FabSwingers.com forum: A compliment or insult to be offered money

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm often offered money as I'm sure many profiles are.

It's not my thing and I wouldn't want a transaction of that nature, but should I be flattered that they think I'm worth paying for or insulted that they think they can buy me when there is no reason for them to assume that?

(I used to report profiles that offered me money but I no longer do as I like to choose myself who I'm blocked from seeing and I find if I report people it creates an automatic block.)

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

Screen shot the message to let friends know who to avoid then report though little seems to be done to these profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See it as a compliment in my opinion.

Don't get me wrong, it's weird. Very. But also not really harmful.

Fab swingers, and sites like it are kinda like the red light district of the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you've been offered by a 'gentleman', it'll mean he has offered many others the same thing?

not flattery is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you've been offered by a 'gentleman', it'll mean he has offered many others the same thing?

not flattery is it."

It's not exactly something you should put on your CV, but it's not offensive. It's daft really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone wants to offer me some money .. I won’t mind taking it off your hands ../

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone wants to offer me some money .. I won’t mind taking it off your hands ../

How much to wash my car?

Topless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you've been offered by a 'gentleman', it'll mean he has offered many others the same thing?

not flattery is it.

It's not exactly something you should put on your CV, but it's not offensive. It's daft really."

who are you speaking for when you say it isn't offensive?

In 12 years I think I've been asked twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most who offer money seem to be trying to find a cheaper option than using an escort. I may be wrong but I believe they make assumptions about who they make offers too based on profiles. I.E who they believe may need the money, so I think its the arrogance that offends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone wants to offer me some money .. I won’t mind taking it off your hands ../

How much to wash my car?

Topless."

Didn’t say I was doing anything for it ... sorry pal .. wash it yourself

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

We were offered money for Babygirl.

We didn't take it but were quite flattered and it did evolve into some very horny role plays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone wants to offer me some money .. I won’t mind taking it off your hands ../

How much to wash my car?

Topless.

Didn’t say I was doing anything for it ... sorry pal .. wash it yourself

Fiver?

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By *ikiLoverMan
over a year ago

Brighton

"Screen shot the message to let friends know who to avoid then report though little seems to be done to these profiles. "

You're very hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s a compliment or an insult to be honest.

Desperate people will go to desperate measures to get what they want sometimes.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I thought once that it would be fun to find out from one guy who offered to see what he thought i was worth so I strung him along for a bit to see what he offered me.

£30.....yep that much

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"I thought once that it would be fun to find out from one guy who offered to see what he thought i was worth so I strung him along for a bit to see what he offered me.

£30.....yep that much

Ouch!

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I thought once that it would be fun to find out from one guy who offered to see what he thought i was worth so I strung him along for a bit to see what he offered me.

£30.....yep that much

Ouch!"

I know....mind you I did look a mess back then too and then turned the tables on him as well as I dont go for men

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Over the years, I've seen numerous couples and single female profiles that have mentioned such things as being 'rented out by hubby', 'a whore for a night', 'a cheap street tart', and even blatent 'being paid for it'...

....although the vast majority almost certainly described fantasy and/or roleplay scenarios, some guys reading such things will inevitably think that 'everybody has their price'...

I'm not, I hasten to add, one of them!

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

I get offered money quite often by the same guy. Because im straight and he wants my "cock" he offers me money to try and pursaude me. I find it insulting after a few times of me saying no.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

The only times I have been offered money I have accepted but it was by Starburst and that was during our role play senarios.

But seriously I think it is because so many regard Fab as a sex site rather than a Swingers site.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Ive been offered money several times over the years. It tends to be when ive turned them down politely (as if that would change my mind)! I just find it sad and very non swinger like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had it a few times, guys looking to have sex with Libby, asking to buy her underwear, or offering cash to watch or take pics. We've always politely declined.

Personally I just pity those that offer money, as it suggests to me that these guys struggle to meet women by the normal approach.

I also agree that they are also alittle arrogant to assume we'd consider or accept such offers. Jay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

K and I have had people offer money for our services before, needless to say they were blocked and reported rather sharpish. We've had a couple of guys offer to buy used underwear and thought "Why not" before but when it comes to actually parting with cash they mysteriously go silent/ UNLOS/ blocked

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I don't know why I am very offended by it and always take it as an insult, not only to me personally but also to the whole TV community.

I delete, block and report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much is offered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how much is offered

it's buy one get one free week I heard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how much is offered

it's buy one get one free week I heard?

Wow! I'm in!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

They usually start their message with 'no offence intended' - then proceed to imply that Niki is a prostitute and I'm her pimp!

But can't be offended by some sad random person, so just delete and block.

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By *ownhamguyMan
over a year ago

Battle

If anyone offers me money I won't be offended. Honesty I won't

Seriously it's no problem.

If you do I'll get over it, pretty quickly.

I can live with it.

Just saying......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how much is offered

Good point!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I suppose it depends on the amount offered.

Less than about £100 per hour they are looking for a cheap escort.

Over £500ph and I guess it's a compliment.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Both I think when some one first offered I was taken aback but now it's all part of here not that I've taken up the offers (yet) who knows when times are hard needs must ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys offering money will invariably be trying to get your attention so you'll talk to them for long enough to get them off.

Like, I'm sure some guys will be serious. But don't be surprised if they disappear once the post-nut clarity dawns on them.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Any interest that's legal is a potential compliment but the style of interest expressed is only a reflection of the person making it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys offering money will invariably be trying to get your attention so you'll talk to them for long enough to get them off.

Like, I'm sure some guys will be serious. But don't be surprised if they disappear once the post-nut clarity dawns on them."

This

. It’s a front to get communication mostly.

Even funnier when people have seen you on adult sites then think they can approach you on here and ignore your profile text completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just men but even cpls approach with such offers .

We wouldn't be offended by it and neither it would flattering but what offer would flatter you ?1000, 10000, 50000 or a million pounds ?

Be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most who offer money seem to be trying to find a cheaper option than using an escort. I may be wrong but I believe they make assumptions about who they make offers too based on profiles. I.E who they believe may need the money, so I think its the arrogance that offends. "

Using that logic then our profile must scream we are in dire need of money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve chatted to women on here before and then after a few messages they have come out and said that they are escorts and here are the prices. I just said that someone like me doesn’t have to pay for it and leave them to it. Maybe these guys are having the same problem and then just assume that it’s a thing on here and offer money to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it flattering if it's a good offer, and offensive if not xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was offered money once to do a dump on a guys chest.. I thought that was pretty offensive... 20£!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m definitely available at pretty much any price but i would suspect the person concerned would be seriously odd to be offering me anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt it's a Robert Redford

indecent proposal type offer.

They are trying to get it on the cheap nobody wants to feel cheap surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was offered money once to do a dump on a guys chest.. I thought that was pretty offensive... 20£!!!!"

What did you spend the 20 notes on?

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

A lot of assumptions there. Who knows what they are after or why apart from them? A one off? A more involved relationship? A sugar daddie role? A findom / finsub fetish? An inducement to some reply / any reply... A creative intro mail as opposed to the "fancy a fuck / can I ask you a question" ones... And probably many more.

To your question OP, I wouldn't read any more into it than the question? Or if you really want to understand the nuts and bolts of it... Ask the messager why they thought you'd welcome that sort of approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was offered money once to do a dump on a guys chest.. I thought that was pretty offensive... 20£!!!!"

That's gross request

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it flattering if it's a good offer, and offensive if not xx"

Hahaha

I like this outset

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

"See it as a compliment in my opinion.

Don't get me wrong, it's weird. Very. But also not really harmful.

Fab swingers, and sites like it are kinda like the red light district of the internet

Well that says a lot about how you think about women and how misogynistic you are.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

It's like a backhanded compliment. I used to report but nothing is ever done so I don't bother any more I just delete & put a private note on their profile

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not been offered money outright, but have been asked to go away for the weekend in a nice hotel in Manchester and he’d pay for the room, dinner etc...

Effectively I’d be on his arm for the weekend, I turned him down as I don’t like to feel ‘owned’ but must admit later I regretted the decision and it’s one of my fantasies now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using that logic then our profile must scream we are in dire need of money "

TBF your profile is great and the photos are stunning.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

This happened to us just last weekend, was offered €100 for an hours play

Didn't report it to admin as seen on forum many times that nothing gets done about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone offers money they are going to expect a service i doubt there will be any mutual enjoyment and will probably expect to do what they want as its paid for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to be a huuuuge amount to be taken as a compliment otherwise would take it as an insult

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Whether you view it as an insult or compliment it's against site rules.

Something is always done about reports of they can be values regardless of what people claim to know on the forum

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

"If someone offers money they are going to expect a service i doubt there will be any mutual enjoyment and will probably expect to do what they want as its paid for "

Its a lack of respect for someone to do it and besides someone must be a real ugly munter to do it it stands to sense they are if they have to resort to it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

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Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

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