FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers are weirdo perverts

By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say what I want tbh... If people don't like it, they aren't for me... I don't hide who I am from people incase they can't handle it.

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By *arried bi2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I thought same when hubby asked me to come on here but most people are friendly

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.

Haha but we are tho... A brilliant, brightly coloured pack of wierdos who sparkle wherever we go... That's part of the joy, we don't need to fit in to society's idea of 'normal' we make our own rules and live a life that makes us happy not one that makes us fit in.... Who wants to be a shade of magnolia blending in as they make their way through life?

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.

I wish i had such friend lol

To be honest its not fear its jealousy that gets in the way of swingers.

To explain i would say;

imagine a couple who are your friends and you admittedly told them that you swing.

The male may be jealous that his wife or GF is now a target for your partner and you are totally ok with this.

The female maybe jealous that her partner would be invited by you or your partner to join looool

People are jealous and they may steer clear because they don't want to share their partners.

I hope i have explained myself properly lol

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

A discuss this with my vanilla friends. My eldest son knows where i go.. av nothing to hide..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those of you open about the lifestyle are very brave or just don't give two... I'm sure I would be seen as a degenerate if friends and family knew lol...

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Those of you open about the lifestyle are very brave or just don't give two... I'm sure I would be seen as a degenerate if friends and family knew lol... "

I get that it’s a risky decision to make.. you could end up with no friends or family.. i guess am just lucky as far as my friends are concerned.

My son however was told at 18 as thats the age you can join fab and I didn’t want his mates maybe coming across me and taking the piss.

And anyone els who actually thinks pming me and asking would a take him to a club with me, get a grip of your sick minds .. very disturbing question

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yup

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

It would make life so much more fun if we could all be honest about our swinging lives.

Soooo not ready to do it yet haha

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

No we wouldn’t disclose it to vanilla friends.

Just a thought sprung after reading the posts from a couple of single women above, saying they don’t mind who knows. I wonder if generally people would “mind” less and might just regard that as being “ok” - an independent woman going to a swinging club to have fun in a safe environment. I think a lot of people might think “good luck to her”.

Whereas many people probably take the view that when a couple dies it there must be something wrong with their relationship. A decent subsection of these would secretly be jealous.

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By *reampie_vickyTV/TS
over a year ago

Wigan

"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.

It's just that most british people are clueless about sex and have a horrid old fashioned view of it, thankfully the rest of Europe is a lot more openminded about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It entirely depends on your friend-group. I have what I would call 'sex-friends', 'music friends' and 'other friends' so depending on who I'm with, I can say what I like....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I just don't consider my sex life a topic for polite conversation outside swinging.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.

If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. "
Early intro to this life we went on a swinger cruise ...2000 couples...shared meal times ..conversations ..couldnt believe just how nice people could be ...it was an education ...it was great to be amongst a load of like minded folk..if every body did it maybe swinging wouldnt be as exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its easy to develop a sense of normality when you are engaged deeply in the swinging scene that isn't reflected in the wider public. I learned early on that my 'normal' friends didn't have the same enthusiasm that I had for watching their partner getting fucked hard by others.

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By *orksCouple25 OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don’t think there will nearly as many ‘weirdo pervert’ comments directed at the single male ( or even single female ) swingers as us married couples . After all they are just sowing their wild oats and that’s normal for single people to do but for two married couples to swap sexual partners or dare I say go to orgies and gangbangs together is definitely considered perverted by most non swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's also worth noting that terms like 'pervert' or 'slut' are held very differently within a community like ours.

Those used to be negative terms, in the same way things like 'queer' used to be a slur - these words have been reclaimed and no longer mean the same things.

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By *andboyMan
over a year ago

Calne

"It entirely depends on your friend-group. I have what I would call 'sex-friends', 'music friends' and 'other friends' so depending on who I'm with, I can say what I like...."

I would add family to this list. It is all down to knowing that this may be a divisive topic and only discussing what is accepted in that circle. I also make a point of not discussing politics especially Brexit with certain people. I would sooner keep my friends than open divisions.

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By *poolfunswingcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

We have actually told a couple of our closest friends about what we get up to. They were interested in finding out about it but only from a curiosity point of view. It certainly didn’t affect our friendship and now becomes a bit of an in joke about us being dirty buggers. We would never look to play with vanilla friends, ever.

We would also never look to introduce swinging friends to vanilla friends. Everyone has a right anonymity and we respect that 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People could help the situation but not using words like 'naughty' or 'dirty' to describe themselves. If people want to normalise it, stop making it seem like you're doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm of the opinion that if more couples paid attention to making sure their other half was sexually fulfilled, there's be a lot less cheating.

Helping each other fulfil sexual fantasies can actually bring some couples closer together.

Sure, the opposite can also happen, but that's where communication is key.

If I was married and my wife had a fantasy I couldn't fulfil for her - what would be the point in denying her?

Better to let her indulge with people who know how to play safe, than for her to take her chances in a club or pub...

Discuss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say what I want tbh... If people don't like it, they aren't for me... I don't hide who I am from people incase they can't handle it. "
exactly this

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I'm a weirdo who is perverted. Luckily I met my Husband 25 years ago and he is as equally weird and perverted.

I will add though, that I encourage 'Weird' as 'Normal' when using the word with my kids.

I wouldn't want to upset anyone by calling them wierd or perverted though as I don't see it as a negative. I use these words how I want to and that's positively.

Jo.Xx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Ok so I have my friends that I would categorise in the following boxes

1) ex swingers and some non vanilla friends who no longer swing but have known them for years. They know I swing, so they may ask how is clubbing going or what not. (Include non vanilla in this because they know I swing)

2) current swinging friends. The discussion may be a more detailed but it will be more on going to clubs at etc

3) non swinging / non vanilla (football friends) I keep it off the table. May say I had sex with a lady etc but nothing more than that.

4) work certainly not

Tbh as a lot of my friends know anyway it may get mentioned but not in detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my friends know I go to clubs. Many of them admit they wish they could.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

you say pervert like its a bad thing

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ow I’m definitely a weird pervert

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

What I’m normal it’s just voices in my head

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't feel the need to talk about my sex life with most people. The few that I do know what we're up to on here.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

It's fine keeping a swinging lifestyle a secret from regular friends. People can be too judgemental.

I like the fact people know me in one mode and not another. It's a bit like being a superhero rather than a pervert.

Ok a pervy superhero if you like.

I like the fact some of my friends haven't a clue.

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By *iger-NWMan
over a year ago

Preston

Never underestimate privacy

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

But I am a weirdo pervert....

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