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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are there any other people on here who are swinging partners but not fb's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are there any other people on here who are swinging partners but not fb's.

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i think they are one and the same...

i have fems i see on here and other sites who i see every now and then for sex. they see other people too so i suppose would be classed as swingers like me. but as we essentially fuck each other but are not in a relationship i woudl class them as FBs as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I know .. and basically ia fuck buddy is anyone that you're currently fucking but I wondered if there are any people on here as a swinging couple (not necessarily in a relationship) who don't actually have a sexual relationship with each other?

A kind of partnership of conveneince.

I just think it's too wierd and I'm not sure I'm altogether happy with the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean like someone that you will go to things with but don't play together???

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes exactly

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now see I have a few mates like that.. I wouldnt ever swing with them... but I like them as people..but we have become too good a friend to get sex into it..

But I like it like that.. I have a laugh, they have company and will watch out for me.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I know .. and basically ia fuck buddy is anyone that you're currently fucking but I wondered if there are any people on here as a swinging couple (not necessarily in a relationship) who don't actually have a sexual relationship with each other?

A kind of partnership of conveneince.

I just think it's too wierd and I'm not sure I'm altogether happy with the situation."

not really come across that before..

you mean they have meets with other couples but dont sex with each other? only with the other couple?

thats just convenience so they can get more meets maybe!! better deal for the guy i would have thought...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep ... mmm ... that's what I susected Kenny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep ... mmm ... that's what I susected Kenny

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i take it this has been suggested to you possibly!! just reading between the lines...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Kind of a situation I found myself in without realising it and it's just dawned on me.

Niaive or just blonde - you decide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a female friend whom i see regular - she is for intence and purposes my FB in true sense - however she does not want to join any of the sites although we are a chat only site elsewhere - if that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kind of a situation I found myself in without realising it and it's just dawned on me.

Niaive or just blonde - you decide?"

just trusting probably....

bit of mean trick if that was his intention...

chalk it down as a bad one and move on..

have fun

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I can't say I have ever come across a pair meeting as a couple yet never actually playing with eachother.

I have swinging mates I don't have sex with and we have gone together to parties and socials, even dogging... but we've gone as mates not as a couple.

It sounds quite odd to give the appearance of being a couple to meet other couples but not want to play with eachother.

I did have a gay friend once who used women as 'straight bait'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah I know .. and basically ia fuck buddy is anyone that you're currently fucking but I wondered if there are any people on here as a swinging couple (not necessarily in a relationship) who don't actually have a sexual relationship with each other?

A kind of partnership of conveneince.

I just think it's too wierd and I'm not sure I'm altogether happy with the situation.

not really come across that before..

you mean they have meets with other couples but dont sex with each other? only with the other couple?

thats just convenience so they can get more meets maybe!! better deal for the guy i would have thought..."

I have a guy i go to clubs and parties with and we dont play, i dont drive so its a kind of you scratch my back relationship, he gives me a lift and i get him party invites and get him into clubs

Personally i cant see how its hurting anyone??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can..even those I've met can still accompany me to parties etc...there is no need to re-play with someone, but having their company again can be good!-Though I'd normally prioritize with someone I'm shagging lol...and likewise most likely!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

but it is hurtful

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"but it is hurtful"

What is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but it is hurtful"

If it's hurtful, find someone different hon. It's supposed to fun after all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't imagine swinging with you available and not wanting to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!"

the guy i go to clubs and parties with sometimes i have known for years and for us its just a agreement, i dont drive and as a single man he finds it hard to get party invites and get into clubs, so i get him invites and he drives me there and brings me home after, we have never played together its just a case of helping a friend, we have on occasion played with a couple, four of us in a room together but not played with each other or we go our own way

I dont expect a shag so it dont bother me if i dont get one, i dont find it hurtful, i just need transport to get to places and he need a woman to get hin more invites, its an arrangment that works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!"

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold. "

Oh my...where do I start...given half the situation...from the OPs perspective..there seems to be a jump into assumptions of this guys behavior.

Perhaps he likes the OPs company, but just doesnt find her attractive.

Perhaps he is willing to provide some safety and reassurance(if its needed) to the OP

He hasnt tried to fuck her,or promise more than he can offer to the OP just for the sake of it..

seems to me if he has sex ,initiates sex with the OP when he doesnt actually want to...thatd be worse...would it not???

maybe the using part can go two ways in a club no??-meet a nice cpl,he has ur back u have his blahhblahh u now what I mean

now there IS using and there is USING

before I rant anymore, perhaps like me...he doesnt actually want a FB..its a term that can lead to many more things when its not wanted.Surely there is room for friendship..

or have we all decided this man is a right cunt for not stringing the OP along and is most definitely using her to gain access to other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold.

Oh my...where do I start...given half the situation...from the OPs perspective..there seems to be a jump into assumptions of this guys behavior.

Perhaps he likes the OPs company, but just doesnt find her attractive.

Perhaps he is willing to provide some safety and reassurance(if its needed) to the OP

He hasnt tried to fuck her,or promise more than he can offer to the OP just for the sake of it..

seems to me if he has sex ,initiates sex with the OP when he doesnt actually want to...thatd be worse...would it not???

maybe the using part can go two ways in a club no??-meet a nice cpl,he has ur back u have his blahhblahh u now what I mean

now there IS using and there is USING

before I rant anymore, perhaps like me...he doesnt actually want a FB..its a term that can lead to many more things when its not wanted.Surely there is room for friendship..

or have we all decided this man is a right cunt for not stringing the OP along and is most definitely using her to gain access to other women."

do men on here do that?

take women they dont fancy to clubs etc so they can look after her?

how very kind of them and here was me thinking they just wanted someone to get them in cheap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold.

Oh my...where do I start...given half the situation...from the OPs perspective..there seems to be a jump into assumptions of this guys behavior.

Perhaps he likes the OPs company, but just doesnt find her attractive.

Perhaps he is willing to provide some safety and reassurance(if its needed) to the OP

He hasnt tried to fuck her,or promise more than he can offer to the OP just for the sake of it..

seems to me if he has sex ,initiates sex with the OP when he doesnt actually want to...thatd be worse...would it not???

maybe the using part can go two ways in a club no??-meet a nice cpl,he has ur back u have his blahhblahh u now what I mean

now there IS using and there is USING

before I rant anymore, perhaps like me...he doesnt actually want a FB..its a term that can lead to many more things when its not wanted.Surely there is room for friendship..

or have we all decided this man is a right cunt for not stringing the OP along and is most definitely using her to gain access to other women.

do men on here do that?

take women they dont fancy to clubs etc so they can look after her?

how very kind of them and here was me thinking they just wanted someone to get them in cheap "

well both things are possible lol..I just like to put a possible non-negative slant on things..

but everybody is right, guys being an alleged tit...wonder if that helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just think men should be honest about what they are after, i think are must be lots of women on here in teh same boat as me who dont have transport so would be willing to get to know someone who would give them a lift in return for getting them into clubs

Its the bull shit that hurt, men making out they like you only to ignor you all night

Ive had it a few times and its not a nice feeling to know your good enough to use to get them in but not good enough to spend time with after

if people was honest about what they was after it would save all this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i just think men should be honest about what they are after, i think are must be lots of women on here in teh same boat as me who dont have transport so would be willing to get to know someone who would give them a lift in return for getting them into clubs

Its the bull shit that hurt, men making out they like you only to ignor you all night

Ive had it a few times and its not a nice feeling to know your good enough to use to get them in but not good enough to spend time with after

if people was honest about what they was after it would save all this"

I agree entirely NN..I've just been trying to see where the OP has said anything about the guy in question not liking the OP on any other level than just the sexual one.As u and cali have pointed out, U's have ur friends, and I'm just wondering if this could be acceptable for the guy in question to have the same outlook.Rather than some the branding he's receiving on the thread.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold. "

I'm glad you think you understand because I still am not sure what the situation is.

If it is how you understand it to be and he's placed his cards on the table and given the OP a choice.... I can't see he has done anything wrong.

Surely being honest is better than him biting the bullet, taking one for the team to get it over with and then fucking off to do his own thing.

Having said that, I've known a few woman pretty much bribe a guy into shagging them with promises of club entry and access to parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but surely you'd expect ONE shag! ... just can't do anything like that with someone who I know doesn't find me ateast a little bit desirable!

Ah I think I understand now. Some bloke has asked you to go to clubs/ meets with him, but he doesn't want to play with you? That's lower than low. Don't take it personally, he sounds like a total ass.

I could understand mates going to clubs like a few people have said. But for him to approach you just with that intention.... well that's just cold.

I'm glad you think you understand because I still am not sure what the situation is.

If it is how you understand it to be and he's placed his cards on the table and given the OP a choice.... I can't see he has done anything wrong.

Surely being honest is better than him biting the bullet, taking one for the team to get it over with and then fucking off to do his own thing.

Having said that, I've known a few woman pretty much bribe a guy into shagging them with promises of club entry and access to parties."

i think, and im only reading between the lines here, that some guy as asked the OP to meet, hes made out he likes her and wants to meet her but in the meet, that obviously involves others, he has ingored the OP and only played with other woman, making it sound like hes used her in order to get a meet when he didnt really like her as such but just saw her as a woman who would be a stepping stone to get to who he was really after

Now i could be worng but thats how it reads to me

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


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i think, and im only reading between the lines here, that some guy as asked the OP to meet, hes made out he likes her and wants to meet her but in the meet, that obviously involves others, he has ingored the OP and only played with other woman, making it sound like hes used her in order to get a meet when he didnt really like her as such but just saw her as a woman who would be a stepping stone to get to who he was really after

Now i could be worng but thats how it reads to me "

I sort of thought that at first... but the thing which threw me was the OP's comment "I just think it's too wierd and I'm not sure I'm altogether happy with the situation."

Now if that comment had started "the lying bastard" then it would very strongly indication she had been spun a line or two.... but as it is, it doesn't do that. If anything it sounds like he's asked to go places together meaning one thing and it may have been misunderstood as meaning something else and when the something else didn't happen the penny droppped.

But even that is a guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

..thankyou for your comments, you all have valid points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..thankyou for your comments, you all have valid points.

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anyway OP..fancy a shag...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol .... you're on ...

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