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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Given the volume of bi curious women on here it’s created an interesting conversation for my partner and I.

She’s straight and has no interest in pussy but in the heat of the moment would have no issue with a woman going down on her.........however she’s worried that this would have to be reciprocated

I’ve suggested that just so long as we’re upfront at the start it shouldn’t be an issue

What’s the etiquette?

And before you suggest this means she’s secretly curious please think again......she really isn’t xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not something I'd want to do. There's a term for it, pillow princesses.

If I'm playing with a woman it'd be because she wanted to play with me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Still learning.......pillow princess

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I personally wouldn’t go for women who has no desire to play with me. I also shut down that aspect of play if there is straight woman in a group play so it won’t happen in a heat of the moment as well.

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By *randmrsbigcCouple
over a year ago

North east

No, I will specifically look for couples with bi/bicurious females.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

In my humble opinion with the right person it shouldn't be an issue if they know what the "rules" are and are ok with what can't or won't happen it just may take you longer to find that someone

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand


"No, I will specifically look for couples with bi/bicurious females.

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Also that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not something I'd want to do. There's a term for it, pillow princesses.

If I'm playing with a woman it'd be because she wanted to play with me."

Exactly this!

And it's so easy to tell if a woman isn't into it.

Lu

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

Just be honest from the off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well from a straight woman's point of view,I have zero interest in any women performing any sexual act on me

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield

It is an interesting one this, as both of us identify as straight, however in the spirit of play if the feeling is right we both enjoy some oral play with the same sex. We would not meet someone of the same sex just for sex, but as described "in the heat of the moment" we enjoy it with some people.

Bi-Curious doesn't really fit because we are not looking to find out if we like it, we like it "sometimes". We have tried to explain this in our profile as none of the labels available really fit. It works for us and we try to be honest from off about it.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It is an interesting one this, as both of us identify as straight, however in the spirit of play if the feeling is right we both enjoy some oral play with the same sex. We would not meet someone of the same sex just for sex, but as described "in the heat of the moment" we enjoy it with some people.

Bi-Curious doesn't really fit because we are not looking to find out if we like it, we like it "sometimes". We have tried to explain this in our profile as none of the labels available really fit. It works for us and we try to be honest from off about it. "

I've heard "bi playful" used for this sort of thing.

I tend to avoid it, because I've had experiences where I'm made to feel like an exotic creature putting on a performance. I'm not here for that

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"It is an interesting one this, as both of us identify as straight, however in the spirit of play if the feeling is right we both enjoy some oral play with the same sex. We would not meet someone of the same sex just for sex, but as described "in the heat of the moment" we enjoy it with some people.

Bi-Curious doesn't really fit because we are not looking to find out if we like it, we like it "sometimes". We have tried to explain this in our profile as none of the labels available really fit. It works for us and we try to be honest from off about it.

I've heard "bi playful" used for this sort of thing.

I tend to avoid it, because I've had experiences where I'm made to feel like an exotic creature putting on a performance. I'm not here for that "

Yes it's really not for me.

I guess it similar the guys who are happy for somebody (potentially male or female) to give them a blowjob but they're not interested in reciprocating

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

I would rather the woman to be experienced with other women, and to be generally attracted to them. Guess I'd feel like an experiment, much more fun if its mutual passion/pleasure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not something I'd want to do. There's a term for it, pillow princesses.

If I'm playing with a woman it'd be because she wanted to play with me."

This for me too and vice versa. That we want to play with each other.

I am interested in bisexual and maybe bicurious women, though have had MF couple profiles message me asking if I'd be ok with her being a pillow princess.

Being upfront is best. They were upfront saying she was a pillow princess and I in turn replied that I was not interested in that setup.

There are also the terms bi-playful and hetero-flexible.

Some may say that you can be bisexual and only want to receive I guess.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Personally I refuse to meet couples with straight women, and I’m wary about bi-curious because I’m not willing to be an experiment for anyone. I just feel like if the woman’s straight, what’s the point for me? What do I get out of the meet? Might as well just meet a single man. And I definitely don’t play with pillow princesses, or anyone who’s just using me to pleasure them without giving anything back.

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By *iking SoftiesCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"It is an interesting one this, as both of us identify as straight, however in the spirit of play if the feeling is right we both enjoy some oral play with the same sex. We would not meet someone of the same sex just for sex, but as described "in the heat of the moment" we enjoy it with some people.

Bi-Curious doesn't really fit because we are not looking to find out if we like it, we like it "sometimes". We have tried to explain this in our profile as none of the labels available really fit. It works for us and we try to be honest from off about it.

I've heard "bi playful" used for this sort of thing.

I tend to avoid it, because I've had experiences where I'm made to feel like an exotic creature putting on a performance. I'm not here for that

Yes it's really not for me.

I guess it similar the guys who are happy for somebody (potentially male or female) to give them a blowjob but they're not interested in reciprocating"

We both more than happy to reciprocate when we play like this, no problem there if people are happy to play bi with us we are happy to do the same, we just identify as straight as it’s only in a swinging scenario that we would do this, not on a one to one meeting if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your thoughts guys and to be honest you've basically said what I've been telling my partner all along. There has to be a mutual attraction and knowledge that the other woman wants to play. An intimate act has to be reciprocated in some way whether it be like for like or in the knowledge that it was mutually desired in the first place. Otherwise you might just as well be a sex toy or inanimate object which isn't fair. It's about mutual respect.

Though I would add it does surprise me how many just assume all women must be bi curious....an assumption that's never made about all men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a really grey area and something I'd personally avoid but each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys for the responses......still non the wiser

A grey area

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Personally I want to be wanted, so pillow princesses are not for me.. I want fire answered with fire. Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys for the responses......still non the wiser

A grey area "

I think the answer is that just like everything else , the key is pre play communication.

I totally get why it’s not for everyone but personally I wouldn’t have any issues with plying with a woman that didn’t want to reciprocate as long as I was happy that it was what she really wanted and not just something she was “putting on for the fella ” I suppose.

And of course it should go without saying that the communication doesn’t stop at the preplay but continues right through. If for whatever reason the woman changes her mind, that’s it, done, no biggie.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Played with a pillow princess on my first bi experience and didn't enjoy it at all so I would only play with people that will give as well as recieve from now on

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I'm not interested in any sexual activity with someone who isn't into me sexually.

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I personally wouldn’t want to play with someone who wouldn’t want to play with me - if that makes sense

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Those last two comments are a big thing for me as well. I’d never forgive myself if I did something someone didn’t want - and “in the heat of the moment” can still be bitterly regretted later.

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By *iercedlotsCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

I would gladly give with expecting to receive.xxx

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Takes 2 girls to tango

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would gladly give with expecting to receive.xxx"

Glad I’m not alone, I was beginning to think it was just me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Takes 2 girls to tango "

let's dance

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By *roubleInMindCouple
over a year ago

Greater Manchester


"Personally I'm not interested in any sexual activity with someone who isn't into me sexually. "

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By *rofessJayWoman
over a year ago

wherever

OP I totally understand your comments

I’m straight and have no longing to go down on another woman. I did meet a couple once and she was bi and they both went down on me at various stages but she didn’t expect me to reciprocate

In the heat of the moment, I did kiss her and finger her pussy, but that was it

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

As long as you’re upfront with the people you try to meet, there’s no reason you shouldn’t find a woman who wants to give but not receive, other than they will be an extremely rare niche amongst an already very limited number of women on Fab - women who will meet a couple alone.

It certainly wouldn’t be something we’d seek ourselves, but Fab is a place where you can explore your particular fantasies and, if you are lucky, fulfil them. Hope you find what you are looking for.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

We are both pleasure givers and can get satisfaction from that alone i hate the scenario where each act has to be replicated in return,boring

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