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Out of my league.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

No. If people want to decide they are out of our league that’s up to them and nothing we can do about it, but there’s no point undermining yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??"

From what I can see so far on your profile pictures you really shouldn’t have a problem meeting females / couples you Look like a good looking fella Don’t ever think anyone is out of your (so called “league” ), obviously I can’t comment on personality good luck on meeting once Covid is over

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think anybody is out of my league. That would be very insulting to the people we've enjoyed meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual chemistry is far more important to me than looks.

I don't believe in leagues.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??"

Yeah, doesn't help when you're constantly being reminded that you probably wouldn't get a second look in real life. But I wouldn't let it hold you back (provided you read profiles and treat women you're messaging with respect), you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

The human race is a funny breed we have our own ideals not everyone will like everyone that’s fact but then talking is a very powerful thing looking attractive is only half the job being able to actually string a sentace together is another there are many guys n glad who struggle and if your able you you will usually pick up why they are as they are quite quickly sometimes it’s not always the attractive ones who are the best to talk to you have the girls you want to bed and the girls you want to take home to mother always be positive and you never know who you will chat to next as they might be the one you click with...

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??"

What I notice about people with insecurities like this they often pass it off as realism. It’s not though, realism is you can achieve most things if you want them enough , but you’ll only ever know that through experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The human race is a funny breed we have our own ideals not everyone will like everyone that’s fact but then talking is a very powerful thing looking attractive is only half the job being able to actually string a sentace together is another there are many guys n glad who struggle and if your able you you will usually pick up why they are as they are quite quickly sometimes it’s not always the attractive ones who are the best to talk to you have the girls you want to bed and the girls you want to take home to mother always be positive and you never know who you will chat to next as they might be the one you click with..."

"the girls you want to bed and the girls you want to take home to mother" hate this attitude... Excluding them already being in a relationship/not wanting one, why would you not be able to take a girl you'd bed home to your mother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the opposite issue, can't find any in my elivated league of self delusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve largely given up doing the chasing on here unless someone shows a clear interest in me.

This next bit may offend, but it is true

The sheer amount of men on here not only makes it hard to get your message noticed and read, but also has given certain females and couples a definite sense of entitlement they’d not get outside of this ‘scene’ people refer to on here. This is fair enough, though. If anyone had choices they’d not usually get, you’d take full advantage, so enjoy it. Before Covid I could meet women far easier in bars and nightclubs than on here. On here, you’re both more clear of your intentions

On odd occasions I’ve made trips to clubs, I’ve met people who’ve knocked me back and felt I’ve had a lucky escape. Especially when one couple didn’t recognise me, came to talk to me and took immediate offence when I refused to go to a room with them. I wasn’t doing it out of spite. Just didn’t fancy her

The amount of mail not getting read is just a coincidence of the male:female ratio, but if you’re doing the choosing, prepare to be knocked back or ignored a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's not a thing wrong far as I can see

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"The human race is a funny breed we have our own ideals not everyone will like everyone that’s fact but then talking is a very powerful thing looking attractive is only half the job being able to actually string a sentace together is another there are many guys n glad who struggle and if your able you you will usually pick up why they are as they are quite quickly sometimes it’s not always the attractive ones who are the best to talk to you have the girls you want to bed and the girls you want to take home to mother always be positive and you never know who you will chat to next as they might be the one you click with..."

so you'd never have sex with a woman you've introduced to your mother?

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By *irm hand LukeMan
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

So many factors involved here. Choice. Annoyance with single guys. Can be difficult sometimes no matter how pleasant you are but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think a lot of people on fab were out of my league but hey lifes to short now if i come accross a profile i like a send a polite message and see what happens sometimes yeah they are way out of my league and on the odd occassion it is defo worth sending that message

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

No we are all just as good as anyone else on here we are what we are cant change that x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everybody is in my league, even if either side decides not to meet.

If you recognise a chronic insecurity, it makes sense to overcome it. Nobody deserves this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever messaged anyone first but I will say when somone sends me a first message all cocky and like they know its a sure thing just because they think there hot then I don't reply... I don't really believe in the concept of leuges to be fair, I once declined a meed with a guy on here and he was like are you serious have you see the state of some of your veries and you turn me down.... Like yeah they are all great guys who i was drawn to for a verity of reasons and your a tool. You never know what somome els is looking for so limiting your chances of finding what your looking for on the basis of guessing another person's response seems daft, gotta be in it to win it lol

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have felt like thisin the past, if someone messages me and their previous meets are the total opposite to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??"

Just stick to us ugly people.

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By *attM73Man
over a year ago

Oldham


"I've been on fabs on and off for many years and I've seen some absolutely stunning women/couples on here. But because of maybe my own insecurities or maybe just me being a realist I never chased them. I still think if I get a message or attention from a fem or a couple! Considering all the guys on here! I feel I'm extremely lucky!! Anyways im just wondering if others feel the same about people being out of their league??"
I feel the same especially on Fab and with a certain lady I know as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody not fancy taking their chance on somebody out of their league, get in touch. I'm probably the most average guy on fab... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no such thing as leagues it's the limits you put on yourself it's not all about physical attraction I've had some of the best sex with people that wasn't my typical type

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"There's no such thing as leagues it's the limits you put on yourself it's not all about physical attraction I've had some of the best sex with people that wasn't my typical type "

this!!

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

I like to think we are all in the same league

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's no such thing as leagues it's the limits you put on yourself it's not all about physical attraction I've had some of the best sex with people that wasn't my typical type "

It’s true. It’s why I don’t have a type. Maybe a few things grab my attention more than others, but definitely don’t have a type

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By *ylonlickMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I struggle to match and even get a message.

I think maybe it’s me and what I’m looking for, but Personally I don’t think I’m too different to what most men want.

I won’t give up and will keep trying and messaging and hopefully have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 6 feet 1 inch, dreadlocs that fall on my back, full lips, dimples, a nice beard, muscular on a chocolate coated skin.

So I don't think anyone is out of my league, I do think ppl have their preferences and that is to be respected. However always be positive because women respond to that and also try to change up your looks ever so often.

Hope I helped OP take care.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

If people think they are out of my league, let the get on with it, we are here for fun not attitude.

I’m sorry, we like real people, not fascia.

Saying that, it does help having a gorgeous wife, who is so well out of most peoples leagues on here!!!

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