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By *urvykate087 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

After a few months on FAB, we’re realising just how hard it is to find an ideal couple

Age/ mutual attraction/ locality and similar wants from the swinging world.

Have people successfully found couples that have been perfect?

Or is some of the lifestyle settling for compromise somewhere ?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

I'm half a couple and we meet separately, as its not easy finding a couple.

There's 4 way attraction and availability to consider, many want a bi fem and I'm totally straight. Plus there's loads of profiles with no pics of the Mr on.

If my partner and I want to meet together, pre covid we went to a club.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"After a few months on FAB, we’re realising just how hard it is to find an ideal couple

Age/ mutual attraction/ locality and similar wants from the swinging world.

Have people successfully found couples that have been perfect?

Or is some of the lifestyle settling for compromise somewhere ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don’t compromise on what you like and don’t like OP xx

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Hi op

I'm half a couple and we meet separately, as its not easy finding a couple.

There's 4 way attraction and availability to consider, many want a bi fem and I'm totally straight. Plus there's loads of profiles with no pics of the Mr on.

If my partner and I want to meet together, pre covid we went to a club. "

I agree with Miss M!

I’m lucky to be in a ‘foursome full swap’ friendship but they live a couple of hours away so it’s not as often as we’d all like xx

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By *urvykate087 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East


"Definitely don’t compromise on what you like and don’t like OP xx"

I guess sometimes you wonder.. there may be a mutual attraction for 3 of you, but not one! It’s so hard to find a bit of everything! X

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth


"After a few months on FAB, we’re realising just how hard it is to find an ideal couple

Age/ mutual attraction/ locality and similar wants from the swinging world.

Have people successfully found couples that have been perfect?

Or is some of the lifestyle settling for compromise somewhere ?

"
I think you have to be prepared to compromise. Just like you would in the real world as nothing in life is 100% perfect.

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By *tt1Couple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Hi OP

Your spot on and it can be hard work, the connection has to be there for everyone and depending on the preference of each individual that can mean it’s a lot more complex than just finding a one on one partner ! (Never mind trying to match the ages the kind you all like!)

All we can say is that once you’ve found that couple then it’s definitely worth it so don’t give up xx

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By *urvykate087 OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East


"Hi OP

Your spot on and it can be hard work, the connection has to be there for everyone and depending on the preference of each individual that can mean it’s a lot more complex than just finding a one on one partner ! (Never mind trying to match the ages the kind you all like!)

Oh fingers crossed then!

We have the same type when it comes to women! X

All we can say is that once you’ve found that couple then it’s definitely worth it so don’t give up xx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard trying to find the right dynamics.

I used to swing with my ex wife and we met plenty of other couples with got on great with socially. Though very few we felt comfortable with enough to take the next step with.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

It is the holy grail for us...where the dynamic has mutual attraction for both parties

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

It’s definitely one of the most difficult things to find.

We consider ourselves very lucky that we found a couple of couples where we have 4 way attraction.

One of the couples is so close to us we’ve often commented that anyone of us could happily date any one of the others.

Neither of us will ever take one for the team so it’s sometimes a long process to find couples that match.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

We are both bi and looking for bi couples, which seem to be pretty non existing up this way, and when we do find one and all there requirements exactly meet ours we never get a reply or its just a guy posting to be a couple, same with single bi fems, there profile matches ours and vice versa but never get a reply, and we don't set expecting high at all or punch above ,

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"After a few months on FAB, we’re realising just how hard it is to find an ideal couple

Age/ mutual attraction/ locality and similar wants from the swinging world.

Have people successfully found couples that have been perfect?

Or is some of the lifestyle settling for compromise somewhere ?

I think you have to be prepared to compromise. Just like you would in the real world as nothing in life is 100% perfect. "

What they said is spot on. Doesn't mean you have to change your hard limits but a couple of years on the age range or couple of pounds extra weight for example aren't really that big a compromise are they?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Life is all about compromise, although you don't have to compromise to the extent that you should have sex with somebody you don't want to.

Getting four people together who are attracted to each other and are on the same wavelength is inevitably complex. It's made harder by having a relatively small pool of people into this lifestyle enough to try finding another couple themselves.

My best advice is don't put all your eggs in one basket. Look on Fab, go to clubs, and try multiple routes. The more couples you connect with, the more likely you are to find one you click with.

Don't give up. It does happen.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't think the perfect couple exists, after a year on here I'm learning to adjust my expectations.

I think once we can get back to it, we will take a different approach and look more in clubs.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What made you think it would be easy to find another couple where you all get on/fancy each other?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Finding that perfect couple is incredibly hard to achieve. We have been fortunate in the past to meet other couples and find mutual attraction leading to full swap. We also for a couple of years we in the very lucky position of having met and played with a couple regularly for over two years.

As with everything on Fab it is a case of being patient, putting in the leg work and being lucky.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Anything worth having is worth working at.

As a Dom couple, finding single subs is a lot easier than finding a sub couple.

We have met a couple so they are out there, but location tends to be the main detractor.

But we are not in any hurry to find a local couple and we certainly wont compromise as it wouldn’t work.

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By *irewolffMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Still looking tbh. Very difficult to find a suitable match.

MsD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry is key x

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think it is easier when you are older. But still, matching 2 people is not easy but finally it is called a “marriage”.

We have some friends who we were meeting in the club and had a nice chat b4 starting any action. The problem is that they are 300miles away from us.

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

That's exactly the reason why we find it easier to meet singles.

Not that we don't want to meet couples of course.

There will almost always be a small compromise on everyone's part. That's life...!

But as mentioned above, no one should have sex with someone they don't like.

That's not swinging, that's someone being selfish

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon


"Hi OP

Your spot on and it can be hard work, the connection has to be there for everyone and depending on the preference of each individual that can mean it’s a lot more complex than just finding a one on one partner ! (Never mind trying to match the ages the kind you all like!)

All we can say is that once you’ve found that couple then it’s definitely worth it so don’t give up xx "

Completely agree with this. We managed it so it is possible x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We've met couples, sometimes just for the experience. We meet and move on, no big deal if it was just ok. We enjoy ourselves anyway. You can always chuck them out and carry on together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep it is certainly hard. We’ve spoken to a few amazing couples but they live sooooooo far away.

It’s so hard to find a genuine couple where there is mutual attraction from everyone and everyone involved is committed to meet etc... we’ve been on fab for over 3 years and have only ever met 1 couple through meeting and speaking on here... all the other times have been from meeting at a club and then connecting on here afterwards.

Xx

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Just putting it out there, are you sure both of you are actually into swapping ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just putting it out there, are you sure both of you are actually into swapping ?"

That question for us or OP?

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

It would be great to find couples on our wave length.

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By *oistknickersCouple
over a year ago

London

For us it would be great to find a “perfect” but that isn’t really what swinging is to us it’s about expanding our horizons.

We don’t go to meetings with a tape measure or check to see how new the car (seeking professional couple) they have arrived in, we prefer respect and honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about couples as we are after just one select local single.

If looking for the same as us, you need to realise that 90%+ can be discounted for many reasons.

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"For us it would be great to find a “perfect” but that isn’t really what swinging is to us it’s about expanding our horizons.

We don’t go to meetings with a tape measure or check to see how new the car (seeking professional couple) they have arrived in, we prefer respect and honesty. "

Sounds interesting

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

In our experience swinging (over 15+ yrs) the couples we have played with have mostly met first at a party or a club and then met up again privately. That is probably 75% of our couple experiences. Websites have proven best for finding single guys. At the end of the rainbow has proven best for single girls!

Actually parties been best for us meeting single girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been most successful meeting people at clubs.

Fab can be frustrating...

Find a couple you like, chat, all is looking good....and then nothing....

We like to get to know people and build a friendship with those we play with and it's a bit off putting when chat dies out.

We've a few couples on our friends list now who we're interested in, but just never seem to chat much or look into setting up a future meet....yourselves being one of them

Lu

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By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Yes it is very hard to find a "perfect couple".however we believe that our expectetion changed since e entered this word 7 years ago.

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By *winger coupleCouple
over a year ago

Reading Berkshire

We have been lucky enough to meet few couples where we all have mutual attraction for eachother. Most of them are now our close friends, before covid we all enjoyed going out for drinks, dinner, night outs and holidays together and had lot of fun. We met all these in clubs.

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