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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it’s directed perhaps, and isn’t borne of a mutual attraction and respect?

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

90% of population probably aren’t on swinger sites. Most/all ppl in here are going to be adventurous and would be considered pervs by many vanilla ppl.

However, a lot of porn tends towards the more violent/rough treatment of women (gagging, atm, rough gangbangs etc) and while some women enjoy that (and some women enjoy it sometimes but not all of the time) it is not for everyone but many impressionable teenage boys see this (a lot) and think that is the norm.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish? "

I don't watch a lot of scripted porn but it seems to me that it's very male centred, shows little or no foreplay, implies that anal is to be expected and no preparation is required, every woman can deepthroat and actively enjoys it, pubic hair doesn't exist, men can fuck for hours and women want that... etc

maybe I am a prude. Meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"90% of population probably aren’t on swinger sites. Most/all ppl in here are going to be adventurous and would be considered pervs by many vanilla ppl.

However, a lot of porn tends towards the more violent/rough treatment of women (gagging, atm, rough gangbangs etc) and while some women enjoy that (and some women enjoy it sometimes but not all of the time) it is not for everyone but many impressionable teenage boys see this (a lot) and think that is the norm."

Sadly I think this is so true. Apparently younger lads all want anal from day one and don't realise its only for birthdays

. They also probably all feel inadequate due to the amount of big cocks on show

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I have a young lad that wants to meet me and all he wants to do is fuck my throat until I gag and puke?? Its even on his status.

That can only come from watching too much porn. I do wonder what will happen if he gets a girlfriend, would he expect a girl to do that straight away?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have to read some of the forum posts on here to see that porn can give some people unrealistic views on sex.

The impact that the easy availability of porn (especially the more extreme) is having on young people, isn’t sending out a good message; choking, anal, rough sex and certain body images are now seen as normal amongst young people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish? "

I used to deliver pizza.

And nothing happened to me.

Not a dang thing!!!

Stupid porn lied to me.

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By *utual InterestsMan
over a year ago

Kent

That is why amateur / homemade vids are the ones to watch

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By *bonybucksMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I’ve met a guy who wanted me to deepthroat him which I can handle no problem, but then made me puke all over his cock. He made reference to some porn actress. I take it she does stuff like that. I never did it before or since I met him

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By *ozapperMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

"You only have to read some of the forum posts on here to see that porn can give some people unrealistic views on sex.

The impact that the easy availability of porn (especially the more extreme) is having on young people, isn’t sending out a good message; choking, anal, rough sex and certain body images are now seen as normal amongst young people"

The one thing missing from lots of porn seems to be respect, gentleness and tenderness and ultimately love I guess. The older you get the more you realise that just the simple touch of a finger or even a glance at the right time can be more of a turn on than any 'mainstream porn' activity.

Without respect, honesty and love for a person (not just their physical attributes) relationships lack the bedrock needed to survive the ups and downs of real life, buy then again what do I know

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish? "

We are both proud that are home movies and sex life often looks just like or better than most porn.

Don't get me wrong, we have just as much slow, loving, tender and sensual sex also.

But when we ger nasty it gets really nasty. We have many great home movies

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me. "

Even homemade most of the time probably isn’t a true d_piction of what that person or couple would do if a camera wasn’t on them. But you didn’t talk about homemade porn in your OP, so it’s a bit disingenuous to raise it now. You stated that people complain that porn is unrealistic, that complaint is always made about mainstream professional porn, so naturally people are answering based on mainstream professional porn.

To answer your original questions, I’m surprised you can’t see what’s in porn that you wouldn’t do in a relationship, and frankly a bit sorry for the women in your life if you really don’t know the difference. Mainstream porn is far too rough, even violent, towards the women. It’s almost entirely filled with women being jackhammered in every orifice, to the point that you can often see they’re in pain. There is no kissing, no oral on the women, no attempt to give any pleasure to the women at all. It’s all about going hard and fast and throwing the women into a series of positions designed to show the camera the act of penetration; positions which most people probably wouldn’t even want to try, never mind hold for any length of time. The women moan non-stop but it’s all entirely fake, not from pleasure.

There is better, more realistic porn out there, mostly made by and/or for women. That’s the only professional porn I watch, because the actresses are very clearly enjoying it, and I don’t want to watch it if they’re not.

As for your other question, are people just prudes? I’m certainly not a prude, as should be obvious from the fact I’m on here. I just dislike the normalisation of violence against women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've noticed how violent its become and its really only for pleasing some men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hasn't porn made us all more adventurous??

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

At 20 years old porn was class. Taught me all I needed to know.

Until I reached 30 and realised it actually wasn't. And at 46 now and looking back it was the shittest thing ever.

No real emotional and physical involvement.

Fake arsed moaning, all in the same key of low C and the same pitch from every woman.

Same facial expressions. Even the positions had a set pattern. Men never get stage fright, women are instantly wet, the timing is precision perfect, girl on girl is accepted by every girl who knows how to lick and touch, all women are able to deep throat without a gag, men are able to fuck for exactly 37 minutes regardless of their age or situation. Women can have shaking and violently squirting orgasms and then take more cock.

The list goes on and on...

Unbelievable as it is not one of these people have ever won an Oscar award for their performances.

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By *picMan
over a year ago

Petworth

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

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It’s so scripted and fake.

But some how I always pick the most fake scripted ones to watch.. everytime. And yet it works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At 20 years old porn was class. Taught me all I needed to know.

Until I reached 30 and realised it actually wasn't. And at 46 now and looking back it was the shittest thing ever.

No real emotional and physical involvement.

Fake arsed moaning, all in the same key of low C and the same pitch from every woman.

Same facial expressions. Even the positions had a set pattern. Men never get stage fright, women are instantly wet, the timing is precision perfect, girl on girl is accepted by every girl who knows how to lick and touch, all women are able to deep throat without a gag, men are able to fuck for exactly 37 minutes regardless of their age or situation. Women can have shaking and violently squirting orgasms and then take more cock.

The list goes on and on...

Unbelievable as it is not one of these people have ever won an Oscar award for their performances. "

Actually, they do have award ceremonies.

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

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"People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish?

I used to deliver pizza.

And nothing happened to me.

Not a dang thing!!!

Stupid porn lied to me."

Everything happens to plumbers too. Real woman know us sparkies are the real MVP’s

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

"At 20 years old porn was class. Taught me all I needed to know.

Until I reached 30 and realised it actually wasn't. And at 46 now and looking back it was the shittest thing ever.

No real emotional and physical involvement.

Fake arsed moaning, all in the same key of low C and the same pitch from every woman.

Same facial expressions. Even the positions had a set pattern. Men never get stage fright, women are instantly wet, the timing is precision perfect, girl on girl is accepted by every girl who knows how to lick and touch, all women are able to deep throat without a gag, men are able to fuck for exactly 37 minutes regardless of their age or situation. Women can have shaking and violently squirting orgasms and then take more cock.

The list goes on and on...

Unbelievable as it is not one of these people have ever won an Oscar award for their performances.

Actually, they do have award ceremonies. "

I stand corrected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Professional porn is so massively faked. Nobody sounds like that in real life no matter how good the sex.

But the amateur and homemade stuff, I don't see anything unrealistic that any other couple do.

And porn is almost entirely geared towards men because that's the target audience.

Bear in mind that the porn you might see online is the choice cut. You might see quite a brutal bdsm video. If you were to buy the full version you get an introduction to the models involved including an interview of what they've done and what they'd like to do. They show the binding process constantly checking to see if she's comfortable and whether she's happy, safety as well. Then at the end there's another interview and she says what she liked best and so on.

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"90% of population probably aren’t on swinger sites. Most/all ppl in here are going to be adventurous and would be considered pervs by many vanilla ppl.

However, a lot of porn tends towards the more violent/rough treatment of women (gagging, atm, rough gangbangs etc) and while some women enjoy that (and some women enjoy it sometimes but not all of the time) it is not for everyone but many impressionable teenage boys see this (a lot) and think that is the norm."

BUT I grew up with the classic plumber visiting or pizza delivery dude all getting blown for payment or sexual favours etc and I never expected any of it to happen.

This is a bit like the kids playing video games all want to go shoot everyone or drive like maniacs. Surely it's how your brought up to treat people at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep knocking on bored housewives doors in my handyman outfit carrying a bag of tools and haven't had a single blow job yet!

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By *heekychappy27Man
over a year ago

Greenock

Porn is very much directed and sadly its not aimed at both sexes.

Ive found recently a lot is aimed at the more rough aspect of sex, which im sure some women enjoy, but certainly not all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is for men

Everyone knows that

Why shouldn't porn be too?

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By *.luke7Man
over a year ago

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"I keep knocking on bored housewives doors in my handyman outfit carrying a bag of tools and haven't had a single blow job yet!"

You’ve got to be a plumber and lay under the sink for a while.

I’ve yet to find my step mother stuck in the washing machine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I’m getting older but porn is very boring to me....

I usually search for amateur interracial cuckold porn or bbc gangbangs ...

All I see is a black guy/guys with a big cock banging away on a white woman in a hotel room....

It’s so boring now , I can tell the hotel chain by looking at the sheets and decorations....

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Professional porn is so massively faked. Nobody sounds like that in real life no matter how good the sex.

But the amateur and homemade stuff, I don't see anything unrealistic that any other couple do.

And porn is almost entirely geared towards men because that's the target audience.

Bear in mind that the porn you might see online is the choice cut. You might see quite a brutal bdsm video. If you were to buy the full version you get an introduction to the models involved including an interview of what they've done and what they'd like to do. They show the binding process constantly checking to see if she's comfortable and whether she's happy, safety as well. Then at the end there's another interview and she says what she liked best and so on. "

Are you talking to me? I can’t tell so I’m having to guess from your comments. If you are talking to me, I think you’ve misunderstood me. I’m talking about mainstream porn, BDSM isn’t mainstream. I’m talking about the run-of-the-mill stuff that’s on every bloody porn site going. I assume you’ve leapt to BDSM because I talked about violence, but violence is endemic in mainstream porn and is much more troubling than BDSM frankly because men watch it and think it’s normal.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

There is little or no sensuality in porn ..the noises are ridiculous.

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

If porn was like real life - and I'm talking about pornhub and xhamster here - it would seem like :

Every woman is either a teen or a MILF

Every guy wants to fuck his step mum

Every woman wants to be facialed - and not at a spa!

I can drive a black cab and pick up hot women to fuck

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Porn has given me an unrealistic expectation of how soon I can actually get a tradesman to turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep knocking on bored housewives doors in my handyman outfit carrying a bag of tools and haven't had a single blow job yet!

You’ve got to be a plumber and lay under the sink for a while.

I’ve yet to find my step mother stuck in the washing machine..

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Yeah what is it about step mothers and getting stuck in odd places

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Every woman is either a teen or a MILF"

In porn, they're quite often the same actress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

porn has its place hell me and hubs have a big collection but its like anything else you dont take it all as real ..you dont watch a horror film and go ''hey love lets try that tonight '' its a film yes it gives you idea's and great to watch but most of it is not real life ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People say porn is bad because it isn't a realistic d_piction of sex.

Why isn't it? What is in porn that you wouldn't do in a healthy sexual relationship?

Are the people who make such a claim just boring and prudish? "

Porn is giving young men a very distorted view about sex. Sadly young women also believe sex is what you see in porn.

Most pepople have normal vanilla sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me. "

Sadly more and more homemade porn is fake. It's made by wannabe pornstars. You can easily spot the fake stuff. They are trying to act nomral but come across as B movie actors.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

For me porn is about watching great looking people have sex.

Homemade porn doesn’t really do it for me that’s the great thing about it is there is something for everyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me.

Sadly more and more homemade porn is fake. It's made by wannabe pornstars. You can easily spot the fake stuff. They are trying to act nomral but come across as B movie actors. "

its the over the top noises that gives it away

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

To me the danger is watching porn, getting turned on, but then next time what do you watch? The same or something more extreme. I suspect finding a simple boy / girl scene as your favourite won't happen these days (*)

* generating massively, so don't shoot me down!

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Porn is mainly designed for a male audience. There is an artificial over emphasis on the 'money shot' of male ejaculation.

Personally, I of course enjoy having an orgasm. However, I get no additional pleasure from coming somewhere specific and am not into CIM, facials or spurting over someone's tits, belly and arse- all of which the porn industry is fascinated by. And I don't come like a waterfall either.

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By *uicyfruit3Man
over a year ago

portsmouth

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me.

Sadly more and more homemade porn is fake. It's made by wannabe pornstars. You can easily spot the fake stuff. They are trying to act nomral but come across as B movie actors.

its the over the top noises that gives it away

"

This is true lol. My house has thin walls I do not need some girl making fake pornstar noises when my neighbours are trying to get to sleep

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me.

Even homemade most of the time probably isn’t a true d_piction of what that person or couple would do if a camera wasn’t on them. But you didn’t talk about homemade porn in your OP, so it’s a bit disingenuous to raise it now. You stated that people complain that porn is unrealistic, that complaint is always made about mainstream professional porn, so naturally people are answering based on mainstream professional porn.

To answer your original questions, I’m surprised you can’t see what’s in porn that you wouldn’t do in a relationship, and frankly a bit sorry for the women in your life if you really don’t know the difference. Mainstream porn is far too rough, even violent, towards the women. It’s almost entirely filled with women being jackhammered in every orifice, to the point that you can often see they’re in pain. There is no kissing, no oral on the women, no attempt to give any pleasure to the women at all. It’s all about going hard and fast and throwing the women into a series of positions designed to show the camera the act of penetration; positions which most people probably wouldn’t even want to try, never mind hold for any length of time. The women moan non-stop but it’s all entirely fake, not from pleasure.

There is better, more realistic porn out there, mostly made by and/or for women. That’s the only professional porn I watch, because the actresses are very clearly enjoying it, and I don’t want to watch it if they’re not.

As for your other question, are people just prudes? I’m certainly not a prude, as should be obvious from the fact I’m on here. I just dislike the normalisation of violence against women."

Totally agree, not all women want to be finger blasted to orgasm either especially MrsJ.

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By *sian_coupleukCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Agree 100%

Also to add that porn tends to portray women are objects for me to use and created to please men.

Not all women love anal, or multiple cocks at same time or face and mouth covered in cum and piss.

The new trend seems to be towards seeing how many cocks can get into a ladies asshole at the same time (seen 3 in one ass, with another in pussy and 2 in her mouth) and more ass rimming where the lady has to now lick a mans asshole to add to the ball licking and cock sucking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, the problem with porn is you can't engage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porn has set unrealistic expectations of how quickly a workman will get to your house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think watching porn makes you better at sex

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Only the professional stuff is scripted. All the homemade stuff seems legit to me. "

Male driven for men in the main.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I think watching porn makes you better at sex

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Have you asked a woman’s opinion on that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't speak German in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into porn, at all. It does nothing for me, and I agree with much of what has been said above. Taking BDSM aside, even mainstream porn now includes things like slapping, hair pulling, choking, anal, deepthroating etc.

All things that plenty of people do enjoy, but shouldn't be presented as the norm, especially when teenagers watch porn from such a young age.

It gives them the wrong idea of what is normal and sets standards for what they should expect. Which just isn't realistic or healthy for young girls to feel like they have to live up to.

Porn does more harm than good in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I keep knocking on bored housewives doors in my handyman outfit carrying a bag of tools and haven't had a single blow job yet!

You’ve got to be a plumber and lay under the sink for a while.

I’ve yet to find my step mother stuck in the washing machine..

Yeah what is it about step mothers and getting stuck in odd places"

The side effect of marrying a man with kids is profound clumsiness.

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