FabSwingers.com forum: looking for a proper bull

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any proper tall single hung Bulls around who knows how to be a family friend?

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Good luck with that ..

Very hard finding any reliable bull sadly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good luck with that ..

Very hard finding any reliable bull sadly"

Yes true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been looking for nearly 2 years now ... so many pretending to be bulls

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We agree

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By *nSearchOf12Couple
over a year ago

London

Out of curiosity, what qualities do people seek in bulls that are difficult to find?

Is it just reliabilty (presumably both sexually reliable and punctually)?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"been looking for nearly 2 years now ... so many pretending to be bulls "

Yes same here xx

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I want a bull but hubby not sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I want a bull but hubby not sure"

Just try it and you will see x

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By *andy cock queenTV/TS
over a year ago

Aldershot.....Hants

Yes a seriously hung bull, on the same wavelength would be perfect.....reliable a bonus..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

Thank you very much guys. Very good point you made! Shame lots of guys think its only a good fuck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s seems to be a theme building here!! Lots of couples would like to find a special Bull play friend, BUT, all we seem to find is the one liners, those that cant string a sentence together and those that live miles away and think its okay...

We should form our own special couples group

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There’s seems to be a theme building here!! Lots of couples would like to find a special Bull play friend, BUT, all we seem to find is the one liners, those that cant string a sentence together and those that live miles away and think its okay...

We should form our own special couples group

Yes very good idea xx

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

Brilliant idea....

If we formed our own group, everyone would be on the same wavelength, guys and girls would all benefit equally.

All we need to do is arrange to live in the same town....

Who's for moving to the south of France....?

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"Out of curiosity, what qualities do people seek in bulls that are difficult to find?

Is it just reliabilty (presumably both sexually reliable and punctually)?"

Good question and I think the truth is that it varies from couple to couple. As a sub group of swinging, the hotwife/cuckold scene is surprisingly wide and varied. So many questions could be asked beyond reliability and punctuality: is this an exclusive arrangement? Do you want to be social friends or to meet up and play? Do you want contact when not arranging to play or no contact unless the couple want to meet? Sorry I hope I haven’t hijacked the topic

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

Think that's very true. There is no 'one size fits all' and everyone has a slight variation on the theme..

I read a forum on Polygamy and things get very heavy there. Guys talking about their wife having a baby by him ffs...!!

Luckily most of us fall somewhere in the middle and find a situation that suits both guys and the lady..

As always, communication is absolutely essential for all involved...

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

"I want a bull but hubby not sure"
try it , you’ll both enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive often thought of setting up a cuckold couples uk blog and link it into my fab account but i think its against the rules not sure why when kik is everywhere

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Some interesting takes on ‘bull’ here. I guess my age puts me out to pasture now as it were but I’d love to find a local couple and perform this role with them. Really good point above about how you’re not competing for affection or anything else but just fulfilling different needs....

Oh well, back to the grass chewing.....

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By *nSearchOf12Couple
over a year ago

London

" I read a forum on Polygamy and things get very heavy there. Guys talking about their wife having a baby by him ffs...!! "

Do you mean polyamory? If so, from answers elsewhere on this thread, we'd say a big distinction is that in polyamory, the whole idea is that everyone is (or can be) experiencing romantic feelings, whereas in this scenario, the bull is specifically expected *not* to get romantically involved...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try it it’s fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should form our own special couples group

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a great idea we are in xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprised no luck finding anyone. I would have thought there were plenty on here. I’m available to message if anyone still looking.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would think it would be easy to find a reliable bulk, I adore being a man to help service a wife/partner. Being that extra guy is always a lot of fun.

Just depends what qualities and dynamic you want at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would think it would be easy to find a reliable bulk, I adore being a man to help service a wife/partner. Being that extra guy is always a lot of fun.

Just depends what qualities and dynamic you want at the end of the day. "

I meant bull, not bulk. Stupid chunky fingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think labels confuse people. One couple's bull is another's polygamous group, is another's hotwife, is another's cuck etc.

Build in to that, distance, real life relationship stresses and it becomes even harder. Couples could socialise with a guy and see how things develop, rather than put all of their eggs in one labelled basket?

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By *ogglesMan
over a year ago

essex and norfolk

Love to help a couple out,but most dont seem interested

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

Insearchof12...

We’ll it was actually both, but I did mean polyamory.

There really is no need to pigeonhole ourselves, what works for some etc...

Polygamy really seems a step too far for most people...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the same as everything on here it’s just a case of waiting till the right person/s come along x

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By *arkandsmooth42Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

For something like this you've BOTH got to be sure.

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By *ickinNottsMan
over a year ago

Hucknall

Define Bull.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

Would love to be a special couples bull/gentleman friend - logitics arre always the problem - they live too far away!

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Looks obvious to me that the care and abilities of a great bull make him an ideal partner. Meaning he’s already taken. Suppose then a swinging couple might lend out a man perhaps while his hot wife is out to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should form our own special couples group

Great idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should form our own special couples group

a great idea we are in xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looks obvious to me that the care and abilities of a great bull make him an ideal partner. Meaning he’s already taken. Suppose then a swinging couple might lend out a man perhaps while his hot wife is out to play. "

Great call.... The ideas are now flowing

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

Plenty of bulls in the field where I live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same problem here and still looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found a few couples to enjoy each other with in the past and recently. Personally the biggest problem is location most of the couples I have clicked with are in the Midlands.

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By *uayside Glory HoleMan
over a year ago

Gateshead Quayside

The world needs more Bulls it seems!

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By *own and countryCouple
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

We have found a nice chap that suits us.

More than happy to recommend him to others..

And already have

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Is Bull exclusivity too much to ask ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a great bull a few years ago. Sadly, he moved away.

We’ve been looking for someone new but it is difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a farm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried a farm?

Ever thought about stand up? Spat my tea out after reading your cracking joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried a farm?

Ever thought about stand up? Spat my tea out after reading your cracking joke "

No, but I do love your red teddy outfit. Very sexy indeed x

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By *astMidsCouple555Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

He cannot fall in love with her.

Not much you can do to stop that once it starts. Situation isnt so easy or controllable

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

A bi hung bull would be even better...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bulls are welcome to get in touch x

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By *entleman JimmyMan
over a year ago

Hove

It is so hard isn't it! There are sympathetic guys out there - those who are after finding a couple for the real cuckold relationship (prefer wifelover to "bull" as a term personally) but it does seem very difficult to make the matches! I have been looking for a new couple for a while now - and yes, "bull exclusivity" is possible - and preferred in my case.... I hope that persistence paysand that the geographical curse - as in we seem to get on so well on-line but you are 382 miles away - will be lifted

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

It’s so difficult with all couples wanting slightly different dynamics. And bulls need to be attracted to the wife and again what the bull wants or expects does vary. I’d consider myself a bull. But in the eyes of some maybe I am not. Each to their own if I met a couple and it became regular and all parties enjoyed it. I wouldn’t be too bothered what label I had.

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"It’s so difficult with all couples wanting slightly different dynamics. And bulls need to be attracted to the wife and again what the bull wants or expects does vary. I’d consider myself a bull. But in the eyes of some maybe I am not. Each to their own if I met a couple and it became regular and all parties enjoyed it. I wouldn’t be too bothered what label I had. "

I don’t see each couple or bull wanting something difficult to be a concern. It just makes life that much richer and it means that different couples and different bulls get the chance to find that “something” they want.

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Are all bills hung

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are all bills hung"
It's not about size, it's about control or escape from the mundane

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where here , but I’m not hung

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to give more details what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set a group up on kik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are all bills hung"

Depends on preference and what the party wants. I’m about the same size as the husband for the couple I play with regularly, just have fantastic sex with the wife and never let them down.

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"Is Bull exclusivity too much to ask ?? "

I think that’s fair enough.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if i inderstand right the common definition of a bull is a guy who joins a couple for their enjoyment? If thats the case i defo need to rewrite my profile i am defo a bull

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"Is Bull exclusivity too much to ask ??

I think that’s fair enough....."

I think it depends on what all parties want. Some bulls want to be with one couple, and others don’t; the same for couples. It is a very individual arrangement. Communication is, as always, the key

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Its easy to find a guy who wants to meet, its extremely difficult to find a guy who's experienced in the cuckold lifestyle who is after a long-term arrangement ,doesn't live miles away and is what your looking for .

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Any proper tall single hung Bulls around who knows how to be a family friend?"

I would be happy to assist as we are not far apart

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"So if i inderstand right the common definition of a bull is a guy who joins a couple for their enjoyment? If thats the case i defo need to rewrite my profile i am defo a bull

I would get a better understanding of what a bull is before you rewrite your profile.

Many couples like ourselves are looking for guy but are not cuckold, guys advertising themselves as bulls is quite off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if i inderstand right the common definition of a bull is a guy who joins a couple for their enjoyment? If thats the case i defo need to rewrite my profile i am defo a bull

I would get a better understanding of what a bull is before you rewrite your profile.

Many couples like ourselves are looking for guy but are not cuckold, guys advertising themselves as bulls is quite off putting"

This!! Don't shout about it let it happen naturally. The connection built is organic let it happen as your paths cross . Stop raising your hand declaring " here I am"

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By *_weadenMan
over a year ago

Near Hull

"Its easy to find a guy who wants to meet, its extremely difficult to find a guy who's experienced in the cuckold lifestyle who is after a long-term arrangement ,doesn't live miles away and is what your looking for .

Sadly distance is often used by both sides. Suppose it’s how regular and planned are meets make the distance relevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought of contacting ol' MacDonald!

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Sadly distance is often used by both sides. Suppose it’s how regular and planned are meets make the distance relevant "

I guess if its once a month then someone may be willing to travel large distances, but that isn't what we would expect, we meet at swingers clubs which often puts guys off as well.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Well well well this is an interesting thread haha

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By * Born WildMan
over a year ago

gorleston

Check my profile out

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By *ird of paradiseWoman
over a year ago

newark

i like the sound of owning a bull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The family friend stuff is confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bull owns you not you own bull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last long term cuck couple had to move home to Romania...

Miss them and the fun times.

Can’t seem to find any cuck couples in cornwal that are looking

May have to move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife and I find ourselves with this dilemma. I’m an experienced and capable (pre-emptively damning myself with faint praise there...) bull with plenty of experience prior to 26 years of marriage. My wife was very turned on when I eventually shared my experiences some years in, and we’ve enjoyed putting my old skills into practice through a long-standing role play arrangement.

Now we’re at a point where we’d both like another man to take that role, but I’d be holding him to my own exacting standards! The search is fun, though...

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By *omis.69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

My understanding is that it’s a 3 way relationship, each has their own part to play and as such each has to take something out of the bull/cuck/wife relationship at whatever they agree on.

No one should be forced into accepting the relationship and in my experience this comes and develops over time. Fantasies develop, boundaries explored and positions accepted.

Just my thoughts

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

It’s such a difficult tag as it’s up to each individual couple as to what they like.

Myself I have such a wide band of playing that I have been in to a lot of different things with different couples.

One couple I was a bull one well then cuckholded the Mr the next week then other times straight full on mfm.

It’s down to people to understand that it’s not just a single name tag but it’s a understanding of what couples want and how to push everyone’s boundaries every now and then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, what qualities do people seek in bulls that are difficult to find?

Is it just reliabilty (presumably both sexually reliable and punctually)?"

Confuses me too, what's the difference between a bull and a bully?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My understanding is that it’s a 3 way relationship, each has their own part to play and as such each has to take something out of the bull/cuck/wife relationship at whatever they agree on.

No one should be forced into accepting the relationship and in my experience this comes and develops over time. Fantasies develop, boundaries explored and positions accepted.

Just my thoughts "

a 3 way relationship is a bit strong wording for alot of couples i like to say its a 2 way relationship with a 3 way sexual relationship ..but as we all know no 2 couples are the same therefore cuckold is a wide spectrum just like swinging its self....

nothing is stronger than the cuckold couple guys/bulls will come and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One couple I was a bull one well then cuckholded the Mr the next week then other times straight full on mfm. "

id say they were playing with the cuckold idea we were a hotwife couple for a long time now i dont have peneative sex at all with cuck (he cant get hard) so sex for him as my cuck is purely oral one way or pegging or the paddle lol my lovers have my body for sex

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By *riskyfellow69Man
over a year ago

Swingerville

"Any proper tall single hung Bulls around who knows how to be a family friend?"

I think the term bull, like Hotwife, and many others, is something that can be interpreted many different ways by many different people.

I wouldn’t get too caught up on finding a “bull”. But more so a guy that ticks your specific boxes for whatever your looking for.

Good luck with your search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you will find is just bullshitters op

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By *ndrew999Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

If you like my profile and verifications please message me and we can chat xxAndy

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By *pun84Man
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Any proper tall single hung Bulls around who knows how to be a family friend?"

Hi I've done the family friend and being a bull was great and lasted some time so if u want to chat about it more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes hard to find an understanding guy

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Think you might have more luck picking Saturdays lotto numbers than finding a genuine good looking half decent bull to be totally honest

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If you tire looking for a bull, I know where you can find a genuine sloth!

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

Never took to the term “bull” always seemed selfish and one sided for me..

Much prefer “wife’s lover” and that always worked in the dynamic of 3 for me. 3 people involved, 3 lots of needs and it’s the 3rd’s job to try and cater for all. “Hubby wants his wife to do “X” wife wants “Y” and I want “Z”. No room for selfish in that. Nearly 10 years in the scene, 3 LTR in that and numerous overseas holidays. Some with family, some just the wife. For me it’s how you carry yourself

As for feelings, there has to be some ( IMO ) or else run the risk of missing out on developing the kinda relationship most seem to say is hard to find. Trust, reliablity etc

Look at it from the 3rd’s point of view, if he feels there’s no investment why would he continue.. Just sex ( for all parties involved ) will get boring fast

And that’s my 2 pence for today. Soap box stored away

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Near Bergerac

Perfect summary Jammy.....

That's why it's a situation that rarely comes along, even for those that are actively seeking it.

When the stars align.....

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Never find a bull

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

"Perfect summary Jammy.....

That's why it's a situation that rarely comes along, even for those that are actively seeking it.

When the stars align....."

What is it they say when single and looking..... “When you least expect it, it comes along and finds you”

Maybe there something in that, my introduction into the world certainly started that way.

Good luck to those searching though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he cant get hard "

Really?That's a shame for him

..for medical reasons? Or lack of desire?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

“Bull” is such a loaded term, really.

If it’s just a couple looking for a third guy to come and confidently and emphatically fuck the woman without getting funny ideas about his level of significance, then yes, I’m a bull.

However, a lot of people who say “bull” seem to actually mean “musclebound manly-man man”, which I’m not.

So yeah, I’m experienced and keen to offer those services, but I’m not a hypermasculine gym bro.

A dream to some, a nightmare to others, I guess.

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By *eleusMan
over a year ago

Hertford

I’ve been a bull to a couple I’ve known now for 15+ years. We meet regularly for fun and I’m their guilty secret. It has been fun to get to know them, sexually and socially, and we’ve shared some very kinky meets. Because they trust me, they are able to share their fantasies and I help fulfil them. They are a great pair and good friends.

I share this because it is possible to make genuine friends via swinging and to develop long term friendships that work for both parties.

But, I recognise that many couples struggle to find decent guys. But if it was easy, then perhaps it wouldn’t be so much fun when you do find someone you connect with?

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over a year ago

"Never took to the term “bull” always seemed selfish and one sided for me..

The whole thing certainly has the danger of being selfish and one sided, which might explain why it's very difficult to find a man to do it. I suspect there are many guys who like the idea of turning up and fucking another man's wife, but when it comes to the rest of it (as outlined in the posts of others), they lose interest after the initial encounter.

It always sounds to me, like what the couple want is for the guy to be something of a sex-toy, devoid of emotion and needs. Now, I'm not saying that's the case in practice - in fact, I'm sure some have wonderful experiences to report - but that is what is always appears to be at first blush.

Also, bringing a 3rd into a relationship is going to tricky at the best of times I think. I suspect it requires a lot of work and excellent communication.

TLT

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"It always sounds to me, like what the couple want is for the guy to be something of a sex-toy, devoid of emotion and needs."

On the other hand, if this *is* what a couple is looking for, please get in touch. Heh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always sounds to me, like what the couple want is for the guy to be something of a sex-toy, devoid of emotion and needs.

On the other hand, if this *is* what a couple is looking for, please get in touch. Heh.

Well, there you go. Horses for courses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the origin of the term bull in this context anyway?

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Yes prefer boyfriend or lover compared to bull.Happy for wife to form some sort of relationship with guy she fucks.It add to the excitement for her cuck the risk she could fall in love is electric.

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

"Never took to the term “bull” always seemed selfish and one sided for me..

Also, bringing a 3rd into a relationship is going to tricky at the best of times I think. I suspect it requires a lot of work and excellent communication.

And there’s the rub..Devoid of emotion. One goes hand in hand with the other. Can’t have enjoyable growing sex without it. Otherwise it’s just the unreliable knob heads rocking up

Those couple who understood that were the ones that lasted. For me it’s the triangle. Wife at the top, me and hubby the sides.. She gets us both. He gets all the emotional and security of a wife. I get all the physical and emotionally developing of a new GF.

Once she can separate feelings of sex and love, it let’s all the other stuff grow.

But again, that’s just me. And it all boils down to wants n needs. But everyone has to be a little flexible

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

Thank you very much guys. Very good point you made! Shame lots of guys think its only a good fuck xxx"

It is ideally a relationship of convenience. Initially the bull will be there to provide a service but it is perfectly understandable that (from then) the dynamic may change as time progresses. The important thing is that all parties need to be on board and in agreement with these new directions.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Interesting thread. As a single male I'm on the flip side if this coin. Pre-covid I used to blog about my experiences and perspective from the Bull's perspective.

It was a great way of proving my authenticity and for finding couples who were like minded.

The challenge for me was and still is finding couples that live reasonably close to my part of London. Over time I have concluded that even with the best will in the world long distance "arrangements" simply don't work....especially in 2020.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, what qualities do people seek in bulls that are difficult to find?

Is it just reliabilty (presumably both sexually reliable and punctually)?"

Indeed I'm all ears

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

"“Bull” is such a loaded term, really.

If it’s just a couple looking for a third guy to come and confidently and emphatically fuck the woman without getting funny ideas about his level of significance, then yes, I’m a bull.

However, a lot of people who say “bull” seem to actually mean “musclebound manly-man man”, which I’m not.

So yeah, I’m experienced and keen to offer those services, but I’m not a hypermasculine gym bro.

A dream to some, a nightmare to others, I guess.

Yeah I hear you. I don't fit neatly into that "Bull" lable either.

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By *aykhanMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Any proper tall single hung Bulls around who knows how to be a family friend?"

Hi guys X

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over a year ago

"Out of curiosity, what qualities do people seek in bulls that are difficult to find?

Is it just reliabilty (presumably both sexually reliable and punctually)?

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

"Never took to the term “bull” always seemed selfish and one sided for me..

As for feelings, there has to be some ( IMO ) or else run the risk of missing out on developing the kinda relationship most seem to say is hard to find. Trust, reliablity etc

Look at it from the 3rd’s point of view, if he feels there’s no investment why would he continue.. Just sex ( for all parties involved ) will get boring fast

And that’s my 2 pence for today. Soap box stored away

Couldn't agree more sex with nothing on top only really worked for me in one off in the moment club environments.

Its much more fun for me if there are layers. That's also why I prefer couples in committed loving relationship over couples who are just friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should form our own special couples group

a great idea we are in xxx

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so having a couple's group is going to help you find a bull how? Asking for a friend

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By *ullman1Man
over a year ago

Aldershot

I do enjoy the dynamics of joining in with a couple. It is important as single man to meet both their needs. I also enjoy releasing their secret fantasies and making them reality.

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over a year ago

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

Sounds ideal but also a bit difficult to find, sorry if I say.

Wouldn’t it be easier to maybe try and find multiple potential guys that are interested in a sex/friendship type of relationship where you sort of rotate?

As people sometimes get attached, or they even find someone else so obviously that might not work anymore for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes prefer boyfriend or lover compared to bull.Happy for wife to form some sort of relationship with guy she fucks.It add to the excitement for her cuck the risk she could fall in love is electric."
think I've fallen in love already a beautiful lady

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

Sounds ideal but also a bit difficult to find, sorry if I say.

Wouldn’t it be easier to maybe try and find multiple potential guys that are interested in a sex/friendship type of relationship where you sort of rotate?

As people sometimes get attached, or they even find someone else so obviously that might not work anymore for them

I have always felt that 2-3 regular couples / Bulls was a good way to counter that "danger" when there is a concern about getting too close.

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over a year ago

"Becky had a stud in the UK for many years, we're still buddies now but she doesn't sleep with him anymore.

As above, reliability in and out of bed is very important.

But for us the most important thing is that he's a nice guy who understands that he is not competing with me for her affections.

He must understand that although she will often be in his bed having sex, he cannot fall in love with her but just remain friends.

She will be sharing her body with him and me, but not her affections.

Ultimately, the three of us will be getting our kicks in different ways.

And that maybe be difficult for him to accept.

Plus, if he's young and attractive (Becky's preference) he will obviously be a target for a vanilla girl.

We've been looking for several years now, it ain't easy.

Good luck with your search.

Sounds ideal but also a bit difficult to find, sorry if I say.

Wouldn’t it be easier to maybe try and find multiple potential guys that are interested in a sex/friendship type of relationship where you sort of rotate?

As people sometimes get attached, or they even find someone else so obviously that might not work anymore for them

I have always felt that 2-3 regular couples / Bulls was a good way to counter that "danger" when there is a concern about getting too close."

Exactly, gives the chance to rotate and make it not an over regular occasion. Which as much as the bull is good, might get boring or repetitive or feelings can get involved and becomes all mucky.

Swapping about keeps it nice and interesting (I’ve got a few 3-4 guys that I consider regular and see every so often and I think it’s nice)

Also how do people use the term bull when referring to the 3rd? Ha

Usually I had the conception of a bull as someone quite well built fucking senseless .. am I missing something?

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Some very good discussions going on here which is great to see.

I have met some cuckold couples so far and how I approach them is like any other couple by getting to know them both and their likes and dislikes.

I have met one couple twice now and both meets he just watched. I haven't her for coffee a few times too and chst via kik with him regularly. We are discussing our next meet post covid and exploring further and have discussed how regular we all would like it to become or can manage.

I suppose the point I'm making is we didn't jump straight in talking about cuckold and wanting a regular situation although cuckold was mentioned at the start, so my advice would be take it slowly, chat to guys not just bulls and see where it leads.