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"Yes I do I need a break of being the boss elsewhere If I know a man has a weakness and I can dominate him in the bedroom Then my attention wanders " And would you consider a kinky Scouse slave that in the south west to use abuse and humiliate for your pleasure X | |||
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"I'm a total submissive in the bedroom. Unless I'm cock worshipping. Then I'm definitely in charge. " I like a sub | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " I think there are some huge generalisations and assumptions in there, although do, to an extent, understand why you may make them - the thing is though, sexuality and sexual desires and needs are an individual thing and can't be generalised. Yes, some women like men to take control and be assertive in the bedroom and not necessarily in a D/s way either. Some women like to be in control and some like a level of equality. Just as equally, some men like to be in each of those roles too - regardless of gender it's not always a constant either and may be very situational. All of which is a longwinded way of saying some will, some won't I know but it's not quite as simple or "across the board" as your OP suggests | |||
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"Yes I do I need a break of being the boss elsewhere If I know a man has a weakness and I can dominate him in the bedroom Then my attention wanders " Would put manners on you.. | |||
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"It’s a natural inclination for women to submit to men in the bedroom I think. Just like it’s natural for a man to dominate ..well that’s how it feels to me ..like something that’s an inherent part of me. There are well documented exceptions of course - just like with anything ..but even those women let go of control from time to time in my experience. TLT" So this is where I’ve been going wrong all these years, I’ve always thought women would like a co-conspirator so sex could ebb and flow neither party taking overall control nor being submissive - plainly I’m wrong | |||
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"No woman on here as ever messaged me asking to be dominant, spanked, restrained, whipped etc " That doesn't mean there aren't dominant women though - just means they've not contacted you, or have read your profile and seen that it hints at being a dominant/assertive and have not seen the need to contact you as dominants themselves. There are plenty of dominant women here - the difference between them and dominant men though is they tend to be a little more subtle in their approach and not quite as out there with their dominance from the outset. | |||
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"No woman on here as ever messaged me asking to be dominant, spanked, restrained, whipped etc That doesn't mean there aren't dominant women though - just means they've not contacted you, or have read your profile and seen that it hints at being a dominant/assertive and have not seen the need to contact you as dominants themselves. There are plenty of dominant women here - the difference between them and dominant men though is they tend to be a little more subtle in their approach and not quite as out there with their dominance from the outset." Erm I'm not interested in dominant women though | |||
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" Erm I'm not interested in dominant women though " Sorry I obviously misunderstood your opening line that said "No woman on here as ever messaged me asking to be dominant" Either way, the other way round doesn't tend to happen due to the number of "dominant" men who see "dominance" as being a licence to do what they want both in and out of the bedroom. | |||
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"It’s a natural inclination for women to submit to men in the bedroom I think. Just like it’s natural for a man to dominate ..well that’s how it feels to me ..like something that’s an inherent part of me. There are well documented exceptions of course - just like with anything ..but even those women let go of control from time to time in my experience. TLT" It’s really not, and that’s quite a sexist assumption. | |||
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"It’s a natural inclination for women to submit to men in the bedroom I think. Just like it’s natural for a man to dominate ..well that’s how it feels to me ..like something that’s an inherent part of me. There are well documented exceptions of course - just like with anything ..but even those women let go of control from time to time in my experience. TLT It’s really not, and that’s quite a sexist assumption." | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " Nah doesn't appeal to me at all. Im fact one of the biggest turn offs on here for me is guys messaging me wanting to dom me. It also quite often shows from their messages they don't actually understand the whole dom/sub relationship as quite a few who messaged me thought it meant I should be there just to please them. When it is a lot more intricate than that. I don't mind a guy at times taking control but always would just bore me. | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " Absolutely not! I only like switches or subs. | |||
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"No woman on here as ever messaged me asking to be dominant, spanked, restrained, whipped etc " No submissive would message a random stranger on here, or anywhere else, asking for such. There has to be a level of understanding, trust and familiarity before submission of that kind. Anything else could lead to degradation which is not the same as being submissive in bed. Submission has many different forms and probably no two D/S relationships are identical. Understanding your partner's desires and levels of submission are key. | |||
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"Yes I do I need a break of being the boss elsewhere If I know a man has a weakness and I can dominate him in the bedroom Then my attention wanders " you can dominate me any day of the week lol | |||
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"I organise my home, so in charge there but I like a man to take the lead in the bedroom, not actually had a dom yet but things might be changing in that direction " I think I know just the man you're thinking of | |||
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"No woman on here as ever messaged me asking to be dominant, spanked, restrained, whipped etc No submissive would message a random stranger on here, or anywhere else, asking for such. There has to be a level of understanding, trust and familiarity before submission of that kind. Anything else could lead to degradation which is not the same as being submissive in bed. Submission has many different forms and probably no two D/S relationships are identical. Understanding your partner's desires and levels of submission are key." Depends, as last few subs I have had, have been from vanilla sites rather from here or well known fetish social network sites. Of cause its all about trust and understanding hence been a member, and attendee at fetish clubs and events. What I find frustrating in a way is those who play around and think they are ... without no experience, which doesn't do any good to the scene whats so ever. Actually puts curious and newbies off | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " I do, and I need it x | |||
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"I wouldn't say dominant as I'm not submissive...but I do like men who are confident and have the strength of will to handle me, especially if I'm in a feisty mood. " same here | |||
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"I’m quite bossy and in control in my day to Day life- one of my colleagues called me a control freak! I like things a certain way. So when I can hand the baton to someone else and zone out and just enjoy then that’s better for me hence dominant men are my choice. I also enjoy a good spanking and like tall manly men " Think the juxtaposition works both ways. | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? Absolutely not! I only like switches or subs. " Love Your profile sorry to hear about the bodystocking | |||
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"It’s a natural inclination for women to submit to men in the bedroom I think. Just like it’s natural for a man to dominate ..well that’s how it feels to me ..like something that’s an inherent part of me. There are well documented exceptions of course - just like with anything ..but even those women let go of control from time to time in my experience. TLT" ... and they all like to be called Kajira What nonsence | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " | |||
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" Society puts so much expectation on women to be "powerful", "equal" and "strong" but do women in reality just want the man to take charge, make the decisions and be confident? Is this then why so many women jump at the chance be their real submissive self and be with a dominant man in the bedroom? " So much bullshit, so little time. | |||
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"That’s a good question that I don’t know the answer to. What I do know though is that many of the women I have been lucky enough to meet here have enjoyed me taking charge more than I expected. Does that say something about them or me? Probably both " Just let control relax now and then and enjoy the moment ,Just be your lovely self | |||
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"It’s a natural inclination for women to submit to men in the bedroom I think. Just like it’s natural for a man to dominate ..well that’s how it feels to me ..like something that’s an inherent part of me. There are well documented exceptions of course - just like with anything ..but even those women let go of control from time to time in my experience. TLT ... and they all like to be called Kajira What nonsence" Someone has escaped the planet Gor! | |||
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