FabSwingers.com forum: Deleted messages

By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

(Probably mainly for the ladies and couples) when you receive a lot of messages do you mainly hit delete without looking or do you try and have a quick glance before deleting?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't get so many messages that we can't easily read them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read..

If im curious i will read profile.

Mostly delete..

Many messages are not personal..so they get automatically deleted.

Oh and any that start with babe/hun

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By *hesgotagreatassCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We mainly look as long as our profile has been read. However replying to all can be difficult.

Deleting happens when the message has no punctuation or says something along the lines of "fancy a f***".

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"We mainly look as long as our profile has been read. However replying to all can be difficult.

Deleting happens when the message has no punctuation or says something along the lines of "fancy a f***"."

Totally understandable. No tactics whatsoever. I wonder if those kind of messages even get 1 reply.

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"I read..

If im curious i will read profile.

Mostly delete..

Many messages are not personal..so they get automatically deleted.

Oh and any that start with babe/hun"

Hey, babe or hun is a pet hate for most fabbers I read from their profiles. Tbh sometimes I start to think what else is there to start a conversation. Maybe you could give me some advise

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"We don't get so many messages that we can't easily read them all. "

Judging by your pics you should have messages flooding in daily!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"We mainly look as long as our profile has been read. However replying to all can be difficult.

Deleting happens when the message has no punctuation or says something along the lines of "fancy a f***".

Totally understandable. No tactics whatsoever. I wonder if those kind of messages even get 1 reply. "

Tactics, sounds like game playin.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

End up getting quite a lot of messages that are only a few words long. These can be read without opening the message so it's just delete

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By *usy blondeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If I dont like the pic, profile name or what I can read without opening, I delete. If I am interested I go straight to the profile, if I dont like the profile then I delete the message without reading, if I do, I'll read the message. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I glance over and delete many without even opening. Those "Fancy a fuck?" Ones, those from guys who aren't local and without face pics attached. Some people kick off over it but it states clearly on my profile how I do things.

I use message filters so only those in my age range can message but the majority never bother to read my profile. So I don't waste my time reading their messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally messages without a profile picture get deleted immediately. Attached pictures always get my interest but like others have said if I open that message to see ‘hey babe’ or ‘how are you’ they get deleted. Likewise the clearly cut and paste messages trying to be witty annoy me. Just shows my profile hasn’t been read at all

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I read the profile and if it appeals to me but they haven't added a face pic I will reply but otherwise I block and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Probably mainly for the ladies and couples) when you receive a lot of messages do you mainly hit delete without looking or do you try and have a quick glance before deleting? "

You're forgetting us Tgirls we get many messages and personally I will only glance at messages that A have a profile picture and B have written more than a hi Xx

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't get a lot of messages as I have my filters pretty tight. But I delete ones from guys who keep messaging if I've already said no. Any new messages I look at their profile first if they cheated through my filters I just delete or if it's a basically blank no effort profile I do the same. Then the faf ones etc also get deleted. Apart from that when I have time I will usually try to answer even if it's a no thanks type if reply.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

If the messages are from miles away it's a straight delete. What's the point? We don't do travelling salesmen!

If the messages are from people close by then we read the profile of the sending person. If they do not meet what we are looking for then it's a delete as they have clearly not read ours. If the pictures are non existent or full of cocks and fuzzt then delete.

If it's a right well written message from a profile with classy pictures that meets what we are looking for then yes we could well engage!

Ultimately this is an addition to our sex life... Its an added spice. We will not meet just anyone.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"If the messages are from miles away it's a straight delete. What's the point? We don't do travelling salesmen!

If it's a right well written message from a profile with classy pictures that meets what we are looking for then yes we could well engage!

Ultimately this is an addition to our sex life... Its an added spice. We will not meet just anyone. "

Basically us, however if people are just saying things like, you look nice etc we might reply with a thanks.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

"We don't get so many messages that we can't easily read them all. "

*sends message.......

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

We quickly look at them without opening the message. A high percentage can be read fully like this, ie messages such as Hi, What U up 2 and Meet now?, so they just get left or deleted. We tend to open messages that indicate photos attached but quickly delete if they’re cock pics.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

We will look at their profile before opening msgs to read, if the profile is blank with no profile pic, no public pics and very little about the person we will just delete without reading it, we get loads of msgs from people as far as London that sometimes we delete straight away, don't see the point in talking as a meet will never happen.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

(When my filters allow new messages)

I read the message and look at any attached pictures (if I can do this without opening the message, I delete unread)

I then look at the profile and any pictures

I make my decision on that basis.

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By *ub_n_wifeCouple
over a year ago

Spilsby

We tend to look at the profile then read the message out of curiosity. We have our preferences I guess but we’re not overly quick to dismiss anyone based on those alone.

Being a little curious often finds decent people that some would instantly delete.

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By *INTONIC300Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow/Manchester/Edinburgh

I don't receive too many messages on a daily basis so I will reply to most even if it's a simple thank you

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) read all our messages because we're not overloaded. Ones with no thought put into them (eg "Hey") get deleted. Anything that took more than a brain cell to write gets a reply. I show anything to Hannah that I think she might be interested in.

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"We mainly look as long as our profile has been read. However replying to all can be difficult.

Deleting happens when the message has no punctuation or says something along the lines of "fancy a f***".

Totally understandable. No tactics whatsoever. I wonder if those kind of messages even get 1 reply.

Tactics, sounds like game playin."

I don’t know another word. Elegance?

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"I glance over and delete many without even opening. Those "Fancy a fuck?" Ones, those from guys who aren't local and without face pics attached. Some people kick off over it but it states clearly on my profile how I do things.

I use message filters so only those in my age range can message but the majority never bother to read my profile. So I don't waste my time reading their messages "

Not reading the profile Is a real big bearer for me. So frustrating at times. Then have the cheek to kick off.

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"(Probably mainly for the ladies and couples) when you receive a lot of messages do you mainly hit delete without looking or do you try and have a quick glance before deleting?

You're forgetting us Tgirls we get many messages and personally I will only glance at messages that A have a profile picture and B have written more than a hi Xx"

Sorry Tgirls. No offence intended. X

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We always try and answer every message we have even if it’s a “fancy a fuck”message..We always are polite even if it’s just a no thanks your not what we are looking for.

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

"I don't receive too many messages on a daily basis so I will reply to most even if it's a simple thank you

Manners cost nothing

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By *uck1buddy OP Man
over a year ago

midlands

I have some sent messages that are unopened And I’m wondering if they’re apart of the mass clear out. How would I know because I’d like to delete it my end otherwise.

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By *wistedbambi69Woman
over a year ago

Somerset

I use message filters so only those in my age range can message but the majority never bother to read my profile. So I don't waste my time reading their messages "

Exactly this

I have what I'm looking for in my profile if they can be bothered to read it. Though if it is just a nice message, not looking to meet, I do try to reply to as many as I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there’s 100s, I scan thru the message heading u can usually tell by the first line what type of message it’s gonna be, it’s a great sieve

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