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I finally had an orgasm and my therapist says it's the wrong kind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The topic title is taken from a Woody Alan film... but it prety much fits so seriously....(sorry it's long winded.

I've not been able to orgasm with a partner for lots of years. I also have virtually no luck making myself cum without the help of a toy (vibrator)

Before 'squirting/gushing' became all the rage People used to talk a lot about the elusive G-Spot orgasm.

Now a lot of females on here say they gush but they don't consider it to be or even feel like it is an orgasm.

But both the 'G-spot orgasm' and the 'gushing' come about from the same stimuli (I think)

When I first joined the site, the first meet I had here made me gush (my first time ever) but I didn't feel anything other than a puddle

Recently, with a new playmate I have been gushing several times during play, but the feeling is incredible! intense...and yeah, orgasmic.

I guess what I'm wondering is.

Am I having Orgasms?

Can they be one and the same thing? I even did it during penetration which is just unheard of and felt fuckin' great.

Feedback from the ladies would be good. I would love to think I am finally learning how to relax and get there

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It felt fucking great and you are learning to relax and enjoy it. Keeping doing that and if it isn't an orgasm already it soon will be.

Enjoy all those happy endorphins running around your system - they have health giving properties.

Just enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They way I have heard orgasms being described they are nothing like what happens when I gush so I am still waiting for one to happen

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I have to say you would not think it would be that difficult for science to get a definitive answer on this one but I'm yet to see any robust research on the net.

You get the odd study report, but usually involving just a few women, rather than a study with 1000's of participants.

http://www.lovematters.info/squirting-orgasms-what-comes-out

This study only involved 1 woman.

doh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i do orgasm (sorry) and lots and some of the most intense orgasms r from gushing were i literally soak oreo and if he hits the rite spot can really flood him. the thing i have found is do u really care if someelse thinks its an orgasm ? as if it feels good to u then just enjoy because maybe the feeling will just get more intense and wonderful xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it feels good- it IS good. Enjoy and don't worry how to class it. . With one woman's experience, too, ie me, I'd say there are loads different 'kinds' orgasms but if they feel good that's all that matters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it feels good- it IS good. Enjoy and don't worry how to class it. . With one woman's experience, too, ie me, I'd say there are loads different 'kinds' orgasms but if they feel good that's all that matters x"

If it feels good keep doing it. I only orgasm with my bloke and it's a kind of 'full body' thing. It makes me shake, feels fantastic, lasts ages and kind of scrambles my brain. It's not the same as orgasms I have on my own but it feels good.

Yay I hope this is the start of something new for you! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning,

Thanks girls for all the replies.

Taking from them all, I'm gonna say...yes! lol! I am cumming. I know it doesn't really need a word (other than Shpadoinkle!!) but as someone said above, I do shake, it does take me over and I definitely want more!

Oh and I really should say, yes it's great to finally be letting go but gotta thank the guy for his people skills

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

Well I don't always orgasm when I gush/squirt...but when I do.....wow - it is so intense. When I was a teenager I used to have a poster on my bedroom wall which said "if it feels good - do it", I don't have the poster anymore, but I still believe in the maxim

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I don't always orgasm when I gush/squirt...but when I do.....wow - it is so intense. When I was a teenager I used to have a poster on my bedroom wall which said "if it feels good - do it", I don't have the poster anymore, but I still believe in the maxim "

I might just buy that poster! lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Oh and I really should say, yes it's great to finally be letting go but gotta thank the guy for his people skills

"

He has good speech skills I take it?

Gives an uplifting speech before the battle commences?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Oh and I really should say, yes it's great to finally be letting go but gotta thank the guy for his people skills

He has good speech skills I take it?

Gives an uplifting speech before the battle commences?"

Indeed! very rousing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't be embarrassed, maybe next time eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't be embarrassed, maybe next time eh? "

Twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its great that your relaxing and enjoying all the feelings. Plus if this guy was able to find the right spot to stimulate you, id be going back for seconds/thirds/fourths lol

I think the sometimes elusive orgasm also depends on your mood as well as the physical stimulation.

Exciting situations can make me cum, even if we arent doing lots of foreplay. (ie outdoor fun)

My orgasms vary, sometimes im not really sure ive actually had one?

So i agree with the others....who cares if you technically have one or not.

As long as your having a good time and feeling satisfied, you just enjoy yourself!!

ps the OH and I did improve my orgasms by watching jason julius. I would definately google him

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it easier to orgasm now than I used to...I used to worry about being too loud so was always concentrating on that instead of letting go. They do vary a lot and I can have great sex without them. I can also sometimes have several orgasms in a session, but that does tend to be with my fb who does seem to read when I'm close pretty well. With clitoral orgasms I tend to find that my left leg shakes a lot...don't know why it's just my left leg, but the daft thing is that if my leg is stopped from shaking I can't seem to peak! I've never gushed/squirted though, but I'm not really arsed about that. I have had guys insisting they can find the magic switch, but I just don't think I have one!

All orgasms are different and only you can truly tell if you're having them, but it does sound to me like you are...and even if you aren't it still sounds like you are having a lot of fun! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" With clitoral orgasms I tend to find that my left leg shakes a lot...don't know why it's just my left leg, but the daft thing is that if my leg is stopped from shaking I can't seem to peak! "

I always wondered what the fuck Elvis was up to on stage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think its great that your relaxing and enjoying all the feelings. Plus if this guy was able to find the right spot to stimulate you, id be going back for seconds/thirds/fourths lol

I think the sometimes elusive orgasm also depends on your mood as well as the physical stimulation.

Exciting situations can make me cum, even if we arent doing lots of foreplay. (ie outdoor fun)

My orgasms vary, sometimes im not really sure ive actually had one?

So i agree with the others....who cares if you technically have one or not.

As long as your having a good time and feeling satisfied, you just enjoy yourself!!

ps the OH and I did improve my orgasms by watching jason julius. I would definately google him

x"

Correct, I find that stimulating a lady's mind with my superior intelligence has them halfway there already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" With clitoral orgasms I tend to find that my left leg shakes a lot...don't know why it's just my left leg, but the daft thing is that if my leg is stopped from shaking I can't seem to peak!

I always wondered what the fuck Elvis was up to on stage! "

Lol...that could be it! It's really weird though. A meet brought it to my attention and now I always notice it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" With clitoral orgasms I tend to find that my left leg shakes a lot...don't know why it's just my left leg, but the daft thing is that if my leg is stopped from shaking I can't seem to peak!

I always wondered what the fuck Elvis was up to on stage!

Lol...that could be it! It's really weird though. A meet brought it to my attention and now I always notice it "

So long as you don't start eating burgers on t' bog after taking pills you should be alright!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" With clitoral orgasms I tend to find that my left leg shakes a lot...don't know why it's just my left leg, but the daft thing is that if my leg is stopped from shaking I can't seem to peak!

I always wondered what the fuck Elvis was up to on stage!

Lol...that could be it! It's really weird though. A meet brought it to my attention and now I always notice it

So long as you don't start eating burgers on t' bog after taking pills you should be alright! "

Will keep that in mind! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just get worse you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find that the orgasms i'm having now are completely different from the ones i had when i was married. don't get me wrong he knew where the spot was and found it every time.

they are now harder to find but oh fucking boy when they find it its so much stronger than it ever was

in my house its now called the csi orgasm as my daughter has to turn the tv up when i have company. infact i've been banned from company on a thursday as she has nothing to turn up.

one of my lovers spends so long on forplay and i'm sure thats the reason for the increased intensity. i'm sure he runs on batteries !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i find that the orgasms i'm having now are completely different from the ones i had when i was married. don't get me wrong he knew where the spot was and found it every time.

they are now harder to find but oh fucking boy when they find it its so much stronger than it ever was

in my house its now called the csi orgasm as my daughter has to turn the tv up when i have company. infact i've been banned from company on a thursday as she has nothing to turn up.

one of my lovers spends so long on forplay and i'm sure thats the reason for the increased intensity. i'm sure he runs on batteries !!!! "

Haha, I hope that's me you're referring to there and not that bloody 'Eveready Eric' or whatever he's called!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

was it so obvious (tic) xx

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