FabSwingers.com forum: When do you fully get over an ex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Evening fabbers, hope your weekend is off to filthy start...

I need different perspectives on this.. all opinions are welcome.

So was seeing someone for a year and a half, met on here. We kicked it of absolutely wicked. The sex was great the companionship was there, the desire for anything but us together was non existent. 2020 started and the year for us was horrible. Stressed from different angles, but we coped... till March. Had one of those arguments that changes everything. We live in different cities. Yes I did visit her throughout lockdown. Nothing was stopping us seeing each other cause it was more important then anything else. Modern day Romeo and Juliet. (Pmsl)

Throughout this year the connection hasn’t been the same. The trust changed, all of it. Broke up a couple months back now and I feel ok. However there’s moments that brings thoughts back. I find myself lost in thought, everything round me stops. I shake it off but there’s moments it keeps happening.

How long till that stops? How long does it truely take to get over someone?

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

For me moments always happen, but one learns to live with it, because it's the only way.

Happiness is found in many places, and I escape to one of those places if it gets bad! Moments get smaller and less frequent the more time passes though, so... Well...

Time heals all wounds

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was glad to get rid of my exes.i moved on straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think if someone has impacted on you... Good or bad... You're always gonna carry memories. I think you know you're over it when you recall the good times and smile more than the bad times. But hey, what do I know lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think if someone has impacted on you... Good or bad... You're always gonna carry memories. I think you know you're over it when you recall the good times and smile more than the bad times. But hey, what do I know lol"

That’s the thing the bad still remain. But when the good one come... it hits different. Hence being in limbo with thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i was glad to get rid of my exes.i moved on straight away."

When we fully broke it was like the 5th time I tried. What can I say the sex was good.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Impossible to say. It's similar to a bearvement, it's arguably more difficult especially when the person is still present, living and moving on relationship wise if that's the case. Until you accept it's over and move on the experience will be different for everyone. Too difficult to put a time limit on it, days to years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different. Especially when you've had very real, intense feelings for that person. Take it day by day.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Divorced after 16 years together I assumed we would be together till the day one of us died.

So you never truly get past a previous good relationship, there’ll always be something that reminds you of them. But it’s the minute you realise that you can get through the day’s happily without them. The need to be with them diminishes and the new freedoms you have as a single person starts to be seen as a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure you ever really get over it, whether it's a person, a pet that's no longer with you. You learn to live with it. Life has to go on. There is something new and exciting just around the corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was let in to revelation this week: something called "nut clarity". If you are ever thinking about your ex, whack one off and I am sure you will find the thoughts of the ex will be gone for at least 20 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with the love of my life for over ten years , we split up nearly 20 years ago ,I still have dreams most nights about him , certain songs , films places we went together still hurt , so guess you never really get over them ,but we are all different

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I was with the love of my life for over ten years , we split up nearly 20 years ago ,I still have dreams most nights about him , certain songs , films places we went together still hurt , so guess you never really get over them ,but we are all different "

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By *immy1986Man
over a year ago

Spalding

Personally I don't think you do "get over it" I think you just learn to deal with it a certain way, and it can take a very long time to do that. I was with my ex for 14 years and it ended very badly on both sides. The good times and the bad times still hurt. Also living in the same village is difficult and certain songs and films etc brings it all flooding back. You just have to teach yourself they was good times you wouldn't change them and life goes on you cant go back, so just keep going and looking forward.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"Impossible to say. It's similar to a bearvement, it's arguably more difficult especially when the person is still present, living and moving on relationship wise if that's the case. Until you accept it's over and move on the experience will be different for everyone. Too difficult to put a time limit on it, days to years.

This

. Its been a year since my ex split with me and it hurts just as much today as it did then. Every day is a struggle from the moment I wake up to hitting the pillow in the evening. She's on my mind every day. Its like torture, you know its over, she's well and truly moved on and im stuck, reflecting on what could have been. Feeling sorry for myself

Its tough

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

After you've had the patio re-laid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It usually depends on why they are an ex... Maybe you value yourself more, maybe you realise EVERY relationship is temporary and you are better off making the most of your time with that person, regardless of how long it is... No longer working together is not a failure, it's normal... Ya know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you guys for sharing... it’s definitely one of those things you just gotta kinda move forward with. I appreciate it guys. Hope we all heal.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Some ppl don’t.... ?

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By *aveed74Man
over a year ago

a round and a bout Midlands

Never, but you move on

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

If yr still hanging on then u have the problem.. just let go .. and move one .. if it didn’t work then it didn’t work .... doesn’t care what effort.. what do u do? Hang on hoping what didn’t work? Grab hold and move on..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It takes as long as it takes. And sometimes you never do. You just wake up one morning and instead of thinking of them and it hurting, you instead think of them with a smile before getting on with your day.

Time. It takes time. Maybe months, maybe years.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Sometimes you dont have a choice to forget them. My ex will be forever in the mind till I die atleast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi dude I had a girl I a adored Rx was the best I've had a d believe me I've had a few.she dumped me once I had her back she dumped me twice I had her back 3 times he dumped me I found it very hard and she still tried to get me back I am a gent and hated myself but I said something nasty and that way you can't take what you said back I don't think I'll ever get over what she did to me and always think about her I realized signs are there when you meet a woman if anything don't seem right get out before it's too late cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her I meant

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

You’re grieving and time is the healer. You cannot control time but you can make it seem as though it passes quicker by keeping yourself busy. Distracting yourself away from quiet moments where you dwell and ponder. Thinking and moping will get you nowhere. Get back in the saddle and start living again. You can do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a different angle I think you are lucky to experience intense feelings. I’ve never loved anyone and can just walk away from a relationship without a backward glance.

I’d give anything to experience what it would feel like to love someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If yr still hanging on then u have the problem.. just let go .. and move one .. if it didn’t work then it didn’t work .... doesn’t care what effort.. what do u do? Hang on hoping what didn’t work? Grab hold and move on.."
spot on.

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Live for the moment x

Have no regrets x

Respect and enjoy the memories x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex? Not a second thought.

My cat they got? Every day

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By *allBristolManMan
over a year ago

nowhere

"My ex? Not a second thought.

My cat they got? Every day

Omg this

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Evening fabbers, hope your weekend is off to filthy start...

I need different perspectives on this.. all opinions are welcome.

How long till that stops? How long does it truely take to get over someone? "

To be straight with you it's very difficult especially when you connect so well at the beginning like it's unreal and no matter how bad things get that your still together partly this is a perfect relationship because being able to get through the rough and still be together shows its ment to be even when people clash it's working through it but sometimes people just need time away from each other without even saying it but the good memories will always be there and rather dragging up so much of what happened or shouldn't have try drawing a line accept responsibility it's never always a one way and I honestly believe if you give it time and this time doesn't have a limit but gives both time no contact you might hear something as a fantastic connection is a rare quality I speak from experience even though I love her so much I'm letting her make the effort as love isn't one sided regardless how things were but you also had the rare special moments so keep your chin up and be patient

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