FabSwingers.com forum: “No black guys our preference”

By *attie_9 OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

Bit rude, bit racist, yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is rude, but it is their preference

Some people just lack basic tact & diplomacy

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By *asterandGenieCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

What would you suggest then? If the site let you use other criteria when blocking who you want messages from then fair enough but it doesn’t you can only block on gender, couple etc..

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

What would you suggest then? If the site let you use other criteria when blocking who you want messages from then fair enough but it doesn’t you can only block on gender, couple etc..

Just have the decency to treat them as individuals, however brief.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Yes I have to agree with op , it's very racist cloaked and veiled in a play on words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly it's just a preference. Some women say "no white guys" and I've seen it from not just white women on this site hut black women as well. If they said something insulting and derogatory then yes be upset. But as a fellow black guy, everyone has a right tone preference.

Just respectfully disagreeing with you on this, take care.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Honestly it's just a preference. Some women say "no white guys" and I've seen it from not just white women on this site hut black women as well. If they said something insulting and derogatory then yes be upset. But as a fellow black guy, everyone has a right tone preference.

Just respectfully disagreeing with you on this, take care."

Ignorant racism isn't "just" anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no matter what someone put on a profile you will always get people who have trouble with it.

simple answer is. its not your profile so bugger all to do with you.

if you dont like it block them.

you dont get to tell others what to do.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"no matter what someone put on a profile you will always get people who have trouble with it.

simple answer is. its not your profile so bugger all to do with you.

if you dont like it block them.

you dont get to tell others what to do.

Just like in real life, right?

They don't want to wear a mask? Bugger all to do with you.

EDL are marching through London? Bugger all to do with you.

A women being beaten her her abusive husband? Bugger all to do with you.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It's crazy but that's folk for you. Concentrate on those profiles who are receptive to black guys, there's loads, sooo many, and some dudes around here get butt hurt by that

. Fill ya boots, with the right approach of course.

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By *picy2Couple
over a year ago

essex

We have seen profiles saying no Asians , I don’t look at it as racist , just a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it racist against whites, when it says only blacks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have seen profiles saying no Asians , I don’t look at it as racist , just a preference "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it doesnt matter what you have on your profile bio as folk will still try their hand.

If you are contacted by someone who isnt your preference you can delete, ignore, block, thanks but no thanks reply. No point being unkind about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

I see BBC/mixed race more than I see white guys only! So I think it's in equilibrium

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases).

There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc.

I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only looking for Eskimos or the pygmy people of the Congo. It's my kink, deal with it.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wheres the clapping emoji when you need it

"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases).

There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc.

I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just respectfully disagreeing with you on this, take care.

Ignorant racism isn't "just" anything."

I honestly don't see it like that, for me it could just be features on white guys that black guys may not have, like blue or green eyes or blonde hair. Yes it might seem harsh but I always strive for equality and like I said there are several mixed race and black women here who say "no white guys" do we call that racist?? If your answer no then you can't call this racist.

I will always defend someone's right to their own preference as long as they are not being derogatory about it. As long as they are not being stereotypical etc. But if they say sorry no black guys, not my/our preference then ok and move on. We all have ethnic preferences which we should be ok with it.

Now balancing the argument a bit, can someone who says no black guys be racist? Of course but the act of saying that their preference isn't for black guys doesn't make them a racist.

I hope you guys understand. Personally I tend to block women and couples who don't prefer black guys so that I don't make a mistake and contact them or fab their photos or wink them by accident.

Hope I've added something constructive to the overall discourse on this subject matter.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

To be honest, as a white fella, i love seeing BBC only or 'looking for mix/black only' etc in a profile

It saves me time and energy. I cannot thank these people enough.

To those who do have this preference but don't bother typing it up, please do.

Its not rude at all, a preference is a preference, a fantasy is a fantasy. Respect to everyones desires.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

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By *perfectpair5050Couple
over a year ago

marlbourgh

Don’t see a problem with it they’re just saying what they’re looking for isn’t it the same when somebody says they’re only looking for black guys that’s not being racist to a white person it’s just what there looking for people are just on here for fun

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

Bit rude, bit racist, yep."

Is it racist really?

Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour?

I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences.

It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time.

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By *ikkiHbiWoman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

I say get over it snowflake

Hardly racism is it

just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it?

Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black?

Don't like it just move on not your issue is it!

Zzzzzzzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

It depends though, if a white person is saying it, no racism but if a black woman says it, I can see ppl taking it as being racist. But I'm supportive of your views that it's just a preference, to each their own. But was just drawing a distinction,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say get over it snowflake

Hardly racism is it

just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it?

Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black?

Don't like it just move on not your issue is it!

Zzzzzzzz"

What she said! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll just add this again, while we may not agree with the OP poont of view. We can respect it.

I can understand where he is coming from and so can other black ppl as well. I always say this, unless if you are a black person you will never understand what we went through nor will you ever understand what we go through on a daily basis. While I don't think it is racist to say "no black guys, our preference" do understand that as black ppl we've seen signs "no black ppl welcome" "toilets for black persons only" etc.

So I'm just saying, don't call him a snowflake or try to insult him, because we may share different opinions on this bit at least you can be respectful to the OP and his views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

I maybe misunderstanding you here but why would it be deemed racist if a black lady says she only likes black men?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I say get over it snowflake

Hardly racism is it

just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it?

Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black?

Don't like it just move on not your issue is it!

Zzzzzzzz"

Wow, all the clichéd buzz words. Oh no, you forgot "jog on".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll just add this again, while we may not agree with the OP poont of view. We can respect it.

So I'm just saying, don't call him a snowflake or try to insult him, because we may share different opinions on this bit at least you can be respectful to the OP and his views."

Sorry, when have you ever seen signs like that? You're talking about USA in Jim Crow era.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases).

There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc.

I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. "

It's not the same as those examples aren't attributes that manifestly influence your entire life, frequently to your significant detriment, from birth to death.

A positive phrasing still feels dubious, but I presume is preferable.

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By *tr84cumMan
over a year ago

grimsby

Sorry, when have you ever seen signs like that? You're talking about USA in Jim Crow era...

Was just going to say that, time has moved on

not saying that racism doesn't exist as it will always exist while there are insecure small minded idiots walking the earth but holding on to past/historical events isn't going to help anyone

We all walk on the same side of the street and sit where we want on buses nowadays been no signs like that for decades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll just add this again, while we may not agree with the OP poont of view. We can respect it.

So I'm just saying, don't call him a snowflake or try to insult him, because we may share different opinions on this bit at least you can be respectful to the OP and his views.

Sorry, when have you ever seen signs like that? You're talking about USA in Jim Crow era. "

There were signs like that in Britain. I'm not saying there are those signs now, but we do have ancestors who one they've lived in countries where they were the minority, have seen signs like that.

One of close friends from Secondary school, 2 years ago was put out of a French restaurant because he was black and he was with his white wife. She wrote about the experience in a blog post.

Imagine being married to a black person and still not being able to understand what we go through. Do you think I haven't faced racism since coming to the UK?

One of my mother's friends who lives in London told me to be very careful when O visit Scotland because there are lots of racists.

As a white person you will never experience having to travel to a place and research how racist that place is before travelling. As a white person you've never had society tell you or stereotype you as being less than human or being compared to monkeys etc.

Sorry if I'm going a little of course but the point I'm trying to make is racism is still here, and sometimes black persons are triggered when they see things like "no black guys, just our preference" as a white person you wouldn't understand why a black person might take offence to that.

I'm hoping that when you read this you don't read to reply but read to comprehend and understand the valid points I'm making.

Again I'll reiterate, that while I think everyone is entitled to their preferences, I can understand (not agree with) but understand why a black guy will be offended by this.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

Bit rude, bit racist, yep.

Is it racist really?

Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour?

I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences.

It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time. "

It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned.

That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And again for me personally, not other black guys, for me personally I would rather see someone put as they're preference they're not interested in black guys for the simple reason that I wouldn't waste my time and theirs by contacting them.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Am colour blind when it comes to skin tone.. i love all the coloured cocks of the rainbow if he is a good egg attached to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

Bit rude, bit racist, yep.

Is it racist really?

Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour?

I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences.

It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time.

It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned.

That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. "

Exactly, don't dismiss the guy because you may not share his experience. Suppose he was bullied because of his race growing up, supposed a woman insulted him because of his race and woman or girl who he liked.

That's why I said, ppl can be triggered by certain things based on their life experiences. I grew up in a country where white people make up maybe less than 3 percent of the population and that's different than growing up in a country where black people make up about 3 percent of the population.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. "

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Next you’ll be saying , couples who don’t want bi / gay guys are homopbic

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It can certainly be innocent to *some* extent. I still don't feel that changes what it is though. I absolutely am guilty of some deep down ingrained prejudices in many ways. I'm interested in thinking about these prejudices though, justifying them, and maybe trying to change them when I feel I've explored my motivations for them if appropriate.

It's "just our preference" makes no sense, and to me often feels like a warning flag in itself. Pick another subject about which people will have preferences, and they'll almost always be able to give a reason for that preference.

Why don't you like Marmite?

Why do you support Chelsea?

Do you like being hit with a cricket bat?

Daddy or Chips?

Why do you wear so much purple?

None of these end in "It's just my preference, shut up". No one puts up that wall when questioned about these things. Yet when questions on here arise are race of sexuality, suddenly people fall back to, inexplicably, saying there's "no reason" for their preferences... so they just poofed into their head one day for NO reason at all..?!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

Ive seen profiles saying none of pretty much everything.

No black guys

No white guys

No single guys

No skinny guys

No fat guy

No bold guys

No hairy guys

No w.e guys

No small cock guys

And many more. Its called a preference, and what people are not into. It saves folk wasting time messaging other folk who wont be interested

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

Bit rude, bit racist, yep.

Is it racist really?

Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour?

I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences.

It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time.

It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned.

That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. "

I'm not saying it is 'not' about being racist, as it might be. But not all cases 'will' be racist either, and to say 'that' is also being overly simplistic.

Personally I agree with the OP that it can come across as a little rude (note 'he' didn't say racist).

Either way, would you prefer the racists to not state there preference and have black people approach them?

I think it's a good thing they raise their preference so they can be avoided.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"It can certainly be innocent to *some* extent. I still don't feel that changes what it is though. I absolutely am guilty of some deep down ingrained prejudices in many ways. I'm interested in thinking about these prejudices though, justifying them, and maybe trying to change them when I feel I've explored my motivations for them if appropriate.

Why don't you like Marmite?

Why do you support Chelsea?

Do you like being hit with a cricket bat?

Daddy or Chips?

Why do you wear so much purple?

Agreed, 'preference' is just a cop out, it depends on the reasons behind that preference.

"I prefer not to sleep with people of X ethnicity, because I think they're all stupid and ugly"

"well that sounds racist but you said it was your preference so I guess it can't be"

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

I actually saw one profile also where the lady says sorry, no black guys, im married to one, so want something different. Is she racist

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.

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that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually saw one profile also where the lady says sorry, no black guys, im married to one, so want something different. Is she racist"

Interesting concept!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean - it's racist to dismiss someone based on their skin colour, full stop. Like, there's no question that's racist - just as it's racist to seek out and fetishise someone for their skin colour.

People get to decide who they have sex with, and if they use racist criteria when deciding then.. I mean, fine? It's not like we can/should do anything about it. But we don't need to live in a society where it's acceptable to say it.

Maybe if the racists just quietly get old and die off then we'll be in a better place than if they're allowed to wear it on their sleeves?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Why don't you like Marmite?

Why do you support Chelsea?

Do you like being hit with a cricket bat?

Daddy or Chips?

Why do you wear so much purple?

I think the reason people fall back to "No reason" is they know people like you will attack them if they give a reason.

Some people just don't find black skin attractive. That doesn't have to come from a place of racism, in the same way that some don't find red hair attractive, some don't find sorry people attractive and some don't find hairy chests attractive.

It doesn't mean they wouldn't want a black person to be there best friend, just means they don't want to fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.

that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess.

I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why.

I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc.

When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time.

It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

I cannot believe someone could say that

I find it disgusting...

Love black peoples they’re lovely sexy and I want to see more on here

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.

that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong

Simply a preference... blimey. Such a daft example, yes it's the same as BBC to some extent. Not seeing how that's a positive...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess.

I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why.

I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc.

When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time.

It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed.

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Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I mean - it's racist to dismiss someone based on their skin colour, full stop. Like, there's no question that's racist - just as it's racist to seek out and fetishise someone for their skin colour.

Maybe if the racists just quietly get old and die off then we'll be in a better place than if they're allowed to wear it on their sleeves?"

Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic?

Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference?

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

In my opinion there’s nothing racist about having a preference of finding a black man or a white man (same for women) sexually attractive. It doesn’t mean they dislike the colour of their skin. If I see a profile where a woman’s only looking for black men,I simply know not to message her as I’m not her type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic?

Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference? "

You're getting dangerously close to claiming that being gay is a choice there buddy. Maybe wind it in with the ignorant comments?

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

It’s their profile it’s their preference yes preference it probably stops unwanted messages from people who they don’t want to meet up so I see a lady asking for a black male why would I waste my time and her/theirs

perhaps fab should explain that it’s not racist or if it is in their eyes ban them

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess.

I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why.

I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc.

When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time.

It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed.

Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe? "

Why do you want to know if I would?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think the reason people fall back to "No reason" is they know people like you will attack them if they give a reason.

It doesn't mean they wouldn't want a black person to be there best friend, just means they don't want to fuck them."

Like I said, I DO have some similar prejudices. I think about why, but ultimately it's some broadly intangible feeling that I can't define. A feeling like I lack a bond of connection or something. These reasons aren't necessarily bad, even though the outcome is a negative. People are a product of their society, their culture and these things are hard to shift. I'm far more likely to have a pop at someone putting up a bullshit wall of lies rather than being honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess.

I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why.

I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc.

When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time.

It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed.

Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe?

Why do you want to know if I would? "
If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!

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By *yanShireMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases).

There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc.

I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess.

I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why.

I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc.

When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time.

It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed.

Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe?

Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!"

Im not your mate, so don’t.

You’re telling me that I comment on issues like this?

Man put your privilege away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could just say everybody welcome and take your pick of your preference, everybody's happy and your thread doesn't get full of nonsense.. Peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!"

Can you explain it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I dont think its racist.

The same as I dont think no white guys, or no bisexual men or any of the other things people write on their profiles to narrow the field of what they are actually looking for is wrong.

People are allowed to have preferences and types. I'm more pissed off by people ignoring those preferences and messaging anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!

Can you explain it?"

Same point that was made to you about not having a preference for men, it doesn't make you a homophobe. Same for white, black or trans people. Just because you're not attracted to them, doesn't mean you are racist, prejudice or bigoty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!

Can you explain it?

Sexual orientation isn't a choice though, is it.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Anyway, back on topic.

OP. Seeing things like that can be upsetting and unkind (especially how it's sometimes written).

I doubt you really want to meet the people that felt that way anyway would you? So see it as a good way of filtering them out so you never have to.

Also, try not to get too upset about it though, there are plenty of people on here that don't have that preference and would love to get to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!

Can you explain it?

Sexual orientation isn't a choice though, is it."
So what? it's still a preference, whether a choice or not. What's your point?

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Not being attracted to someone because of their skin colour is a bit odd but bot racist and of course people have preferences.

Whats weird is having such a specific blanket ban. I mean, i dont get how someone would turn down Anthony Joshua or Bruno Mars etc... the same way I wouldn't turn down Beyonce or Ariana Grande

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic?

Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference?

You're getting dangerously close to claiming that being gay is a choice there buddy. Maybe wind it in with the ignorant comments?"

No, but I am saying what you find attractive is also not a choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. "

I think you always come across really well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I not just say it’s their own preference?

Anyway OP just move on from them, to flip those singles & couples who like black men only, just make sure they like you for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

I prefer them to write things like that as it puts me off them. Saves time chatting.

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By *umstibleMan
over a year ago

Colindale

"To be honest, as a white fella, i love seeing BBC only or 'looking for mix/black only' etc in a profile

It saves me time and energy. I cannot thank these people enough.

To those who do have this preference but don't bother typing it up, please do.

Its not rude at all, a preference is a preference, a fantasy is a fantasy. Respect to everyones desires."

RT can everyone just stop judging everyone. It is possible that people have race fantasies as well as specific exclusion of a race because they don't feel comfortable for example with their own body or body part. It really shouldn't be that deep.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"Not being attracted to someone because of their skin colour is a bit odd but bot racist and of course people have preferences.

Whats weird is having such a specific blanket ban. I mean, i dont get how someone would turn down Anthony Joshua or Bruno Mars etc... the same way I wouldn't turn down Beyonce or Ariana Grande

Ariana Grande. Don't like her music, but

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more

Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.

that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong

Simply a preference... blimey. Such a daft example, yes it's the same as BBC to some extent. Not seeing how that's a positive..."
again we have our opinion on how we perceive what we read on someone's bio and you guys have yours

we understand that some people won't like people writing certain things and that's cool but we don't look that much into things

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

It is a preference I agree, however rather than writing such a blatantly racist statement such as ‘No (insert skin colour here) men/women.’

How about just ignore and block the messages the people from that particular race come from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

Totally baffles me how some people think chucking "BBC" out there somehow proves their point, rather than confirming mine. In my opinion at least! Indeed the more you talk about the imagery of a "BBC" scenario I find it painfully easy to see the explicitly racial overtones to it amazingly quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism."
So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

Why is that so hard to understand?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. "

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.

C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

Oh lord.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here. "

Really I thought it was just anecdotal claptrap, but each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

Oh lord."
My thoughts exactly

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.

C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff."

I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal.

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By *ick270Man
over a year ago

Here

So if i leave a message no milk today, will it upset anyone ?

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Really I thought it was just anecdotal claptrap, but each to their own. "

Isn't that what I'm saying if you're reading between lines. Of course it's claptrap hence the salt and pinches comment

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"So if i leave a message no milk today, will it upset anyone ?"

No, milk is not a protected characteristic under the Equality Act 2010.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.

C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff."

He’s either messing around to get a reaction or he’s being 100% serous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.

C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff.

I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal."
So, that's a lot of people in general, certainly on a sex site, based mainly on preference/attraction. All them people are racist? I don't think so, sorry. Come on man! This is common sense stuff!

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.

A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?

People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.

C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff.

I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal. So, that's a lot of people in general, certainly on a sex site, based mainly on preference/attraction. All them people are racist? I don't think so, sorry. Come on man! This is common sense stuff!"

Have a look at the dictionary definition of racism buddy, you might be surprised.

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By *ll That Ass 67Woman
over a year ago

Kettering

Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ??

It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ...

So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ??

It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ...

So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference...

"
Their point is that to have that preference is racist. However, if they don't want to be with a guy, that is not homophobic. Come on man!

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ...

So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference...

You could go on, but can't be arsed to read the pretty decent discussion we've been having beforehand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm half black but won't meet black guys.

Some people won't meet me cuz I'm disabled. Who cares? People are allowed preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm half black but won't meet black guys.

Some people won't meet me cuz I'm disabled. Who cares? People are allowed preferences. "

Exactly!

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ...

So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference...

No ‘sizist’ and ‘dickist’ are not classed as protected characteristics under the 2010 act. So you’re ok on that one.

Enjoy Netflix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about guys who write "no men, no tv/ts" on their profiles, are they being sexist?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

People will always find something to get upset about....

Whether that is race, or age, tall or short, fat or thin, married or single, bi or straight ect......

Why people waste energy trying to convert those who aren’t interested.... rather than focusing on those who like them.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm half black but won't meet black guys.

Some people won't meet me cuz I'm disabled. Who cares? People are allowed preferences. "

Who cares? Lots of people. What a ridiculous thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ...

So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference...

NOT the same. This sounds reminiscent of the All Lives Matter brigade saying they're victims too because of being bullied for being ginger, having buck teeth or being older.

I cannot face palm hard enough.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? "

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Why don't the Mods put racial preference on the search list. As it's OK to filter out sex, smoking, age etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

I think you always come across really well.

Thanks I appreciate that. I really do try my best in that even if I disagree with them, it's not based on emotion but rather logic and that I can say this with personally attacking the other person.

Hope you have a lovely evening xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with."

Very well said, you can't compare instance being gay/bi and race with someone who is overweight or underweight, one is something you're born with, the other is something you can change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with."

Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Why don't the Mods put racial preference on the search list. As it's OK to filter out sex, smoking, age etc?"

If only you knew how many times that question has been requested. A tick box would do, ' are you open to interracial sex?' Sorted, no need for crap in profiles then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here. "

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with.

Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them. "

We’ve all agreed that, it’s more how it’s put. Remember you have freedom of speech, but you also have responsibilities for what you say.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with.

Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them. "

Yes, but as elsewhere, declaring "preference" should be the *start* of a discussion, not the end. It in itself means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion

How would you like people to express their preferences?

I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude?

Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with."

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some who put "no black guys" on their profiles (like with Asian) may well be racist. For others it's just a preference badly worded. Probably best off saying "preference is for white guys/women" like you'd prefer a blonde, brunette, redhead slim, large. etc

The profiles that really confuse me are the "black only" ones which then follow with "VWE white guys will be considered". That's kinda implying they only shag black guys for the cock and do they then turn down the guy down if he doesn't measure up to the stereotype?

There are a few of these floating around.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Aww guys, this feels so positive... GROUP HUG!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply "

There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply "

Same page.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don't the Mods put racial preference on the search list. As it's OK to filter out sex, smoking, age etc?

If only you knew how many times that question has been requested. A tick box would do, ' are you open to interracial sex?' Sorted, no need for crap in profiles then."

Exactly it makes searching for ppl so much easier. Honestly for black guys it's really tricky at times because of you don't see a profile that says they're into black guys or bbc, you really don't know if you'll be successful or not. And when I say that I don't mean ONLY black guys or bbc, but just if they also are into black guys or bbc.

That's why some black guys post threads to find out if women are into black guys or bbc, because sometimes we honestly don't know when we send a message to a white couple or lady if they'll accept and that if they do reject us if it is because they're not attracted or if it's because they don't have like black guys.

That's why personally I don't mind if a couple or a white lady says on her profile not interested in black guys, because when they have that up there, I block them immediately and like I said the reason is because I don't want to like their photos, contact them accidentally, wink them and waste both of our times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What baffles me is when men of colour will message me asking "are you into black/Asian guys?". Are they expecting me to say yes or no? I'm into the person, not the race; I like to think of myself as an equal opportunities lover

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

We would avoid anyone with this type of statement, BUT at least you know not to waste your time on them. If that's how they feel, how would you want them to express it?

Cal

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist.

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply

There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. "

I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of. "

No, start of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be nice to have enough options to need preferences...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aww guys, this feels so positive... GROUP HUG!

They only way to tackle problems are by having a respectful, open and honest dialogue about it. That's the only way we can make the world a better place, make it fair for those who feel marginalised and leave a better world for the generations to come. Sending a hug right back at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion "

I wouldn’t be offended.. Infact would be useful to know not to waste the time in messaging.. There’s a few sensitive folk here on fab that don’t like rejection..To see a ‘No ...’ would save a lot of egos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply

There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed.

I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv

Thank you brother man, likewise.

I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of. "

No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of.

No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race."

Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of. "

White teeth? Don’t see the correlation but okay.

Being ginger isn’t a race but okay.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of.

No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race.

Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/"

I think a few people on this thread would do well to have a look at the nine protected characteristics and perhaps realise what’s being discussed?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of.

No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race.

Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/

I think a few people on this thread would do well to have a look at the nine protected characteristics and perhaps realise what’s being discussed?"

Yep, you can lead a horse to water...

Keep fighting the good fight. As others have said, it's been great to see.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say get over it snowflake

Hardly racism is it

just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it?

Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black?

Don't like it just move on not your issue is it!

Zzzzzzzz"

We’d make great best friends

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I'm asian I dont find it racist it's a preference I have mine also

It might be a tad insensitive but not racist.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"Yes I have to agree with op , it's very racist cloaked and veiled in a play on words

It's not tactful but it's not racist

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Where I live(se London) every other single womans profile has bbc only/black or mixed only/no white guys or some variation of that. I don't get upset or pissed off I understand that I'm definitely not what they are looking for and move on. Being short and white in South London you have to grow a thick skin

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By *iguy for funMan
over a year ago

CIRENCESTER

"So if i leave a message no milk today, will it upset anyone ?"

the milk delivery person and the cow might be a little disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I'll give you a different perspective here. Coming from a country where Caucasian people are in the minority (I think less than 5 percent tbh) do you not think there are stereotypes about white people as well? There are, I heard a lot of it before I came over here. None of which I will repeat, but I don't live my life on other people's opinions. I kept an open mind, even I didn't know if I would have dated or slept with a white woman when I came across here. But I was always open to interracial dating back in my country and I mean between Indians and Africans.

I never thought about white people like that because I rarely saw them.

But I believe in keeping an open mind and I enjoy all aspects of dating white women across here, especially the sex, but would I have come to enjoy these experiences if I chose to believe what some friends and family said in my home country about white people? No.

Hence the reason you have one life to live, you can live it with experiences that would enlighten you, expand your knowledge on a topic. Or you could choose to live it in ignorance and exclusion.

Whenever I go back home and a topic about interracial dating comes up (regarding white and black ppl) I can add something substantive to the conversation and not just speak about it based on "what I heard" etc. I have male and female friends back home who were upset that I was dating white women and some who are ok with it. To me it doesn't matter what their opinions are, it matters what my experiences are and how it affects me and that's how I try and would urge others to try and make their decisions in the future.

Ol I've rambled for far too long lol.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Where I live(se London) every other single womans profile has bbc only/black or mixed only/no white guys or some variation of that. I don't get upset or pissed off I understand that I'm definitely not what they are looking for and move on. Being short and white in South London you have to grow a thick skin"

It's not exactly the same though when that same attitude is still there after you close your browser and you live your everyday life.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I have seen lots of these types of threads and from time to time I have posted my thoughts on these threads.As far as I am concerned this site is about preference and making fantasy become reality.The one comment I have never forgotten came from a lady who said my pussy is not a equal opportunity employer.In other words I see who I want on my terms.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?"

Who's that question for

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?

Who's that question for "

Not sure it matters!

As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply

There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed.

I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv

Thank you brother man, likewise.

I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions. "

Yup and like I said while I don't think it's racist to have a preference (once it's not for a stereotypical or derogatory reason) I fully understand why the OP would feel the way he felt.

I've been in this country for a little over a year and I've faced a lot of racism, some subtle, some overt. I only spoke about it to my white friends and classmates when there was the George Floyd protests and they were shocked because some of them thought that racism was in the past.

And I'll say to all the white persons who are reading this contribution to this discussion. And I'll put it in all caps

EVERY SINGLE BLACK PERSON HAS EXPERIENCED RACISM IN THIS COUNTRY!!!

And until people understand that, then we can try and start addressing these pproblems.But nothing happens of we stay in our echo chambers and our bubbles and hold on to our prejudices and stereotypes instead of opening in our minds and then our hearts.

Again that is the only way for this entire world and humanity to fulfill it's true potential.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?

Who's that question for

Not sure it matters!

As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons? "

Beacause its rude ok

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?

Who's that question for

Not sure it matters!

As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons?

Beacause its rude ok"

But why?? You can't seriously just leave it at that. There has to be a reason.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said.

Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner.

Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times.

Salt n pinches approach works

well in here.

Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world

A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply

And

B) ppl who listen just to give a reply

There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed.

I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv

Thank you brother man, likewise.

I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions.

Yup and like I said while I don't think it's racist to have a preference (once it's not for a stereotypical or derogatory reason) I fully understand why the OP would feel the way he felt.

And I'll say to all the white persons who are reading this contribution to this discussion. And I'll put it in all caps

EVERY SINGLE BLACK PERSON HAS EXPERIENCED RACISM IN THIS COUNTRY!!!

Again that is the only way for this entire world and humanity to fulfill it's true potential. "

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By *bzcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Honestly a bit confused by this post.

In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too?

In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity.

It’s a personal preference. End of.

White teeth? Don’t see the correlation but okay.

Being ginger isn’t a race but okay."

That is exactly the point!

Ginger isn’t a race. It’s something people are or are not attracted to.

Some people like nice white teeth, some don’t care.

Some people like black guys or girls. Some don’t.

Some people like Asians, or whites or any shape or size.

Just because someone has any of these preferences in a sexual partner, does not make them racist.

Different if they said they don’t want to be friends with a particular race yes. But it is a site for people to meet sexual partners. Attraction is probably the most important thing. Physical attraction is arguably in many cases on here more important than anything else too.

It just seems pretty unfair to call everyone out as a racist for being attracted to various things, especially when the preference has absolutely nothing to do with race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned.

That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. "

There's no clap emoji

Im not caucasian. I find these so called preferences disturbing and hurtful.

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By *adboy00Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Same when it says # No Asian or blk guys.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"It just seems pretty unfair to call everyone out as a racist for being attracted to various things, especially when the preference has absolutely nothing to do with race. "

So many people seem to ignore the difference between a personal preference, when of course everyone has the right to decide who they fuck, and how that choice is broadcast. There's a gulf between the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In conclusion I would just like to add that you all, don't matter the race, your gender, sexuality etc. If you really want to enlighten yourself especially when it comes to issues like race and sexuality, stereotypes and prejudices I would urge you to watch the movie Cloud Atlas (or you can also read the novel) it's my all time favourite

Novel

Movie

And the song (instrumental) is my all time favourite as well. It had a profound effect on me as a human being and while my thinking was already on track with regards to many of its themes watching the movie reminded me why it was important to hold such views.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just gonna leave this lil definition here for some of you..

Racism: the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesnt want to meet a particular sex, gender or race its up to them. I just meet black guys, my choice and I get hell for it. A male friend of mine is white and he only meets Asian ladies. Its his preference! Problem with some of the people on here, 'just be polite'. When I did that and I had a polite profile, I was was inundated with white guys asking for meets who I simply dont want to meet. So I dont see an issue with what is being said, all the more for me.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

How is that any different from when people say "black guys only so if you message and you are white, you will be blocked"

Same thing isn't it?

Its getting straight to the point. Its not racist, its preference to what the individual is looking for

Thats how I see it anyway

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"How is that any different from when people say "black guys only so if you message and you are white, you will be blocked"

Same thing isn't it?

Its getting straight to the point. Its not racist, its preference to what the individual is looking for

Thats how I see it anyway "

No one is saying it's not different at most levels. We are generally still saying it's racist to broadcast that position.

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By *attie_9 OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I didn’t say it was racist , nor did I say you can’t have preferences , be better that that lol , I said EACH TO THEIR OWN

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By *attie_9 OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

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never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn’t say it was racist , nor did I say you can’t have preferences , be better that that lol , I said EACH TO THEIR OWN"

Yup. But I think a lot of ppl draw their own conclusions at time. I may have been guilty of this to some extent as well.

But keep your chin bruv, keep it moving and ignore who and what needs ignoring, stay blessed bruv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something "

It happens all the time, I knew what you meant because I read it & understood what you posted.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ...

Racism works both ways remember

never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something "

Hedge those bets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stating no this, no that, whichever criterion, be it race, height, weight, etc. is tactless. The elegant way is to state what you like. Also, staying what you like means you leave the door open should you change your mind. Win-win.

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By *appy2100Couple
over a year ago

kensington

"Ive seen profiles saying none of pretty much everything.

No black guys

No white guys

No single guys

No skinny guys

No fat guy

No bold guys

No hairy guys

Sounds about right just people having choice.

No w.e guys

No small cock guys

And many more. Its called a preference, and what people are not into. It saves folk wasting time messaging other folk who wont be interested"

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By *appy2100Couple
over a year ago

kensington

Just asking what you want in most cases.

If i dont want peas with my fish thats fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such statements can be useful, lets you know well in advance exactly what sort if people they are.. and i use as a great indicator for blocking

Cant be doing with that shit

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Stating no this, no that, whichever criterion, be it race, height, weight, etc. is tactless. The elegant way is to state what you like. Also, staying what you like means you leave the door open should you change your mind. Win-win."

Personally I think wasting other people’s time is tactless.

Define your parameters, everyone knows where they stand.

Other people’s psychological projects (google is your friend) should not impact on your sexuality.

There problem, not yours.

We are here for fun.

Perhaps others aren’t.

Have a good one.

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