FabSwingers.com forum: Do single fems send the first message.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do any single females on here send the first message? Just curious as it seems the same on here as it is in the real world. The man is expected to make the first move.

Had some lovely replies and meets when i was on the site previously, but can't remember getting a message off a single fem out of the blue.

Be interesting to hear others opinions on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope never, never need to as I get enough attention without fishing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

rarely I think...

Most of ours have been enticed

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, if someone takes my fancy I will message them. To date, about half my meets have been where I have initiated contact....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah its always the bloke in the relationship that makes contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only speak for myself but i dont send out the first message

Id sooner wait for guys to contact me that way i know they are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

^^ this.

The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell Yes

And I was like christmas coming early

Out of the blue I had a nice message saying just: nice lips

To wihich I was obliged to reply

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

I've had a few out of the blue, one girl messaged me and when I tried to replie she had blocked me, what's all that about there's nowt queer as folk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I do respond to guys in forums sometimes if they make a personal reference I feel needs a personal thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to me a couple of times, but it's as rare as rocking horse poo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think i have done it twice and neither of my messages got a reply so i stopped sending them out first

Like i said in my earlier post waiting for guys to mail me means they have a interest so makes more sence

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Unless it's regarding a forum post, I've not yet sent a first message - not saying I wouldn't, but I don't often browse profiles either

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

we have had a couple in the recent past.

just got to get the time to organise something with them, if they are still interested by the time we can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes ...........

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By *icesweetgirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If I have seen a pic I really like I have commented on it. I love big muscley chests. Never ask for a meet tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if I see a profile that catches my eye I don't mind making the first move afterall u don't no til u try. The guy is now my number one regular fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had unsolicited mail from a femail a couple of times, but almost all the time it is either a time waster, or it leads to several mails a couple of calls and then no meet at the end............. Who wants to be the first to break that rule?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's fantastic found good fb through it, i find it easier in person so although ive had a few replies. I tend to get myself across better when met in person. Have a fave fb who i see regularly but not met anyone off here for a while now. Just a few messages back and forth. Does go to show if take the plunge never know what might happen :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I get messages from single gals and think I may have initiated contact with 1 or 2 too, mostly it starts on the forums though.

I've messaged loads of males, again mostly re the forums

I even winked at a man

I will get round to perving profiles eventually but feel guilty when my inbox has unattended messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

Same here. I messaged a couple and got very nice thanks but no thanks. Hey ho.

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By *ayjay999Man
over a year ago

"Nope never, never need to as I get enough attention without fishing

Not happy with your age range

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Nope never sent a first messages to anyone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

"Unless it's regarding a forum post, I've not yet sent a first message - not saying I wouldn't, but I don't often browse profiles either

To can always make me the first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I winked once in return and he then gave me a gob full of abuse when I said I wasn't currently looking!!!! I was just showing appreciation of a good profile and pics and he had seen my profile first which clearly said I was here for chat only and not meeting, think he may have been the fab police!!??

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Yes I do... it's not that I need to, I just don't like sitting back and waiting to be thrown scraps.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Nope never, never need to as I get enough attention without fishing

May be you should try it.... you might not be having another qiet weekend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very rarely, I'm terribly shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

same here, ive never messaged a guy 1st on here, a couple of yrs ago i sent a guy a message on another site.... his reply was "lol, what a whale".... so now i let me come to me

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

^^ this.

The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point?"

So does that mean you don't like any of the people you meet?

Just imagine if guys had the same attitude.... we'd all be twiddling our thumbs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

same here, ive never messaged a guy 1st on here, a couple of yrs ago i sent a guy a message on another site.... his reply was "lol, what a whale".... so now i let me come to me

One guy who I chatted with first asked for a fanny shot, I obliged and he asked me wtf is that and did an aliens head explode between my legs! He was blocked!!!! Twat mine is not an exploded ham packet thank u very much! Bussy comment used, just for copyright purposes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

^^ this.

The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point?

So does that mean you don't like any of the people you meet?

Just imagine if guys had the same attitude.... we'd all be twiddling our thumbs."

It's true - it's me who gets those "scraps" you mentioned earlier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I get messages from single gals and think I may have initiated contact with 1 or 2 too, mostly it starts on the forums though.

I've messaged loads of males, again mostly re the forums

I even winked at a man

I will get round to perving profiles eventually but feel guilty when my inbox has unattended messages

True...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had three single women contact me on here in 7 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking for myself - If i have seen something, or someone i like - i go for it - i know we all here for the same thing at the end of the day - a good time - so i don't hold back xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that was all meant to be on this one...... lol soz xx

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Yep. In fact, I sent one just half an hour ago from our couples profile.

It's not often a profile catches my eye, but when I does - i'm not going to let the opportunity pass

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yes, i have sent message's to couple's, other single female and males.

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By *elestial NavigatorMan
over a year ago

The moon

Got a wink from a stunning looking woman...who when I winked back we got to chatting... soon gave me her number..told her to call me....but alas...was the very first time I had joined both here and the scene...so made a dogs ear of the phonecall through shear nerves...humming..erring..and not knowing how to proceed....ballsed it up basically...but since then?...nope have always made the introduction (which I dont mind at all)

Oh except for a couple of timewasters but do they count?

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By *elestial NavigatorMan
over a year ago

The moon

sorry she told me to call her...got that back to front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did when I joined but soon found that i have been undated with others simply because there are not enough ladies on here.

When I have made the first move I have found it interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did when I joined but soon found that i have been undated with others simply because there are not enough ladies on here.

When I have made the first move I have found it interesting"

"Interesting"?? Oh, please continue...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have had a lot of fun since joining and experienced some plastic fun which was wierd but erotic. Also been able to find a regular sub. Its opened up my eyes to more than I knew. i have even had a taster sub session which was good but not as great as being The Domme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men who receive messages out of the blue from women usually get the following.

"Nice arse"

"Nice body"

"Nice ..." etc

The man may get a woody, go all ape shit about it and reply.

But...the reply isn't the one he wants and it fizzles out.

From my experience I dont know if they're interested because we cannot see your body language or how you'd say it to us.

If its blatantly obvious then sure we will go along but I for one dont really stay interested in women who take days to respond whilst they're online throughout.

If I were an interest to you, why ignore it? Men have lives too so time issues are not a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Commenting on here must have been good had 2 single girls mail me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that too If someone is on here and doesnt reply then I take it that they are chatting to someone else. What I do Is Move O I get,n, plenty of fish in the sea.

I do however reply to every Message I think its only polite to return a message if someone has taaken the time to write to me even if its too say thanx but no thanx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can only speak for myself but i dont send out the first message

Id sooner wait for guys to contact me that way i know they are interested"

So when we having a shag then

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"I've had a few out of the blue, one girl messaged me and when I tried to replie she had blocked me, what's all that about there's nowt queer as folk!"

Lol that's more common than you think

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread"

Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I have has a few and have been flattered to receive them....

but i agree with polo... if men had the attitude of some of the women and waited because they had been turned down at some point... nothing would end up being done....

if you like the look of someone then why not? you never know....

its almost like a perverse set of mind games being played out... well I'll wait and wait and wait on them to make the first move........

what the......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread

Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !"

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread

Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !

It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread

Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !

It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon "
ive never as yet touched anyond with a cattle prod not from want of trying

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

Yes! I do send guys messages! Often when they have posted a new pic that catches my eye I will check out the profile and wink or message. Sometimes successful, sometimes not! Worst I've had back is no thanks.

Also am not shy approaching hotties in the chatrooms. Its not all about your inbox guys!!...

Curls x

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By *eoffcapesMan
over a year ago

I must be lucky then, as I've had more than a few.

Not complaining. The more the merrier!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread

Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !

It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon ive never as yet touched anyond with a cattle prod not from want of trying"

Your just kinky

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By *thlete0Couple
over a year ago

southend

We wait for them to message us then we know they are interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message when a profile catches my eye...worst that can happen is that they say sod off.

So what if they do??...move on, its no big deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

Same here. I messaged a couple and got very nice thanks but no thanks. Hey ho."

Susie

Long time no see honey.

Hope your good

xxx

A&J

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By *amnationsedgeMan
over a year ago

Ashborne

Nope, though I can understand that alot get messages all the time I would expect a few more to make an effort.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I can only speak for myself but i dont send out the first message

Id sooner wait for guys to contact me that way i know they are interested"

I do exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont ive had anyone woman or couple message me first and even when i do send a message i get nowhere so im stuck lol ive had an amzing meet on this site but its only been the 1 because no one else seems to want to meet me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ive had a few meets from this site before, but since moving back to Bristol and starting a new account not had much luck. Maybe my profile isn't written as well (i so should have saved the text took me ages to write) i blame dyslexia for not being able to get across who i really am!

Good luck with meets in the future, youve had one, so sure you can have others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yer i hope i can get more lol just think the age puts people of sometimes even though im truly 100 percent sure of being a swinger im not a time waster

yer i get nervous and shy at first but thats because i am new to this but my first meet was truly amazing :D and would love to meet more people :D now im working ill be able to go to swingers clubs as ive heard they are great for first time/new swingers :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm inundated, it's unbearable!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x

cant believe anyone would reply sorry your not my type to you, there loss big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes if I see a profile that catches my eye I don't mind making the first move afterall u don't no til u try. The guy is now my number one regular fb"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally send a wink to a lady, that way its upto her to make the decision of going any further.

However IF Im reading a thread / post whatever and someones comment etc stands out, makes me laugh, or just the profile pic is like 'Wowsers' id have to comment!!

Yes you know who you are lol. Or I hope u do??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink more than message, but have sent one or two...usually when I've had a quiet spell on receiving decent messages though I must admit x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U take ure time looking at ure wink list then Goldi lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had single fems initiate the chat, it's a surprise when it happens but a very welcome one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will say this however.

A woman coming up to you and with a smile asks your name and then gets you a drink.

It has thrown me off my horse once or twice but I like it. To be hunted comes as a surprise to men.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If I havent already posted - then the answer from me is yes.

If I have already posted then please ignore...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If and when I message first, it is usually to say how much I enjoy the gent's forum posts, or something in that line.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"If and when I message first, it is usually to say how much I enjoy the gent's forum posts, or something in that line.

Ahhhh the subtle approach eh Pearl?

I usually just go with 'Wanna shag?'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Be so much more simple i others went for the hard (no pun intended) sale and just said "wanna shag". I often have many a lovely message back and forth but it is just getting it to that stage of "so lets meet for the reason we joined this site" I try not to be pushy though and I'm not here just for the sex, though is a nice extra when it happens. Have a regular FB and a few meets but those were a while ago now and ready to meet some fun and interesting people (or just hot will do :P) once again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If and when I message first, it is usually to say how much I enjoy the gent's forum posts, or something in that line.

Ahhhh the subtle approach eh Pearl?

I usually just go with 'Wanna shag?'

I am far from subtle as you well know, however, it is just not the way I operate.

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

Have sent a first message or sent a little wink a handful of times if someone has really caught my eye and I can see they are into larger women... found it a little daunting but what's the worst that can happen?? They ignore you or say no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's happened to me a couple of times, but it's as rare as rocking horse poo.

im not surprized with the size of that beast!!!

ouch :-

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey yes! If I fancy a guy I will contact him

if he says no, so what? at least I tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. I have winked and messaged men. Why not lol

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