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Ladies, have you ever messaged first?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey! So have a question for the ladies of the site.

Have you ever messaged a solo guy here first? I know ladies get 100s of messages, so what makes a guy stand out that you will message him first?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Iv messaged many for forum challenges or sometimes if I notice something specific that catches my eye I defo message first

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Yes especially when I first joined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a message from a few ladies.

All abuse but that still counts as first contact I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a message from a few ladies.

All abuse but that still counts as first contact I guess "

Hahahahahha

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes. I message often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, I've messaged a guy first, usually from something I've seen in the forums.

Or perving through pics

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I've sent the first message plenty of times

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll know it when I find it.

Yes I have, quite a few times tbh. A witty forum post, an amusing status or a friend suggesting him all makes me take a look at his profile - I've never been one to do a search as such.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's how I got most of my meets.

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By *urga2076Woman
over a year ago

London

Sure usually not to hit on them but to compliment them on a beautiful photo or intelligent profile or funny forum comment. I think we could all do with a nice compliment when we least expect it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time...often if they have made me laugh in a thread

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Only two types of single lady messages firsts

Fakes or Forumites. Can’t remember when we had a message that was not either of the above.

Se La Vie

S

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

I do it all the time.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"Yes. I message often."

Great bj picture x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup a few times. The one I messaged first most recently had fabbed almost every pic on my profile so I decided to just go for it, apparently he had messaged me on a previous profile and I deleted so he didn’t bother to message me on this one

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Only two types of single lady messages firsts

Fakes or Forumites. Can’t remember when we had a message that was not either of the above.

Se La Vie

S

"

I'm both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mrs gets a stupid amount of messages a day so I understand why some women don’t send messages first as there trying to filter through the rubbish ones to find the one decent one lol

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Only two types of single lady messages firsts

Fakes or Forumites. Can’t remember when we had a message that was not either of the above.

Se La Vie

S

"

Sweeping statement ... I regularly send the first message , Only started looking in the forum the last couple of weeks even though I have been on here forever .... Doesn't make me a fake

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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I message first; my first meet on here I messaged first actually thinking back

I message guys mainly from the forums; if they're profile pic is interesting and they're fun on the forums that makes me look at their profile and if their profile is interesting I'll message.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I have messaged first don't have an issue with messaging first. And I don't get 100s of messages because I have set my filters tight to stop a load.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep... I have messaged a few... If I hadn't, I would be living on my own and having alot less sex as it's how I met my fwb

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a couple of first messages from ladies and generally has led to a meet. Doesnt happen very often though

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I rarely do it. I did it once as an experiment. Just put an icebreaker quick message to 20 men to see what the response would be from a women's point of view... pretty much 99% success rate in response. Made really good friends with one of them but because of covid situation, we still haven't met.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

Sorry no as we don't do single men #

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Only two types of single lady messages firsts

Fakes or Forumites. Can’t remember when we had a message that was not either of the above.

Se La Vie

S

I'm both "

Troublemaker!

S

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Only two types of single lady messages firsts

Fakes or Forumites. Can’t remember when we had a message that was not either of the above.

Se La Vie

S

Sweeping statement ... I regularly send the first message , Only started looking in the forum the last couple of weeks even though I have been on here forever .... Doesn't make me a fake "

I know but I just thought I’d even the balance a bit in the generalisation stakes.

S

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Yes I have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey! So have a question for the ladies of the site.

Have you ever messaged a solo guy here first? I know ladies get 100s of messages, so what makes a guy stand out that you will message him first?"

No I haven't ever messaged first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've messaged guys first because

*of something they said on the forum.

*a photo of theirs I've seen that I liked.

*their status update.

*because I've checked out their photos and profile, think I may be right for them and they for me and I'd like to get naked with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have and do - if all my messages are from guys that don’t interest me I will do a search and either hotlist or wink at a guy. If he really interests me then I will message, particularly if he has posted an update that is relevant or I have seen something on the Forum.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yes I do

V x

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By *unandfrolics696969Couple
over a year ago

exeter

All the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey! So have a question for the ladies of the site.

Have you ever messaged a solo guy here first? I know ladies get 100s of messages, so what makes a guy stand out that you will message him first?

No I haven't ever messaged first "

I doubt you would need to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if the guy is 100% what I'm looking for

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