FabSwingers.com forum: Would you introduce a non-fab female friend?

By *orkscrew Curls OP Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

I have a close friend who is a member of a different site from which she meets men basically for sex. She knows I do this also and has asked what site I am on. Whilst I think Fab is the better site because of the verification system, community aspect and cam chatrooms I am hesitant to recommend that she joins.

We have the same taste in men and live in the same area. Whilst I have no issues sharing/meeting the same guys as female friends on fab I feel uncomfortable meeting the same ones as my friend. I'm sure there are men on fab who are also on the site she uses, and we often exchange pics of guys we are about to meet - no cross-over as yet! I do not want to team up with her, or see her in action, before anyone suggests it!

What would you do? Am I being fair keeping fab and its men to myself, and indeed a single female from the guys? Or am I saving our friendship from a whole load of hassles (and her from the inevitable fresh meat frenzy) I've seen a few female profiles where they state if you meet their friend then don't ask to meet them, but I'm sure this fuels the creepy guys into asking for 3sums!.....

Your thoughts and advice please.

Curls x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well seems to me you are already keeping things happily sorted and avoiding the 'oh shit he did us both' syndrome. I can't see it would be any worse if the lady was on Fabs rather than her other site and maybe make it easier to keep in touch on who is seeing who.

Maybe its a girlie thing but as a bloke I can't see why it would be wrong if you did just happen to meet the same bloke. You don't have to share every name surely? For my part no one ever knows who I meet or when so discretion can maybe work for you. What you don't know you can't worry about?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Well seems to me you are already keeping things happily sorted and avoiding the 'oh shit he did us both' syndrome. I can't see it would be any worse if the lady was on Fabs rather than her other site and maybe make it easier to keep in touch on who is seeing who.

I agree with this. I meet socially in a public place, sometimes several times before meeting to play so I don't feel the need to tell anyone who I'm meeting.

What you don't know shouldn't affect your fun. It's not as if you're going to marry any of the blokes is it?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it ain't broke!

Friendship is worth more than a swingers site.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Can you send me your friends details

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

my friends on here and we live together so i always know who shes meeting and she knows who im meeting,fortunatly we dont have the same taste in Men

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not hesitate to recommend FAB to anyone who may be interested in the lifestyle or just for NSA fun.

Been on other sites and found FAB to be the best.

If peeps ask for advice, I would give them freely. However, I would refrain from discussing my experiences with the gents I have met.

Afterall, I would not like to be compared with the others myself, hence I never discuss my experiences with the gents I have met or show my verifications and friends list.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

How can I get on your secret verication list?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is a guy creepy if he wants a 3sum?? I guess women don't go in for those sort of shenanigans then??

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I think, I may be wrong, that she means the men that will say, "well you are both swingers, so why won't you both play with me?" type of thing.

It happens a lot, I've had men asking if my sister swings, and will we team up for a 3sum!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

I would love the thought of you and your sister, but can't You just get to know me first?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think, I may be wrong, that she means the men that will say, "well you are both swingers, so why won't you both play with me?" type of thing.

It happens a lot, I've had men asking if my sister swings, and will we team up for a 3sum!!"

aaaah, ok, i see your point! I thought she meant a guys creepy if he fancied a 3sum!! Lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orkscrew Curls OP Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

"my friends on here and we live together so i always know who shes meeting and she knows who im meeting,fortunatly we dont have the same taste in Men "

I would be fine with it if that were the case, but it isn't!..You're lucky!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orkscrew Curls OP Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

"I think, I may be wrong, that she means the men that will say, "well you are both swingers, so why won't you both play with me?" type of thing.

It happens a lot, I've had men asking if my sister swings, and will we team up for a 3sum!!"

This is exactly correct! I'm ok with 3sums and moresums with people, just not my friends and family!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orkscrew Curls OP Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

"I would not hesitate to recommend FAB to anyone who may be interested in the lifestyle or just for NSA fun.

Been on other sites and found FAB to be the best.

If peeps ask for advice, I would give them freely. However, I would refrain from discussing my experiences with the gents I have met.

Afterall, I would not like to be compared with the others myself, hence I never discuss my experiences with the gents I have met or show my verifications and friends list.

If I could rewind maybe I could have played it like this! However we do have girlie chats about the blokes we meet over glasses of wine, and I don't want to give that up, it's fun!

I think for now I'll try to keep the 2 separate. Or if I meet a fella I think would prefer her then pass him on! (If we haven't become intimate...) It is the comparison thing that bothers me I reckon.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I don't get it...

If you meet the same fella then what's the issue?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May be something to do with jealousy perhaps?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"May be something to do with jealousy perhaps?

That had crossed my mind.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sharing is caring, that's all I can say...

Wolf

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

I don't mind a recommendation either way, I'm not fussy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'd be a bit put out if I sent a face pic & found out the guy was showing it round his mates....

Must be OK if it's a woman doing it tho

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I don't fully understand why such guys are referred to as 'creepy' in any of these instances tbh.

I've had a good bit of banter with guys where we have had sex with the same woman on a meet, would that therefore make women uneasy?

And to flip the scenario I've had women I've met show my pic(s) to their female friends. I've met a lady who was dying for me to introduce my brother to this way of life and for us both to pay her a visit and pleasure her together....

I didn't think any of these were creepy. I told the first that I was fine with it, and the woman who wanted to enjoy myself and my brother together that she'd be barking up the wrong tree with him as he was quite settled down and didn't seek this kind of life, but I wouldn't begrudge her having that fantasy...

So I find it hard to imagine a man wanting a threesome with two female friends creepy, though it is each to their own I guess...plus I guess it could be different if you knew her off site first?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

My friend (who's also a work colleague) was on the vanilla dating sites after she split up with her OH and was complaining about them being crap so I told her I used to swing and pointed her in the direction of the site I used to use (a pay site from before Fab was in existence), she found Fab and started having an amazing time and then when I split from my ex and was ready to get back into the NSA swinging world I asked her what site it was she'd gone onto and I joined Fab.....obviously I was inundated with messages on night 1 and as I read this couple's profile, I realised it was my mate's OH who she'd met off here so got on the phone to her as I'm emailing her bf back saying yeah, know who you are, not gonna play together, blah-de-blah....we had a right good laugh about it, I've since played with her OH, we've been at the same parties and neither of us have problems with seeing each other play, and we occasionally bump into each other at clubs, we've also had meets with the same guy on occasion and again it's not a problem and we will tip each other the wink regarding what we consider to be fun meets (and there's a vanilla guy we share on occasion too, though we've def brought out his deviant side.....)not saying it'd work for everyone, but it does for us and it's great to have a mate just to chat about the lifestyle with in my opinion

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Personally I don't see a problem unless you have a male friend with the initials JT

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

If I could rewind maybe I could have played it like this! However we do have girlie chats about the blokes we meet over glasses of wine, and I don't want to give that up, it's fun!

It's entirely your choice of course, but I would have thought that on either site there would have more than enough single blokes for two girls to play with, without bumping into each other.

I speak only from experience of the level competition I have on here.!

LOL!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread