FabSwingers.com forum: Question to all swingers

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of our close friends know

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By *aughtyDuetCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

None of them ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

"Most of our close friends know"

Same here, some often ask about clubs and parties too.

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

None

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

None, what goes on in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All friends and most family xx

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By *iL DeVeLWoman
over a year ago

Luton

I don't discuss it with them as I don't tell them about haw I wipe my arse its non of their business.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

There's an assumption here- I know swingers who are quite vanilla except for the fact that they swing. And some of your vanilla friends may be very kinky in the bedroom without you knowing about it.

That's why sites like fab are helpful in connecting people with similar interests.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

None of our friends who aren't swingers know that we are.

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By *aughty.little.secretCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Our 2 closest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Most of my friends and family do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few close friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the ones I've stumbled upon on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Only the ones I've stumbled upon on here! "

Stumbled across many haha?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case none at all

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By *picy2Couple
over a year ago

essex

None

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

None because we don’t do or have friends apart from each other.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yes lots know

I don't think it is anything to be ashamed of.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

Most friends and family, never hidden it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our close friends and some family know we are swingers.

Her x

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By *illow-TalkMan
over a year ago

Shipston-on-Stour

I tell them all and nobody bats an eyelid... quite disappointing really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep our personal and private lives very separate!

Very much would be frowned upon!!

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By *9089Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

Some of my pub friends have been told that I swing but they are not sure whether or not to believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero.

Well, technically I'm not a Swinger until I have my first hookup

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Only a handful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't discuss it with them as I don't tell them about haw I wipe my arse its non of their business. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my important people know what I get up to

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Most of our close friends and some family members as it is how we met.

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

Absolutely none, just how we like it...

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By *alaciaWoman
over a year ago

Worcester

I've found it a mistake to tell anyone at all.

The first (and only) male friend I told expected me to sleep with him as I would 'obviously sleep with anyone', and was insulted when I said that wasn't how it worked.

The first (and only) female friend I told got all jittery when I said, come and have lunch with my partner, apparently thinking he was about to jump her at any moment...

My sister was shocked and thinks me 'abnormal', even though she hasn't had sex with her husband in many years, which is just as abnormal as far as I'm concerned.

The next gorgeous man I hooked up with in the natural course of events (i.e. not from here) was totally flummoxed. I offered a little preliminary information about the lifestyle, but he wasn't ready to take it on board. I think it excited him while simultaneously vaguely disappointing him...

I am now resolved never to mention it again to anyone not met at a club (if we ever all get back to them) or on Fab

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By *osineCouple
over a year ago

Weston-Super-Mare

We don't tell people, but also we have nothing to hide so if people find out then so be it.

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia

Only a handful

Although I’m sure many more know!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

A few but I probably get suspected of worse. A good neighbour helped as security check for a meet. I know who is decent and supportive and happy to trust and be open with the right people

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

All of them know to a degree, with only a few knowing pretty much everything.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

One relative knows as he is on here too ,but no one else ,dont think they would believe it anyway ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of my close friends, they even wanted me to introduce them to the club scene before lockdown. I declined.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

None - they all think i am dull and boring...which i am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found it a mistake to tell anyone at all.

The first (and only) male friend I told expected me to sleep with him as I would 'obviously sleep with anyone', and was insulted when I said that wasn't how it worked.

The first (and only) female friend I told got all jittery when I said, come and have lunch with my partner, apparently thinking he was about to jump her at any moment...

My sister was shocked and thinks me 'abnormal', even though she hasn't had sex with her husband in many years, which is just as abnormal as far as I'm concerned.

I am now resolved never to mention it again to anyone not met at a club (if we ever all get back to them) or on Fab

I quite like putting people straight tbh

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

I’m Quite private.

My uncle and my best friend know. No one else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only the ones I've stumbled upon on here!

Stumbled across many haha?"

A few yes.....friends and work colleagues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None.. But i have a suspicion that at least one might be on here .. They've alluded to threesomes + clubs

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

None. Can’t explain it to those who disapprove ....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Zero. And we'd like to keep it that way.

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By *eordieslookingforfunCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I haven't spoke about it to anyone but I have had to block a friend who I know is on here, I don't think she knows it is me haha or hasn't said as much

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

in the early days a few friends knew longer we were in it the fewer of our friends were outside the swingers scene

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

A few do. Maybe about six. One of them finds it hilarious and eagerly awaits our stories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one of our friends know, we feel the secrecy of it all adds to the excitement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

All my family know and my children, couple friends also know

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"All friends and most family xx"

How did they react when you told them

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Most of ours know now family and friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody but it wouldn't bother us if they found out.

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By *eachPreacherMan
over a year ago

Kent/London

None, and I'd like to keep it that way. It's why I don't have a face pic or anything identifying on my profile

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

About 10 friends... two also told us they are swingers

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

In our normal everyday friends, just 3.

We trust them with our secret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of them. It's my family I'm keeping this away from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not told anyone, but I think a couple suspect lol. I’m sure one couple I know swing from time to time, but circumstances mean I REALLY can’t speak to them about it, which is a shame

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

A few of them know about this side of our life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Just one close friend, and thats because we had a few sessions with him some years back. We stopped that though it is too much and getting in the way of our friendship. All good now and he knows but we don't make a song and dance out of our activities with him.

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By *onosplayCouple
over a year ago

banbury

One close friend. Possibly some others might have a stab in the dark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None and that's the way we hope to keep it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

What about you OP.

Are you comfortable telling your friends that you are a bi-curious swinger?

Are your friends ready for that kind of personal information??

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By *rNaughtyMrsNaughtierCouple
over a year ago

NorthEast

Only our 2 closet friends! We have quite a few hot friends so may not be to bad if those found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have one set of our closest friends that we told right at the beginning. They have been following our progress with interest over the last few years. And they are so so close to trying the lifestyle out but just won't take the plunge

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

A few, but it's not something we publicise

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By *rustratedmissWoman
over a year ago

York

No one knows about what I get up to on here. Its frustrating as I'd like to sometimes talk about something I've been up to but as far as everyone who knows me is concerned I'm quiet, shy and Captain Sensible. There is not one of my friends who I think would approve or understand my choices. The world is still a very judgemental place for women who enjoy sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None!

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

None of their business , none knows

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

None.

Apart from a hockey team mate who saw me on Fab!

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

One

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Most of them, they don't be us or they think I'm in it to get cock and I'm not.

They think Dick watches me getting fucked by BBC!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm curious how many of your vanilla friends know about this side of you?"

It'd freak them out...and us! Having said that we have wondered what a few of them get up to!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"We have one set of our closest friends that we told right at the beginning. They have been following our progress with interest over the last few years. "

That would be too good a secret to keep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my friends know

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By *adHatter_RestrainedAliceCouple
over a year ago

In The Hills

Most of my close friends and my family

Alice x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I tell the full story to a handful of friends.

A few more know a slightly watered down version.

Most know that I’m not monogamous and tend to date more than one person at a time.

My daughter knows nothing

V x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Quite a few of them know im a swinger but very few at all know how I present myself while doing so...they don't know im also a crossdresser as well.

Most find what I get up to fascinating which is pretty cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would it still be as much fun for us if they knew lol.

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