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How do you get over nerves !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been on fab's 7 weeks, I can only get together with my partner every other week, although we have have fun in that time, i feel at the moment Wine is the best cure for nerves. But it can end in a situation where you can't remember the end of the evening.If anyone can tell me other wise to sort this out, i would be grateful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know... Wish i did..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just jump in and go for it, got to say dont like the thought of too much to drink though, i like to remember the fun times x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how about having just one or two glasses of wine and not downing the whole bottle?

Just go for it, most people are a bit nervous so you're not alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know exactly how u mean! i suffer terrible with bad nerves for meets, i work myself up a right treat to a point where i just cant meet anybody! i know its just sex but guys expect supermodels off here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just get nervous trying to think of what to type. so ive not had much sucsess let alone meets lol. most people say just go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes thats the key, just go with the flow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to do some sport.

It help a lot

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over a year ago

I Just remember that the other person will be just as nervous and that helps calm me down a bit

Drinking too much will only de-sensitise those bits that really need to be kept sensitive for play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Just remember that the other person will be just as nervous and that helps calm me down a bit

Drinking too much will only de-sensitise those bits that really need to be kept sensitive for play "

dont worry i wont drink...as i dont

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over a year ago


"I Just remember that the other person will be just as nervous and that helps calm me down a bit

Drinking too much will only de-sensitise those bits that really need to be kept sensitive for play

dont worry i wont drink...as i dont

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What a good boy you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My daughter is disabled and i use a spray called "Rescue Remedy" on her when she panics. I am going to give that a try and my wonderful Partner has now got me on low or no Alcohol wine. Which is working well, so it just goes to show that it is mind over matter !!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I Just remember that the other person will be just as nervous and that helps calm me down a bit"

That's what I try to tell Perky......

Pork...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Still get nervous after several years, would be a bit worried if with meeting new people we did'nt tbh..

it lessens but its still there, all part of the fun..

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton

I get nervous before every meet, even with guys who I know well. It's par for the course. On every occasion though, I feel relaxed just after a few minutes and that's without the need for wine !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been on fab's 7 weeks, I can only get together with my partner every other week, although we have have fun in that time, i feel at the moment Wine is the best cure for nerves. But it can end in a situation where you can't remember the end of the evening.If anyone can tell me other wise to sort this out, i would be grateful "

Well I always get the nerves and I have been swinging for some 8 years or so. The day I lose the nerves is the day I will pack it in. No ambition to be a Hardened Swinger... So nerves are good!

Wine is OK but one glass tops as people will think you can only play when you are pissed and word gets around. either that or they will think you are only doing it for your partner. Both are clearly wrong but impressions are everything in Swinging.

Just go for it, breathe deep, burst a bra strap and enjoy yourself ..Its supposed to be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nerves are part of the fun. I'm teetotal and not comfortable with anyone I meet drinking to be honest. it freaks me slightly because alcohol changes people too much.

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