FabSwingers.com forum: It’s been a few years since my last D/s relationships.

By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Does the want for the relationship ever go away?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

What is a D/s relationship?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

In my opinion you can leave the lifestyle, but the lifestyle rarely leaves you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion you can leave the lifestyle, but the lifestyle rarely leaves you."

Too true - I haven’t been in one for three and a half years and miss it a lot.

I am hopeful of a new relationship with a very experienced Sir starting soon.

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

I started very young visiting my first pro Domme aged 22.

I then went on to have a 3years relationship D/s and at the age of 27 started to doubt myself and the way I was living.

I went travelling for a short while returned and had a vanilla relationship for over two years but there was always something missing.

Now at 32 there is nothing I want more then to be in a female led relationships with cuckolding involved

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"What is a D/s relationship?"

It a assertive dynamic were the sensual female ( in my case) is explored,

When it connects it is stunning.

It’s not rough porn.

I miss it, it is, to me a gorgeous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a D/s relationship?"

Dom and sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've realised that the want might not be there until it's on offer again.

It's been just over three years since my last D/s relationship and I thought I didn't need or want another. Until I got talking to a Dom and the wanting and needing came flooding back. He's close to becoming my next Dom and the thought is exciting and exhilarating. I'm looking forward to seeing where this takes us.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Does the want for the relationship ever go away?"

I’ve never had such a relationship and it would not work for me.

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I've realised that the want might not be there until it's on offer again.

Hey, brilliant, took me seven meets before mine came together.

Have a fantastic time.... slowly.

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Does the want for the relationship ever go away?

I’ve never had such a relationship and it would not work for me. "

Yup, not for everyone.

Like life, the last thing to discover water would be fish.

Have fun, well when you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've realised that the want might not be there until it's on offer again.

Hey, brilliant, took me seven meets before mine came together.

Have a fantastic time.... slowly.

Thank you. We are taking this slowly. We're at the talking about it every day stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion you can leave the lifestyle, but the lifestyle rarely leaves you."

Words

Once opened and explored I have found there is no way I could not have some aspect of it in my life. It is as natural as breathing now. I need to be a Domme in my relationship xxx

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I've realised that the want might not be there until it's on offer again.

Hey, brilliant, took me seven meets before mine came together.

Have a fantastic time.... slowly.

Thank you. We are taking this slowly. We're at the talking about it every day stage. "

Sign of a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've realised that the want might not be there until it's on offer again.

Hey, brilliant, took me seven meets before mine came together.

Have a fantastic time.... slowly.

Thank you. We are taking this slowly. We're at the talking about it every day stage.

Sign of a lady."

Thanks

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By *auradCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Laura previously played with a Dom type, into rope and BDSM etc.

I think we both miss that dynamic but a huge amount of trust is involved in this type of relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Laura previously played with a Dom type, into rope and BDSM etc.

I think we both miss that dynamic but a huge amount of trust is involved in this type of relationship "

Trust is huge. That's why it's scary when people jump in quickly without getting to know each other and without talking in depth about it all.

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By *icentious OP Couple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Laura previously played with a Dom type, into rope and BDSM etc.

I think we both miss that dynamic but a huge amount of trust is involved in this type of relationship

Trust is huge. That's why it's scary when people jump in quickly without getting to know each other and without talking in depth about it all."

Odd, not how porn classifies it.

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By *ensual but naughtyCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

"Does the want for the relationship ever go away?"

I don't believe it does if you are truly a Dom/Domme or Sub but it can, and often does, fade in time or due to circumstances.

It's like saying you were 'once' bisexual, you may not play anymore with the same or opposite sex but it was, and always will be, part of your past, your identity and being.

Many people also experience 'sub-frenzy', in the first few years of a D/s relationship, usually after many years of suppressed or hidden desires, where they want to do and/or try everything, totally immerse themselves into the lifestyle and/or relationship. They discover who they are underneath but it can also exact a tole on themselves and sometimes a relationship and it is natural for the 'frenzy' to fade over time as you find your level of kink and also get a reality check.

That doesn't mean you aren't a sub or Dom/Domme anymore, it just means you have learned to balance vanilla with kink and/or swing. Therefore it's natural to question whether you need it any more especially if you were in a D/s relationship that has ended.

But I suspect any true Dom/Domme and/or sub would most likely throw themselves (with some caution depending on the quality of past experiences) back into a D/s relationship if the right person ('the one') came along.

And if you are in a long term relationship like ours where the kink has faded a bit, it only takes the right word or go to the right club with the right atmosphere or circumstance to flick right back into it, it's just always under the surface, but for some just a lot deeper

I suspect if you are single but once were in a good D/s relationship it may seem like it's just not worth looking for a D/s relationship any more because the 'the one' seems so very elusive but if you are very lucky and they do come along then I would say it would be near impossible not to want it all again.

Just my thoughts for possible discussion. Probably didn't answer your question but I fancied a ramble today!

Mark

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

And a very good and inciteful ramble it was too Sensual but naughty

Speaking from personal experience I discovered my submissive side (or more to the point uncovered it when I realised what it was) just over twenty years ago when a chance conversation led to lightbulbs going off in my head and things suddenly making a lot of sense not only about my sexuality but me generally.

Since then I can count on one hand the number of people I have "felt" submissive to, and only truly experienced D/s in the physical sense with one, possibly two, of them. That's partly down to circumstance and partly down to a need to "feel" my submission with someone to truly give myself - it doesn't mean that there aren't times I truly crave that side of me and feel it strongly, but I won't give myself fully without it, and I accept that probably means my experience shall remain limited.

That said I have been lucky enough to be able to explore elements of what would normally be considered submissive acts without the D/s angle and that to an extent scratches the itch so to speak.

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By *ensual but naughtyCouple
over a year ago

somewhere

"... a chance conversation led to lightbulbs going off...

... I can count on one hand the number of people I have "felt" submissive to..."

Hi Gemini

Not dissimilar to us, we never knew anything about the scene before we found it by accident and for us it was the same lightbulb (did we borrow yours? lol).

Regarding your submission, Tina does not submit to anyone else very easily (assuming I let her) either, and I think that is very common for most true submissives.

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By *ngelfireWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I really, really miss being in a D/s relationship. A vanilla relationship just hasn’t been the same, it wasn’t fulfilling and I always missed the dynamic. I’m prepared to be single for a long time until the opportunity and the right person comes along now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love mine... I hope it never ends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss it.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't think it does. I think those characteristics are so ingrained sometimes in everyday things that there's a constant reminder.

A craving for that beautiful depth

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By *iveittoher300Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"What is a D/s relationship?

Why can't your husband provide this

It a assertive dynamic were the sensual female ( in my case) is explored,

When it connects it is stunning.

It’s not rough porn.

I miss it, it is, to me a gorgeous relationship.

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why can't your partner provide this?

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

If it is part of your personality I think it will always be there.

Particularly if you have had at least one successful relationship, which for its brief span, you find yourself.

A series of false starts has made me decide to return to Topping.

Luckily for me I like all the skills of BDSM both thinking about them and practising them so I can work on those skills during lockdown.

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