FabSwingers.com forum: Sexuality Labels

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi All,

I am a very open minded and libral kinda guy when it comes to sex. I am listed as Bisexual as I am partial to a bit of cock.

I would never openly have a relationship with a guy and i am only ever really Into cock in a group scenario....so am I really Bisexual??

The whole sexuality label can be somewhat confusing and misleading at times I think...

I wondered what other people thought of the whole sexuality label thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi All,

I am a very open minded and libral kinda guy when it comes to sex. I am listed as Bisexual as I am partial to a bit of cock.

I would never openly have a relationship with a guy and i am only ever really Into cock in a group scenario....so am I really Bisexual??

The whole sexuality label can be somewhat confusing and misleading at times I think...

I wondered what other people thought of the whole sexuality label thing..."

Don't really give a stuff about labels. I show bi here as I like to share properly in a 3some and that makes (or should make) it clear for any guy we meet what will happen!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think labels should only apply to tins and jars. The whole thing about sexuality is fraught with misunderstanding and emotion, and so should be binned. Unfortunately it won't be as it is an easy way to identify someones sexuality.

I list myself as bisexual as I am partial to a lady from time to time. However I prefer to meet them at clubs and parties as I can then make a decision whether they are my type. I don't actively search them out, and unfortunately this can lead to misunderstandings as people assume that I am bisexual all the time.

My own opinion is that people whould play as they want to play, and not worry too much about other people. I know thats a perfect world scenario though, and there are no easy solutions. Hope you have fun whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they should have a sliding scale..

for instance. 50% bisexual...'in a MMF i give an equal amount of time and pleasure to both the M and the F'.

or 10% bisexual. in my last 10 sexual experiences 1 of those was with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like labels either but Flexisexual seems to fit a lot of folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe they should have a sliding scale..

for instance. 50% bisexual...'in a MMF i give an equal amount of time and pleasure to both the M and the F'.

or 10% bisexual. in my last 10 sexual experiences 1 of those was with another man.

Surely that would be 100% bisexual instead of 50% in the first instance as you'd devoted equal pleasure to both sexes. Or in another description, 50% gay...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same as the op. I'm listed as bi, however I don't find men attractive and would never have a relationship with a guy. I do like to play with a guy sometimes though, but only if the guy is bi too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the word hete

exible... I think for those that struggle with a bi label the hetero bit works to give them confidence but the flexible bit means in the right mood then they may stray into other areas.

Labels can be a good thing but not always.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that labels can be a bit of a double edged sword.

"fleible" is great, as is "situational".

A debate was raging on another site I frequent about the Bi/Bicurious tag.

Some people will see a label and apply thier own rigid interpretation of it.

Labels can give an 'impression' of the person, but I think we should be able to accept that persons personal interpretation of it.

We're not all the same after all, even if we do apply the same label for simplicity's sake.

The physical act of sex is one thing, but a person's emotional 'sexuality' is quite another.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

in everyday life sexuality labels should mean very little

on a sex site looking for fun with people who fit into your published preferences.... a little more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont like labels either but Flexisexual seems to fit a lot of folk "

I like this!! Lol...

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By *omnlynneCouple
over a year ago

milton keynes

our labels show we contain no artificial additives (unless you count lynnes rampant rabbit collection) no artificial flavouring (unless you count head n shoulders shampoo and radox shower gel) and no preservatives.... (we still do exactly what it says on the tin....just not in a mahogany colour unless you count the hair dye lynne used this week)......we do however contain a good sense of humour a tiny amount of alcohol occasionally along with a warm hospitality........

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"in everyday life sexuality labels should mean very little

on a sex site looking for fun with people who fit into your published preferences.... a little more"

Oh stop! It's a sex site, you don't need labels you're supposed to be broad minded and play with everyone.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Some of the people on here are too rigid in their labeling and their criteria for my liking, but each to their own. It is probably down to some of the irritating idiots on here that has caused them to set boundaries which they refuse to cross.

I prefer to be more flexible and take things on merit. But perhaps it is easier to do this as a single guy where you are not plagued by a million requests a day, half of them three word drivel. Obviously it helps if you are in touch with someone genuine who is capable of expressing themselves. But I am not into the more severe attitudes some people have, where they almost expect you to swear an oath the moment you even fantasize about something, let alone try it out. If I fancied doing some Art classes I wouldn't call myself an Artist. I wouldn't even call myself a student for that matter. I'd just say I was someone who fancied seeing if I liked Art. I tend to look on this the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about Hetero-flexible? Prefer women but don't get freaked out by being physical with a man?

Or Homo-flexible - prefer men but wouldn't throw a hissy fit is touching a woman?

Sadly, there are those who think that if you've seen a male penis other than your own then you are bisexual and won't meet you. It is, of course, their choice, but it is not so much the labels we put on our selves but those given by others.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"What about Hetero-flexible? Prefer women but don't get freaked out by being physical with a man?

Or Homo-flexible - prefer men but wouldn't throw a hissy fit is touching a woman?

how about

hetrosexual

bisexual

gay

it's a sex site not a dating site, no one is aking anyone to look for a life long partner or relationship... just do you indulge in sexual acts with the same, opposite or both sexes...

but not all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some of the people on here are too rigid in their labeling and their criteria for my liking, but each to their own. It is probably down to some of the irritating idiots on here that has caused them to set boundaries which they refuse to cross.

I agree with the poster above. And i think its probably true that due to peoples experience of messages, they have had to be very clear and precise with their profiles.

I find sexuality labels very restrictive, as it really depends on my mood.

I guess bi playful or flexi bi would suit both me and the OH!!!!

I do think its a shame that single guys have to leave 'can play bi, if allowed' off their profiles and state 'straight' instead, just because it puts so many couples off

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

how about

hetrosexual

bisexual

gay

it's a sex site not a dating site, no one is aking anyone to look for a life long partner or relationship... just do you indulge in sexual acts with the same, opposite or both sexes...

but not all the time"

Well said View. These threads appear almost every week, and invariably end up as a platform for some guys to say "I put bi cos I like a bit of cock, but I don't fancy guys, I'm still a real man me!". FFS, get over it. No one's asking you to set up home with Julian Clary, AND the world won't end if a bloke admits he finds another bloke attractive now and again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AND the world won't end if a bloke admits he finds another bloke attractive now and again!

but if you don't find other blokes attractive?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

The only label I have is in the back of my pants. 11-12 whatever that means !

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"AND the world won't end if a bloke admits he finds another bloke attractive now and again!

Unfortunately there are plenty of people on here who think that bisexual men can't control themselves. In my experience, they are the same as heterosexual men, but just have to ask two people if its OK to play instead of one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi playful here.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about Hetero-flexible? Prefer women but don't get freaked out by being physical with a man?

Or Homo-flexible - prefer men but wouldn't throw a hissy fit is touching a woman?

how about

hetrosexual

bisexual

gay

it's a sex site not a dating site, no one is aking anyone to look for a life long partner or relationship... just do you indulge in sexual acts with the same, opposite or both sexes...

but not all the time"

The post was meant to be slightly tongue in cheek in terms of the labels, although they do exist.

Personally I think they are awkward, but I think the same about heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual. Possibly it's better for those things to be part of a person's profile rather than having to label oneself in a drop down box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that labels are great and needed!

ie, Bi, Straight, Curious etc.

But whats the point on this site when you can not search by them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me bi-sexual is more a lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I describe myself as bi-adventurous as I enjoy the sexual play in a group environment but I am not one who has it as a main objective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to me bi-sexual is more a lifestyle."

Do you mean as in people having relationships with either/ both sexes? If so I'd agree with that.

I like your bi-adventurous idea. Seems to fit people that play bi but wouldn't have a relationship with someone of the same sex, if that makes sense.

I think the whole label thing is a bit of a nightmare really as we all understand the labels differently. I reckon a checklist of do's and don'ts would work better.

do/ don't kiss

do/ don't give oral

do/ don't receive oral

do/ don't give anal

do/ don't receive anal

etc etc......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi playful i class myself as

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do so many guys have a problem with being bi and try to dress it up any other way but bi?

You don't need to find other guys attractive but if you find the idea of having sex with them attractive and enjoyable then sorry guy but yes your bi, just get over it.

I'm straight and don't mind being labeled as straight, if I liked to suck cock I'd be bi and wouldn't mind being labeled as such either.

Bi sexual is what it says, appertaining to sexual acts not relationships, otherwise it would be called bi relationship.

As View said earlier, labeling is more important on a sex site, so that people can decide who they want to meet or not for whatever reasons they choose, that right should not be taken away just because some guys refuse to come to terms with their sexuality.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"I think labels should only apply to tins and jars. The whole thing about sexuality is fraught with misunderstanding and emotion, and so should be binned. Unfortunately it won't be as it is an easy way to identify someones sexuality.

Sorry, but a little bit of a silly post! Yes it is an easy way to discover what people want, but what other way is there? Perhaps get into a play situation and find out you made a mistake? You want Bi? You look for the label! You want straight? You look for the label! That goes for just about every preference going!

Yes, people should play as they want without worrying about what others do, but how are you ever going to find someone to play with if you don't tell them what you want and ask them what they want?

Everybody (even you!) labels things and people everyday. It is human nature and the human race will continue to do so. PC claptrap like this and "I don't judge others" just doesn't work! We all do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to me bi-sexual is more a lifestyle.

Do you mean as in people having relationships with either/ both sexes? If so I'd agree with that.

I like your bi-adventurous idea. Seems to fit people that play bi but wouldn't have a relationship with someone of the same sex, if that makes sense.

I think the whole label thing is a bit of a nightmare really as we all understand the labels differently. I reckon a checklist of do's and don'ts would work better.

do/ don't kiss

do/ don't give oral

do/ don't receive oral

do/ don't give anal

do/ don't receive anal

etc etc......

yes that is what I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi All,

I am a very open minded and libral kinda guy when it comes to sex. I am listed as Bisexual as I am partial to a bit of cock.

I would never openly have a relationship with a guy and i am only ever really Into cock in a group scenario....so am I really Bisexual??

The whole sexuality label can be somewhat confusing and misleading at times I think...

I wondered what other people thought of the whole sexuality label thing..."

its always nice to read a new slant on a repeating question - well put

I am Bisexual which came about purley through swinging scene with ex over many years - same room sessions - touching bodies and the odd man groping me - one thing lead to another until i realised i actually quiet lked it - my ex wife was Bi so i thought what the hell and started to enjoy life more

Now i will openly admit that, that makes me greedy because i love both sexes -

But like you i would not look to have relationship with a man its simply about sex and liking what it brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"AND the world won't end if a bloke admits he finds another bloke attractive now and again!

well put - us Bi men are normal people and can/do still respect boundries - i have have met two couples niether of them have a Bi man; we get along well i dont touch him and he dont touch me - well not intentionally lol

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

Bisexual, because I sleep with both but that's the 'dictionary definition' if someone asks me what I am, I look them up and down and say 'yes, I'd sleep with you/no thanks, you're not my type' because frankly that's what they're asking, it doesn't matter what you call yourself or what others call you, as far as your partner, or soon-to-be partner is concerned it's 'can I have sex with you?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate marmite but I love strawberry jam. If I went shopping for the latter, took it home, put it on my toast, bit into it and found marmite I'd be seriously unhappy to say the least!

Bi "labelling" is the same for us (though Spit loves marmite). Say what you want then expect the other party to deliver on it! Thats not unreasonable is it??

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