FabSwingers.com forum: Shooting too high..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've noticed that some couples especially set extremely high standards for those they are seeking when they themselves are less than mediocre in looks & specs. Clearly out of sync with what they feel is the high benchmark needed to meet their approval. Perhaps I'm alone in this observation.. but still can't help noticing the peculiarity.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you saying these couples should humble themselves and lower their standards as theyre not all that themselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And? If you think they're less than mediocre, pay them no mind and don't message them.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its a buyers market, if you aren't selling what they want its tough.

No point getting sour grapes over what you may perceive as someone aiming too high. I am sure if they cant find what they want they may settle for “less”. Their body, their call after all.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Maybe your standards are too high OP. Try lowering them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our standards are so high we don't have a hope of meeting them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

People can ask for whatever they like. You're free to say no.

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By *ugarplum71Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Certainly a possibility but a couple of things. People can be picky if they want, everyone’s got the choice. Also maybe it’s what they want? There success may vary but again it’s personal preference. Another thing of note is that people prefer different things, what may be out of “their league” to someone’s opinion may also be what someone else seeks (that may not of made sense) e.g A might be looking for B but C believes A does not even begin to compare with B however B may be looking for A.

Just my opinion, hope you find it insightful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can set there bar wherever they like, it's up to them to pick and choose who they like to meet just like it is for all of us

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.

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By *rmrs1234Couple
over a year ago

Waterford

"less than mediocre in looks and spec"

Wow. just wow.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Fussy sods are we.....cant help it ...

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

No one should be on here to look for crumbs of whatever they can get. People set out looking for what they want, to live out fantasies. You may think these couples are mediocre, others may think they’re great. It’s always nice to be nice about people, it’s much more attractive.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"Are you saying these couples should humble themselves and lower their standards as theyre not all that themselves? "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you saying these couples should humble themselves and lower their standards as theyre not all that themselves?

Exactly this

exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you saying these couples should humble themselves and lower their standards as theyre not all that themselves?

Exactly this

exactly"

Standards and sexual preferences are two different things.

What's to say it's not the latter?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.

This exactly! Quality over quantity any time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, if I am mediocre I can't fancy a gorgeous woman? I'm shocked..

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Remember that's just your opinion OP. One person's mediocre is another person's dreamboat.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

This attitude is prevalent on fab and elsewhere in society, the idea that people should stick to those that are like them in terms of physical appearance. It's often expressed in the form of the "out of my league" threads.

I try not to over think it, that way lies madness but surely to goodness we can all dream.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Remember that's just your opinion OP. One person's mediocre is another person's dreamboat. "

Very wise.

Oh and 'hey weirdo' x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.

Same x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get "

In what way put of your league? Because of how they look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop thinking about leagues it's a puzzle, some pieces fit together some don't. People's descriptions of what they are seeking, though apparently detailed, can't describe everything. If you fit the basics ie height, age, location, then don't rule yourself out they'll do that for you. Hence people asking for face pics in first messages, you don't know what their "must be good looking" is.

Good luck

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

How dare anyone have preferences or standards!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.

This totally

People can ask for whatever they want on here, we come here to satisfy ourselves too

Why just settle

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By *ifes a peachCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

My wife is really picky but I'd rather her be than just sleep with anyone and everyone ,no point doing stuff with someone that your not interested in is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get

In what way put of your league? Be

cause of how they look? "

Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get

In what way put of your league? Be

cause of how they look?

Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive "

No, I agree I wouldn't meet someone I considered unattractive. I just wonder why so many people think they aren't worthy of meeting attractive people. It's a bit like choosing a rich tea instead of a chocolate digestive because the chocolate one looks too good for you.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Funny thread is funny

As I’ve said a few times, I, Chris, first chatted up Julia over the inter web by saying “I see your expectations are pretty low.... I’m sure I can meet them”

She was so confused by that we’ve been together ever since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed that some couples especially set extremely high standards for those they are seeking when they themselves are less than mediocre in looks & specs. Clearly out of sync with what they feel is the high benchmark needed to meet their approval. Perhaps I'm alone in this observation.. but still can't help noticing the peculiarity."

Are you feeling a little put out by this perceived disparity OP?

I can only speak for ourselves but it's like this. We have each other and we're more than happy to hold out for those that

a) fit what we're looking for

b) we fit what they're looking for

We want to find attractive anyone we share our sex life and we want them to find us equally attractive.

So OP, I'd suggest that if there are people you find "less than mediocre in looks and spec" then you're not going to want to meet those people are you?Ergo why worry yourself about what they're looking for to fulfil their fantasies?

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I’m still giggling about the “spec” word.

Like couples are to be viewed like cars on a forecourt. Kick the tyres lol. Nah, it’s got no rear air on on that one mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get

In what way put of your league? Be

cause of how they look?

Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive

But attraction has to work for both parties....I know my limits and thats not putting myself down

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Some things never change.

In all the years I've been on Fab there's been 'demanding' couples outrageously wanting certain criteria to be met by those they're looking to meet and 'confused' single men wondering how they can possibly be that way.

Almost as if single people themselves can't have preferences, tastes and wants too.

Some things never change. And never will.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get

In what way put of your league? Be

cause of how they look?

Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive

But attraction has to work for both parties....I know my limits and thats not putting myself down"

but how do you know someone else's mind and what they're attracted to just by looking at them?

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If someone is here with specific types in mind, and you don’t fit then bill tough move on

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

You say it's "setting the bar to high" others will say they are sticking to there preferences

if they are how you say "mediocre" themselves then it's only them that my lose out by doing so. I don't really see any issue with people being attracted to a certain type of person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hardly think it's a case of excessive standards. Our (only) real requirement, as a couple is we both have to be attracted to someone. Not just one of us. Not just physically but mentally. We arent gonna (take a hit for the team.) And if that was the case we would rather never meet anyone than just fuck someone for the sake of it. I'm sure that is probably the attitude of the less than perfect, like us, other couples you've commented on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this site is for people to indulge in fantasys so they should be able to set the bar as high as they want

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

It's a site for sexual indulgence and exploration I think.... If you're gonna have fun surely you can't have critism for being picky about who you do it with?

You have to be a super hot, funny, well spoken, nicely geoomed, hung guy on here to dictate what women/couple want lol

Think Brad Pitt- I assume he's hung

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