Alcohol also sometimes extends it. I don’t know why it is but it’s gotten worse, possibly due to infrequent sex and too much masturbation.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

Tell your partner you can't stop yourself cumming quick because she's so dam gorgeous and learn to be awesome with your fingers and tongue until you're ready for round 2

Or make yourself cum before the meet

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Brave post, respect . Some great replies too.

My tuppence worth (Mr) here.

- when you edge do you do it the same every time? Just wondering if the touch is different from a partner then that’s what could kick in the reaction. Similarly, when you edge do you vary your technique so you experience a different “touch”?

- also when you edge, maybe you could try taking yourself to the brink and just a little over, letting a small amount of cum trickle out without the spasm. I don’t mean a full pumping “ruined” orgasm. I mean a trickle. This may help you with the control - especially if you do it before a meet, so that you’re still horny but not needing to immediately cum. You could even try making this an explicit part of your partner play, your partner might like to watch

- I think definitely cut down the porn!

All the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me I’m always pretty quick out of the blocks with my wife (usually pulling out to calm down after 10-15 seconds ). We tend to use the durex performa condoms, put them on and spread the cream then eat her pussy for 5-10 mins while it takes effect. Alcohol also sometimes extends it. I don’t know why it is but it’s gotten worse, possibly due to infrequent sex and too much masturbation.

"

Definitely going to try the condoms. But I don't drink. So alcohol doesn't work. Masturbation could be a good reason though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem.

Tell your partner you can't stop yourself cumming quick because she's so dam gorgeous and learn to be awesome with your fingers and tongue until you're ready for round 2

Or make yourself cum before the meet

"

Ah. I am indeed working on my tongue skills. But cumming before meets don't seem to help that much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Brave post, respect . Some great replies too.

My tuppence worth (Mr) here.

- when you edge do you do it the same every time? Just wondering if the touch is different from a partner then that’s what could kick in the reaction. Similarly, when you edge do you vary your technique so you experience a different “touch”?

- also when you edge, maybe you could try taking yourself to the brink and just a little over, letting a small amount of cum trickle out without the spasm. I don’t mean a full pumping “ruined” orgasm. I mean a trickle. This may help you with the control - especially if you do it before a meet, so that you’re still horny but not needing to immediately cum. You could even try making this an explicit part of your partner play, your partner might like to watch

- I think definitely cut down the porn!

All the best.

"

I do masturbate in two ways. Bed humping and regular masturbation using hands. In both cases, I stop any touch on my penis when I am about to cum and I have a fairly good control over it. A partner's touch on the other hand feels totally different and I lose all control.

That part of letting a little bit cum go out seems to be a great idea. It requires a lot more control than regular edging and might help me indeed.

I have reduced watching porn drastically. Used to be something I watch daily before going to sleep. Now it's just a few minutes of weekend fun.

Thanks for the great advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel for you OP it doesn't help the self confidence especially when approaching others with the potential to meet, knowing what is likely to happen.

As mentioned numbing creams can help, along with numbing condoms, durex do one called performa, you ideally need to apply/fit them a little bit before you have sex to give them time to act.

If your able to keep it hard after cumming then that is a bonus especially if you've used a cream/numbing condom as that will reduce the sensitivity. This isn't always easy to do I think it always depends upon the person who you are with.

If your in a mfm 3some then cumming first may not be such a problem, at least the other guy can keep her occupied while you recover and hopefully last longer the second time round.

The biggest thing that I have found to help is regular sex once or twice a day, the more you have the longer you last to point when it's almost down to you as to when you cum. It's not necessarily a final solution as if you then have a period of little sex then you can revert back and have to build up again.

And yes there are people out there who don't like a guy who can bang on for hours or not even cum at all."

Numbing cream and performa condoms seem to be the most recommended. I will buy them.

As a single guy living alone, I don't get the chance often. My meets have been mostly through parties. I frequent kink parties more. Have met a couple of dominant women who want to have sex post party after getting tired of domination. They all seem to be fine with my issue. In all the cases, I warned them before even going to a room.

This issue bothers me more in vanilla dating than the swinging/kink scene. Because I can never be sure about when to bring this up. In case of swinging/kink scene, I can be straightforward at the beginning itself and tell it upfront. Saves time for both the parties if they are not interested. In case of vanilla dating, you can't do that.

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By *obandsue 69Couple
over a year ago

north Cornwall

I am premature also and it lead us to cuckolding and if honest it has worked out amazingly...sue favourite saying to me is "I'm her best lover she had but the worse fuck she ever had!"

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over a year ago


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

I'd be interested too.

I certainly used to be exactly like you. 3rd time was usually acceptable to both parties, so not all bad.

It's been years tho, so would love s chance to see if time has made a difference...

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

You need to train how to ride the edge and blow when it's acceptable to both of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the total opposite problem I am on sertorline antidepressant which stops me from Cumming altogether which is fun but you never get to finish but I can go for hour and hour no getting to the point of my post on the paper work they say it is to treat premature ejaculation "

I was lucky, I was sertaline. Think my dose was 125mg. Didn't stop me from coming. Did get alot of other horrible side effects though

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

When we first started swinging it happened a couple times the excitement of seeing wife with someone else got told to try viagra it definitely helped

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am premature also and it lead us to cuckolding and if honest it has worked out amazingly...sue favourite saying to me is "I'm her best lover she had but the worse fuck she ever had!""

The dream type of relationship for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem.

I'd be interested too.

I certainly used to be exactly like you. 3rd time was usually acceptable to both parties, so not all bad.

It's been years tho, so would love s chance to see if time has made a difference..."

Third time is normally better for me if I had the strength for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the total opposite problem I am on sertorline antidepressant which stops me from Cumming altogether which is fun but you never get to finish but I can go for hour and hour no getting to the point of my post on the paper work they say it is to treat premature ejaculation "

I was on that 8 months and put in 2 stone in weight.

Yes, it makes it almost impossible to cum

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By *oriarty99Man
over a year ago

London


"Brave post mate. Wish you nothing but the best.

Sometimes it shows how much you want someone and it can be a compliment.

There are condoms which numb the tip.."

Coming quick shows nothing of how much you want someone

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By *ocky82Man
over a year ago

Watford

I’ve been with my wife 19 yrs now, and I’d say the last 2-3 years I’ve suffered from this, I probably on average last 30 seconds to 1 min or so and it’s so frustrating.

I feel ashamed

Embarrassed

Angry all at the same time I always say to myself no point even having sex !

I always make her cum before intercourse but sometimes u can see in her face the disappointment that it’s all over !

I’ve tried tablets, sprays wanking before hand nothing works and now it’s always in my mind!!!

Probably why I so badly want her to play as feel she deserves a good shag !

That’s my story sorry it’s not much help to anyone going through it !

But I’m happy to chat privately to anyone regarding it.

Hearing woman’s honest thoughts on this will be interesting.

James x

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

I dont mind fast cummers, but would want a few minutes of fun at least, met one guy who came when i was rolling a condom on his cock, pity as it was a nice cock.

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By *immon.Man
over a year ago

Limassol


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

You need some African herbs to help you out with your problem

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By *hank you sirMan
over a year ago

colchester

Wow that must be really frustrating for you mate, sorry to hear about your struggle with this

I cant say I've had the same problem myself personally but have had a few mates who have struggled too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there is something that stops you from Cumming it is called Priligy it is based on the anti depression drug sertraline you can last for 30 min to and hour without cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was touch and go for a while

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"I am sure there have been threads about it. But I would like to hear more from people who actually had it. Has anyone actually managed to cure it?

In my case, my first cum happens on the first touch. By first touch, I mean anything. Sometimes I have ejaculated the moment a condom is on me. On the second attempt, I can last for around 1-2 minutes of penetration.

I try to compensate for that with lot of foreplay. It's also one of the reason why I find cuckold relationships attractive. At least the partner can get sexually satisfied elsewhere.

I have seen plenty of advice on kegel exercises and nothing seems to work. Masturbating before meeting someone maybe lets me hold on till putting on the condom. But first few seconds of penetration and the dam opens up. It could be a mental thing. Just wanted to hear from someone who actually got around the problem."

viagra will help.

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By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I'm a quick cummer so I take viagra 1st then I can stay hard enough to cum another couple of times

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield


"I used to meet a guy, he would finish within seconds.. for some reason I really enjoyed it. plus he was amazing with other things.

I wish you to figure it out, but it's not as bad as guys think "

Sound like my type of woman and no doubt I'd be cumming quick looking at your photo's

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By *678Man
over a year ago

Surrey

Personally, it varies.

I find that it’s definitely quicker the longer I’ve gone without sexual contact with another, but I’m just counting myself lucky that I can repeat a few more times to even out the average duration between loads.

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By *AB74Man
over a year ago

Midlands

I'm on sertaline and I can cum in an Instant or last for hours .... Dunno which I prefer mind lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very flattered when it happens! Happy to build up the tension more until the next round

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I tend to cum very quick first time round and then last a while the second time. have tried different things to slow the first time hasn't worked unfortunately

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By *ikeafud248Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I wonder if it is you are so excited and if a simple breathing exercise and slowing down your heart beat would help....also try squuzing the top part of your cock so that you slow the rate of blood flow can also help

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By *eardedman7Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I wonder if it is you are so excited and if a simple breathing exercise and slowing down your heart beat would help....also try squuzing the top part of your cock so that you slow the rate of blood flow can also help"

Tried this especially breathing exercise, I do think I get far to excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the total opposite problem I am on sertorline antidepressant which stops me from Cumming altogether which is fun but you never get to finish but I can go for hour and hour no getting to the point of my post on the paper work they say it is to treat premature ejaculation "
I used to be on sertraline and it killed my libido altogether.

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

Ive suffered with this since my teens.

At first id try to hold back and fail but always found myself getting carried away.

Booze could help years ago but nowadays there is a very fine line between hero and zero!

With age id say its got worse and has encoured me to be more sissy, ive now mastered a few more tricks including hands free cumming and cumming in chastity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can buy china brush online which numbs your old boy.The worst thing to do which is difficult is worrying about.Beer helps me alot haha but if mentally im excited as hell ,its over pretty soon.Loads of foreplay is great which i love to do.

Best wishes Mate

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By *ieandteaseMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire

The faster the better if I'm handling you

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames


"Try and remember some of us actually like quick cummers..I have met a few women and men who don't mind at all..

Gimme a sprinter over a stayer every time..."

Same. Sometimes the guy is just doing a mammoth effort not to cum, I just think, go on enjoy the moment

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

If you spend plenty of time adoring a woman's body to the full, penetration and ejaculated is secondary no matter how long you last

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By *wales123Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I get that same issue shooting very quickly in the first go. I’ve used EMLA creme on a private prescription online from Lloyds Pharmacy. Usually doesn’t trick and lets me last longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Explain your problem to the person your going to meet and ask for their help. there are a lot of women on here who would only to willing to help. Get them to suck or wank you off first. then pleasure then with finger and tongue, give them some orgasms till they ask you to stop. Then see if they can get you hard enough(sucking or wanking) to slip it into their very relaxed pussy. May take several meets.

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By *remiumbondMan
over a year ago

Morpeth

Priligy works for me ….. can get it online from Superdrug

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By *orneyloverMan
over a year ago

Boston

I suffered with this for years. I tried everything from sprays to special condoms. Nothing seemed to work until I met this really sexy lady. We were all over each other and the clothes were being ripped off. I knew she was going to be disappointed so I told her, I was going to cum to quickly. She said don't worry about it, if you cum you cum, we'll deal with it. Somehow that was the reassurance I needed. We slowed things down a bit and when I did enter her I didn't shoot the way I was expecting. Instead we fucked in every position known to man for about 45 minutes. She came 5 times before I shot my load. So basically it is a mental thing. You just need to relax.

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