FabSwingers.com forum: Is this quite common ???

By *huckandchase OP Couple
over a year ago

st albans

Meet a couple last week which only the female had sex with both of us, the husband enjoyed watching his partner being fucked but she said that she was not happy watching him with another woman.

We knew before we met but thinking about it afterwards wondered why and if this was common

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know if it's common or not but I think it's just how people are. It's not the same as sharing a bag of chips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooohhh dangerous ground really, especialy if he would like to play but she doesnt like it.. seems a bit selfish to me..

" its ok for another guy to fuck me but your not getting any other pussy!!!"..

i know it suits some couples if the man is ok with it but it has led to trouble and jealousy on many occasions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet a couple last week which only the female had sex with both of us, the husband enjoyed watching his partner being fucked but she said that she was not happy watching him with another woman.

We knew before we met but thinking about it afterwards wondered why and if this was common"

No idea how common it is, but we would walk away from that kind of situation. 'Something' is going on in that relationship, and we are there to have sexual fun - not work out what's going on in the other couples minds. Too bloody old for mind games!!!! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i played with a cpl ages ago and they just met men. He also played with mrs but was enough for him to see her enjoy herself and not envolve another cpl or woman. It takes a bit of understanding from a male point of view, they have a very strong relationship and they sought what they wanted. The men and women are on this site for their own reasons, so are some cpls. Take cuckold cpls for example. A very attractive wife getting bulled in front of her husband. Explain that to some men and they wont get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is quite common... I often get messages from couples that want to watch me getting fucked.. and Master would happily watch.

To be fair its often nothing to do with the woman saying the guy can't... some guys get off on watching another with their partner.

Master can have who he wants, when he wants, but still says watching me with guys is better than fucking someone else..

As long as everyone is happy with it then its all good...

However, it wouldnt be for me really as that would be 2 women to one guy.. really not enough cock or cum for me lol

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had the odd guy (some very odd

) approach us with a 'friend' and they've said their 'friend' would only do separate room as they didn't like seeing them with another woman - obviously, we declined.

If you're going to have a foursome then all should be happy with doing all, and if they're not they shouldn't be doing it in the first place.

Takes all sorts I suppose, but the thought of that kind of thing flaring up at a meet is worrying.

Wolf

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sometimes we tend to try to think too deeply about things, wanting explanations etc. Often the simplest explanation is just that those people wanted that experience at that time, and it met/didn't meet our own.

An experience may be another's first exploration of it, or it may be a favourite, often repeated pleasure. With others they may do something different, but they fancied that with you.

As long as you/they are happy, and needs are met, it doesn't matter, if there's no deception involved. And as long as they two of you know what you really want, and only meet with others that have complementary interests, you're fine.

I've given up trying to ascertain what's common, and only occasionally wonder why people want what they pursue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it wasn't a cuck type of situation, was she "too good for him" ? A bit depressing if thats the case and hes just willing to do anything to keep her happy so she stays with him.

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I am always surprised what some say... I though being swingers would mean you have an open mind. Maybe thats how the couple mentioned in the OP get their kicks and as long as they are happy that way who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair you often get this the other way around.. I had missed a bit on the OP...

Many women don't feel confident enough and it takes time.. same can be said with guys..

I have spoken to many women at socials and on their profiles they state.." I don't need other men to fuck, as I am perfectly happy"... but when I speak with them, its the fact their partners don't want them having other men in case they are better..

It can work for some though... and watching can be amazing.. Even though Master can.. as I said.. he often prefers to just watch me.. but then we don't tend to play with groups that involve other women..

And no thats not because I won't share Master, but because I like to be the only female full stop lol

However, I would love to sit back and watch my Master in a 3sum with a nice couple.. and just watch.. and know that after it was over I could have my Master all horny and wanting me..

Cali

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

"Meet a couple last week which only the female had sex with both of us, the husband enjoyed watching his partner being fucked but she said that she was not happy watching him with another woman.

We knew before we met but thinking about it afterwards wondered why and if this was common"

It's an interesting question this.

I have over a couple of years become good friends with a couple whom are swingers who live in Atlanta, USA.

Now they play together and she also plays alone with single guys and couples, but whenever she plays alone it's always videoed and in some part photographed too for her hubby to watch.

They have also arranged many meets where he is present but doesn't join in. Now he defo isn't cuckold and she simply wouldn't play if he wasn't treated with the utmost respect and that he approved of everything that happens.

The "magic" for him is that he really does enjoy watching his wife having full penetrative sex, BJ's, oral on her and any other mix you care to think up.

She's currently pregnant and therefore hasn't played at all this year. But in chat the other day she was telling me how much her man enjoys watching the videos of her, that it turns him on, and then she gets the benefit of sensual sexy fun with him.

I think if you know what the rules are before you meet well thats all well and good and so long as everyone is clearly happy and comfortable with the situation, who am I to judge whats right and wrong. Where it is wrong though is when a meet is arranged between 2 couples and your expecting a full swap to find out one doesn't or won't play on that occasion as that would definately make me feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet a couple last week which only the female had sex with both of us, the husband enjoyed watching his partner being fucked but she said that she was not happy watching him with another woman.

We knew before we met but thinking about it afterwards wondered why and if this was common"

More common than you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know if it's common or not but I think it's just how people are. It's not the same as sharing a bag of chips

Sure it is.

I will nab all the chips out of other peoples portions but god help them if they do it to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was married we used to meet as a couple and my ex hardly ever played, he used to like to watch me with guys, he had no interest in seeing me with women but the more the better as far as men go

We used to go to clubs and go into a open room and start playing and as guys joined in he would back off and watch

That was nothing to do with me i wouldnt have minded if he did play he just didnt want to

Some people do get off more on watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Mr loves watching me with another man, he enjoys it more then watching me with a woman but I allow him to go with another woman another time, have to give and take, if there's jealousy then swingings not for you!

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

"My Mr loves watching me with another man, he enjoys it more then watching me with a woman but I allow him to go with another woman another time, have to give and take, if there's jealousy then swingings not for you!

Pretty much the same for us. If we're having a MFM we all play together but I also enjoy just sitting back and watching Mrs with another guy. Same with some couples, it can be swap or all in together but it also happens that any one of the 4 may just sit back and watch for a while. Don't see anything strange about a 1 of a 4 ONLY watching if that's what they prefer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to each and every one of us to do what we are happy with , and as long as everyone knows beforehand then whatever that is should be acceptable .

What isn't acceptable is when folk think they know better with comments like ' shouldn't be swinging ' and assume it should be all about what they do as being the right way to do it !

There is no right way - we are all entitled to do as we please without judgement

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"It's up to each and every one of us to do what we are happy with , and as long as everyone knows beforehand then whatever that is should be acceptable .

What isn't acceptable is when folk think they know better with comments like ' shouldn't be swinging ' and assume it should be all about what they do as being the right way to do it !

There is no right way - we are all entitled to do as we please without judgement

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now thast just not British lol

It could be thats the way the relationship is between them or that she is a jealous so and so. Me personally if i was in a relationship I would want my parnter to fuck other women and watch too and men but thats because it turns me on.

frankly whats good to the Cat is good for the Dog

just a shame im single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite what people would like to believe, it seems there is a lot of insecurity in swinging.

We've seen profiles where it's patently obvious that the woman doesn't want her other half in on the action with the other woman.

We've also met a couple were the guy just couldn't seem to get it together.

It was later revealed that they played separately because he couldn't really relax in the same room while his partner had sex with someone else.

It seems that some couples should ask themselves if swinging is really for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's up to each and every one of us to do what we are happy with , and as long as everyone knows beforehand then whatever that is should be acceptable .

What isn't acceptable is when folk think they know better with comments like ' shouldn't be swinging ' and assume it should be all about what they do as being the right way to do it !

There is no right way - we are all entitled to do as we please without judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do know couples were only one plays and the other watches. If it works for them cool. Wouldn't want to pressurise someone into having sex if the didn't want to. To me isnt it just cuckolding or voyeurism from the guys view x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if the guy wants to play but can't, it is a bit selfish and controlling if the female is allowed all the sex but doesn't like the idea of seeing her man with another.

my ex was a bit like that, only certain things i was allowed to do and she had sucked a lot of cock before i was allowed to go down on a girl. sex should be free and fun without the rules. There were rules within the rest of our relationship too, but lasted 3 years so not all bad.

If however he likes to watch and doesn't like to play, then its ok if it works for them. Everyone has different view points but within the moment it is nice to just let go, so hopefully it was his choice and not hers.

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By *amslam1000Man
over a year ago

willenhall

I visit a couple he has heart problems and cant get it up and not able to use viagra he warms the mrs up i shag her and he cuddles her after. I'm just there so she is satisfied no relationship both are happy

me i get a shag lol

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Ive met a few couples and its quite often the case that the guy watched until the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's up to each and every one of us to do what we are happy with , and as long as everyone knows beforehand then whatever that is should be acceptable .

What isn't acceptable is when folk think they know better with comments like ' shouldn't be swinging ' and assume it should be all about what they do as being the right way to do it !

There is no right way - we are all entitled to do as we please without judgement

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

As long as they told you before the meet then it's all good.

Its only an issue if they don't inform you beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need salt n vinigar, mushy pease, then its ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as they told you before the meet then it's all good.

Its only an issue if they don't inform you beforehand."

If everyone is honest about what they want then so be it. It wouldn't work for me personally having one person sat away from the action, but then I'd choose not to meet people who wanted to watch rather than play. I get the kink, but I'm more of a 'doer' than a 'watcher'.

I guess generally (although I know not always!) men are more voyeuristic than women and so watching would be a huge turn on. Some people enjoy swingers clubs just to watch rather than play.

So long at both parties in the couple are happy with how they play, leave them to it and just play with those who tick the right boxes for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am always surprised what some say... I though being swingers would mean you have an open mind. Maybe thats how the couple mentioned in the OP get their kicks and as long as they are happy that way who cares

And I noted that some straight away had to find fault with the 'selfish' lady concerned. Very sad.

I meet an older couple and the guy just loves seeing his wife being totally pleasured. Sometimes he leaves the room and likes to just hear us. Its a genuine buzz for him. And I can assure you it has nothing to do with his not being able to ... As he says 'I get the benefits after you have gone'.

We all Swing in so many different ways ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would Scarper!! Doesnt sound gd at all!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would Scarper!! Doesnt sound gd at all!!"

So why doesn't it sound good? Does every meet with a couple have to be a full on active MMF?

Presumably you get to understand how people play before meeting and so why would this be a problem?

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