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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" Straight away.. then its a nice surprise if they reply at a later date! | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" As soon as its sent over thinking what people do or not do to a message you sent can get to you. If they come back its a bonus that is the best way to look at it. | |||
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"Why the need for a 'cut off time'? I write to singles and couples then just wait & see if & when I get a reply - on occasions people have 'other life' issues that prevent them replying. On one occasion I had a reply from a couple a good 4 months after I'd messaged them - we chatted and met and had fun. We have a couples profile on here too and get really fed up with (mostly) guys who send chasing mails within days (sometimes hours) of contacting us. Just chill - if they are interested they will get back in their own time!!!! Mxx" all of this.. couples are not as immediate as single chaps d | |||
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"How long before you accept there not going to reply?" Fire and forget... the vast majority of messages are never read, and of those that are, even less get a reply, and of those replies, most are "No thanks". Don't wind yourself up over it. | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" No idea as I don’t send random messages. I do reply as quick as I can but I don’t like your thread as why should there be a time out? This sounds desperate and pressurising. | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum " Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply 
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time  | |||
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"I've just looked at someone's profile and apparently I messaged her six years ago and she didn't reply. I suspect she's not going to!" Nah give it another year | |||
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"I've just looked at someone's profile and apparently I messaged her six years ago and she didn't reply. I suspect she's not going to!" With that pessimistic attitude, no wonder! | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time "Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point | |||
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"I've just looked at someone's profile and apparently I messaged her six years ago and she didn't reply. I suspect she's not going to! Nah give it another year "You're right, she might just be playing hard to get  | |||
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"I've just looked at someone's profile and apparently I messaged her six years ago and she didn't reply. I suspect she's not going to! With that pessimistic attitude, no wonder! "I was optimistic up to five years, now I'm just bitter with disappointment and resentment  | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point "Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise. Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away! Again good luck | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck "Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied | |||
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"Green arrow is next to your name in the forum - click on our and you can see where else other people have posted" Learn something new everyday on this site | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied "Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!! | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!"Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior "Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic.. | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic.. "I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again | |||
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"Why put a deadline on it? If someone is interested, they'll reply when they're ready. If they're not, then they won't. To give you some perspective, I currently have 74 unread messages in my inbox. I'll work my way through them if and when I have time, but if I'm already involved in conversations with 2 or 3 people, I'll focus on them first. Messages can be difficult to keep on top on for most single women, the worst thing you can do is message again if they haven't replied within a time frame you feel is reasonable...that's sure to put them off. Send the message, then forget about it - if you get a reply, it's a bonus! V x" You can see when messages have been read....so when you see its deleted that says not interested so if opened and read but not deleted or replied...how long before you decide they not gonna reply? | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again "By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you? | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again
By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you? "I think my post has been twisted out of context...it was a question about what other people do with there read but not deleted messages | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again
By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you?
I think my post has been twisted out of context...it was a question about what other people do with there read but not deleted messages "What you have to remember is that people read this as pressure from you which will show you as not attractive and it will do you no favours. People reply when they want to. Best way is send a message then delete it so you’re not constantly checking on people. It’s not good. | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again
By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you?
I think my post has been twisted out of context...it was a question about what other people do with there read but not deleted messages
What you have to remember is that people read this as pressure from you which will show you as not attractive and it will do you no favours. People reply when they want to. Best way is send a message then delete it so you’re not constantly checking on people. It’s not good. "Please read my original post | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again
By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you?
I think my post has been twisted out of context...it was a question about what other people do with there read but not deleted messages
What you have to remember is that people read this as pressure from you which will show you as not attractive and it will do you no favours. People reply when they want to. Best way is send a message then delete it so you’re not constantly checking on people. It’s not good.
Please read my original post"Everyone who has commented has got the wrong end of the stick.. no one has twisted it its just the way it reads! | |||
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"Wasn't a post about getting upset it was just a post because this is a forum Sorry spelling mistakes all over that reply
Don’t put pressure on yourself, i get your new and excited about swinging but the green arrow and recent posts is giving me the entitlement vide.
Anyway good luck op we all need it at this point in time
Dont get your reply? Just looking to create a post and sorry for being new to something...everyone is new at some point
Well like others on here I assumed you were asking regarding your unread messages.. my bad I apologise.
Wasn’t getting at you being new, but when looking at the green arrow your recent post give a lot away!
Again good luck
Whats the green arrow? And it was about messages that have been read but not deleted or replied
Ffs ok read , unread , deleted they all me no !!!
Getting angry about something you don't care about is very strange behavior
Am not angry a gave you advice all be it you weren’t looking for it just asking for it and wished you well
You didn’t like my reply and turned pedantic..
I created the post to see what other users do....if someone doesn't reply after reading then I dont message again
By creating this thread you will be seen as desperate and pressurising. Unfortunately you will now probably be left in the inboxes longer with no replies. There are lots of men on this site so the ladies have the choice of whom they reply to and they also have lives away from Fab. Why should they reply immediately to you?
I think my post has been twisted out of context...it was a question about what other people do with there read but not deleted messages
What you have to remember is that people read this as pressure from you which will show you as not attractive and it will do you no favours. People reply when they want to. Best way is send a message then delete it so you’re not constantly checking on people. It’s not good.
Please read my original post
Everyone who has commented has got the wrong end of the stick.. no one has twisted it its just the way it reads!
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" I've quoted your original post as you either misunderstand your own question, or asked the wrong question for the answers received. The consensus here from probably 99% of respondents, is that once you send a message, just forget about it. You'll be lucky if its read, and a reply is a bonus, not an entitlement. | |||
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"My post was it had been read and not deleted " You're still struggling with the whole expectation of reply syndrome! The moment you hit the send button, forget about it. The odds are stacked against you that you'll get a reply. Accept that you won't. If one day you get a reply, isn't that a bonus? | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" Is there a way to tell if they've deleted it? If so, surely that would be a very good sign. | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply? Is there a way to tell if they've deleted it? If so, surely that would be a very good sign." Yes in your sent messages it’s yellow then it turns to read, replied or deleted. | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply? Is there a way to tell if they've deleted it? If so, surely that would be a very good sign. Yes in your sent messages it’s yellow then it turns to read, replied or deleted." Is that so? Thanks. Learn something new every day. I've been here 4 weeks and have only just discovered Winks. | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply? Is there a way to tell if they've deleted it? If so, surely that would be a very good sign. Yes in your sent messages it’s yellow then it turns to read, replied or deleted. Is that so? Thanks. Learn something new every day. I've been here 4 weeks and have only just discovered Winks." Oh happy to help.. good luck  | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" The second I send it! | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" The odds are if they do not reply in 2 days then they are not interested but you never know | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. " Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! " The post states message HAS been read and not deleted | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! The post states message HAS been read and not deleted " Still pressure. This is not good. So guys are checking constantly when we read messages. I answer messages but now I’m going to leave them unread purposely. | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! The post states message HAS been read and not deleted Still pressure. This is not good. So guys are checking constantly when we read messages. I answer messages but now I’m going to leave them unread purposely. " Ok....it was just a forum post | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! The post states message HAS been read and not deleted Still pressure. This is not good. So guys are checking constantly when we read messages. I answer messages but now I’m going to leave them unread purposely. Ok....it was just a forum post " This forum post has certainly opened my eyes about guys sending us messages and monitoring us constantly which I thank you for that. I will now take this into consideration when receiving messages from guys  | |||
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"You can pretty much guarantee that if it's not been read in the first couple of hours of the recipient being online then it's been lost forever amongst the backlog of 100's of messages in their inbox.. Some members do not log out and they also have lives away from Fab. So you time them from sending a message? Pressure! The post states message HAS been read and not deleted Still pressure. This is not good. So guys are checking constantly when we read messages. I answer messages but now I’m going to leave them unread purposely. Ok....it was just a forum post This forum post has certainly opened my eyes about guys sending us messages and monitoring us constantly which I thank you for that. I will now take this into consideration when receiving messages from guys "Same and have adjusted my bio to reflect this | |||
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"Right....I sent my first message at the beginning of August, it was read but not deleted or replied, I was going through messages 2 days ago clearing out old ones when I saw the first message and I thought right or wrong "has enough time passed for me to send another message?" I didn't send another and that was the point of this post" Which if you look back on my first reply answered your question... before you got stroppy and just kept correcting people and saying we twisted it!! | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" As soon as I hit "Send" | |||
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"Right....I sent my first message at the beginning of August, it was read but not deleted or replied, I was going through messages 2 days ago clearing out old ones when I saw the first message and I thought right or wrong "has enough time passed for me to send another message?" I didn't send another and that was the point of this post" For clarity, you don't send another message! Wait for a reply that may never come... noticing they read your message and have not replied... what does that say to you? What would a second message say? Think... | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol " Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread | |||
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"Right....I sent my first message at the beginning of August, it was read but not deleted or replied, I was going through messages 2 days ago clearing out old ones when I saw the first message and I thought right or wrong "has enough time passed for me to send another message?" I didn't send another and that was the point of this post For clarity, you don't send another message! Wait for a reply that may never come... noticing they read your message and have not replied... what does that say to you? What would a second message say? Think..." Read it again....I did not send another message, the point was would other people had sent another? Yes I thought about it | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread "How? Lol | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread
How? Lol"Because you said you wish you hadn’t started it..hence me say its cut off time for the thread.. was my attempt at a joke | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread
How? Lol
Because you said you wish you hadn’t started it..hence me say its cut off time for the thread.. was my attempt at a joke "I got the joke but this thread is not fun now....I know I know I brought it on myself... | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread
How? Lol
Because you said you wish you hadn’t started it..hence me say its cut off time for the thread.. was my attempt at a joke
I got the joke but this thread is not fun now....I know I know I brought it on myself..."Let me just give you some feedback from a woman’s perspective because you seem very naive. Send one message, then forget it, do not send another as that is pressure and will make you very unattractive. If a message is read and not replied to it means she is not interested, same goes for if she deletes it. Also some women get lots of messages like 300+ a day so your message may just be one more message landing in her inbox. I’m glad you started this thread as I’m going to leave messages from random guys left unread or I may even just delete them | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread
How? Lol
Because you said you wish you hadn’t started it..hence me say its cut off time for the thread.. was my attempt at a joke
I got the joke but this thread is not fun now....I know I know I brought it on myself...
Let me just give you some feedback from a woman’s perspective because you seem very naive. Send one message, then forget it, do not send another as that is pressure and will make you very unattractive. If a message is read and not replied to it means she is not interested, same goes for if she deletes it. Also some women get lots of messages like 300+ a day so your message may just be one more message landing in her inbox. I’m glad you started this thread as I’m going to leave messages from random guys left unread or I may even just delete them "Right...I didn't send the 2nd message, I thought about it and thats why I posted the question on here to see what other users would do | |||
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"Wish I hadn't started this thread lol Lol think it’s cut off time for this thread
How? Lol
Because you said you wish you hadn’t started it..hence me say its cut off time for the thread.. was my attempt at a joke
I got the joke but this thread is not fun now....I know I know I brought it on myself...
Let me just give you some feedback from a woman’s perspective because you seem very naive. Send one message, then forget it, do not send another as that is pressure and will make you very unattractive. If a message is read and not replied to it means she is not interested, same goes for if she deletes it. Also some women get lots of messages like 300+ a day so your message may just be one more message landing in her inbox. I’m glad you started this thread as I’m going to leave messages from random guys left unread or I may even just delete them
Right...I didn't send the 2nd message, I thought about it and thats why I posted the question on here to see what other users would do"Even thinking about sending a second message is bad if she hadn’t replied to your first message. | |||
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"And thats the point....I thought about it so put it on here to see what others would have done" Seems you wanted permission from the forum to send a second message thus pressurising the woman. Problem is some men here are so desperate to get a reply and they think just because we are showing on line we must reply immediately to them. That’s not how it works OP, we reply if we want, when we want and I doubt this thread has gained you much interest. | |||
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"And thats the point....I thought about it so put it on here to see what others would have done Seems you wanted permission from the forum to send a second message thus pressurising the woman. Problem is some men here are so desperate to get a reply and they think just because we are showing on line we must reply immediately to them. That’s not how it works OP, we reply if we want, when we want and I doubt this thread has gained you much interest." Oh God, never send a second message, for at least 12 months! There is keen and then desperate | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" The moment I send it. | |||
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"And thats the point....I thought about it so put it on here to see what others would have done Seems you wanted permission from the forum to send a second message thus pressurising the woman. Problem is some men here are so desperate to get a reply and they think just because we are showing on line we must reply immediately to them. That’s not how it works OP, we reply if we want, when we want and I doubt this thread has gained you much interest." I really don't like you using the word pressurising someone and I dont need anyones permission, like I said I noticed a message I had sent at the beginning of August when I wasn't sure what I was doing so asked people if there would send another message to say hi | |||
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"And thats the point....I thought about it so put it on here to see what others would have done Seems you wanted permission from the forum to send a second message thus pressurising the woman. Problem is some men here are so desperate to get a reply and they think just because we are showing on line we must reply immediately to them. That’s not how it works OP, we reply if we want, when we want and I doubt this thread has gained you much interest. I really don't like you using the word pressurising someone and I dont need anyones permission, like I said I noticed a message I had sent at the beginning of August when I wasn't sure what I was doing so asked people if there would send another message to say hi" So the message was sent beginning of August, you had no reply so why did you need to ask us if you should send another message? It is pressurising. She obviously isn’t interested. Fab states no reply means no. | |||
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"And thats the point....I thought about it so put it on here to see what others would have done Seems you wanted permission from the forum to send a second message thus pressurising the woman. Problem is some men here are so desperate to get a reply and they think just because we are showing on line we must reply immediately to them. That’s not how it works OP, we reply if we want, when we want and I doubt this thread has gained you much interest. I really don't like you using the word pressurising someone and I dont need anyones permission, like I said I noticed a message I had sent at the beginning of August when I wasn't sure what I was doing so asked people if there would send another message to say hi So the message was sent beginning of August, you had no reply so why did you need to ask us if you should send another message? It is pressurising. She obviously isn’t interested. Fab states no reply means no. " Some of the point I was making was the first message was sent with no face pic and a boring hi....I send better messages now....unless I've been blocked. . Then I dont | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" 2 minutes and not a second longer  | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. " You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! " Right....think back to the 1st message you ever sent here....are you more savy now and are able to write a better message and present yourself better then the bungling idiot at the start? | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! " The post was not really to do with men specifically but everyone who message us on here. And to be fair we've rarely had anyone get pushy or uppity about not replying back or in a timely manner. Just saying there are reasons why we are so poor at replying and understand why people would be put off us or when we've started a conversation think we've ghosted them. And of course there are some messages that are horrendous or totally off putting. Some you just think WTF? We tend to leave them, our time is valuable. We don't want to be a dick to anyone and try to get back even if its a no thanks but we don't owe anyone our time just because they messaged us first. And with some messages we're just lost for words. | |||
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"My post was just about me being abit more switched on now to my very first message.. which was read but not deleted " ‘Switched on’. This is not being switched on. I think you are pressurising women just by creating this thread. You need to learn that not every message will be replied to. No reply means no interest end of. | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! Right....think back to the 1st message you ever sent here....are you more savy now and are able to write a better message and present yourself better then the bungling idiot at the start? " I’ve never been a ‘bungling idiot’ on here. I know how to write a good message but if my message was read and not deleted I would not start a pressurising thread. I would think that person is 1) too busy to reply 2) not interested 3) gets lots of messages so I’m lost in a full inbox but to be honest I doubt men’s inboxes receive 300 messages a day however correct me on that me if I’m wrong. | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! Right....think back to the 1st message you ever sent here....are you more savy now and are able to write a better message and present yourself better then the bungling idiot at the start? I’ve never been a ‘bungling idiot’ on here. I know how to write a good message but if my message was read and not deleted I would not start a pressurising thread. I would think that person is 1) too busy to reply 2) not interested 3) gets lots of messages so I’m lost in a full inbox but to be honest I doubt men’s inboxes receive 300 messages a day however correct me on that me if I’m wrong. " I will correct you on something...this is nothing to do with pressuring anyone...is a question posted in the forum.... | |||
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"To be fair it can take us weeks to reply. We like to do the message's together and it can take some time till we're together (single parents in separate households). Then when we are together there is so many things that compete for our time and attention. Naturally we have a lot of catching up together when we do have time alone. So our replys are often slow. Which I'm sure has put people we're talking to off or caused offence. We don't mean to but totally understand that it would. You should not have to explain why you don’t reply to messages straight away. Some men need to learn to wait for a message but they are very desperate. This thread has made me look at men on here differently and I’m wondering why the heck I’m still here! Right....think back to the 1st message you ever sent here....are you more savy now and are able to write a better message and present yourself better then the bungling idiot at the start? I’ve never been a ‘bungling idiot’ on here. I know how to write a good message but if my message was read and not deleted I would not start a pressurising thread. I would think that person is 1) too busy to reply 2) not interested 3) gets lots of messages so I’m lost in a full inbox but to be honest I doubt men’s inboxes receive 300 messages a day however correct me on that me if I’m wrong. I will correct you on something...this is nothing to do with pressuring anyone...is a question posted in the forum...." Checking if a woman has read a message is pressure, why check if she has read a message? Do you send post out and check if it’s been received. It feels like pressure to me. | |||
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"I was going through my sent messages and deleteing the ones that had been deleted when I saw my very first sent message had been read but not deleted, so I thought about sending another, bear in mind I read profiles to see if I am what they looking for before sending a message, I dont fire off loads of mass messages " If they had not replied to your first message. Dont pester them by sending another. | |||
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" I’ve never been a ‘bungling idiot’ on here. I know how to write a good message but if my message was read and not deleted I would not start a pressurising thread. I would think that person is 1) too busy to reply 2) not interested 3) gets lots of messages so I’m lost in a full inbox but to be honest I doubt men’s inboxes receive 300 messages a day however correct me on that me if I’m wrong. I will correct you on something...this is nothing to do with pressuring anyone...is a question posted in the forum.... Checking if a woman has read a message is pressure, why check if she has read a message? Do you send post out and check if it’s been received. It feels like pressure to me. " Pressure on who? No one would know if you were checking to see if a message has been read or not | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" I would accept it straight away and then if you do get an answer further down the line it is a bonus I wouldn't mail again though | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done" I’m pretty sure that Fab rules state that if a reply is not received it should be taken as no interest. No reply = no interest. Maybe if someone has the link to that rule they could copy it here so they OP can see. | |||
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"I think you are pressurising women just by creating this thread." I have to disagree with this! As a person cannot see or be aware of a sender looking to see if the message remains unread, has been read or deleted, I really cannot see how someone can feel pressure. Equally, I don't think the OP has made his question clear at the outset, but has backtracked a bit. The sensible consensus is that you don't send a second message. The OP said he didn't. Fire and forget! | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done I’m pretty sure that Fab rules state that if a reply is not received it should be taken as no interest. No reply = no interest. Maybe if someone has the link to that rule they could copy it here so they OP can see. " What rule did I break not sending a 2nd message? The whole point of this post was to see what others would have done..I wasn't asking permission to send a 2nd message, I thought about it....but decided against it...so please show me the rule where it says I cant think of doing something? | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done I’m pretty sure that Fab rules state that if a reply is not received it should be taken as no interest. No reply = no interest. Maybe if someone has the link to that rule they could copy it here so they OP can see. What rule did I break not sending a 2nd message? The whole point of this post was to see what others would have done..I wasn't asking permission to send a 2nd message, I thought about it....but decided against it...so please show me the rule where it says I cant think of doing something?" I’ve asked for the rule to be displayed. Maybe a Mod can do that as my communication device I use for this can’t copy links. If no reply to a first message sent then it means no interest, so mayn’t don’t think of sending a second message. That’s what most have said on here anyway. | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done I’m pretty sure that Fab rules state that if a reply is not received it should be taken as no interest. No reply = no interest. Maybe if someone has the link to that rule they could copy it here so they OP can see. What rule did I break not sending a 2nd message? The whole point of this post was to see what others would have done..I wasn't asking permission to send a 2nd message, I thought about it....but decided against it...so please show me the rule where it says I cant think of doing something? I’ve asked for the rule to be displayed. Maybe a Mod can do that as my communication device I use for this can’t copy links. If no reply to a first message sent then it means no interest, so mayn’t don’t think of sending a second message. That’s what most have said on here anyway. " I think its been a contentious post...over 100 replys....so hopefully this marks the end of this post? Next | |||
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"I’ve asked for the rule to be displayed. Maybe a Mod can do that as my communication device I use for this can’t copy links. If no reply to a first message sent then it means no interest, so mayn’t don’t think of sending a second message. That’s what most have said on here anyway. " Do you mean this 'warning notice' that gets displayed when you go to message someone you've contact previously/ "STOP. THINK. You've already sent ******** a message and not received a reply back. If someone doesn't reply, it's not rude, it just means they're not interested. You're better off messaging people who you haven't contacted already. PS. Because some women and couples get hundreds of mails each day, we take a dim view of anyone harassing those who don't reply." | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done I’m pretty sure that Fab rules state that if a reply is not received it should be taken as no interest. No reply = no interest. Maybe if someone has the link to that rule they could copy it here so they OP can see. " It isn't a rule, more a guidance on the FAQ's | |||
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"Thats the point thats missed I didn't send another message but I thought about it and thats why I posted it on the forum to see what other users would have done" It wasn't missed,I was answering as how it wouldn't be welcome for us personally to get a second one if we hadn't answered the first However you did actually say on a post not far above this that you thought about sending another | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" If they don't reply within 5 minutes send them a reminder message - then wait 10 minutes and send another - then another ad infinitum trust me - this will definitely work -  | |||
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"Ok guys and girls....someone as read your message and hasn't deleted or replied....how long before you accept there not going to reply?" Read my message? You bloody dreamer. | |||
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"PS I reckon it would be better if there was no sent box, then none of us would know "Same plus at the top of there profile shows if you have interacted before | |||
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