FabSwingers.com forum: Cumming to quick

By *TnTx OP Couple
over a year ago

North West

Hey

So I’ve searched the forums and the web and I'm unable to find any help.

So I’ve put my big boy pants on and I’m now seeking advice.

More often than not I will cum quick, sometimes it can be literally two pumps and a squirt.

Every now and then I can do 10mins or so.

Once it’s safe todo so we’d like to introduce another into our play.

I’m worried that when that times comes it’ll be over and done with for me very quickly, round two is normally a lot longer but feel in this situation I may find it hard.

What can I try to help with this?

As you can imagine this is a hard subject for me.

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By *ocusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. This is one of those annoying things that worrying about it can make it worse, Don’t worry about introducing someone else into your play.

How long does it take before you’re good to go again? After the first cum, the second for me takes longer.

Have you tried having a wank an hour or two before playing?

There are a few prolonging techniques such as pinching just under the helmet as you feel an orgasm coming on. A gentle tug of the balls can also stave it off.

The best way in the long term is to just take it slow, Don’t go diving in. Oral, wanking and stroking for a while can get you to learn your body’s reactions and learn the signs that you’re about to cum. It’s easier to prolong at this stage. Once you get used to that, it gets easier to prolong during penetration.

There isn’t afaik a quick fix but luckily the hard way is quite enjoyable.

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By *TnTx OP Couple
over a year ago

North West

"It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. This is one of those annoying things that worrying about it can make it worse, Don’t worry about introducing someone else into your play.

How long does it take before you’re good to go again? After the first cum, the second for me takes longer.

Have you tried having a wank an hour or two before playing?

There are a few prolonging techniques such as pinching just under the helmet as you feel an orgasm coming on. A gentle tug of the balls can also stave it off.

There isn’t afaik a quick fix but luckily the hard way is quite enjoyable.

Thanks,

Just sometimes when I’m done and ready to go again the moments gone.

Thanks for the advice though I’ll try some of them.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

The advice to have a (gentle) wank a couple of hours before is sound, but just enough to milk some cum out without actually having a full orgasm. That can keep the desire there without the urgency. Combine that maybe with a Viagra so you know you have the confidence to go again even if you do cum.

Good luck

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hey

So I’ve searched the forums and the web and I'm unable to find any help.

So I’ve put my big boy pants on and I’m now seeking advice.

More often than not I will cum quick, sometimes it can be literally two pumps and a squirt.

Every now and then I can do 10mins or so.

Once it’s safe todo so we’d like to introduce another into our play.

I’m worried that when that times comes it’ll be over and done with for me very quickly, round two is normally a lot longer but feel in this situation I may find it hard.

What can I try to help with this?

As you can imagine this is a hard subject for me.

Take a Viagra slow you down

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By *Jones19Man
over a year ago

Evesham, Worcester, Pershore

My advice. And its similar to the wank before, but cum during forplay. Im a big beliver in more foreplay. Ive struggled in the past, cumming to quickly for one reason or another. I found this helps and it keeps everyone in the mood as you both/All know that sex is still to come. Build that first shot into your play, then its not a dissapointment or worry, its a fun precursor to the great sex thats about to follow

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By *inkyCouple1927Couple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I’d say the best thing to do is be up front about it on meeting. If it’s a big deal for the other party then you know to just leave it there, but most decent folk would be understanding surely?

If you’re looking to swap, then perhaps have your first time with own partner then swap for the second? That way you perhaps wouldn’t worry so much about being quick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put one in the bank earlier in the day before it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be worth thinking about investing in something akin to a Fleshlight stamina trainer, too. If you haven't already, I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think someone’s already said it but I find viagra helps a lot I only use half a tab at a time and seems to do the trick

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By *lutonicMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Rant there creams for this sort of thing. Its easily to get too excited in the moment. What worked for me is to 'bust' one out. And hour or two before. That'll take the heightened sensation of the climax. Take your time on your next encounter. Hope that works.

It's a common occurrence. When I was a lad. Boy I use to ejaculate like a fountain by just a touch of a sensual finger stroke. Gor better with time along with endurance. Happy Fabbing mate.

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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago

In A Playspace

You and your other half can work on this, it's good sometimes to just pentrate her, and stay penetrated without any movement. Then slowly move in and out, and stop when you feel it building up. You both keep working on this. And you will learn to edge just at that point when you know you are going to release.

This can help without being dependent on any kind of drugs. ????

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By *TnTx OP Couple
over a year ago

North West

Thanks for all the advice, will give some a go.

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By *uck1buddyMan
over a year ago

midlands

Definately a tactical wank beforehand and start with loads of foreplay on her. This way she will be all worked up ready to orgasm before you’ve even started. Hope that helps

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