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Painted with the same brush?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Going through posts and forums you see the same issues or complains on single guys.Either them complaining on lack of meets or couples discussing single guys.Some thoughts on maybe single guys being males just after a quick fuck so to speak or being classed as generally unreliable and time wasters.

Being a single guy i joined the site to explore my fantasies and experience sexual pleasures that maybe i would not have experience outside the swinging community.It is difficult to find people in the day to day bustle of life that share the same open minded approach or willingness to share and explore the vast sexual pleasures,fantasies and experience that you can as a swinger.Now that's just my reasons for joining up to the site.

However some may have different reasons which is fair but shouldn't we all try look at people as to their reasons individually rather than paint them with the same single guy or woman "easy quick fuck" or "time waster" brush ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often back single guys on threads in the forums. Yes like you say a lot of people "bash them" as being timewasters, we mainly meet single guys (only ones that accomodate in their own homes) this way we know they are not playing away and all the ones we've met have been lovely. The majority are guys who have split up with their partners and have joint custody of kids, therefore not having a lot of time or money to go out meeting people. Usually they are not looking for another serious relationship so being on this site fulfills that part of their lives to some degree.

What we do get annoyed with (as our update last week said) is guys who ask to meet them in their garage/workshop, office, backseat of their coach or cab of their wagon!!! All we ask of single guys is that they try reading our profile, which I think most people on here would appreciate, but some sadly will never do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Brian

I understand and share some of your frustration and know at times it feels as if your in a no win situation with us single guys outnumbering the females on here by a massive majority - id just say that believe me there are some really nice females, couples and guys (im covered lol) out there who im sure given time will connect with you and empathise with your likes and disslikes - and on the negative its us men that get impatient so easily. I was a senior moderator on another two adult sites and chat rooms for many years and trust me its exactlly the same on them.

Take care and be happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi Brian

I understand and share some of your frustration and know at times it feels as if your in a no win situation with us single guys outnumbering the females on here by a massive majority - id just say that believe me there are some really nice females, couples and guys (im covered lol) out there who im sure given time will connect with you and empathise with your likes and disslikes - and on the negative its us men that get impatient so easily. I was a senior moderator on another two adult sites and chat rooms for many years and trust me its exactlly the same on them.

Take care and be happy "

yeah i certainly know what you mean you do go through those frustrations at times.I am very patient and know that there are couples and singles out there that will hopefully meet and connect with me just will take a bit of to find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the phrase is 'tarred with the same brush '

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We often back single guys on threads in the forums. Yes like you say a lot of people "bash them" as being timewasters, we mainly meet single guys (only ones that accomodate in their own homes) this way we know they are not playing away and all the ones we've met have been lovely. The majority are guys who have split up with their partners and have joint custody of kids, therefore not having a lot of time or money to go out meeting people. Usually they are not looking for another serious relationship so being on this site fulfills that part of their lives to some degree.

What we do get annoyed with (as our update last week said) is guys who ask to meet them in their garage/workshop, office, backseat of their coach or cab of their wagon!!! All we ask of single guys is that they try reading our profile, which I think most people on here would appreciate, but some sadly will never do that. "

i do believe some of the single guys are guilty of that..getting too horny n failing to read profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the phrase is 'tarred with the same brush ' "

not quite upto speed yet with the swinging lingo/phrases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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i do believe some of the single guys are guilty of that..getting too horny n failing to read profiles "

Some?

From what I have seen on here and a lot of other dating/adult meet sites is atrocious.

Copy/paste messages, cock shots when they didnt ask for one, old enough to be their dads when they ask for 35 at most.

The desperation factor in many men and not forgetting the WhiteKnight MKIV persona ruins it for those guys who are relaxed, patient and able to get along with women.

You only have to make a fake womans profile to garner the competition on the websites you want to fish on. I found it hilarious.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

With the greatest respect to the OP, may I ask what are your expectations on this (or any other) site?

In our (considerable) experience in this hobby its an unfortunate fact that 99% of the guys who contact us deserve all the slagging off they get.

When we get a decent PM from a guy, provided its realistic (he's actually read our profile, fits what we seek, isn't 200 miles away etc.) then he gets a decent reply be it that we'd like to progress or 'thanks but no thanks'.

It's said that single guys are ten a penny but in truth it seems that decent, honest, reliable single guys are in short supply.

Just something to think about... You are in a room with 100 couples who seek a single guy. How many of the 100 do you think might fancy you?

Now it doesn't really matter what number you choose between 0 and 100 because when we consider all the other factors that might get in the way of meeting for action, smokers/non-smokers - safe-sex/bare-back - geographic distance - availability etc. etc. etc. you'll always end up with a very small number or zero.

Now consider swinger sites... Look at the total members count, you'll be lucky if as many as 1.5% of them are active swingers. Some might play every weekend, most will only play a few times a year, others play less often. And out of all of those I'd guess that most couples are not interested in single guys anyway!

Yes it is a numbers game but in reality it leaves slim pickings for everyone. That's nothing against anyone, its just how things are, there is no one to blame because you are not getting as many meets/replies to PM's that you might have expected or hoped for.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Oop's poor wording in paragraph 2 a sit implies WE slag them off cos we don't...

Better said that 'we can understand why' 99% of single guys get slagged off, if 99% of the PM's we get are anything to go by!

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