FabSwingers.com forum: Are there any non-sexual social groups for swingers?

By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

May sound like a strange question perhaps but I’m wondering if anything like this exists?

I have a good bunch of friends that I like hanging out with (when not living through a global pandemic), going for hikes, going to the pub, having a walkabout, etc. But I always feel restricted in being able to talk openly about my relationships or dating because most don’t ‘get’ swinging. They are judgemental about it. I often feel like I have to justify why I’m involved in the lifestyle. My closest friend still can’t get his head around that my ex and I used to have threesomes. My friends just have a different mindset to me I guess. I need some new friends ha.

So I obviously know that clubs have a big social element to them, and then there are groups where people get together and talk about topics related to swinging and open relationships etc.

But I’m wondering if there are groups out there where the purpose of meeting isn’t to shag each other, nor to sit around and talk academically about swinging, but rather to hang out with others who are like-minded but the focus is going to a gig or for a hike or a pub quiz?

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Errrrrrmmmmm.....

I would imagine that there would be a group collective that your trying to tailor for somewhere, usually these things are classified as social meets with potential to play but i would surmise that if you look hard enough and maybe tinker with your Profile to specify what you're looking for then it's a possibility that people could come looking.

Problem you've got is despite your best intentions your single man status isn't going to do you any favours cos as we all know, even the good guys struggle to get anywhere here but with a small twist on your search you might be pointed in the right direction.

Good luck with this OP.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Maybe look for this outside of fab as well. There are bound to be social groups in your area doing all sorts of activities.

Also spotted someone on the forum - don't ask me who or what post, can't for the life of me remember - who does a pub quiz every Sunday night (pre pandemic, it won't be on now) x

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"Errrrrrmmmmm.....

Good luck with this OP. "

Thank you.

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"Maybe look for this outside of fab as well. There are bound to be social groups in your area doing all sorts of activities.

Also spotted someone on the forum - don't ask me who or what post, can't for the life of me remember - who does a pub quiz every Sunday night (pre pandemic, it won't be on now) x"

I’ll have a look.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If it exists we haven't found it but it would be something we'd enjoy.

I had a text from a friend recently who'd discovered a relative was a swinger. He was horrified and used a lot of vomit emojis. It would be lovely to be able to relax and discuss anything with people in a social setting without feeling they expected anything more from you.

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By *sxdsWoman
over a year ago

sefton

I would love that too, sometimes you just wanna be able to chat openly without feeling like someone is just talking to you for an ulterior motive.

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"If it exists we haven't found it but it would be something we'd enjoy.

Similarly, I’ve had reactions of disgust if I’ve told people who are not swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to organise the Chester social, and this was exactly what I was trying to achieve. Just a happy, relaxed place to discuss whatever everything and anything.

I also ensured it was inclusive for everyone, so welcoming to newbies with little or no experience of the scene, level access venues for less able bodied,etc.

I made a big point of it being for anyone interested.

Unfortunately when I handed over the reins of organising it, the new people wanted it to be more of a hook up event.

They have made a big success of it. However I now feel it excludes those of us that no longer wish to meet for sex, but still have an interest in the scene.

Maybe set up something yourself op?

Feel free to pm me (op only!!)

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

This is what we are looking for, and I firstly I want to thank the OP for the topic as he has put it better than I possibly could. I, the male has male, has had lots of experience in the Scene, my partner has not, but over time has come to feel more comfortable with the social aspect. She doesn't want group sex or threesomes but is open to wine bars, dinner, socials with no pressure for more. She sees the benefit of being around or talking to sexy, open people to our relationship. I try to make this clear in our profile, but a social group of couples in the same position will be ideal. Thanks again for the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is what we are looking for, and I firstly I want to thank the OP for the topic as he has put it better than I possibly could. I, the male has male, has had lots of experience in the Scene, my partner has not, but over time has come to feel more comfortable with the social aspect. She doesn't want group sex or threesomes but is open to wine bars, dinner, socials with no pressure for more. She sees the benefit of being around or talking to sexy, open people to our relationship. I try to make this clear in our profile, but a social group of couples in the same position will be ideal. Thanks again for the question.

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"I used to organise the Chester social, and this was exactly what I was trying to achieve. Just a happy, relaxed place to discuss whatever everything and anything.

I also ensured it was inclusive for everyone, so welcoming to newbies with little or no experience of the scene, level access venues for less able bodied,etc.

I made a big point of it being for anyone interested.

Unfortunately when I handed over the reins of organising it, the new people wanted it to be more of a hook up event.

They have made a big success of it. However I now feel it excludes those of us that no longer wish to meet for sex, but still have an interest in the scene.

Maybe set up something yourself op?

Feel free to pm me (op only!!) "

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Swinging is not just about sex in my view so I completely understand and hope you manage to find similar couples.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Why not try and organise a social group locally to you ....and see if you get any interest ........x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would love that too, sometimes you just wanna be able to chat openly without feeling like someone is just talking to you for an ulterior motive."

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By *inky_Experimental_GuyMan
over a year ago

Reigate

"Why not try and organise a social group locally to you ....and see if you get any interest ........x"

Was about to suggest the same thing.

In the BDSM scene they have munches. Normally held in pubs that serve food.

They provide a twofold service. Noobs can meet people and learn about the scene, and ideal for first meet (kink scene has its added dangers so safe spaces are ideal)

Set up something along these lines but for swingers, once covid is in the rear view mirror of course.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I think a “real world” extension of the forum would be a great idea.. a regular social where you can talk openly about any subject, kink or preference... flirt and hook up if you want or just chat with others without judgement about your lifestyle choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not just about sex in my view so I completely understand and hope you manage to find similar couples.

Swinging is 100% not just about sex.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

usually works the other way round the friends you make as swingers become your social circle

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

in more normal times there are fab swingers socials organised all round the country for people to meet in pubs and bars some will meet and go off for fun but many just meet and chat

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

It’s a good thread actually, nice to know there’s a few like minded people around. Neither of us have discussed swinging with anyone outside of our swinging friends, so for us club nights were always really our main socials as well.

In answer to OP, definitely put yourself out there and organise your own socials in the format that appeals to you, it will be hard at first but there is clearly a demand for that sort of thing.

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By *tickyPollCouple
over a year ago

Dartford

This also would appeal to us especially as we don’t play with couples, but would like to socialise with them without the pressure of playing.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We have been to Sunday munches ...social meets with like minded people on an organised day /venue ....it can be done ..with a bit of effort ...no pressure and breaks the ice ...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think having this kind of a group is such a good idea.

Meeting people where there is no pressure of sex what so ever. Feeling safe.

Wished there was such a group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to organise the Chester social, and this was exactly what I was trying to achieve. Just a happy, relaxed place to discuss whatever everything and anything.

I also ensured it was inclusive for everyone, so welcoming to newbies with little or no experience of the scene, level access venues for less able bodied,etc.

I made a big point of it being for anyone interested.

Unfortunately when I handed over the reins of organising it, the new people wanted it to be more of a hook up event.

They have made a big success of it. However I now feel it excludes those of us that no longer wish to meet for sex, but still have an interest in the scene.

Maybe set up something yourself op?

Feel free to pm me (op only!!) "

I use to love coming to your socials in Chester. Went to a couple of socials with the new 'owners' wasn't for me. So stopped going.

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

"Why not try and organise a social group locally to you ....and see if you get any interest ........x"

I think it is a matter of small steps for now due to the pandemic; but I like to think that this is not such a small step, to see that there are others who feel the same way. And it all started with one person throwing the idea out there. Wonderful, isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to organise the Chester social, and this was exactly what I was trying to achieve. Just a happy, relaxed place to discuss whatever everything and anything.

I also ensured it was inclusive for everyone, so welcoming to newbies with little or no experience of the scene, level access venues for less able bodied,etc.

I made a big point of it being for anyone interested.

Unfortunately when I handed over the reins of organising it, the new people wanted it to be more of a hook up event.

They have made a big success of it. However I now feel it excludes those of us that no longer wish to meet for sex, but still have an interest in the scene.

Maybe set up something yourself op?

Feel free to pm me (op only!!)

I use to love coming to your socials in Chester. Went to a couple of socials with the new 'owners' wasn't for me. So stopped going. "

Same here.

Sorry to hear that x

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'd be interested in a social activity group along the lines that the OP suggested

I also run, or used to run, pub quizzes. I am doing them online. If I tried one on here would people be interested? Even if just in principle?

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

A badminton group would be nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to meet swingers just to talk about swinging, does that not mean that it is about sex?

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"If you want to meet swingers just to talk about swinging, does that not mean that it is about sex?"

I’m not wanting to meet swingers to talk about sex. I think this forum serves that need. I’m not wanting to talk about swinging either really. I’m thinking more of being able to talk about anything, COVID, movies, politics, whatever whilst just being with others who are swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want to meet swingers just to talk about swinging, does that not mean that it is about sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want to meet swingers just to talk about swinging, does that not mean that it is about sex?

Can't you talk about those things with other people?

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

We like the social side as well as the sex side. It's good to have like minded friends to just go for a drink with and relax and not always have sex

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By *ilentnoise OP Man
over a year ago

Belfast

"Can't you talk about those things with other people?"

Yes, I already do with my non-swinging friends. It’s just nice to be in company with other swingers at times where the focus isn’t sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can't you talk about those things with other people?

Yes, I already do with my non-swinging friends. It’s just nice to be in company with other swingers at times where the focus isn’t sex. "

Is it because you can imagine them doing sexy things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find the social aspect to Fabs the best part about it.

Once covid is out of the way look out for many of the Fab London socials.

Check out the hostess with the mostess Sally’s profile CroydonChristmasCarol who organises the Croydon events which is normally held in a pub in Croydon and they have the whole of the upper floor reserved so very easy to chat to fabbers.

There are many more socials in London , Do a search for the Bank, Heathrow and secret tea party in the forums.

Good luck

A&J x

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

We are new to all this but I'm certainly hoping that when lockdown/covid is over we would make some friends with similar interests. It would be nice to be able to relax and discuss things without dear of judgement. It's always nice to meet people with a similar mind set.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are interested in the social / no pressure to do anything sexual scene too. Love the social drinks and banter. Our sex is amazing and if we did play, it would be own partners and watching only. So right up our street to meet a chat to new people. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to organise the Chester social, and this was exactly what I was trying to achieve. Just a happy, relaxed place to discuss whatever everything and anything.

I also ensured it was inclusive for everyone, so welcoming to newbies with little or no experience of the scene, level access venues for less able bodied,etc.

I made a big point of it being for anyone interested.

Unfortunately when I handed over the reins of organising it, the new people wanted it to be more of a hook up event.

They have made a big success of it. However I now feel it excludes those of us that no longer wish to meet for sex, but still have an interest in the scene.

Maybe set up something yourself op?

Feel free to pm me (op only!!)

I use to love coming to your socials in Chester. Went to a couple of socials with the new 'owners' wasn't for me. So stopped going.

Same here.

Sorry to hear that x"

No problem was not your doing xx

Your social you organised was just so good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd be interested in a social activity group along the lines that the OP suggested

I also run, or used to run, pub quizzes. I am doing them online. If I tried one on here would people be interested? Even if just in principle? "

I am interested x

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