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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going through posts and forums you see the same issues or complains on single guys.Either them complaining on lack of meets or couples discussing single guys.Some thoughts on maybe single guys being males just after a quick fuck so to speak or being classed as generally unreliable and time wasters.

Being a single guy i joined the site to explore my fantasies and experience sexual pleasures that maybe i would not have experience outside the swinging community.It is difficult to find people in the day to day bustle of life that share the same open minded approach or willingness to share and explore the vast sexual pleasures,fantasies and experience that you can as a swinger.Now that's just my reasons for joining up to the site.

However some may have different reasons which is fair but shouldn't we all try look at people as to their reasons individually rather than paint them with the same single guy or woman "easy quick fuck" or "time waster" brush ?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Just be yourself, never compromise your standards or integrity, think of yourself as an equal and take time.

Select wisely, tailor and send great communication, respect when people say No, don't question other's preferences or rationale not to meet...

and you will do fine.... there are people for everyone on here.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and dignity at all costs, once you lose that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be yourself, never compromise your standards or integrity, think of yourself as an equal and take time.

Select wisely, tailor and send great communication, respect when people say No, don't question other's preferences or rationale not to meet...

and you will do fine.... there are people for everyone on here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont 'tar them all'

I treat every message with the respect it warrants, but it does get hard when you get a lot of messages, from single guys with the same erm half arse effort..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be yourself, never compromise your standards or integrity, think of yourself as an equal and take time.

Select wisely, tailor and send great communication, respect when people say No, don't question other's preferences or rationale not to meet...

and you will do fine.... there are people for everyone on here.

"

ill third that certainly agree with your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be yourself, never compromise your standards or integrity, think of yourself as an equal and take time.

Select wisely, tailor and send great communication, respect when people say No, don't question other's preferences or rationale not to meet...

and you will do fine.... there are people for everyone on here.

ill third that certainly agree with your thoughts "
when we were meeting on here we only ever met single guys but there are alot who do go out of there way to waste folks time but that goes for couples and women aswell we have even been called time wasters in the past for turning up for a social and not aranging a play meet because we didnt get on with the guy

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Going through posts and forums you see the same issues or complains on single guys.Either them complaining on lack of meets or couples discussing single guys.Some thoughts on maybe single guys being males just after a quick fuck so to speak or being classed as generally unreliable and time wasters.

Being a single guy i joined the site to explore my fantasies and experience sexual pleasures that maybe i would not have experience outside the swinging community.It is difficult to find people in the day to day bustle of life that share the same open minded approach or willingness to share and explore the vast sexual pleasures,fantasies and experience that you can as a swinger.Now that's just my reasons for joining up to the site.

However some may have different reasons which is fair but shouldn't we all try look at people as to their reasons individually rather than paint them with the same single guy or woman "easy quick fuck" or "time waster" brush ?"

Whilst I get what you are saying, it does appear you are doing pretty much the same thing... may be.

Either you are implying (and thus tarring) a large amount of other people as being tar brush carriers... or you are aiming this at a minority, in which case, who cares, it's only a few people and the majority don't do it.

I think more brush tarring goes on when it comes down to sexuality.... the rest is largely generalised comments under the banner of 'single guys' because they cannot name the individuals.

It could also be read as a pretty wide sweeping accusation that we, the readers, may not lack the common sense to take each person as we find them, on their own merits and instead believe everything we read in the forum as being the Gospel of Fab.

It is most unlikely the people who want to meet single guys will assume all single guys are after a quick easy shag or are timewasters.... until something the individual does rings an alarm bell.

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

we do get abit feedup of the msgs from single guys that are aimed at just the female like hi babe do you want to meet now. when they can see its a cpls profile its nice to get the msg aimed at both of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont 'tar them all'

I treat every message with the respect it warrants, but it does get hard when you get a lot of messages, from single guys with the same erm half arse effort.. "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I only meet single men and I've managed to separate the wheat from the chaff without any problem.

One single man made me alter my selection process. Lying in my bed he stated he didn't invite people to his home as it wasn't a knocking shop...implying mine was. He was unceremoniously ejected from my home. Now, I never meet men that can't accommodate, I don't care for what reason...still plenty to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Going through posts and forums you see the same issues or complains on single guys.Either them complaining on lack of meets or couples discussing single guys.Some thoughts on maybe single guys being males just after a quick fuck so to speak or being classed as generally unreliable and time wasters.

Being a single guy i joined the site to explore my fantasies and experience sexual pleasures that maybe i would not have experience outside the swinging community.It is difficult to find people in the day to day bustle of life that share the same open minded approach or willingness to share and explore the vast sexual pleasures,fantasies and experience that you can as a swinger.Now that's just my reasons for joining up to the site.

However some may have different reasons which is fair but shouldn't we all try look at people as to their reasons individually rather than paint them with the same single guy or woman "easy quick fuck" or "time waster" brush ?

Whilst I get what you are saying, it does appear you are doing pretty much the same thing... may be.

Either you are implying (and thus tarring) a large amount of other people as being tar brush carriers... or you are aiming this at a minority, in which case, who cares, it's only a few people and the majority don't do it.

I think more brush tarring goes on when it comes down to sexuality.... the rest is largely generalised comments under the banner of 'single guys' because they cannot name the individuals.

It could also be read as a pretty wide sweeping accusation that we, the readers, may not lack the common sense to take each person as we find them, on their own merits and instead believe everything we read in the forum as being the Gospel of Fab.

It is most unlikely the people who want to meet single guys will assume all single guys are after a quick easy shag or are timewasters.... until something the individual does rings an alarm bell."

I do get what you mean and in no way is this a general assumption of all people that meet singles..Just an observation that a few and not all people are guilty of tarring

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only meet single men and I've managed to separate the wheat from the chaff without any problem.

One single man made me alter my selection process. Lying in my bed he stated he didn't invite people to his home as it wasn't a knocking shop...implying mine was. He was unceremoniously ejected from my home. Now, I never meet men that can't accommodate, I don't care for what reason...still plenty to choose from."

That is a fair point everyone is different in their selection process and to be honest its your right to choose who you sleep with how you want..Just a shame that one single guy had to ruin it for the rest by making such a dumb comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we do get abit feedup of the msgs from single guys that are aimed at just the female like hi babe do you want to meet now. when they can see its a cpls profile its nice to get the msg aimed at both of us. "

I can see your point guess we are all guilty of not noticing the small things that could make all the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love single guys its bloody Brummies i have a problem with x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i love single guys its bloody Brummies i have a problem with x"

What did we poor beggars do to you nympho

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