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By *arried bi2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Advice on how to get over nerves mrs is sex mad but nervous

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Watton


"Advice on how to get over nerves mrs is sex mad but nervous"

Don’t rush your first meet, and make sure you click fully. Set your own ground rules and make sure your partner/s who join you also know them. Your relationship comes before you do! Happy Fabbing

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

Chat for a while, enjoy the relaxed side, meet socially (when we're allowed) with no promises of taking anything further.

If there's a connection or an attraction then you'll both know.

If there isn't just walk away after a pleasent time.

If you choose to take it further then hopefully you'll be more relaxed by this point

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By *arried bi2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I so want to do it but scared I'll freeze hubby's helps but still scared

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By *impleSailorMan
over a year ago

the moon

If there's an attraction then you won't freeze, you'll be aroused by the experience

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I so want to do it but scared I'll freeze hubby's helps but still scared"

Take it slowly, best place to start, for us, was a club, your pace.

Find a girlfriend who has knowledge of the scene and laugh, it’s fun.

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By *arried bi2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leeds

How do most couples dress in a club is going commando the done thing

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By *ower Couple - NorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Watton


"How do most couples dress in a club is going commando the done thing"

Depends on the club. Generally sexy, some clubs will insist on you being scantly clad after a certain time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t joined the forum before and it’s v interesting we are a couple that really wants to take the next step although our ultimate fantasy is a private threesome with another man we had set on going to a club first as felt it would be easier to test the water and see if it was for us?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I so want to do it but scared I'll freeze hubby's helps but still scared"

If you are ‘scared’ it’s probably not for you. No one should go into this feeling scared.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"How do most couples dress in a club is going commando the done thing"

The clubs in Leeds are both dress down, which means the play area’s are sensually dress (lingerie/boxes or commando). The bar area (both are BYO)) you can remain fully dressed, however the play rooms do spill into the bar.

Your imagination could be your stumbling block, there is no need to “perform”, however there is a tremendous amount of sexual tension and fun.

Equally, if you are not doing it for yourself, walk away.

Meeting people face to face will help.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Chat in messages, get to feel relaxed with someone before going further

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By *ucksguy2000Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

Slightly different for me being a single guy but was nervous, went to a naturist spa during the day for the first time, was quiet which suited me. Got chatting to the regulars and escalated from there. Now quite experienced. Just go at your own pace and don’t feel rushed to do anything. By the way you look gorgeous. Jim x x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think once you realise that you're in control of the situation you feel less nervous. You can refuse anything you don't want to do and there really is no right way to do this. Proceed at the pace you want, explain to anyone you're thinking of meeting that you're nervous and there are no guarantees.

We were all new to this once and I think most of us were nervous at first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice on how to get over nerves mrs is sex mad but nervous"

Find someone who puts you at ease over the messages, if you feel there’s a connection and think there would be in person, meet them for a social, few drinks and pub/bar and take it from there!

After the initial meet I’m sure the worries will disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Advice on how to get over nerves mrs is sex mad but nervous"

You could quell most of your worries in one move.

We were nervous newbies and also didn't know how clubs worked so we arranged a social meet with a couple on Fab in a club.

It was understood by all that it was just a social so no anxiety to perform.

They were experienced clubbers and "held our hands" and gave us a guided tour. Oddly enough it was in Pandora's in your part of the world. Like many other clubs you can stay in the bar full clothed or if you want to have a wander round the play rooms, dress from naked to sexy lingerie to wrapped in a towel. Again there is no expectation to perform, it's all up to you.

Enjoy

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Do only what you want, at your pace (her pace) and avoid too much alcohol. Dutch courage helps, chundergate less so xx

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Haven’t joined the forum before and it’s v interesting we are a couple that really wants to take the next step although our ultimate fantasy is a private threesome with another man we had set on going to a club first as felt it would be easier to test the water and see if it was for us?"

That's are thoughts on starting. A club would give us a clearer view if this is for us, plus it'd be less pressure.

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