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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This may make me sound very naive, but at what point do you cross over from being one to the other.... (Perky)

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

as i see it its when you look for another 1-2-1 bi meeting rather than in a 4some play

stands back ready to be shot down

( shields guy)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may make me sound very naive, but at what point do you cross over from being one to the other.... (Perky) "

as soon as your curiosity about it has gone, once you know what its like, well you're not curious anymore.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral


"This may make me sound very naive, but at what point do you cross over from being one to the other.... (Perky) "

I would say if you've been thinking of playing with the same sex, and the situtaion is right and you do then that is bi curious.

If you go back to play with the same sex on a seperate occasion, especially on a different night, then your no longer bi curious, and definately if you go back for thirds...lol

After that, it's simply a case of exploring and adding experiences to your bi side

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

when you try, like it and want to do it again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble with the bi tag is, I love sex with women, but happy to play in a bi situation in a MMF.

I don't want to have sex with just a man on his own.

But the labels are limited.

I want to see, bi social or biplay or similar, to indicated that happy to do some bi play on a meet, but not looking of sex with only a man...

I'm sure most women don't want to just meet women for sex, they want their man to have some fun too...Even though they have bisexual down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This may make me sound very naive, but at what point do you cross over from being one to the other.... (Perky) "

Beats me. I registered as bi-curious on our profile because I'd thought about giving a bloke a bj for years (partly because I always wondered why some women didnt like cum in their mouths) but hadnt done anything about it. Now I've given a few bj's and more Spit tells me I'm talking crap and am Bi. But I don't fancy blokes nor would ever kiss one. Yuk (no offence intended). It just seems rude and a wasted opportunity not to play with both parties when its a MMF situation. Oh, and I don't care if that puts anyone off as we only meet Bi guys on here anyway. And so many "straight" guys message us saying they're actually bi but dont put if on their profiles that all those who "dont meet bi's" are living in a dream world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question

For me it was after a few years swining with Ex realising that being in close company of other men cock and stuff didnt bother me- to letting a few men touch whilst in a moresome session then aknowleding to myself that - you know what i actually enjoyed that -

Not one specific moment jst gradule

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

same for me dont fancy guys but like playing in a bi mmf or a bi mmff where all are bi would not kiss a guy but anything else yes in a mmff or mmf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"same for me dont fancy guys but like playing in a bi mmf or a bi mmff where all are bi would not kiss a guy but anything else yes in a mmff or mmf"

One for us Bi men - thanks for honesty

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"when you try, like it and want to do it again..."

Thank you View - that's what I've been TRYING to tell her!!!!! Women!!!!!!

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you have tried it and want to do it again. For me I would certainly not do A 1 to 1 with a guy but would possibly with a convincing T girl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone, before i joined 8 weeks ago it was just a fantasy to touch and kiss another woman, that's why Pork told me to put Bi-Curious on the profile and just go with the flow and let it happen. I have had the pleasure of having 3 lovely ladies plus another twice on my bed or where ever lol. Each time it gets better and better, although i am not sure if i will go down the road of using strap on's etc, but never say never is this game !! Pork has always said that NO ONE knows a woman's body like another woman !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never really liked the bicurious label, though the boyf used the term when he first realised he might like guys.

Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

I have always prefered the word 'questioning' as in "I am currently questioning my sexuality".

However, it seem that the bi and bicurious labels have rather different meanings in the swinging community. No really they do.

Both myself and my partner are part of bi support forums. Mine is exclusively for women, and his exclusively for men. They are brother/sister forums and I have been part of my one for over seven years. We also have LGBT friends in real life. Never and I mean never, has either one of us come across guys that won't kiss other guys and say they don't fancy men at all but they would suck a cock in 'play'. Just baffles us to be honest.

In many ways, whilst it baffles us, you can see the point of _iew of 'why-not'everyone-play' which many swinging couples like to adopt. We respect that. But the label is not even bicurious then...it's somewhere along the level of open-minded.

A definition of bisexuality is someone who is attracted to both genders. The curious part of that is simply that you think you might be attracted to both genders. Surely if you enjoy play with the same gender but do not find the same gender attractive, then really you are neither bi or curious about being bi?

Sorry for adding my more militantly bi proud POV, and I hope no-one is offended by what I'm saying. I am just intrigued by the various shades of grey this subject can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was never curious...I knew I was bisexual from an early age even before I had any experience...but I am bi SEXUAL in the main-it's a purely sexual thing for me-my relationships have always been and will continue to be with men although I have become close to some of my female lovers and we are still great friends.

I have to agree with Starra above in thatt the terms seem to be used very differently in swinging terms than any other community I have been part of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious. "

How strange???? We were only saying that with our friends Donut and Yum-Yum on Saturday night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

How strange???? We were only saying that with our friends Donut and Yum-Yum on Saturday night! "

I know of at least two people on here who are just that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

How strange???? We were only saying that with our friends Donut and Yum-Yum on Saturday night!

I know of at least two people on here who are just that "

My point here is that when we humans hit sexual maturity, there is no worry or concern about the opposing gender, thus no curiousity about being straight. It is assumed we are straight unless we hit a 'curious about same sex' stage.

This is a long used argument by LGBT people with regards to the need to come out and about acceptance. The idea that one is assumed straight and that a straight person has no need to 'come out' as such or announce their curiousity about the opposide sex.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have never really liked the bicurious label, though the boyf used the term when he first realised he might like guys.

Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

I have always prefered the word 'questioning' as in "I am currently questioning my sexuality".

However, it seem that the bi and bicurious labels have rather different meanings in the swinging community. No really they do.

Both myself and my partner are part of bi support forums. Mine is exclusively for women, and his exclusively for men. They are brother/sister forums and I have been part of my one for over seven years. We also have LGBT friends in real life. Never and I mean never, has either one of us come across guys that won't kiss other guys and say they don't fancy men at all but they would suck a cock in 'play'. Just baffles us to be honest.

In many ways, whilst it baffles us, you can see the point of _iew of 'why-not'everyone-play' which many swinging couples like to adopt. We respect that. But the label is not even bicurious then...it's somewhere along the level of open-minded.

A definition of bisexuality is someone who is attracted to both genders. The curious part of that is simply that you think you might be attracted to both genders. Surely if you enjoy play with the same gender but do not find the same gender attractive, then really you are neither bi or curious about being bi?

Sorry for adding my more militantly bi proud POV, and I hope no-one is offended by what I'm saying. I am just intrigued by the various shades of grey this subject can offer."

Well said.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

How strange???? We were only saying that with our friends Donut and Yum-Yum on Saturday night!

I know of at least two people on here who are just that

My point here is that when we humans hit sexual maturity, there is no worry or concern about the opposing gender, thus no curiousity about being straight. It is assumed we are straight unless we hit a 'curious about same sex' stage.

This is a long used argument by LGBT people with regards to the need to come out and about acceptance. The idea that one is assumed straight and that a straight person has no need to 'come out' as such or announce their curiousity about the opposide sex."

I was being far more simplistic.

In this case, I was referring to 2 guys who have for years identified themselves as gay, but now have curiosity about sleeping with women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed my profile after my first bi experience....I certainly wasn't curious anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wasn't until we came across all this prejudice from straight people that we even thought about being bi. All this in depth probing, hand wringing and angst. We just get on with it. The only time I had a slight wobble was when my mother found out. Although bis have a MUCH harder time than gays. Mostly because people just cannot handle it and want to give you a label or put you in a box. Or think you are so rampant you will jump on them or their partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

How strange???? We were only saying that with our friends Donut and Yum-Yum on Saturday night!

I know of at least two people on here who are just that

My point here is that when we humans hit sexual maturity, there is no worry or concern about the opposing gender, thus no curiousity about being straight. It is assumed we are straight unless we hit a 'curious about same sex' stage.

This is a long used argument by LGBT people with regards to the need to come out and about acceptance. The idea that one is assumed straight and that a straight person has no need to 'come out' as such or announce their curiousity about the opposide sex.

I was being far more simplistic.

In this case, I was referring to 2 guys who have for years identified themselves as gay, but now have curiosity about sleeping with women."

Yes I thought you might have been. We've come across those people too. I think this has always been around as people are sometimes too quick to jump to the 'I'm gay' idea then later ponder if they like both genders.

This is not so much a case of straight curious as questioning their sexuality (or the dreaded *shudder* bicuriousity).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never really liked the bicurious label, though the boyf used the term when he first realised he might like guys.

Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

I have always prefered the word 'questioning' as in "I am currently questioning my sexuality".

However, it seem that the bi and bicurious labels have rather different meanings in the swinging community. No really they do.

Both myself and my partner are part of bi support forums. Mine is exclusively for women, and his exclusively for men. They are brother/sister forums and I have been part of my one for over seven years. We also have LGBT friends in real life. Never and I mean never, has either one of us come across guys that won't kiss other guys and say they don't fancy men at all but they would suck a cock in 'play'. Just baffles us to be honest.

In many ways, whilst it baffles us, you can see the point of _iew of 'why-not'everyone-play' which many swinging couples like to adopt. We respect that. But the label is not even bicurious then...it's somewhere along the level of open-minded.

A definition of bisexuality is someone who is attracted to both genders. The curious part of that is simply that you think you might be attracted to both genders. Surely if you enjoy play with the same gender but do not find the same gender attractive, then really you are neither bi or curious about being bi?

Sorry for adding my more militantly bi proud POV, and I hope no-one is offended by what I'm saying. I am just intrigued by the various shades of grey this subject can offer.

Well said..... "

Thanks

I should add that I have volunteered at a local LGBT support group and have training in assisting confused people (usually teenagers) in accepting their sexuality. I specialised in bisexuality, given that I am bi myself and though I don't do the volunteer work anymore, I took a lot from what I did there.

Sexuality is not cut and dried. People evolve, sometimes change, but mostly (and often regardless of sexual orientation) move in fluid 'waves' across all spectrums of sexual preference.

Until society accepts that we are sexual beings capable of being attracted to one another regardless of our official 'labelled sexual orientation' and that we are often more than happy to experiment, well then we are simply put into these little boxes that are pre-determined.

Bisexuals and pansexuals are moving forward now, pushing our way into the limelight in the hopes that sexuality is not seen in such a black and white way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find bi sex a 'pain in the arse'

lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It wasn't until we came across all this prejudice from straight people that we even thought about being bi. All this in depth probing, hand wringing and angst. We just get on with it. The only time I had a slight wobble was when my mother found out. Although bis have a MUCH harder time than gays. Mostly because people just cannot handle it and want to give you a label or put you in a box. Or think you are so rampant you will jump on them or their partner."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never really liked the bicurious label, though the boyf used the term when he first realised he might like guys.

Thing is, no-one is ever considered straight-curious.

I have always prefered the word 'questioning' as in "I am currently questioning my sexuality".

However, it seem that the bi and bicurious labels have rather different meanings in the swinging community. No really they do.

Both myself and my partner are part of bi support forums. Mine is exclusively for women, and his exclusively for men. They are brother/sister forums and I have been part of my one for over seven years. We also have LGBT friends in real life. Never and I mean never, has either one of us come across guys that won't kiss other guys and say they don't fancy men at all but they would suck a cock in 'play'. Just baffles us to be honest.

In many ways, whilst it baffles us, you can see the point of _iew of 'why-not'everyone-play' which many swinging couples like to adopt. We respect that. But the label is not even bicurious then...it's somewhere along the level of open-minded.

A definition of bisexuality is someone who is attracted to both genders. The curious part of that is simply that you think you might be attracted to both genders. Surely if you enjoy play with the same gender but do not find the same gender attractive, then really you are neither bi or curious about being bi?

Sorry for adding my more militantly bi proud POV, and I hope no-one is offended by what I'm saying. I am just intrigued by the various shades of grey this subject can offer.

Well said.....

Thanks

I should add that I have volunteered at a local LGBT support group and have training in assisting confused people (usually teenagers) in accepting their sexuality. I specialised in bisexuality, given that I am bi myself and though I don't do the volunteer work anymore, I took a lot from what I did there.

Sexuality is not cut and dried. People evolve, sometimes change, but mostly (and often regardless of sexual orientation) move in fluid 'waves' across all spectrums of sexual preference.

Until society accepts that we are sexual beings capable of being attracted to one another regardless of our official 'labelled sexual orientation' and that we are often more than happy to experiment, well then we are simply put into these little boxes that are pre-determined.

Bisexuals and pansexuals are moving forward now, pushing our way into the limelight in the hopes that sexuality is not seen in such a black and white way."

I totally agree with all that. I was rejected by both my gay mates and my straight mates when I 'came out' as bi. So off I went back in the closet.

Now I realise that it is indeed a spectrum, with many degrees along the way from totally straight to totally gay.

I was at Pride and realised that even in the LGBT community there are tons of different groups of sexuality/ gender etc.

As long as the person is happy ..... Then I think that is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there will be plenty that will disagree with me, but to me bisexual means you would have a relationship with either sex. I don't think I would ever have a relationship with a woman, so I don't see myself as bisexual...bicurious is probably not the best term to use either, but as biplayful isn't an option on here it's the closest I can find! I do agree about there being a spectrum of sexuality, but having a separate category for each persons interpretation of their own sexuality would just complicate issues way too much on here...you can always clarify your position on your profile (should anyone bother to read it!) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally don't like labels or labelling myself as anyone other than someone who likes a good time and goes with the flow, we are all So different and I think it's best to try most things at least once if it's a) legal and b) consensual xx

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over a year ago


"This may make me sound very naive, but at what point do you cross over from being one to the other.... (Perky)

Beats me. I registered as bi-curious on our profile because I'd thought about giving a bloke a bj for years (partly because I always wondered why some women didnt like cum in their mouths) but hadnt done anything about it. Now I've given a few bj's and more Spit tells me I'm talking crap and am Bi. But I don't fancy blokes nor would ever kiss one. Yuk (no offence intended). It just seems rude and a wasted opportunity not to play with both parties when its a MMF situation. Oh, and I don't care if that puts anyone off as we only meet Bi guys on here anyway. And so many "straight" guys message us saying they're actually bi but dont put if on their profiles that all those who "dont meet bi's" are living in a dream world."

What a great post. I too, don't fancy men & would never want a one-on-one, kiss or anal either way but very curious at this moment in time about oral.

We too get more messages off 'straight guys' than we do bi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not bi curious, I've played with a few ladies to know im no longer curious about what it involves but wouldn't say im bi sexual either, even tho i really enjoy it!

I would never seek a lady for a relationship, or go out and think 'ooh she's sexy'. With my 'girl-friends' i will say "oh you look gorgeous in that dress" or "she's pretty" but never in a sexual way.

I class myself as bi-playful, if the situation arises and there's a connection im more than happy to play xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was bi-curious before I had my first experience after that I turned fully bi cos I loved the experience, I do fancy women and I love playing with women I'm not curious anymore I know! X

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