FabSwingers.com forum: First time nerves

By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We are hoping to meet after lockdown wife is do nervous though any tips on how to get over them

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Try and find a nice friendly couple or single person who is on your wavelength. Chat first on the phone so you are not a complete stranger to them. Maybe set a limit for your first meet. Then just enjoy x

Mrs N

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Why not set up a couples profile and let her chat to profiles of people she is attracted to.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Was she nervous playing on cam ?

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

She has chatted a couple of times and did a couple of cam sessions but was very d*unk

We got verifications which was encouraging

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By *oner HornCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Hi, we've been swinging on and off (mostly off) for 20 years and we both still get nervous.

I'd suggest:

*only do it if you're both sure - nerves is one thing, not up for it is another

*Try a club. Treat it at as a night at the pub with no expectation of play. People are friendly; although like a night at the pub without mates it's easier to get chatting

if you're outgoing (we're not)

*Go for a few drinks with the couple you want to meet before you play...or even have a none play social

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Hi, we've been swinging on and off (mostly off) for 20 years and we both still get nervous.

I'd suggest:

*only do it if you're both sure - nerves is one thing, not up for it is another

*Try a club. Treat it at as a night at the pub with no expectation of play. People are friendly; although like a night at the pub without mates it's easier to get chatting

if you're outgoing (we're not)

*Go for a few drinks with the couple you want to meet before you play...or even have a none play social"

Exactly this, a club is perfect for your first time, you can sit back and comfortably enjoy the naughtiness and maybe play together without any pressure.

Although given current climate you may not want to wait, in which case have a social with a couple you like. Just the energy of doing something like that and being able to talk about sex with strangers will make it a great night for you.

Advice would be to start slowly, it’s better to wake up the next day wishing you’d gone further, than to wake up regretting something.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"She has chatted a couple of times and did a couple of cam sessions but was very d*unk

We got verifications which was encouraging"

Shouldn't this be a couples profile? Anyway, look for a well verified, experienced guy read the veris and start chatting, took us five weeks to find the right person.

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Thanks for all advice

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Was such a move forward getting her on cam

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

A couple profile would definitely be a good idea, let her build her confidence a bit by having a look around the forums and chatting to people. Also, I think a lot of people will be put off by a solo male profile claiming to be a couple, even with verifications.

I'd say a good conversation, when sober, is needed to establish fully whether it is really nerves or whether she actually isn't really into the idea & hence needs the Dutch courage. If she needs to be very d*unk to play on cam then I'd be concerned the same would be true in a face to face meet & that raises lots of red flags regarding the issue of consent.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Was she aware she was playing on cam ?

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Of course she was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course she was "

A cam social is a good next step, they can work better than normal social as it can be hard to move it to the playing arena.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Get her more involved on here and always meet for a social first to settle the nerves the nerves will always be there but it becomes part of the fun and excitement

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

She's chatting to a nice couple right now

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

It's about building her confidence not rushing her

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By *stoppMan
over a year ago

Durham

Excellent advice speak wherever possible by phone or social.. it’s how I sometimes get nervous models to really find out it’s what they want to do..

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Her sex drive has gone through the roof

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

I’d encourage her to chat to people, I chatted briefly with her a couple of wks ago. To me it’s all about building a connection, so that when you do meet it’s less awkward. Nerves for me are part and parcel of it or rather nervous anticipation but if you’ve already hit it off with them to an extent beforehand it’s better. Even a phone call maybe x

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

And yeah would recommend a social before x

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Is she aware of what’s going on ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Organise a surprise gangbang for her. Itll be a bit of a shock, but by the time she gets around to number 20. She will have settled down a tad.

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

A gang bang you serious

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Im sure once nerves go she will love it

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Gin.......lots of gin lol

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"We are hoping to meet after lockdown wife is do nervous though any tips on how to get over them"

Have you been to clubs, they are a good way to ease into swinging, you can chat, watch or do as much or as little as you want when it suits you, many people use clubs for sex with each other, some like to be watch while the have sex with each other, others like to talk to people who have watched etc.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"A gang bang you serious"

Oh yeah, nothing sorts out who the serious swingers more than a big gang bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She will be fine soon! Same was with Mila she was really d*unk when we did our first meet and now I can't even stop her playing x

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Agree with quite a few on here, clubs are great for first timers. Happy days !

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By *herrychapstickWoman
over a year ago

Hitchin

"She has chatted a couple of times and did a couple of cam sessions but was very d*unk

We got verifications which was encouraging"

Sorry, I’m a little confused. Why are the veri’s encouraging under these circumstances?

Honestly, this sounds like a lot more than just nerves. Being very d*unk before cam just sounds like she’s trying to please you. I think she needs the pressure taken off of her. If was meeting with and she was this nervous then I’d say no thank you and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was so nervous on my first meet but we had a drink and a chat and relaxed and had some good fun

I still get nervous now meeting new people just turn up and have a drink and a chat and then see if you wish to play or not you never have to play if you dont wish too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat for a good while first and really try to get to know what you all like. Share pics of yourselves and of your likes.. Meet socially and flirt like mad

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

She’ll be fine I’ve been chatting to her on her singles profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am so going to get a new one ripped for this

But in my opinion if anyone needs to get d*unk to play then they don't really want to and are just doing it to please there partner.

As I say only my opinion.

Now getting my tin hat on.

Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She’ll be fine I’ve been chatting to her on her singles profile. "

Me too lol

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By *ickie68Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm new to this i don't even know where to start i think I'd be nervous 1st time thats if I ever get the chance good luck im sure she will be fine with you by her side

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By *arried bi2 OP Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Thanks for help it's not easy

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We found a club environment very much eased the way ... you can control how and with whom you play. You might be surprised how quick a lady can be turned on by the availability of choice and attention. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves are good

Nerves add to the build up,the excitement.

Embrace the nerves and use it to your advantage

Good luck

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By *aximus18Man
over a year ago

Barry

Have a read of the story I recently put up of when we first visited a club.

She was extremely nervous but completely shocked me once she relaxed and got going.

Its titled - Young couple's First time visit to swingers club (TRUE)

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By *ohn1953Man
over a year ago

North Wales

"We are hoping to meet after lockdown wife is do nervous though any tips on how to get over them"

I wrote a true story in here of (my meet with with a first time couple ) Michelle and Steve and you see that they was nervous too . Just have a read .

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