FabSwingers.com forum: Question for you....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Right firstly i'll talk you thro the scenario then i'll ask my question

Get a cuppa could be a long one lol

I was at a club last night playing in a open room, was having a right good session with a few guys but then this guy i didnt really like came over and tried to join in, i politely said no to him and he just sat there, with his cock right infront of my face, i move possitions to get away from him but he just moved and again sat as close to me as possible but without touching me, a couple of the guys i was trying to play with left because they couldnt get close as he was blocking everyone off, i wasnt sure what to say to him as in all fairness i asked him not to touch and he didnt, so wasnt sure if i had the right to just tell him to move right away, so i just got up and left

I suppose my question is, if your in a club do you think its ok to ask someone to move right away from you or do they have the rights to sit where they like even if its right in the middle of people playing who dont want then to join in?

So long as they dont touch if its a open room do they have the rights to sit with their cock a inch from your face and then keep moving round the bed to follow you

He was really spoiling my fun and to be honest was having a good time with a few guys till he came over and i really wanted to say....look will you just piss off, but really wasnt sure if i was within my rights to do that

So when the other guys started going because he was almost building a wall between me and wouldnt move to let anyone thro, but again without touching me, i thought it best to just leave

we did go and get a private room which im guessing is what most people will suggest on here but sometimes i like playing in open rooms but fell i should still have a say in whos up close and personal to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's times like that your Mother told you the folding scissors would come in handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When u r in a open room that's what it is, but for him to make u feel uncomftable and his cock right by ur face then u have right to say look do one. We have been in the same situation but like u we choose to be in a open room as we don't mind guys watching and most guys do just that wiv out putting the cock right by ur face hoping u will suck it

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

And I would have expected one of the other guys to help me in that situation, not bugger off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personaly if i was a girl i would of asked one of the other men playing with you to ask him

and if he carried on get one of the staff

why should you get a private room if you like to play in public areas thats your choice and you still have a choice who gets up close and personal

hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When u r in a open room that's what it is, but for him to make u feel uncomftable and his cock right by ur face then u have right to say look do one. We have been in the same situation but like u we choose to be in a open room as we don't mind guys watching and most guys do just that wiv out putting the cock right by ur face hoping u will suck it"

i do like open rooms to be honest and never had that before, in the past everytime i have said no thnaks the guys just moved on

I was really unsure, i was thinking to msyelf, have i got the right to say ..look will you just move right away.. after all its a open room so can he sit anywhere he likes?

I suppose the best option was to just move myself i just felt him very rude and to be honest i think he knew what he was doing, its was almost like he was pushing to see how close he could get and what he could get away with before i said anything again, at one point he was wanking like a inch from my face and every time i moved he just moved back infront of my face and started wanking again

So long as they dont actually touch is that acceptable? is it a case of anyone can go in a open room so if you dont like it its your job to move or can you say, look please can you just move right away?

its a tricky one lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And I would have expected one of the other guys to help me in that situation, not bugger off!"

its not other peoples job to help me tho is it

I wouldnt expect a guy in a club to stand up for me to be honest, more offen than not if a guy told another guy to go away from a woman it would just cause a argument

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did you mention it to the hosts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ask them to move at the end of the day he is invading your personal space if he not got the hint then would ask him politely to f off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well NN, if he is invading what you would deem to be your personal space , then you have every right to ask him to move away to a distance you are comfotable with.

ok so its an open room but you still have a right to who you have close to you.

i think you just have to tell him that, whilst no offence is intended, you would rather he move away, if he persists then you ask the staff to deal with it.

i knwo its very awkward but you still have a right to be comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was out of order, I would have asked him to move out of my space.

I know its an open room, however, he was told no and should have respected that.

Just because its an open play room, doesnt give anyone the right to join in nor ruin things for others. Most club owners - staff wouldnt like it and he would have been turfed out.

As you said he ruined the show not only for himself, however for everyone else also; as you moved to a private room.

Sorry to say there are alot of people who are simply like that.

I'm surprised the guys that you were playing with didnt say something or ask him to move though.

No means no within clubs no matter if it is an open playroom or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, hes sat there wanking in your face..... was he just gonna shoot his load in your face? he still hadnt touched you! id have told him to feck off...... politely of course

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

You could always have pretended to be cumming and with your arm and hand smacked him hard sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open room or not, no means no.

If It was me in his place I would take the hint and just watch from a distance, you were obviously not going to go any further with him so he probably wanted to spoil it for you.

It's guys like that give us all a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as already said most clubs won't want such and will ask him or them to leave..we had it with a couple who couldn't take no for no and the manager of the club asked them to leave...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes ask them to move at the end of the day he is invading your personal space if he not got the hint then would ask him politely to f off x"

I agree. Even though it is in an open room I believe you still have the right to feel comfortable and for to sit where you are playing I was under the impression that you had to be invited. What a prick !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because your playing in a public/open room doesn't mean you don't have the right to who you choose to participate with, or who invades your personal space!

The guy should have been ejected for harassment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have just said.."Move back a bit .. you will get a better show if you sit over there."

I have never had this happen to be fair... but I certainly wouldn't accept someone sitting so close that others couldnt get near me.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes yet again 1 bad apple clubs need to sort this out it getting quiet common

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Open room doesn't give him the right to intimidate you

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

Well Naughty, Let me give you my view as a single guy.

First off, the obvious bit, as a single guy at a club I'm hoping (note hoping not expecting) to end up having some playtime, preferably 1 on 1 with either a single lady or a couple, but if not certainly with a lady(s) playing in an open room.

Now, if I saw you in the same scenario that you describe, I would try to catch your attention by any means to try to join in, and I think thats normal in an open room like that. However if you indicated that you weren't interested then I'd back off and while i may well stay in the room as I'm allowed to, I'd keep out of your personal space, probably hoping another lady will come in and join in too and I get the opportunity to play with her.

Now, I have seen occasions similar to what you describe where the lady (or gent) is unhappy with someone wanting to join in, and give 1 or 2 clear indications that you don't want to them to join in. If that fails, I'd make it clear by simply saying directly to the person, that you wanted them to back off, or in this case simply get your dick out of my face else listen guys I'm stopping and getting out of here. You could even clearly point out whom you want to touch you and say no one else or your going. Believe me, I don't believe you'll need to do anything else as the guys involved with you will want you to stay and will ensure that the guy you don't want to play gets out of the way.

An example from quite a few years ago, was a couple in a club I was at. There had been very little play all evening, quite a lot of single guys in and the lady was verbally flirting with all the guys commenting on the porn film, saying what she liked etc. Anyway, the room filled up with the guys all sat in the bench seats that surruounded the outer walls. Sardines in a can was the impression on these benches and the lady started to play with her mans cock as every single guy watched on and we all knew that this was going to develop into a some real good fun. Then a single guy walked in saw there was no room to sit so sat on the floor right next to the couple with his head and arm phsically against her legs. She was just about to go, when 2 or 3 guys told the fella to move, he arued for about 10 seconds before leaving the room as he'd simply spoilt the atmosphere and could feel the anger in his peer group. Fortunately the couple stayed and fun was had by all in the room, nice memories in the end actually...

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By *r-MissCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Had something similar happen to us a while ago, we were playing with each other in a club, a guy approached us and asked to join we said no as he was a fair bit older then what we were looking for.

Then the sat about an inch away from my face (Miss) and started having a wank, tried to turn around be he sorted of followed.

In the end we asked him to give us some space in a polite way, he then stormed off. We except the fact that if your in an oppreachy area guys will look and approach but you need some personnel space.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would have just said.."Move back a bit .. you will get a better show if you sit over there."

I have never had this happen to be fair... but I certainly wouldn't accept someone sitting so close that others couldnt get near me.

Cali

its the first time ive had it

Most guys are good in club, if they get told no they have to common sence to know they will do better looking for someone else than hanging about someone whos turned then down and over all guys in clubs are good and he was a one off in my experience

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Yeah been in that position too and I try to look at it that he has as much right as me to plonk himself down anywhere.... so I don't tell them to piss off, even though it would be the easier option. I will make requests but I try not to make anyone else feel uncomfortable (unless they are a twat)as it can spoil the mood for everyone if it sounds nasty..... or you get one of those hero types wading in thinking they must come to my rescue.... they usually piss me off more than the guy with his cock 6 inch from my face. I mean, who the fuck gave him the right to say what I do and don't want..... I can speak for myself. But that's another issue. I say thing like:

"Excuse me mate, can you just move over a bit to let this guy in"

"Sorry mate can you move back a bit"

"Can you do that at the other end, I'm kinda saving this space, cheers"

Or even a light hearted friendly toned "That's really putting me off now babe, can you just move back a bit"

And to be fair....... they do move away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would treat this the same as i would in any other place, i would tell him in no uncertain terms to get the fook away me or i would remove his ball sack from his body with a rusty paper clip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rules of any club "no means no" they always tell the guys the rules and if someone gets into ur personal space just say it straight....if a guy messaged u on here n he wasn't ur type u would say no, if they messaged u again u would tell em to get lost...same rules...open room or not...he needs to respect you...u didn't stop him watching but he ruined the show for others....anyway I hope u had fun in the private room and finished your fun...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i would treat this the same as i would in any other place, i would tell him in no uncertain terms to get the fook away me or i would remove his ball sack from his body with a rusty paper clip"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really need to be a bit more assertive, next time tell him in no uncertain terms that he has to move away from you or else! It was an open room but rules still apply that he cannot join in without an invite and no means no. That also includes invading your space.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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"Open room or not, no means no.

If It was me in his place I would take the hint and just watch from a distance, you were obviously not going to go any further with him so he probably wanted to spoil it for you.

It's guys like that give us all a bad name

Oh honestly. I know you are not the only one to say something like this in this thread and there was the bad apple comments and others.... but really.

He accepted no meant no and didn't touch.

He's not giving you a bad name at all... it's one guy getting his rocks off and enjoying himself.

Would you have made the same comment if it had been a woman sitting there.... would ya' F as like.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"personaly if i was a girl i would of asked one of the other men playing with you to ask him

and if he carried on get one of the staff

Personally if I was a guy and some woman asked me to tell another guy to move, I'd say "Tell him yourself, you've got a mouth".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no wonder you don't like him, he's a right twat! Invading someone's personal space like that after you said no, is just unacceptable. It also sounds quite intimidating to be honest. You have a right to feel safe and comfortable so I think you should have been a bit more assertive and direct, in the nicest way possible. If he still doesn't get it, get a staff member to deal with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is difficult when this kind of thing happens as its just plain rudeness.

Iv e have had similar, not when playing but when a guy constantly following me around. We made it perfectly clear that we would not play with him, when he asked we said no thank you, we don't want to play with you, but he continued to go in the sauna, steam room, jacuzzi etc and just sit and stare at me.

I just copmpletely blank people and don't give them eye contact. Thankfully most men are respectful and keep a reasonable distance when someone is playing.

But you will always get the rude buggers who will put their cock right by your moth without asking, I ignore them, those rude buggers who insist on talking loudly about their sunday roast dinners in a public play room when they should be discreet and those that follow you around

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

We had the same thing happen in a club few weeks ago mrs asked told him no as he was touching her so he sat there right in he face . She asked him to move out of the way still stayed there so like you she got up and whent where ever she whent he was there . so in frount of the club owners she had ago at him he stoped . Now befor you ask why i did not do any thing she dont like my ways of sorting things out . Plus she is more diplomatic than me so think a word to the guy around ear shot of club owners works

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"personaly if i was a girl i would of asked one of the other men playing with you to ask him

and if he carried on get one of the staff

Personally if I was a guy and some woman asked me to tell another guy to move, I'd say "Tell him yourself, you've got a mouth"."

i agree with that, i dont feel you should reply on olther people in clubs to do the jobs you dont want to

I have never expected guys to stand up for me and if someone was having hassle with someone else and they asked me to sort it for them i wouldnt be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personaly if i was a girl i would of asked one of the other men playing with you to ask him

and if he carried on get one of the staff

Personally if I was a guy and some woman asked me to tell another guy to move, I'd say "Tell him yourself, you've got a mouth"."

Maybe she was afraid to open her mouth in case the guy took that as an invite and slipped his cock in!

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I'd say the guys behaviour was unacceptable, he should have moved away and not as I suspect try to change your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Top tip when I play in an open room I always take two guys in with me one to cover my pussy one to cover my mouth so if anyone else wants to join in then they have to ask x

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

have been in a similiar situation at a club also...mrs d here btw...myself and a fem were happily having some fun when a guy thought he had the right to join in as he'd paid his £70...we both told him we weren't intersted..he undressed..and sat watching and rubbing himself..he was told by the other fem no means no ...still didn't move away..then he was practically sitting on my shoulder when we both lost the plot and said feck off you've spoilt our fun and btw you smell..which he did..we told the organiser of the night and he was asked to leave...and i never did get my fem dom night....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you know NN we play alot at the club and there are one or two twats who spoil the fun - such as this idiot - and in no uncertain terms you should have just told him to fuck right off - end of , no ifs or buts ( sorry polo ) - it's your body and your choice alone !

If you wanna play in an open room it's your right and most importantly it's also your choice who joins you - we strongly disagree that an open room is open for all to join in - if you ask someone to leave that must be respected or you may aswell change the name open room to prostitute room as guys who feel they have paid to get into the club can do as they please !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe there should be a 3 foot rule in any open play room unless playing or I voted to play you should stand back n watch from that distance raided which a much better wow from a little distance it is also a complement to those you are watching and hoping to be invited to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this is waaay different to your situation and a swingers club.

When I am with a woman and we get kissing in a club, some people do want to get close or just stare.

Now it may be me but I either give them the finger and tell them where to go and move away.

I am enjoying myself and I wont ever let anyone think they can just move in close or stare at me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not yet been to a club, but my partner (Pork) wants me to go as soon as he thinks i am ready to handle it. We have spoken in depth about all situations even the one you have mentioned. NO means No and say it clearly or tell him to f**k off and Pork tells me that they should not be offended if genuine, we have also come up with a code word between us and if i am in a situation that i don't want to be in i have to say this word..... Well that is ok if he near enough to hear. But me being me i would have sunk my teeth into that guy. I am surprised that the guys that were there didn't tell him that he wasn't wanted, your body language should of told them that. Hope it's better for you next time go have lots of fun !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a similar situation in a club recently with a woman from Barnsley that I'd gone with, she told him to fuck off before she twatted him!

Regardless of what room etc. you are in, or where you are though, this is just pure intimidation and shouldn't be tolerated.

Fair enough for him trying in the first place but once hes been told no and it's obvious that he's making people feel uncomfortable, then it becomes pure bullying/intimidation, whichever way it is dressed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have told him to go away and if he didn't I would have moved myself and my ensemble to another room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that he has an absolute right to go into an open room and stand/sit wherever he wanted to.

On the other hand You have the absolute right to ask him to fuck right off............

I would suggest that anyone else in the room would likely advise the person (with varying degrees of politeness) to go forth and procreate somewhere else......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these are some of the reasons i dont really like the club scene , as discussed in a previous thread.

there is too much potential for things to go wrong and the atmosphere to change for the worse.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

the whole no means no thing is irrelevant here, NN said no and he didnt touch, abiding by this rule

ok he then sat close to her and ruined her fun, which is the bit that annoys me

i would have just said 'excuse me mate....i want to get to that cock...could you move over'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And I would have expected one of the other guys to help me in that situation, not bugger off!

its not other peoples job to help me tho is it

I wouldn't expect a guy in a club to stand up for me to be honest, more offen than not if a guy told another guy to go away from a woman it would just cause a argument"

Maybe you don't see it as "other peoples job" but if it spoilt your fun it spoilt their fun too, so if I'd have been one of the other guys I'd have told him he was invading your space and cramping my style so do one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Open room or not, you have a choice of who enters your personal space.

You have every right to ask somebody to move away from you, ok in an open room I guess there's not a lot you can say if he sat away watching, but to push his cock close to your face is invading your personal space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i would (and have) asked people nicely to move away as i am not interested in them, if they havnt then asked not so nicely with an impolite "look just piss off"...the second usually works if the first doesnt lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

So how does this 'personal space' thing work when other people want to get onto the play area and play with eachother?

I've been in the couples room at Chams many a time and everyone is packed in like sardines and no one is complaining about other people being in their personal space then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how does this 'personal space' thing work when other people want to get onto the play area and play with eachother?

I've been in the couples room at Chams many a time and everyone is packed in like sardines and no one is complaining about other people being in their personal space then.

Personal space comes into it when one is no loner comfortable in that situation.

If in a group squashed up position then it may be best to move around if uncomfortable, but in NN's situation she could have asked him to back off as he invited himself into the play and was told he had no invite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So how does this 'personal space' thing work when other people want to get onto the play area and play with eachother?

I've been in the couples room at Chams many a time and everyone is packed in like sardines and no one is complaining about other people being in their personal space then.

I guess it all comes down to whether their attention is welcome or not...i had a guy recently rubbing his knob on my face while i was with two other guys, obviously wanting to get a bj and get in on the action...i told him if he rubbed it anywhere near me again i would bite the fucker off

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I guess it all comes down to whether their attention is welcome or not... "

Nail on the head.

The guy referred to in the OP could have done the same thing before and other people have been fine with it or other people may have asked him to move and he has.

I've had some guys come right up to my head, not said anything, started wanking and I've thought mmmm yeah I'm having some of that.... others I have asked to move and they have.

NN moving once could have been taken as a hint.... or it could have been taken she just fancied a change of position.

People are not mind readers and we should not expect them to be. NN asked if people thought it was OK to ask him to back away.... yes it is.... without making a show of him, without threatening him.

Good god can you imagine a guy saying to a female "ffs get your saggy tits away from me before I rip the fuckers off".... would everyone sit back at think he was well funny? Hmmmmmmm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it all comes down to whether their attention is welcome or not...

Nail on the head.

The guy referred to in the OP could have done the same thing before and other people have been fine with it or other people may have asked him to move and he has.

I've had some guys come right up to my head, not said anything, started wanking and I've thought mmmm yeah I'm having some of that.... others I have asked to move and they have.

NN moving once could have been taken as a hint.... or it could have been taken she just fancied a change of position.

People are not mind readers and we should not expect them to be. NN asked if people thought it was OK to ask him to back away.... yes it is.... without making a show of him, without threatening him.

Good god can you imagine a guy saying to a female "ffs get your saggy tits away from me before I rip the fuckers off".... would everyone sit back at think he was well funny? Hmmmmmmm.

so a guy's rubbing his knob on your face, you dont find him attractive, you dont want to play with him, youve asked him politely not to do it but he carries on...what next?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I guess it all comes down to whether their attention is welcome or not...

Nail on the head.

The guy referred to in the OP could have done the same thing before and other people have been fine with it or other people may have asked him to move and he has.

I've had some guys come right up to my head, not said anything, started wanking and I've thought mmmm yeah I'm having some of that.... others I have asked to move and they have.

NN moving once could have been taken as a hint.... or it could have been taken she just fancied a change of position.

People are not mind readers and we should not expect them to be. NN asked if people thought it was OK to ask him to back away.... yes it is.... without making a show of him, without threatening him.

Good god can you imagine a guy saying to a female "ffs get your saggy tits away from me before I rip the fuckers off".... would everyone sit back at think he was well funny? Hmmmmmmm.

so a guy's rubbing his knob on your face, you dont find him attractive, you dont want to play with him, youve asked him politely not to do it but he carries on...what next?"

I can only recall one guy who didn't listen the first time and I just looked him straight in the eye and in a serious and firm tone said "Seriously mate, I'm not joking"... he moved.

IF it ever got to needing to tell someone a 3rd time I wouldn't. I'd get them kicked out instead. The same goes for women, who I find to be far worse at taking 'no' for an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the earlier poster - you need to be much more assertive and stop worrying about whether YOU are in the wrong. If you felt uncomfortable with this guys presence - public OR private room - you have the right to tell him to go away first, then Fuck Off! second. If he still doesn't get it, go find the staff and get him chucked out. It's wankers like him who ruin it for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no touching and a RESPECTABLE amount of space I totally agree with.

I'd need some two-way in close proximity at least before I felt I was getting off, unfortunately some dont care if the recipient is welcoming or not.

anyway I'd find it pointless if I was lying on a bed with nobody playing with me

what I dont like hearing is aggressive sounding knockbacks,I never did that with any unsuitable suitors when i had a partner(or had taken friends to clubs/parties)-THAT is the best way to ruin a variety of peoples partytime.Deal with it like an adult.

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over a year ago

Is it seriously this bad in clubs? Fair enough if you ask someone not to touch they shouldn't, but isn't some bloke sticking his cock in a woman's face a bit much? And incredibly disrespectful?

I can understand in a room packed like sardines with tons on the bed there is no 'personal space'. But surely the same would apply even then, if a bloke had his cock in a woman's face and she didn't want it there, why can't she ask him to move away??

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

" But me being me i would have sunk my teeth into that guy. I am surprised that the guys that were there didn't tell him that he wasn't wanted, your body language should of told them that. Hope it's better for you next time go have lots of fun !!

I did once bite a guy in Chams cinema. He kept touching me, I said no & pushed his hand away, the 3rd time he touched my face I had had enough so I bit him. He took the hint and left me alone after that.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

I wonder what Mrs Peaks would have done.....

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

"Is it seriously this bad in clubs? Fair enough if you ask someone not to touch they shouldn't, but isn't some bloke sticking his cock in a woman's face a bit much? And incredibly disrespectful?

No Scarlett, it really isn't this bad in clubs at all. In my experience, almost all of us single guys keep our distance until we are invited in by a couple or single lady. Of course the braver ones of us will try chatting to you at the bar or in the social areas too.

The only places where guys (and ladies) will touch you uninvited is The Dark Rooms and Grope Boxes, but in effect you know before you enter those areas that you are inviting this to happen.

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By *uslaffMan
over a year ago

manchester

"We had the same thing happen in a club few weeks ago mrs asked told him no as he was touching her so he sat there right in he face . She asked him to move out of the way still stayed there so like you she got up and whent where ever she whent he was there . so in frount of the club owners she had ago at him he stoped . Now befor you ask why i did not do any thing she dont like my ways of sorting things out . Plus she is more diplomatic than me so think a word to the guy around ear shot of club owners works "

Oh aye yeah,well hard. My hero !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it seriously this bad in clubs? Fair enough if you ask someone not to touch they shouldn't, but isn't some bloke sticking his cock in a woman's face a bit much? And incredibly disrespectful?

The only places where guys (and ladies) will touch you uninvited is The Dark Rooms and Grope Boxes, but in effect you know before you enter those areas that you are inviting this to happen."

Cool, thanks. It makes sense about dark rooms. It's just the thought of pushy blokes really puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar experience in the dungeon in the club I go to. It was a mmff situation. One of the "spectators" was getting a little too close for comfort and he was asked by one of the guys to take a step back.

If he gets his cock too close to you again perhaps I'd be tempted to use it like a sausage and chew on it hard with your molars. He won't do it again!

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