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can swinging and bdsm go hand in hand

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we have been swinging 8 years now and have dabbled with bdsm but wondered if the two can gel together or not ?

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By *encarolCouple
over a year ago

Tyneside

yes of course they can , something we have dabbled in but just a little

mind you , you need to find the right people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on you as a couple and what others are wanting..

We don't mix the two..but then we don't allow others to dominate me either... Bdsm is something that is just between us because of the levels of trust involved.. Something that we could never have with a meet.. no matter how many times we have met them..

However, we don't count playful spanking as bdsm.. yet some may... but even that is a rare thing for someone else to do with myself.

We are on the extreme end of the spectrum though for what we enjoy within our bdsm relationship, alot of it is mental and emotional over physical... so obviously we have to be careful...

I think you could take a few bits and mix it in.. but nothing serious.

For instance something we have done is have me tied and blindfolded.. and I know that the person is going to follow my Masters instructions to the letter.. I have no idea who or what they are going to do...

good luck with whatever you decide.. and with anything in this life... it will work if you want it too...

Cali

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By *witch mix vanillaCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We love to share our BDSM knowledge with swingers when we are in a club, this is by showing them that BDSM can be sensual, mind play and maybe pain, but this happens in selected clubs, and also depending on the person/persons involved.

As for full on swinging and BDSM, it only seems to happen in about 5% of cases in public.

If friendships happen the right couple could take you back to their home.

If your saying Dom / Sub situation, then any true Dom who is playing will not get a hard as he is concentrating his mind on bdsm play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it not all about experimenting and pushing your own bounderies weather its swinging or bdsm. And being sexually confident x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

all very valid answers and thankyou,i guess for us its probably more about trust than anything else

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

Hard to find cpls who enjoy and go as far as us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sounds like a challenge snow bunny lol x

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

it can but i think you have to have certain aspects that can work for you as cali said the main part relies so strongly on trust that you cant do it when you have a meet with someone I trust Sir to look after me when in a club and he will sometimes blindfold and restrain me in a club and let others play with me but he never leaves my side and the same rule applies if i say my safe word its game over instantly. It depends what aspects of bdsm you want to bring to a meet if its control and discipline then yes i think it can work but you need to be careful who you play with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

_ub bbw we definitely think the people your with and trust go hand in hand,its just finding those people we suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep the 2 seperate but thats my personal choice, I wouldnt let anyone other than my M control me, and for swinging meets restrict my activities.

I agree its a trust thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a little play on Monday at Chams. I had come out of the glory hole room into the dungeon area to find Cheryl watching a group of people in the midst of what seemed almost a spanking workshop / tuition group. Before I knew it, she'd ordered me onto the bed to be on the receiving end of a number of canes / whips and floggers, not to mention Rachel's hands themselves. It was fairly exciting for our first public sharing of me, not too extreme and it felt perfectly normal in that particular room. We will however, in time, visit a couple of dedicated BDSM/Fetish clubs that have kindly been recommended by people on here.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have friends who are in both 'scenes' and take both seriously. I personally don't mix the two but yes it can be done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds like lots do both but not together this is something we really need to think about !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have been swinging 8 years now and have dabbled with bdsm but wondered if the two can gel together or not ?"

I have yet to meet anyone in person who says they can't. You do what suits you, some won't like bdsm, some won't like swinging its all choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought bdsm was all about pushing boundaries, but also about TRUST as well!

Would a gal REALLY trust a guy she has just met, enough to push said boundaries and stop when asked?

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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"I always thought bdsm was all about pushing boundaries, but also about TRUST as well!

Would a gal REALLY trust a guy she has just met, enough to push said boundaries and stop when asked?

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Agree, I may be wrong but is the trust element not a huge part of this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always thought bdsm was all about pushing boundaries, but also about TRUST as well!

Would a gal REALLY trust a guy she has just met, enough to push said boundaries and stop when asked?

Agree, I may be wrong but is the trust element not a huge part of this"

Knowing my luck, i'd meet a gal, ask her to tie me up and do what she wanted, and she would take my feckin 50in telly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Trust is the main element,we enjoy pushing boundries but it has to be with people we can consider friends !

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


"I always thought bdsm was all about pushing boundaries, but also about TRUST as well!

Would a gal REALLY trust a guy she has just met, enough to push said boundaries and stop when asked?

Agree, I may be wrong but is the trust element not a huge part of this"

Sorry but I think you might be confusing SM with D/s.

For us SM is the extreme end of a spectrum of sensual play. Enjoying producing/experiencing the endorphin/ sexual arousal mix. If you do not want to risk getting hurt whilst doing this you need to know that the Top knows what they are doing. This can be because you trust them from experience or because of their reputation, verification by others. Some in the SM community will play without personal connection in clubs or privately on this basis, just as happens on the swing scene.

D/s is usually focused on more psychological factors and hence does involve a great deal of trust and openness in those involved. Hence it is rarely truly enacted without prior negotiation or limit outside of relationships.

These are of course two distinct types of activity which of course get combined by people in different ways not just as black and white. So there are at least 50 shades of grey

I have found that for male Dom fem sub couples BDSM does not always combine well with swinging whereas for the fem Domme male sub relationships it seems to fit very well.

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By *nttake2Couple
over a year ago

South

What SIR wants he gets and i trust him 2 look after my needs as his sub.

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury


"What SIR wants he gets and i trust him 2 look after my needs as his sub."
same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

It can.

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