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veri's... do they put you off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont bother me, its a swingers site so i dont expect people on here to have only met one or two people

I have no intentions of settling down, finding a fuck buddie etc so i will carry on meeting who i choose, if others find that off putting so be it, we probably would get on anyway as our minds and way of thinking would be to different, im after people for open fun not men who think that i should only meet a couple of people

There are loads of people on here who only show one or two verification or hide them but you'd be happy to meet them when they could ahve shagged more men than me? go figure

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

it proves they are genuine ,

unlike some on here

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

It doesn't bother me one bit half the peeps you meet don't leave them anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?"

just wondering what particularly makes it off putting to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?"

We agree. Just a general comment about turning up on time, clean and friendly etc does us. We only write a general veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me one bit half the peeps you meet don't leave them anyway! "

good job if everyone i had met had verified me id need a second profile to hold them all lol

Saying not everyone i have met have been play mates, i know a lot of people on here from clubs, parties etc and never played with them but they have still verified me and i have them like wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!"

how do you know that someone who only shows two verifications only has two verification?

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I agree with NN, its a swinging site so what do people expect?

Verifications can be used for whatever reason as far as im concerned, they help me make an informed choice about meeting that person.

And as long as condoms are used, where's the problem?

And one last thing - do people get certified in swinging clubs???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don't like reading about others sexual experiences. Id rather make up my own mind on their skills. Just cause someone thinks they are best sex ever doesn't mean I will. And guys that brag about there veris put me right off.

We are happy to meet those that have no veris as we always take time to chat and get to know people before we meet so have always ed out the fakes way before we meet so veris don't really mean anything to us.

Just our oppinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!

how do you know that someone who only shows two verifications only has two verification?"
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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

....certified?? FFS, I meant verfied!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing with them is, it's one person's opinion and while they may think they were the 'hottest' fittest' 'best sex' or whatever.....it doesnt mean everyone else will. I'm also not keen on the graphic ones, see no need but it's up to the individual I spose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the lady who has verified you has had 5 meets in 6 weeks, on average thats 20 times more meets than me for the amount of years ive been here, so did she meet you cause shes not picky

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am more likely to meet someone based on their profile and messages to me. However, it is nice to see some veris to prove they aren't fake. On the other hand it doesn't mean they are reliable, as both the no-shows I've had since joining this site were verified.

As for the type and length, if you read my veris and don't like them, then don't meet me! Very simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no i am just jealous when i see people with lots of verifications because they have been getting more than me.

i can tell if i think a man is my type, by reading the verifications he has left for other people though.

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I am more likely to meet someone based on their profile and messages to me. However, it is nice to see some veris to prove they aren't fake. On the other hand it doesn't mean they are reliable, as both the no-shows I've had since joining this site were verified.

As for the type and length, if you read my veris and don't like them, then don't meet me! Very simple."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the number, how recent, webcam or in person, what they say (and what they DON'T say!) etc etc etc etc.

Each has to be taken on it's own merits. Just because someone has a long list, doesn't make them a swinging 'tart'! If they have a short list, doesn't mean no one wants to meet them either. You just have to learn how to take what you want to find out from them (which ain't too much in our case) and use that info as part of your overall impression of that person/couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think its just a question of personal taste I preffer to know the basics.. There nice, friendly and not crazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am more likely to meet someone based on their profile and messages to me. However, it is nice to see some veris to prove they aren't fake. On the other hand it doesn't mean they are reliable, as both the no-shows I've had since joining this site were verified.

As for the type and length, if you read my veris and don't like them, then don't meet me! Very simple."

i agree

verifications dont hold much weight with me, i too have had a no show from a verified person, i like to talk to them and get to know them a bit for myself

But having a long verification list does not put me off, you never know how many people really have anyway, anyone can hide the ones they dont want to show and only let you see what they want you to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol, we must meet the wrong peeps lol, as we still have not got a veri, gutting, and we have met some really nice peeps toooo, perhaps we need to ask em the next time after a meet, sort of re_iew us lol

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon


"Also the lady who has verified you has had 5 meets in 6 weeks, on average thats 20 times more meets than me for the amount of years ive been here, so did she meet you cause shes not picky "

Love it !!.... you might have twenty veris and turned down five hundred..Picky ?..probably ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think its just a question of personal taste I preffer to know the basics.. There nice, friendly and not crazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really bothered by veries, prefer to make our own minds up,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just for the record the veri I have is from a girl I know fairly well and I trust .. I even brought her to this site..

People with veri's stating "how good her pussy felt" or "she gave the best blow job ever" seem abit sad to me lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"People with veri's stating "how good her pussy felt" or "she gave the best blow job ever" seem abit sad to me lol "

To be fair, the woman would have no control over what is written, and if she had a good time is likely to display it. I know some people don't like them too detailed but I don't mind, as long as the veri doesn't say something like 'didn't mind me wearing clown shoes in bed' or 'enjoyed my chainsaw collection'.

This is a site for sexual people, therefore veris are going to get sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just for the record the veri I have is from a girl I know fairly well and I trust .. I even brought her to this site..

People with veri's stating "how good her pussy felt" or "she gave the best blow job ever" seem abit sad to me lol "

heres an idea.....dont meet them then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me verifications are a load of shite, you can hide them so you can make it look like youve had less, or just webcammed etc.

I arranged a meet with a man with verifications and he was a no show. So maybe he is genuine but still a time waster. He never called to cancel.

Also Ive had a guy contact my verifications to say I was his!!!!

So now I just hide any verifications I have and take any verifications on here with a pinch of salt.

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Well ive left a couple of veri's on here just to show im genuine really,there doesnt seem much sense in putting everyone down,but why not if you want too.

Personally not bothered to much

Oh I sometimes check out my other halfs ones to see how naughty her latest meets have been lol

Keep saying it but if you met in a night club would you check how many times they had met people before taking them home ???

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?"

EXACTLY!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"....certified?? FFS, I meant verfied!!! "

I don't think that was a mistake at all

In fact I think that there is some need for that too on here...im putting a request into admin

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Im a little dissapointed with the question really .

I thought it would be are woman ok with guys having lots of veri's

Or do woman prefer to see just a few?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?"

It's likely to put me off a few of the people who wrote them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!"

We have more than one or two verifications ....most are social ones ...we are very picky so that blows that concept out of the water

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

yeah sometimes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a little dissapointed with the question really .

I thought it would be are woman ok with guys having lots of veri's

Or do woman prefer to see just a few? "

Couldn't give a flying hoot how many veri's are showing ...it's the content and who by that may have me making a judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think graphic verifications can be a bit off putting. Just cos someone rated them as the 'best shag' doesnt meant that the next perosn will. And do i really need to know that they did it in all rooms and made them gush so much they had a swimming pool in the living room?

General verifications always make you want to know a little more about the person. If there is nothing left to the imagination, why bother meeting them. If the parcel has already been unwrapped, whats the point in trying to unwrap it again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think graphic verifications can be a bit off putting. Just cos someone rated them as the 'best shag' doesnt meant that the next perosn will. And do i really need to know that they did it in all rooms and made them gush so much they had a swimming pool in the living room?"

That's what I'm talking about

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think a lot of us don't use verifications as an aide to help us evaluate what's gonna be happening when we meet, rather that it helps to pinpoint how reliable or established others may be.

Profiles come and go, some users last minutes - you'll even see it from forum posts, where they post for a meet, and they've left the site before you've read it almost.

Having verifications on Fab can be a pain for those that don't yet have them, as some of us don't meet unverified users. That said, it can become an incentive to invest effort to meet other users, such as at socials, so that they don't remain newbies etc. I'd much rather we have them on Fab than not, as they have helped me when selecting who to meet/know etc.

I don't think there are many of us who use them as a badge of honour, like bed notches etc, as most of us likely prefer quality over quantity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm gonna base anything on judging others(not in a sneeristic fashion)...I'll do that when I meet them in person.Although I have seen some corkers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also some peeps write fabricated verifications anyway so it doesnt always tell you what you need to know.

A guy off here met a girl I know and said "we could have chatted all night, beautiful lady and so articulate"

Funny that as whenever I speak to her she struggles to put a sentence together in anything but slang and bad grammer

Also I had to remove a verification someone left for me as it had absolutely no resemblence to what actually happened I think he got his meets mixed up!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I personally don't like reading about others sexual experiences. Id rather make up my own mind on their skills. Just cause someone thinks they are best sex ever doesn't mean I will. And guys that brag about there veris put me right off.

We are happy to meet those that have no veris as we always take time to chat and get to know people before we meet so have always ed out the fakes way before we meet so veris don't really mean anything to us.

Just our oppinion x"

An opinion I share with you 100%!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give a monkey's what people think about my veri's, all this snobbery about people having too many or graphic details is getting beyond belief.

Just to remind you all this is a swingers site and gosh shock horror people are having sex, yes that's right SEX!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

All this verifications mean nothing, yet the ones without verifications are treated like lepers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All this verifications mean nothing, yet the ones without verifications are treated like lepers "

Not everyone treats verification free site users like lepers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw a gals profile, she had one veri! It was a 'meet in person' yet it said "cant wait to meet this horny gal, roll on next wk"! Haha, i was a wee bit confused, i thought you put the veri up AFTER a meet,

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"All this verifications mean nothing, yet the ones without verifications are treated like lepers

Not everyone treats verification free site users like lepers"
Not everyone but most do!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I saw a gals profile, she had one veri! It was a 'meet in person' yet it said "cant wait to meet this horny gal, roll on next wk"! Haha, i was a wee bit confused, i thought you put the veri up AFTER a meet, "

Perhaps he peaked too early?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give a monkey's what people think about my veri's, all this snobbery about people having too many or graphic details is getting beyond belief.

Just to remind you all this is a swingers site and gosh shock horror people are having sex, yes that's right SEX! "

Same here, just cos I rammed my hard throbbing cock down her waiting gullet as i fingered her wet snatch doesnt mean I'm not a nice person and respectful to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polo did a brilliant Thread on 'alternative meanings' of Verifications. Very funny and very clever.

Personally I don't like graphic verifications as I don't think it is needed. All a verification should show is that people were genuine. Period! But hey whatever....

I make my own mind up after nattering with people (mainly) in the Chatrooms and very occasionally through a message before phone calls etc...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Well ive left a couple of veri's on here just to show im genuine really,there doesnt seem much sense in putting everyone down,but why not if you want too.

Personally not bothered to much

Oh I sometimes check out my other halfs ones to see how naughty her latest meets have been lol

Keep saying it but if you met in a night club would you check how many times they had met people before taking them home ???"

Have never and would never pick a man up in a nightclub and bring him back to my home!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!

how do you know that someone who only shows two verifications only has two verification?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I saw a gals profile, she had one veri! It was a 'meet in person' yet it said "cant wait to meet this horny gal, roll on next wk"! Haha, i was a wee bit confused, i thought you put the veri up AFTER a meet,

Perhaps he peaked too early? "

lol, thats true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give a monkey's what people think about my veri's, all this snobbery about people having too many or graphic details is getting beyond belief.

Just to remind you all this is a swingers site and gosh shock horror people are having sex, yes that's right SEX!

Same here, just cos I rammed my hard throbbing cock down her waiting gullet as i fingered her wet snatch doesnt mean I'm not a nice person and respectful to others"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't give a monkey's what people think about my veri's, all this snobbery about people having too many or graphic details is getting beyond belief.

Just to remind you all this is a swingers site and gosh shock horror people are having sex, yes that's right SEX! "

Wouldnt have said it was snobbery....just people answering a question, some like graphic n some dont...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just look for the green tick. It's proof that they have turned up for a meet and not lead someone on.

I don't really focus on what's said or by how many people as I like to come to my own conclusions about a person. Just because they're liked by many doesn't mean I'll feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just look for the green tick. It's proof that they have turned up for a meet and not lead someone on.

I don't really focus on what's said or by how many people as I like to come to my own conclusions about a person. Just because they're liked by many doesn't mean I'll feel the same way. "

looking for the green ticks OK...but theres something about caturing some possibly interesting parts of what someone else thought of the person they have verified.

veries that say

'great cock and tongue.knows how to use them.'

dont really float my boat...I like to know they liked the person outwith the physical side of things.

I say it again and again..i also like to know if someone might be good for social events(I dont just mean 'socials'), I'd like to know they can converse well with others and indeed..help make things FUN.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ... "

Thanks, I needed a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just look for the green tick. It's proof that they have turned up for a meet and not lead someone on.

I don't really focus on what's said or by how many people as I like to come to my own conclusions about a person. Just because they're liked by many doesn't mean I'll feel the same way.

looking for the green ticks OK...but theres something about caturing some possibly interesting parts of what someone else thought of the person they have verified.

veries that say

'great cock and tongue.knows how to use them.'

dont really float my boat...I like to know they liked the person outwith the physical side of things.

I say it again and again..i also like to know if someone might be good for social events(I dont just mean 'socials'), I'd like to know they can converse well with others and indeed..help make things FUN."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

Thanks, I needed a laugh. "

Most welcome

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?

EXACTLY! "

For some reason I "liked" this and I didnet mean too...bloody touchpad phones! grrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did get a message from a nice looking chap, only when i read the verifications he had left for other people, i thought he sounded a bit pretentious.

so i changed my mind about him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me.. but once had a guy after a meet when I asked if he wanted a verification and he basically didn't want people to know he was one of so many..

To be fair I don't show all and certainly only a small percentage of meets leave me verifications... Also as I do most of my playing at clubs not all are on here..

It never bothers me but does lead to negative comments from others at times.

Cali

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The nature of a verification and whether or not you like it gives you a clue as to whether or not you might like the person. In other words, if the verification is too much information and the recipient is happy to display that detailled information then you could decide, based on that, that the person is probably not for you? Hope that makes sense.. it does to me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also the lady who has verified you has had 5 meets in 6 weeks, on average thats 20 times more meets than me for the amount of years ive been here, so did she meet you cause shes not picky "

Oh yeah....had to check this, she's quite fit though (I would!)

I digress, not really fussed about veri's, like to skim them to know that person meets & plays nicely but that's about all. I make my own mind up.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Polo did a brilliant Thread on 'alternative meanings' of Verifications. Very funny and very clever.

"

I wish I could remember it lol

If you find it, give it a bump

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ... "

Oh

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

Oh

"

Awww. But yours were among the best on there so I guess it was your post in a way too.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

Oh

Awww. But yours were among the best on there so I guess it was your post in a way too."

It's not so bad... I thought I'd started forgetting shit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit I don't tend to display the more detailed ones as I think sometimes they say a little too much, but people can read into them what they want. As for the quantity of them...I'm here for fun and I'm having it. If it puts someone off then so be it...you can't please everyone!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I had a debate and agreed to differ with a recent meet about veris this week. I left him one when we met socially for a coffee and he wrote one for me too then. Now that we've met for a play meet he told me (and did write one) that he would leave me another veri. He suggested that I might want to write one as well.

But as far as I'm concerned I've written one which gives any other single female all the info that I look for in a verification: punctual, pleasant, good grooming and hygiene etc. So I will not be writing more.

It's rare that I write a veri about a play meet and I rarely go into much detail. Any veris I choose to show might be complimentary, but I prefer not to share explicit ones. There are other bits of information that may have been put in that I choose not to share.

A long long list of explicit veris is more tiresome than offputting. A guy who rocks my world might miss the spot with the next woman so hearing that someone is gifted at oral or with their fingers is meaningless unless she likes to be touched in the same way I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

Oh

"

Sorry Pardon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think a LOT of gals look for a veri before meeting up!

About 40% of the gals i mail write back saying 'no veri, no meet'!

(the other 60% just delete my msg) lol.

But, my point is, if you need a veri to meet, how do you get one in the first place? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Correction ..it wasn't Polo it was Granny-crumpet..

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/96664

Estate Agents don't look ...

Oh

Awww. But yours were among the best on there so I guess it was your post in a way too.

It's not so bad... I thought I'd started forgetting shit lol"

I always wondered what your profile would read like ..and I wasn't disappointed. But you need to put 696969 at the end ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think graphic verifications can be a bit off putting. Just cos someone rated them as the 'best shag' doesnt meant that the next perosn will. And do i really need to know that they did it in all rooms and made them gush so much they had a swimming pool in the living room?

That's what I'm talking about

"

Totally agree. Telling me he/she was friendly, funny, respectful, clean (hygeinically) and punctual is worth a lot more than telling me about their sexual prowess.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I think graphic verifications can be a bit off putting. Just cos someone rated them as the 'best shag' doesnt meant that the next perosn will. And do i really need to know that they did it in all rooms and made them gush so much they had a swimming pool in the living room?

That's what I'm talking about

Totally agree. Telling me he/she was friendly, funny, respectful, clean (hygeinically) and punctual is worth a lot more than telling me about their sexual prowess. "

A bit like when they inter_iewed Fred West's neighbours.... but I don't think they mentioned punctual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications are ment to tell you abit about the person your looking at which will help you see abit more about them.. Personally I think long lists of people commenting on the sexual skills of someone is abit off putting.. What does everyone else think ?"

Yes. But then again I find many miscellaneous things off putting.

I think it says more about the person leaving the veri than it does about the person who's profile it's on.

It doesn't bother me if someone has hidden veri's/ 1 veri/ or 1,000 veri's. Yes I have a read of them because I'm nosey, but I choose to make my own mind up about people. As many others have commented, my idea of a good meet might be someone else's idea of a crap meet, so I don't use them as my only criteria for meeting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay that much attention to verifications anymore.

I find fully detailled ones a bit off putting. Most of them are so repetitive. His cock is so suckable. He goes for hours. He's got an amazing tongue....

From my experience they're not always true or maybe their skills didn't work for me...

So all I'm really interested in is if the person is genuine. But I'll only know really when I meet them myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I honestly think a LOT of gals look for a veri before meeting up!

About 40% of the gals i mail write back saying 'no veri, no meet'!

(the other 60% just delete my msg) lol.

But, my point is, if you need a veri to meet, how do you get one in the first place? Lol"

Some of us don't require a potential partner to have a verification. If I message someone and we hit it off over our messages, that's more important than how another person thought he 'knew what to do with his fingers and cock'. Frankly I'd be very surprised if they didn't have a basic idea on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A bit like when they inter_iewed Fred West's neighbours.... but I don't think they mentioned punctual."

Such poor reporting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really care what peoples verifications say.

I have never and won't ever send a descriptive blow by blow account of what sexual activities took place. My verifications to other people are very basic and polite.

I've shown my veris from oghers because they took the time to write and send them.

This is a swingers site, we are all here for casual nsa sex. Noone is any way better or purer than anyone else, regardless of how many veris they display or how often they choose to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a debate and agreed to differ with a recent meet about veris this week. I left him one when we met socially for a coffee and he wrote one for me too then. Now that we've met for a play meet he told me (and did write one) that he would leave me another veri. He suggested that I might want to write one as well.

But as far as I'm concerned I've written one which gives any other single female all the info that I look for in a verification: punctual, pleasant, good grooming and hygiene etc. So I will not be writing more.

It's rare that I write a veri about a play meet and I rarely go into much detail. Any veris I choose to show might be complimentary, but I prefer not to share explicit ones. There are other bits of information that may have been put in that I choose not to share.

A long long list of explicit veris is more tiresome than offputting. A guy who rocks my world might miss the spot with the next woman so hearing that someone is gifted at oral or with their fingers is meaningless unless she likes to be touched in the same way I do."

Yep, all a single veri can tell you - taken in isolation - is that the person is, as far as the individual writing the veri could tell, REAL, who they say they are, and if the impression gleaned from their profile corresponds to how they are 'in person'. Hence we only really look for these factors in each one. We put much more store behind the pattern of veris when it comes to other, shall we say, more potentially titilating factors... eg. the profile appears not to have been updated recently (or at all since the user joined fab!) and the last veri is over a year old - so whatcha been doin all this time then???? Also we comnpletely disregard so-called 'webcam veris'. This is so open to fakery it is just untrue!

and

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure this has been said before but I can't be arsed to scroll back all the way. The key for us is in the box you click on to leave one...it says "verify genuine"...by that we don't interpret that as is a genuine person-how would you really know that after one meet but that they are genuinely as described in their profile...male/couple/curvy/athletic/bi/straight...not really much more than that...

People seem to use verifications as some kind of performance re_iew which as people have said is unneccesarily detailed for us...

One thing verifications are really useful for us though is seeing how many people who contact us and "insist on safe sex" have played with people who only do bare back...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I honestly think a LOT of gals look for a veri before meeting up!

About 40% of the gals i mail write back saying 'no veri, no meet'!

(the other 60% just delete my msg) lol.

But, my point is, if you need a veri to meet, how do you get one in the first place? Lol"

I tend not to read verifications as what a total stranger has to say about another total stranger has no bearing on who I invite into my bed.

That said...I met a man socially who happened to let me, and the entire restaurant know, that he'd been to a 10 man gang bang with a member, and he mentioned her name.

...skipping over the events that followed...

I was recently contacted by someone who had one verification from the woman the previous man had mentioned. He hadn't mentioned gang bangs...and I was curious. He was a regular at her gang bangs and she had over 250 verifications...I decided not to meet him.

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham


"Also I had to remove a verification someone left for me as it had absolutely no resemblence to what actually happened I think he got his meets mixed up! "

I've had that. One guy made me out to be some sort of sex goddess even though we actually didn't do anything ...just coz he wanted a follow up meet.

I don't routinely display my veris ...only if someone asks to see them...just seems to have caused jealousy issues ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like fun veri's - it's lovely to see that people have clicked beyond the bedroom as well as in it

i find the ones that are sexually graphic to be quite distasteful, almost like i'm intruding on the meet

and i so wish that people would use some originality in them

how many do you see that start 'WOW' or 'OMG' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love veri's and won't meet anyone who hasn't got any due to the need to out the timewasters! We like to show our verifications because it shows we are genuine swingers and they make it easier for us to get meets because we have found we now tend to get contacted by genuine people who are reassured that we won't let them down! Xxxxx

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth


"Also the lady who has verified you has had 5 meets in 6 weeks, on average thats 20 times more meets than me for the amount of years ive been here, so did she meet you cause shes not picky "

Haha you should be Count down far to clever for most people you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been said already above; its sex dating swingers site - so verifications should help suss out if some is genuine about meeting etc - althought i will add its not uncommon on here to not be varified, because some people do not like to advertise the fact they are/have/do meet for sex and - in the cases of the genuine Bisexual men its not uncommon if we meet coiples for them not to want to verify you because they tend to play with more straight women/couples

Its the age old thing of people not understanding that being Bisexual does not mean your going to jump on the guy if thats not what he wants - it means we are just bloody greedy and love sex

yorkie think i ranted then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree it proves there genuine.. Someone with one,two is just as gunuine as someone with twenty .. And think it also proves there more picky!"

Picky? just cos they only have 1 or 2 on display?

They may have 50..... but choose not to display them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do prefer to meet people who have been verified. I think as a single woman from a safety aspect it's more about knowing they are genuine rather then the content and number shown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do prefer to meet people who have been verified. I think as a single woman from a safety aspect it's more about knowing they are genuine rather then the content and number shown."

Very well put - and we all agree its far more important for the females to have a tiny bit of security in that knowledge i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yep, all a single veri can tell you - taken in isolation - is that the person is, as far as the individual writing the veri could tell, REAL, who they say they are, and if the impression gleaned from their profile corresponds to how they are 'in person'. Hence we only really look for these factors in each one. We put much more store behind the pattern of veris when it comes to other, shall we say, more potentially titilating factors... eg. the profile appears not to have been updated recently (or at all since the user joined fab!) and the last veri is over a year old - so whatcha been doin all this time then???? Also we comnpletely disregard so-called 'webcam veris'. This is so open to fakery it is just untrue!

and "

Yep have to agree with all that except the bit about a year with no verification. I was quite poorly for nearly a year and came off the site as meets were just not possible. But what if I HAD stayed and just popped in to natter or post in the Forum? I would have been the same fellah as before but you would have interpreted it as something else maybe. And also so what if someone hasn't played for a month or a year ?

Just floating a question ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just floating a question ... "

with the amount of wet weather we've had, you'd have to...

Whatever veri's make interesting reading at-a-glance regardless of quantity (which isn't offputting but more of a confirmation with some). We rarely do any more than briefly scan them - if at all.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Just floating a question ...

with the amount of wet weather we've had, you'd have to...

"

As a song from way back says:

"I'm not waving ..I'm drowning! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Yep, all a single veri can tell you - taken in isolation - is that the person is, as far as the individual writing the veri could tell, REAL, who they say they are, and if the impression gleaned from their profile corresponds to how they are 'in person'. Hence we only really look for these factors in each one. We put much more store behind the pattern of veris when it comes to other, shall we say, more potentially titilating factors... eg. the profile appears not to have been updated recently (or at all since the user joined fab!) and the last veri is over a year old - so whatcha been doin all this time then???? Also we comnpletely disregard so-called 'webcam veris'. This is so open to fakery it is just untrue!

and

Yep have to agree with all that except the bit about a year with no verification. I was quite poorly for nearly a year and came off the site as meets were just not possible. But what if I HAD stayed and just popped in to natter or post in the Forum? I would have been the same fellah as before but you would have interpreted it as something else maybe. And also so what if someone hasn't played for a month or a year ?

Just floating a question ... "

True - good point, but me being the cynical one, would be looking for a line in the profile narrative saying something like 'back after a recent break' or some such . . . Just my little ole suspicious mind......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think sex re_iew verfications you should take with a pinch of salt, especially when you click the peoples profiles they left and see they done the same for them, and the same for everyone else who verified them

if a verifications likely to be a favour or a you say im amazing in bed and i'll do the same for you then i think your more likely to find that they verifications are nearly all sex re_iews

when they more about the person and how they get on etc, then verifications like that i take as more genuine as often shows they more to them than just the fuck

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Seems to me men want to meet women for sex but want to be the only one that the woman meets. If she has met a few men and shows the verifications she isn't picky in who she meets. I show my veris cos I want to and I think it was nice of those men to take the time to write them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol, we must meet the wrong peeps lol, as we still have not got a veri, gutting, and we have met some really nice peeps toooo, perhaps we need to ask em the next time after a meet, sort of re_iew us lol"

Normally towards the end of a meet I will discuss leaving veris and if the other person does it so we both know where we stand. To be fair half the folk I have met don't leave them anyway.

As well as proof someone is genuine I like veris because I enjoy writing almost as much as reading someone else's thoughts. And of course it means I can read them at a later date and be reminded of a blissful occasion...

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