FabSwingers.com forum: What is wrong with discussion in the forum

By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

Why is it when I make a post in the forum rather than discussing it in the forum people are compelled to send a message.

This get on my tits so much that any post on the forum results in 10 or 12 private mails.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I get the same by commenting on posts, it's very annoying

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I get that too. Many have said they are too shy to reply in the forum which i find strange.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I generally reply in the forum, although occasionally I might have something to say in regard to a post that I want to say to an individual rather than in public for everyone to see. On those occasions I'll send a private message

But I don't do it just for the sake of sending individual messages

Do I win anything for this approach?

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By *tarburst babydoll OP Man
over a year ago

Dingwall

It is so annoying especially if it is regarding a post you made a couple of days ago and maybe made 3 or 4 replys to the same thread. It can become confusing as to what they are referring to

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

"I get that too. Many have said they are too shy to reply in the forum which i find strange."

I suspect that they’re expecting a great “hit rate” from PMs that they think will show they are Forumites and not just chancers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it that upsetting

Doesn't bother me

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I get the odd direct message . Makes my day as it’s rare to have the ‘message’ thing light up.

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By *orace99Man
over a year ago

York

"I generally reply in the forum, although occasionally I might have something to say in regard to a post that I want to say to an individual rather than in public for everyone to see. On those occasions I'll send a private message

But I don't do it just for the sake of sending individual messages

Do I win anything for this approach?

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

So tempted to send some private messages agreeing with the fact it's annoying...

Sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get that. I don't mind so much if it is a positive post but sometimes its to be bitchy to us. Like this morning K posted something in the covid is it real thread and some arsehole responds in a direct message to us in an aggressive manner. He said feck all on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I feel I need to ask, can someone explain to me what a private message is? Don't think I've ever came across one on this site? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy I feel I need to ask, can someone explain to me what a private message is? Don't think I've ever came across one on this site? Lol

That I don't believe.

A message sent to you private not in forum.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

The Mafia tend to tear them apart if they post something they feel is inappropriate like walking in a minefield at times.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's a risk you take that someone will send unwelcome messages from the forum, unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to write threads not now. Not going to ever again. As for responding to posts yes, I do but if I wanted to private message someone I might.

I am not bothered if people message me. I don't lose sleep over anything on here. Take with pinch of salt. Have some fun.

Cheers fab for the fun times.

Crazy times behest us all.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've had a few of these. Figured that they'd hit the "Reply privately" button by accident. It's a weird option to have placed so prominently.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

They think it’ll get them “in” and that you’ll talk to them because of it. The same thing happens if I post a status, so I don’t do that anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The worst ones are those who send an abusive message and then block you so you can't reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First world problems.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The worst ones are those who send an abusive message and then block you so you can't reply."

Just don't bother replying, not worth the effort!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is really that much of a drama?

The forums have that facility built into them.

We all receive welcome and unwelcome messages on this site and not just through the forums. They go with the territory.

I have received some very nice supportive messages for some of my posts from people who said they didnt feel brave enough to post something themselves.

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