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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective." Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like." Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. " Afternoon I will try and answer this from our perspective. There are a few reasons why this is a turn on. 1, The contrast in colours it is very sexy. 2. In general black men are considered bigger and more powerful sexually. 3. A personal preference. 4. Its an attraction It is by no means racist. Im not suggesting thats what you are saying but we unfortunateley live in a world where so many people are so wet. If we decide to meet black men as a taboo thats our choice and the person we are meeting. If couples dont want to meet black men thats also their choice and does not make them racist. We are all lucky enough to have freedom of choice and speech. All are equal Btw also most black guys on here use the fact they are black to gain an advantage So should the question be why are so many black men keen to fuck white wives? | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. " Well to be fair they don't have to be black for us so maybe you are asking the wrong person. What we do seek in people is politeness and a good imagination and open mindness. | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective." Totally agree. | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. Well to be fair they don't have to be black for us so maybe you are asking the wrong person. What we do seek in people is politeness and a good imagination and open mindness. " Well, this discussion is an attempt on my part to open my mind and understand it. I've also been polite about it. | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? " Taboo is a word nothing more Swinging is taboo to some people Anal is taboo to some people Discussing death to some is taboo Eating pork to some religions is taboo To some a public dispay of affection can be taboo Taboo is a word that can be used for so many reasons. It is in no way demeaning to black people stop trying to make it something it isnt! | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? Taboo is a word nothing more Swinging is taboo to some people Anal is taboo to some people Discussing death to some is taboo Eating pork to some religions is taboo To some a public dispay of affection can be taboo Taboo is a word that can be used for so many reasons. It is in no way demeaning to black people stop trying to make it something it isnt! " Hey ..relax, if you'd read my posts properly you'd understand what I'm trying to do here. I know more now than I did at the start. Thank for your responses. | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? Taboo is a word nothing more Swinging is taboo to some people Anal is taboo to some people Discussing death to some is taboo Eating pork to some religions is taboo To some a public dispay of affection can be taboo Taboo is a word that can be used for so many reasons. It is in no way demeaning to black people stop trying to make it something it isnt! Hey ..relax, if you'd read my posts properly you'd understand what I'm trying to do here. I know more now than I did at the start. Thank for your responses. " I wasnt trying to be aggresive or rude. Let liken it to buying a new car what is one of the first attractions Its the colour Its all a thing of attraction | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. I suppose it's the kink of not knowing if the tv is still going to be in the living room when you go back down stairs. " Now thats a fucked up thing to say! You have brought this place to an all time low! I understand what op's view and that of the other guy...but you are bang out of order mate, people like you should not be allowed to be here! | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? " Am not speaking for anyone else is and certainly not us but it could be with some couples of a similar age to ourselves who grew up in the 60s that there was absolutely an element of racism which was open, verbal etc in society.. And not saying it's not still prevalent in our institutions and some of the population now.. Can well imagine that some grew up in areas where there were not many black families etc and even less mixed marriages so perhaps and I'm only surmising that some people now adults may have as children heard open prejudices from influential people in their growing up.. Perhaps that might for some be part of the taboo.. Not entirely sure, we grew up in several parts of Liverpool where pretty much everyone was mixed, usually Irish/English and similar I would think to other places where immigrants settled so yes some of our mates were black but I've been to parts of this country where even now this no one else but white... Albeit the 'mongrel mixtures' that are part of all our lineage.. | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. Well to be fair they don't have to be black for us so maybe you are asking the wrong person. What we do seek in people is politeness and a good imagination and open mindness. Well, this discussion is an attempt on my part to open my mind and understand it. I've also been polite about it. " I agree. Well done | |||
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"For some it’s the colour contrast for some it’s the muscular definition of a black man’s body for some there maybe something taboo about going with a black man as it was considered a bit wrong when I was growing up and making my way through life in the 80’s and 90’s , for some there is a attraction.As long as everyone is happy with the arrangement is it that big a deal." How does all of that work when very often it's the male of a couple saying how much they like to see their wife | |||
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""Am not speaking for anyone else is and certainly not us but it could be with some couples of a similar age to ourselves who grew up in the 60s that there was absolutely an element of racism which was open, verbal etc in society.. And not saying it's not still prevalent in our institutions and some of the population now.. Can well imagine that some grew up in areas where there were not many black families etc and even less mixed marriages so perhaps and I'm only surmising that some people now adults may have as children heard open prejudices from influential people in their growing up.. Perhaps that might for some be part of the taboo.. Not entirely sure, we grew up in several parts of Liverpool where pretty much everyone was mixed, usually Irish/English and similar I would think to other places where immigrants settled so yes some of our mates were black but I've been to parts of this country where even now this no one else but white... Albeit the 'mongrel mixtures' that are part of all our lineage.." I'm from a different age group than yourselves but can relate to this point, I'm from a small middle of bum fuck no where town. Subsequently, near enough 90% of people there are openly racist or racially insensitive in 1 way or another. Since moving away I'm found myself particularly more interested in black/Asian or basically any one who isnt white women(feel free to drop me a message ladies  ) as I've mixed more with other cultures, my addition to your point would be it's the unknown, possibility of different background doing it differently some how, basically like a new sex position or kink you've recently discovered in yourself. | |||
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""Am not speaking for anyone else is and certainly not us but it could be with some couples of a similar age to ourselves who grew up in the 60s that there was absolutely an element of racism which was open, verbal etc in society.. And not saying it's not still prevalent in our institutions and some of the population now.. Can well imagine that some grew up in areas where there were not many black families etc and even less mixed marriages so perhaps and I'm only surmising that some people now adults may have as children heard open prejudices from influential people in their growing up.. Perhaps that might for some be part of the taboo.. Not entirely sure, we grew up in several parts of Liverpool where pretty much everyone was mixed, usually Irish/English and similar I would think to other places where immigrants settled so yes some of our mates were black but I've been to parts of this country where even now this no one else but white... Albeit the 'mongrel mixtures' that are part of all our lineage.. I'm from a different age group than yourselves but can relate to this point, I'm from a small middle of bum fuck no where town. Subsequently, near enough 90% of people there are openly racist or racially insensitive in 1 way or another. Since moving away I'm found myself particularly more interested in black/Asian or basically any one who isnt white women(feel free to drop me a message ladies ) as I've mixed more with other cultures, my addition to your point would be it's the unknown, possibility of different background doing it differently some how, basically like a new sex position or kink you've recently discovered in yourself. "Yes would agree too with that.. I remember speaking to a colleague at a conference who lived in the Hebrides and he was trying to sort out some diversity training with management and one senior person when asked by him as to why they had not got any sorted replied that there are no black people on the islands!.. Which from a service delivery point of view sounds like something from the fifties.. | |||
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"Yes would agree too with that.. I remember speaking to a colleague at a conference who lived in the Hebrides and he was trying to sort out some diversity training with management and one senior person when asked by him as to why they had not got any sorted replied that there are no black people on the islands!.. Which from a service delivery point of view sounds like something from the fifties.." Yeah I was talking to a guy last week who lives where im originally from, he said when he moved there was only 1 other black guy i said "yeah, that's dave" (fake name) Another "charming" trait of my wonderful home town was anyone even slightly tanned would be called "black Dave" or "black Sally" and for years I thought that was totally normal | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? " yes it's this that stood out for me too , as a TV I'm often seen as taboo or a fetish or guilty pleasure , it can be quite hurtful but I genuinely don't think those who use these words have ever thought about how they may be perceived | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? " I think some people prefer interacial I In general find dark skin men more attractive in fact darker the better I don't think it's a taboo it's just my preference same way some guys prefer skinny or curvy girls or some black men prefer white women some white men prefer back women some men like the term and refer to themselves as BBC and others hate it | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? Taboo is a word nothing more Swinging is taboo to some people Anal is taboo to some people Discussing death to some is taboo Eating pork to some religions is taboo To some a public dispay of affection can be taboo Taboo is a word that can be used for so many reasons. It is in no way demeaning to black people stop trying to make it something it isnt! " Why do you respond so defensively to the poster, who's asking perfectly legitimate questions quite politely. Why would you regard meeting a black man as 'taboo', yet not a white one? | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective. Not sure really. I have to say all the guys we've met have really enjoyed our company as have we them. All been really polite and gentlemen to a man so what's not to like. Yes, but we're not discussing their personalities or gentlemanliness - both I'm sure are pervasive throughout the white community. However, the OP and others here have expressed a specific desire for black men to service their white wives and that it is this aspect of the play that 'does it' for them. Why does the service top (which is what I would describe the person as) need to be black? Is it not possible to get the same experience from a white man. If not, why not? Again, I'm curious more than anything - and trying to understand rather than being judgemental. Afternoon I will try and answer this from our perspective. There are a few reasons why this is a turn on. 1, The contrast in colours it is very sexy. 2. In general black men are considered bigger and more powerful sexually. 3. A personal preference. 4. Its an attraction It is by no means racist. Im not suggesting thats what you are saying but we unfortunateley live in a world where so many people are so wet. If we decide to meet black men as a taboo thats our choice and the person we are meeting. If couples dont want to meet black men thats also their choice and does not make them racist. We are all lucky enough to have freedom of choice and speech. All are equal Btw also most black guys on here use the fact they are black to gain an advantage So should the question be why are so many black men keen to fuck white wives? " Brilliant answer, originally wondered where this was going x | |||
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""if we decide to meet black men as a taboo" I think this is the point, I was getting at. Why do you find it a taboo to meet a black guy? Taboo is a word nothing more Swinging is taboo to some people Anal is taboo to some people Discussing death to some is taboo Eating pork to some religions is taboo To some a public dispay of affection can be taboo Taboo is a word that can be used for so many reasons. It is in no way demeaning to black people stop trying to make it something it isnt! "  | |||
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"What is it about blackness that makes it special / naughty etc... for you? I personally rail against this kind of fetishisation of black bodies, but I'm prepared to listen to a different perspective." I agree. I don't really understand why the guy being black makes any difference. My eyes are usually closed when I fuck anyway, though I could imagine that for someone watching the contrast of a black and a white body together could be attractive. | |||
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