FabSwingers.com forum: Is hotwife the correct term?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For a married woman who plays alone with permission but without any involvement or influence from her husband or vice versa? Xx

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"For a married woman who plays alone with permission but without any involvement or influence from her husband or vice versa? Xx"

I would say a couple where the husband likes to watch his wife is more of a correct term for the ‘hotwife’ scenario.

But then again there are ‘hot’ women who are married and play alone are also known as a ‘hotwife’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s difference in interpretation a lot of the time, but I’d include what you’ve described under ‘hotwife’.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx"

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?"

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx"

You certainly are sexy ahah but yes i would say your a hotwife living the stag & vixen lifestyle

Depends what you would like to call yourself...

PM me

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By *exylovingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Uxbridge

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx"

You are a dream come true to most men, not sure of the correct term for that. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx"

I think slutwife suits you well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx

I think slutwife suits you well

Perhaps it does

The main reason I don't like the label hotwife is it seems to imply cuckold. That's not our set up at all. I just love playing around, but happen to me married too, and he doesn't mind. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx

I think slutwife suits you well

Perhaps it does

The main reason I don't like the label hotwife is it seems to imply cuckold. That's not our set up at all. I just love playing around, but happen to me married too, and he doesn't mind. Xx"

Sounds like you have the perfect set up... Yeah I think a hot wife implies the husband likes to watch. Whereas a slutwife just goes off and does her thing on her own. Do you not meet single men though?

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

As we understand it:

Hotwife - she decides who she sleeps with but it's done with the agreement and consent of him.

Stag & Vixen - he decides who she sleeps with and it's arranged with her consent.

Cuckold - she decides who she sleep with whether he agrees or likes it or not. More humiliation involved.

We, as a couple, hover around the Hotwife and Stag/Vixen but Bry might like some mild humiliation one day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

I would say that is more of a ‘stag & vixen’ lifestyle?

I'm not sure tbh. That's why I'm asking

Am I hotwife, vixen, slutwife, married with permission? Lol xx

I think slutwife suits you well

Perhaps it does

The main reason I don't like the label hotwife is it seems to imply cuckold. That's not our set up at all. I just love playing around, but happen to me married too, and he doesn't mind. Xx

I used to meet 1-2 single men a week as well as couples when I was really playing hard. Due to covid, illness, and life in general I've turned on the single guys filter as I'm more interested in making connections with women, couples, and groups for play later. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As we understand it:

Hotwife - she decides who she sleeps with but it's done with the agreement and consent of him.

Stag & Vixen - he decides who she sleeps with and it's arranged with her consent.

Cuckold - she decides who she sleep with whether he agrees or likes it or not. More humiliation involved.

We, as a couple, hover around the Hotwife and Stag/Vixen but Bry might like some mild humiliation one day."

Yeah the terminology is concretely defined either and open to some interpretation which makes it more awkward. I've usually identified as hotwife but hate people assuming it's a cuck relationship. And we're not Stag and Vixen as I understand it. I've tried just saying I'm single playing alone but then people assume I'm cheating when they see the rings. Joking aside maybe it is slutwife lol xx

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I was a slutty wife before they came up with the term hotwife

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

interesting, I thought it was a wife who sat too close to the radiator

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Joking aside maybe it is slutwife lol xx"

I (Bry) actually like the term "slutwife"

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Hubby doesn't watch unless I film it. There's no humiliation or denial stuff going on. I just have sex with others. Xx

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we can understand that ... vixen and stag situation with us ... watching is great, he can join in sometimes ...

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"As we understand it:

Hotwife - she decides who she sleeps with but it's done with the agreement and consent of him.

Stag & Vixen - he decides who she sleeps with and it's arranged with her consent.

Cuckold - she decides who she sleep with whether he agrees or likes it or not. More humiliation involved.

We, as a couple, hover around the Hotwife and Stag/Vixen but Bry might like some mild humiliation one day."

Thanks for the clear explanation.

We definitely are Stag & Vixen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So slutwife it is? Lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotwife here for sure.

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Stag vixen / hotwife / hot hubby here, interchangeably as the mood takes. Some times just regular swingers or just back to being a normal couple again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we understand it:

Hotwife - she decides who she sleeps with but it's done with the agreement and consent of him.

Stag & Vixen - he decides who she sleeps with and it's arranged with her consent.

Cuckold - she decides who she sleep with whether he agrees or likes it or not. More humiliation involved.

We, as a couple, hover around the Hotwife and Stag/Vixen but Bry might like some mild humiliation one day."

This is pretty much the same definition I use as a guide - great explanation though, very useful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've stopped using these terms as they mean different things to different people and can therefore lead to misunderstanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You described yourself perfectly.. married and likes sex with others .. don’t need labels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a married woman who plays alone with permission but without any involvement or influence from her husband or vice versa? Xx"

I used to do this with my ex husband. He rarely played with me and my fwb, was more happy with being sent photos and videos etc.

We used to class it as 'Stag & Vixen' as there was no cuckolding or anything like that going on. But tbf, as long as you're enjoying it, you don't need to stick a label on it. Just enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For a married woman who plays alone with permission but without any involvement or influence from her husband or vice versa? Xx

I used to do this with my ex husband. He rarely played with me and my fwb, was more happy with being sent photos and videos etc.

We used to class it as 'Stag & Vixen' as there was no cuckolding or anything like that going on. But tbf, as long as you're enjoying it, you don't need to stick a label on it. Just enjoy it

xx"

That’s how I view sex as a whole.

I think some people are somewhat worried about getting labelled, perhaps a little bit of guilt for wanting to try something or indeed tried something.

It’s sex, it’s extremely pleasurable with the right person/persons and with everyone’s consent, so my advice would be to switch off and enjoy without feeling anything but pleasure.

Just my two’penny worth

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I'd say slutwife more descriptive of how operate on here

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