FabSwingers.com forum: what do you want...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else find they start chatting to a single/couple then (as their profile leaves no indication what so ever) ask 'what are you looking for from/in/on a meet and what is it your wanting to do?'.....

....the reply we alwaysss get is along the lines of 'great fun' - pretty obvious to me!!!

....which has me screaminggg at the computer!!!!

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

have had people on these forums say its a moot question as we are all here for the same.

sex..

which is bollocks because we arent all here for the same.

some for full

some soft

some just for chatting.

i agree it is so much better to get it from the horses mouth, so to speak, what is expected from a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not here just for Sex.

Ive def had my eyes opened by alot, by some of the things that go on on here, but just by being here, alot of things are gd and to my taste / like etc, but not all are, but thats life, if you can chat, flirt and meet new people, as said maybe not all good times, but they are times and not to be taken to heart but more like just laugh things off etc. Always No means No and dont be pushy or too intimidated by things if they dont go as planned, If they do go as planned bonus really.

'Its good to talk'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people struggle to communicate their feelings but agreed you should be able to expect more. What annoys us a little is when someone asks for more detail - we respond fully and ask for a return in detail - only to have a single word comment such as "interesting"

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the second someone asks me 'what will we do on a meet,'... It's bye....

maybe instead of asking, tell them what you will be looking for in meet and take it from there.

good luck

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

the one question that really turns me off is 'what are you going to do to me'

i am not writing a plan of the evening, you get here, we chat a bit then we have sex...go with the flow....not at 9:5 we kiss, 9:20 you touch my boob 9:30 you cum then fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the second someone asks me 'what will we do on a meet,'... It's bye....

maybe instead of asking, tell them what you will be looking for in meet and take it from there.

good luck"

Totally agreed with this. Nothing worse than someone who wants you to write a script before you meet

Maybe it's because they have no imagination. I don't meet anyone who asks what I want them to do to me beforehand x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the one question that really turns me off is 'what are you going to do to me'

i am not writing a plan of the evening, you get here, we chat a bit then we have sex...go with the flow....not at 9:5 we kiss, 9:20 you touch my boob 9:30 you cum then fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and the other thing that really annoys me if the guys keep asking what you going to be wearing ...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what will we do?

one party says: chat, then foreplay and some gentle teasing of your clit, maybe some light fingering, I will move down and bring you to orgasm by flicking my tongue slowly over your clit and pushing it inside to taste your sweet juices....

other party: splat and then USER NO LONGER ON SITE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and the other thing that really annoys me if the guys keep asking what you going to be wearing ... "

I love that one ! I always say a duffle coat and red wellies x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

god I am a cynical old poof today

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What are you into is my most hated question followed by im a bit kinky i love giving oral

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nooo i didn't mean i want them to say word for word what will happen....i start my msg by saying something like, it says on your profile what we like/don't want etc from/on a meet and was wondering what you want from a meet...... people like this usually have one sentence on their profile. We don't want to meet a cpl who only do full swap eg because we don't!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or you get an initial mail as long as a toilet roll, with them going into great detail of what they are going to do to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Our profile says what we do and don't want from a meet. eg no full swap, no single males so when reading another profile that simply says 'wanting to meet up and have fun'.....well that tells us nothing!!! Xx

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"and the other thing that really annoys me if the guys keep asking what you going to be wearing ...

I love that one ! I always say a duffle coat and red wellies x"

Now your talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our profile says what we do and don't want from a meet. eg no full swap, no single males so when reading another profile that simply says 'wanting to meet up and have fun'.....well that tells us nothing!!! Xx"

Had to go and read what you'd written... curiosity was too much

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

"the second someone asks me 'what will we do on a meet,'... It's bye....

maybe instead of asking, tell them what you will be looking for in meet and take it from there.

good luck"
ive been reading alot of your advice on hee lately have you ever thought of doing a book guide to swinging id buy it your very wise

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had to go and read what you'd written... curiosity was too much

Haha well hope all was ok!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or you get an initial mail as long as a toilet roll, with them going into great detail of what they are going to do to you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"what will we do?

other party: splat and then USER NO LONGER ON SITE"

*Splutter*...well you really are a funny man!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"What are you into is my most hated question followed by im a bit kinky i love giving oral

Considering I couldn't be clearer I delete and ignore anyone that asks that...dullards!

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"the one question that really turns me off is 'what are you going to do to me'

i am not writing a plan of the evening, you get here, we chat a bit then we have sex...go with the flow....not at 9:5 we kiss, 9:20 you touch my boob 9:30 you cum then fuck off

Oh dear you poor thing - 10mins for boob play to ending. Such limited expectations.

Personally I would expect a good couple of hours for that part alone of the overall playtime.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"the second someone asks me 'what will we do on a meet,'... It's bye....

maybe instead of asking, tell them what you will be looking for in meet and take it from there.

good luck"

Hmmm from a man whos profile says very little about himself. So your potential meat ask a sensible question and you ignore or block them.

Do you actually meet people or are you one of those bedroom fantastis that this site appears to be full of who only spends his time in camchat with hand on dick?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"the second someone asks me 'what will we do on a meet,'... It's bye....

maybe instead of asking, tell them what you will be looking for in meet and take it from there.

good luck

Hmmm from a man whos profile says very little about himself. So your potential meat ask a sensible question and you ignore or block them.

Do you actually meet people or are you one of those bedroom fantastis that this site appears to be full of who only spends his time in camchat with hand on dick?"

thank you very much for your comment and please allow me to answer it.

I don't currently meet and amnot looking too. If that changes in the future, I will update my profile accordingly...

From my experience over many years on Gay & Swingers site one of the most obvious ways to identify 'potential timewasters' is when they ask 'what will you be wearing' and 'what will we do when I get there'.... NOT 100% but my answer does state when they ASK ME.. and when they do, I take whatever next steps I choose. I am not saying that is right or wrong to everyone, but it is to me..

However, I did offer a suggestion to try and help...

Now if I was a chatroom user pulling my lovely thick cut cock pervin the cams of ladies with fab tits and guys with huge cocks spurting jizz everywhere...... that would be how I was choosing to use the site... and that would be no one else's business but mine....

I do hope that answers your question sir.

I do hope you have found your first 4 weeks on the site great, I wish you every success for the futuree and many great meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah well,, soon be christmas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to answer that question once I know the person better. most people ask me too early in the conversation and I cannot answer it effectively. If that makes sense?

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Thanks for your answer.

I was under the impression that this site was for swingers to have enjoyable meets with each other.

May be if you profile said you were not meeting at present - i might have phased my comment differently. - But no insult was intended.

The point i was failing to make was that if expectations on all sides arnt agreed prior to the meet then it can (shall we say) be less than happy event.

So far in my 4 weeks here ive not succesfully had a meet. (have met others from another site a while ago, so im not without experience) Mail goes unread or is instantly deleted- but thats for another tread.

Thanks for the best wishes and returns to you.

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