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Is pegging dominance or subservience?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie

Watching this one... as someone who wants to try being pegged it’s a bit of both I think.

Could be wrong though

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

It can be dominant or loving depending on the scenario. It's fun though!

Go for a comfy harness with the option to change o-ring. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It can be dominant or loving depending on the scenario. It's fun though!

Go for a comfy harness with the option to change o-ring. X"

Thank you! I like that idea.

Would you mind explaining that aka idiot guide?

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Those are expensive. Make sure you enjoy it first!

Most are straps around the waist and legs holding a ring at the front. The ring size is different for different attachments.

You can get others more like pants or "Vac-u-loc" but they are less versatile.

Loads of cheap ones are essentially free with the Dildos. Start small but you will want to progress.

Hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definately submissive for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are, but very good and comfortable. Given the OPs gorgeous outfits, I am sure she likes quality...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They are, but very good and comfortable. Given the OPs gorgeous outfits, I am sure she likes quality..."

Thank you x

It’s true I had already started to google leather ones and have my eye on a few x

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral


"They are, but very good and comfortable. Given the OPs gorgeous outfits, I am sure she likes quality...

Thank you x

It’s true I had already started to google leather ones and have my eye on a few x"

Easy to clean is important too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither for me, it’s just sex (unless a d/s thing is pre negotiated). It’s no more d/s (unless part of a scene) than vanilla sex, except the genders are swapped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's my dream and on my to do list .

Hint hint lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x"

I don't think what play people enjoy determine whether or not someone is Dom or sub, it's who they are - they either are or they are not.

I know Femdoms, for example, that have service subs that 'top' them. But they still identify as Femdoms. I suspect there are Doms who might like a prostate massage, doesn't make them any less Dom, simply means they like their prostates massaged.

TLT

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither for me, it’s just sex (unless a d/s thing is pre negotiated). It’s no more d/s (unless part of a scene) than vanilla sex, except the genders are swapped. "

Ty I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x

I don't think what play people enjoy determine whether or not someone is Dom or sub, it's who they are - they either are or they are not.

I know Femdoms, for example, that have service subs that 'top' them. But they still identify as Femdoms. I suspect there are Doms who might like a prostate massage, doesn't make them any less Dom, simply means they like their prostates massaged.

TLT"

I do like to play there

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x"
Pegging can be anything you fancy for the pair of you...we have got a new strap on on its way Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are, but very good and comfortable. Given the OPs gorgeous outfits, I am sure she likes quality...

Thank you x

It’s true I had already started to google leather ones and have my eye on a few x"

The leather is really soft x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's about pleasuring my partner on an equal level, doing something he enjoys and making him cum, like he does me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has to be equal....

It's the huge trust thing for me to allow a lady to peg me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it's about pleasuring my partner on an equal level, doing something he enjoys and making him cum, like he does me "

I like this view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has to be equal....

It's the huge trust thing for me to allow a lady to peg me"

d/s is a massive trust thing too

d

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would like to try...Miss B uses a vibrator on me and thrusts her pussy against my arse as she wanks me off, dominating me. Love it. X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We have a vac u lock set up:

Fucking machine

2 harnesses

Suction cup

Multiple dildos

2 handles

We started off with a £40 set from love honest, and while it worked, we wanted something that had flexibility with dildo choice and would compliment our play.

Multiple harnesses allow for is both to wear them, or to allow for the quick swapping of dildo sizes/types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the Spare Parts jockstrap harness, it’s spendy but I really like it. Something super sexy about wearing a jockstrap!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x"

I enjoy dominating a male by pegging them, i know they enjoy it as I do especially when it has a dildo for me on the inside of the harness x

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Generally for us it's a D,s thing because every now and again we like to switch but last night was different, luna made love to me... then fucked my brains out mr H

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

It depends on the night.

It can be a power exchange thing for Becky sometimes.

Other times, it’s her serving me, giving pleasure to me.

As others have said, Doc Johnson vac u lock stuff is brilliant. Cleans easy and is comfy and supportive.

The Dildos can be changed really easily.

We have an O ring one that stays in the bag now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmm being pegged is a real buzzz mmmm

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral


"For me it's about pleasuring my partner on an equal level, doing something he enjoys and making him cum, like he does me "

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By *abble-onMan
over a year ago

Minehead

Definitely a pleasure thing my experience has been sensual and solely for enjoyment by both parties rather than sub/dom. Myself and FWB bought a strap on with 3 different sizes, I believe from bondara. She found it comfy and the varying sizes allow you to work your way up or stay small if that suits

Hope this helps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on the night.

It can be a power exchange thing for Becky sometimes.

Other times, it’s her serving me, giving pleasure to me.

As others have said, Doc Johnson vac u lock stuff is brilliant. Cleans easy and is comfy and supportive.

The Dildos can be changed really easily.

We have an O ring one that stays in the bag now. "

Is that because of ease of use ?

Are the O ring ones more of a hassle ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me it's about pleasuring my partner on an equal level, doing something he enjoys and making him cum, like he does me

"

This is my thought process x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely a pleasure thing my experience has been sensual and solely for enjoyment by both parties rather than sub/dom. Myself and FWB bought a strap on with 3 different sizes, I believe from bondara. She found it comfy and the varying sizes allow you to work your way up or stay small if that suits

Hope this helps x"

Very

Thank you

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"I have the Spare Parts jockstrap harness, it’s spendy but I really like it. Something super sexy about wearing a jockstrap!! "

Ohhh I've been eyeing that the joque strap for a while... Is it sturdy enough for more vigorous sessions? The boxer style ones move too much for my liking...

I have a custom made leather one i have had for years, similar to an Aslan leather one... Pricey but wonderfully sturdy. Aslan is on my 'must buy list' but I love the fact the joque strap mentioned above is fully washable.

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have the Spare Parts jockstrap harness, it’s spendy but I really like it. Something super sexy about wearing a jockstrap!!

Ohhh I've been eyeing that the joque strap for a while... Is it sturdy enough for more vigorous sessions? The boxer style ones move too much for my liking...

I have a custom made leather one i have had for years, similar to an Aslan leather one... Pricey but wonderfully sturdy. Aslan is on my 'must buy list' but I love the fact the joque strap mentioned above is fully washable. "

Leather one...or any one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have the Spare Parts jockstrap harness, it’s spendy but I really like it. Something super sexy about wearing a jockstrap!!

Ohhh I've been eyeing that the joque strap for a while... Is it sturdy enough for more vigorous sessions? The boxer style ones move too much for my liking...

I have a custom made leather one i have had for years, similar to an Aslan leather one... Pricey but wonderfully sturdy. Aslan is on my 'must buy list' but I love the fact the joque strap mentioned above is fully washable. "

Very good advice x

Thank you

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"It depends on the night.

It can be a power exchange thing for Becky sometimes.

Other times, it’s her serving me, giving pleasure to me.

As others have said, Doc Johnson vac u lock stuff is brilliant. Cleans easy and is comfy and supportive.

The Dildos can be changed really easily.

We have an O ring one that stays in the bag now.

Is that because of ease of use ?

Are the O ring ones more of a hassle ?"

We bought the more secure harness that has a large padded back strap and better buckles.

Changing dildos is way easier than the o ring.

It stays in place and can be worn by either of us. There’s access to important bits while it’s being worn as well.

The Doc Johnson dildos are also a step up in quality, especially the real skin ones.

Hope that helps. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have the Spare Parts jockstrap harness, it’s spendy but I really like it. Something super sexy about wearing a jockstrap!!

Ohhh I've been eyeing that the joque strap for a while... Is it sturdy enough for more vigorous sessions? The boxer style ones move too much for my liking...

I have a custom made leather one i have had for years, similar to an Aslan leather one... Pricey but wonderfully sturdy. Aslan is on my 'must buy list' but I love the fact the joque strap mentioned above is fully washable. "

Yeah it’s pretty sturdy and really adjustable. The waist band is velcro and the leg straps are firm elastic so you can tighten it up really well (it’s also suitable for any body size, +1 for inclusivity!). And it looks really sexy on! But it’s expensive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can be whatever you desire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been pegged and enjoy it very much but I'm far from a sub in fact I'm more a dom but it was about a kinky sex act between me and a partner not a dom sub thing

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

I have a spareparts joque harness. It feels so smooth against my skin and is easy to adjust. The dildo sits low on it and is so secure that definitely no hands required.

The O ring stretches to accomodate quite girthy dildos, though I am yet to use a larger one with my partner.

The harness is machine washable too which makes it really practical. Just need to use it more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is pegging all about dominating your partner or is it all about serving pleasure?

Also has anyone any good suggestions of strap on kits please and the reasons behind your choices (aside from the size of the dildo).

Thank you x"

This one! Nothing like her getting pressure too!

https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14015

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet to try pegging but definitely want to, love a finger up there though and wanting to explore anal play further. To me it’s not about a particular role, it’s just sensitive up there and feels really good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether it's dominating or submissive or love making, it's all pleasurable up there and a mental stimulation. I've been pegged once, but have to be really connected and wanting it.

Pegging however has to be one if the sexiest things ever right now. Women love seeing her men vulnerable and enjoying it. She likes to watch, seeing him take it, better yet a double end strapon, but these sizes seem limited. There's no 9 inch each way or 8, 10, or different girth. All I've ever found is they are same size about 6-7inch both ends. Buttolug up her whilst she does it too.. it's such a passionate fuck. However, depends what kick the lady wants out of it.

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