FabSwingers.com forum: Age

By *ncore OP Man
over a year ago

poulton

We have been together for 7 years now. We are 22 and went to our first club at 19. If you saw us in a club, our preferred play ground, would you judge us or be put off in any way due to our age?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your profile says your after people 18 to 30 so if you saw me in a club would you judge me?

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By *ncore OP Man
over a year ago

poulton

Our preferred age range isn't a matter of judgement more of a case of Preference we have played with much older than 30 and had just as much fun. We just find it easier to socialise with closer our age range hence the preference. However we can sometimes feel looked at as though we are too young and out of place. This feeling has never stopped us and wont, we just want a general view from people on the matter?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Our preferred age range isn't a matter of judgement more of a case of Preference we have played with much older than 30 and had just as much fun. We just find it easier to socialise with closer our age range hence the preference. However we can sometimes feel looked at as though we are too young and out of place. This feeling has never stopped us and wont, we just want a general view from people on the matter?"

some peoples preference is not the play with people young enough to be their son or daughter...

some peoples preference is not the play with people old enough to be mum or dad...

you kinda answered your own question...

"We just find it easier to socialise with closer our age range hence the preference".............. I am guessing that others will feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our preferred age range isn't a matter of judgement more of a case of Preference"

there you go then and that probably goes for most on here

All because a lot want to meet people as young as you does not mean they will judge you

I feel people your age are to young for me but if i saw you in a club i would still talk to you, i dont think your to young to swing or go to clubs just to young for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some peoples preference is not the play with people young enough to be their son or daughter...

some peoples preference is not the play with people old enough to be mum or dad...

you kinda answered your own question...

yet isn't it funny how people age 40 won't play with people age 20 as old enough to be kids but a 50yr old would play with someone 30....but still same age gap!

not pointing out anyone etc etc and just used 20yrs gap as example. before i get slack! xx

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By *ncore OP Man
over a year ago

poulton

But if I see people old enough to be mum dad or grandparents I personally don't form a judgement on them for being in a swinging environment.

I suppose I should rephrase myself by asking are people as young as ourselves socially accepted among swingers whether in clubs private meets or even swinging holidays? And are younger people really being judged negatively for playing in this manner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But if I see people old enough to be mum dad or grandparents I personally don't form a judgement on them for being in a swinging environment.

But you say you get on better with people your own age and not really looking for older, the only people who will judge you on your age are people your not looking for anyway, so why worry what someone you dont even want to meet thinks about you?

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By *ncore OP Man
over a year ago

poulton

If you are in a club there is not much choice. You don't chose who is there. And when we have been in the presence of older people it has sometimes, note only sometimes! Felt uncomfortable. Just wondering if it's us or if it is frowned upon? I only recently found out some clubs are 25 or over? Personally don't understand why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some peoples preference is not the play with people young enough to be their son or daughter...

some peoples preference is not the play with people old enough to be mum or dad...

you kinda answered your own question...

yet isn't it funny how people age 40 won't play with people age 20 as old enough to be kids but a 50yr old would play with someone 30....but still same age gap!

not pointing out anyone etc etc and just used 20yrs gap as example. before i get slack! xx"

I wouldn't as I work on the basis that if I am old enough to have given birth to them, they are too young for me, and that includes clubs too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I wouldn't judge you as personally, a club is open to any age (above whatever their minimum age is) and I have no right to judge someone for why they are swinging. And I have been to a club where there was an 18 yr old girl, my friends and I just chatted to her like she was one of us but did kind of do the motherly/fatherly thing of making sure she wasn't alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We posted similiar question few days ago, get ready for the sarcasm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you should worry when in clubs when I have been its filled with young people. You have just as much right to be in a club having fun than a 50 year old don't worry bout it. Which I'm sure your age has never stopped you from having any fun. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

If I was a club-type person, no I wouldn't be put off. But my expectations would be low as many people do have age preferences..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't understand why there is an age restriction either. We would happily chat and if we clicked play with you both , as indeed we have in the past with couples your age !

The whole thing about being as young as your kids in the swing scene is not something we even think about !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To OP - the more I read this thread (and your profile) the more I keep asking myself if there is a bigger question you want answered.....?

The two of you have been together 7yrs since you were 15, been going to clubs since, one assumes, the age of 18. Your profile says you still haven't done full swap - only soft.

The question I have is...... have you reached a bit of a turning point in your relationship? You are CLEARLY looking at the more mature swingers you meet/see in clubs and asking yourself a number of questions. You also keep speaking in the singular - not 'we'.... May I ask when was the last time the two of you sat down and had a really good, in-depth conversation about where your relationship is going and how each of you sees it?

We ALL change at various points in our lives. The one you hit at the age of 21 (ish) is a BIG one, and from what I can see, both of you have reached that point. One assumes you are the same age.

There seems to be a conflict between becoming more mature in the 'real world' and making the move from soft to full swap in the swinging world....

Okay that's the Freudian/Jungian bit over...

It's very easy for people our age to cast judgement over anyone younger than ourselves, but we all do it. What everyone has already said about not swapping with anyone young enough to be our kids is true - it's part of the primeval caring 'thing' that you don't have sex with your kids! And we all know what those who do are called....

The thing is, I can remember just how sexually naive I was at your age. Things that are taken almost for granted at my age, were still a BIG deal when I was 22 - hence that puts a barrier in the way.

Being accepted by older swingers is going to be far more to do with how you present/project yourselves to others. At the moment, I think there may be things within your relationship stopping you making that transition...

Just my thoughts - and what do I know?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wot PorkyPerky said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wot PorkyPerky said

Well, it was me (Pork) actually

I'm the

She's the

And thank you btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok serious reply

we hear is said see it written hundreds if not thousands of times that Age is but a number and its all down to personailty and likability etc etc

On a slighlty different tangent - my very limited experience of meeting younger people of any sex; is that they have in the main been far to eager in bed and have not learnt the art of foreplay- teasing- flirting before you try to fuck each other silly and (please dont shoot me down now); i my experiences are that when a younger person climaxes they are off like a shot and its panties/pants on and we are off byeeeeee - which for us who like to play on even after we cum; its a bit off putting especially after you have given them what they wanted

Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

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By *jeasyriderMan
over a year ago

near paisley

age is a number in my book

dont no why people judge for that

even when i mail some 1 who says am to old the user was 40

strange rally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again "

.. so Pork steps on to it!

When I was 23 I had a relationship with a 52yr old lady for a few months. Turned me from being a boy in bed, to being a man (Perky may of course challenge that viewpoint, but I will have words with her later.....) and it was THE single best thing I have ever done sexually. Prior to that, I would never have even considered jumping into bed with a 652yr old as I viewed her as being old enough to be my Mum! To say it was an eye-opener is a massive understatement.

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

that makes my point exactly - well said

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

in life people do make judgements it's human nature and I think that you will experience people looking at you in a negative fashion because of your age just as I do from the other end of the spectrum.

Sometimes more mature people hold lack of experience against younger people..don't know why it goes with the territory after all however some younger people make assumptions about us more mature ones.

I (F)find (off topic a bit I know) that male GPs tend to assume that any problem I go to them with is going to be down to my age or what one rather patronisingly called "empty nest syndrome".

So yes, you will get the odd person who makes judgements based on your age but lots of people are broadminded enough to realise that judging people on one characteristic is a mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be a conflict between becoming more mature in the 'real world' and making the move from soft to full swap in the swinging world

.....so to be in the 'real world' and become more mature you need to full swap instead of soft? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but lets not all paint everyone with the Same brush....not all 'young' people are 30 second romps with no sexual clue or idea......just like all 'older' people are not sex gods and sooo amazing in bed!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wow 19 in a club

bet ur girl was well pop with all the middle aged men

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

652 year old? Methusaleh's wife?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

some peoples preference is not the play with people young enough to be their son or daughter...

some peoples preference is not the play with people old enough to be mum or dad...

you kinda answered your own question...

yet isn't it funny how people age 40 won't play with people age 20 as old enough to be kids but a 50yr old would play with someone 30....but still same age gap!

not pointing out anyone etc etc and just used 20yrs gap as example. before i get slack! xx"

that may well be... although in the arguement you are putting forward I would say there "normally" is maturity wise a bigger difference between a 20yr old and a 40yr..... than there would be between a 30 yr old and a 50 yr old... life stuff, ect ect ect......

but again they answered the question with the answer "comfort zones"....

they feel more comfortable around people their own age... so why wouldn't others older feel exactly the same way.....

otherwise what we are in danger of saying now is "well you can have them, and I have the same... but if they impend on me I'll scream merry hell!!"

it does slightly smack of "having the cake and eating it"

maybe the one thing that should come out of it is a better understanding... from BOTH sides of the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about what anyone else thought! Everyone on this site started swinging at a certain age! Whether that be in their 20's, 30's, 40's or even older!

Age to me is just a number, as long as the person/people are legal, and mature enough to handle the feelings that the swinging lifestyle can involve! I.E. That green eyed monster, jealousy!

As long as you and your partner are both happy, then just be yourselfs and continue until you both feel differently!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been together for 7 years now. We are 22 and went to our first club at 19. If you saw us in a club, our preferred play ground, would you judge us or be put off in any way due to our age?"

As you have said yourself people may choose not to play with you for age reasons. That is far from judging its just a preference.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We have been together for 7 years now. We are 22 and went to our first club at 19. If you saw us in a club, our preferred play ground, would you judge us or be put off in any way due to our age?"

to get back to your original point though I persoanlly wouldn't judge you because of your age but I would choose not to play with you because of it, which is down to judgemnet in one sense but not in a critical way. Like so many other women who post here I would feel odd with someone the same age as my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

652 year old? Methusaleh's wife?

Yeah, but she had one hell of a BJ technique - lucky old Methusaleh

(Bloody keyboard!!!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be a conflict between becoming more mature in the 'real world' and making the move from soft to full swap in the swinging world

.....so to be in the 'real world' and become more mature you need to full swap instead of soft? xx"

No, but the two 'maturities' are running parallel for this couple (well, the guy) and may well be at different points. That was what I was trying to get at (didn't phrase it too well)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have to be honest and say we prefer over forties have had meets in the past with younger but there always seems to be a lot of head games,its supposed to be fun and older couples tend to know what they want.Just our preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be a conflict between becoming more mature in the 'real world' and making the move from soft to full swap in the swinging world

.....so to be in the 'real world' and become more mature you need to full swap instead of soft? xx

No, but the two 'maturities' are running parallel for this couple (well, the guy) and may well be at different points. That was what I was trying to get at (didn't phrase it too well)

ah i see! Xx

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

the thoughts "Lucky Bugger" spring to mind here...

Mind you, although having a 52 year old when I was 23 sounds very interesting, I'm a bit more picky than Pork and refuse to even date never mind have sexual relations with a 652 year old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

the thoughts "Lucky Bugger" spring to mind here...

Mind you, although having a 52 year old when I was 23 sounds very interesting, I'm a bit more picky than Pork and refuse to even date never mind have sexual relations with a 652 year old

I can see I am being made to suffer for ones inattentive keyboard skills........

lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yorkman - steps of his soap box again

.. so Pork steps on to it!

But..... I was at the point in MY life where I was ready to make that change - and I took the opportunity with both hands - literally!

I take you mean a 65yr old, i don't think necrophilia is your thing darling hahaha

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