FabSwingers.com forum: Hassled by single males

By *eaford2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Seaford

Why when a couple respond to a single male, do they think it gives them the right to bombard you with texts day after day after day after day - as a couple we are not desperate, so we couldn’t care if you never get sex again .... rant over

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why don't you block him ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why when a couple respond to a single male, do they think it gives them the right to bombard you with texts day after day after day after day - as a couple we are not desperate, so we couldn’t care if you never get sex again .... rant over"

There is a "BLOCK" button

unless of course you are seeking attention with this thread.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We get messages from single males but we would not say we are bombarded, most are polite, there are of course a few exceptions but the are eceptions rather than the norm.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We block after the third or fourth message in a row.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, seems a no brainer.

That's what your block button is for

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

That's what the block button is for.

Must say that most single guys who contact us accept no thank you with a polite message back and we never hear from them again.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It’s that one guy, who’s hassling you. The majority of single guys can take a hint or an instruction if you ask them to stop bothering you. As previously commented on, use the block button

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's horrible and they shouldn't do it. I get it. My sympathy.

But yes, unfortunately that is an excellent reason to block.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

Its happened a few times we just block them can be annoying if you have been chatting a while and they start getting pushy especially if you were looking forward to meeting them

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

There's a line between keen and nuisance that varies from person to person. Its safe to assume they are not blocked because you you are keen on them and when you are ready you want them keen on you. Their ego might need their keenness reciprocated to maintain it. If that cannot be done then just block as soon as the heebie-jeebeis hit.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Admittedly our profile is one looking for single guys but we've put in capital letters that we're not meeting at the moment and telling single guys, in no uncertain terms, not to contact us.

Does it make a difference?

Does it hell.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Give some people an “in” and they will take a mile.

Either tell them to slow down if you like them or block them I suppose.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Admittedly our profile is one looking for single guys but we've put in capital letters that we're not meeting at the moment and telling single guys, in no uncertain terms, not to contact us.

Does it make a difference?

Does it hell.

I've discovered the "pandemic no" setting in my filters. Been on since April.

If I haven't messaged you, you can't message me if you're single male, single female, couple MF, couple MM, couple FF, or TV/TS.

I've had two or three offers since then (apart from "I would but we can't").

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just get blocked because I won't meet during Covid

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I just get blocked because I won't meet during Covid

And the trash takes itself out, frankly.

(That is, if people can't understand why people are prioritising an international health crisis over a casual shag, then they're horrible people who've done you a favour by removing themselves from your experience)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones that frustrate me are the ones who message from the back of thread then use that to demand conversation before assuming conversation means meeting

Can’t I just enjoy a conversation without feeling on edge, it’s not banter to keep asking and hinting then back up when called out for it

It’s a horrible minefield to navigate and spoils it for the genuine few here

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I think the OP is saying that sometimes once they show a little interest the guys become very pushy and needy.

We have had this once, a guy we like during lockdown and had exchanged a few messages.

We said maybe arrange a meet after lockdown but we could stay in touch in the meantime.

He took stay in touch as messaging us everyday and starting to become very needy if we didnt reply quick enough.

Very much a big turn off.

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By *adbod52Man
over a year ago

south east

If I send a message and get no reply, I take it as a polite no.

The single guys that just hassle people give us genuine guys a bad name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although we state we are looking for males and couples, we have had to block all males from contacting us due the the volume of frankly desperate rude messages. The way we see it, if it’s not the way you would speak to a stranger in the street, don’t fucking do it online. Face to face it would end up in an ambulance trip. There is no need for it, any men we have met up with have been respectful and understood boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just get blocked because I won't meet during Covid

And the trash takes itself out, frankly.

I totally agree with you there

The block is fair enough,the damn abuse before they block isn't though

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

As a single man I try my best to be polite and respectful of any ladies and couples i message, the men giving the ladies and couples are giving decent men a bad name, i dont get a reply i dont message again, I leave people to make their own minds up whether too reply or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever send one message, then if it’s deleted I know I wasn’t for them, it’ll it’s read but not replied to I add to hotlist you keep an eye on, but never ever bombard anyone and never send unsolicited dick pics, I don’t understand how anyone thinks this is a good way of saying hello!

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

"As a single man I try my best to be polite and respectful of any ladies and couples i message, the men giving the ladies and couples are giving decent men a bad name, i dont get a reply i dont message again, I leave people to make their own minds up whether too reply or not "

Thankyou for being one of the genuine males one here!.....we have had a few try and try and try and it’s just not going to happen...whilst we WONT meet single males for sex,a good social always goes down a treat,especially at a club

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

I'm almost finished clicking everyone on this site. It's the only way I'll get some peaceful undisturbed time to have a wank!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We should just ban single males from this site....

Then all the couples and single females can enjoy swinging.....

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

It's very simple , set your filters so single men can not message you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha men are bad amirite

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Haha men are bad amirite"

#notallmen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The ones that frustrate me are the ones who message from the back of thread then use that to demand conversation before assuming conversation means meeting

Can’t I just enjoy a conversation without feeling on edge, it’s not banter to keep asking and hinting then back up when called out for it

It’s a horrible minefield to navigate and spoils it for the genuine few here "

we get this alot, just keep it in the forums please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your looking for single guys block them all from messaging you by using your message filters.

This lets you decide which single male to contact if you are interested in him.

And if he turns out to be an idiot block him and search again.

This is typical of couples who bash single males yet do not use the sites message filters to make life easier for them.

You have the power so use it instead of moaning

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Haha men are bad amirite

#notallmen"

It’s frustrating!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your looking for single guys block them all from messaging you by using your message filters.

This lets you decide which single male to contact if you are interested in him.

And if he turns out to be an idiot block him and search again.

This is typical of couples who bash single males yet do not use the sites message filters to make life easier for them.

You have the power so use it instead of moaning "

or single guys could stop sending rude offensive messages, the bad do spoil it for the good ones, and there does seem to be alot more idiots on here since lockdown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slow down a minute. You message them and they reply. Whats the world coming to. Couples get 100s of messages. Single males get very little. Hes probably happy to get 1 message and doesn't want to lose out. I always like to think outside of the box sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Admittedly our profile is one looking for single guys but we've put in capital letters that we're not meeting at the moment and telling single guys, in no uncertain terms, not to contact us.

Does it make a difference?

Does it hell.

Delete Men off your 'Looking for' list. It takes you off their searches and so reduces mail.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Slow down a minute. You message them and they reply. Whats the world coming to. Couples get 100s of messages. Single males get very little. Hes probably happy to get 1 message and doesn't want to lose out. I always like to think outside of the box sometimes. "

I think the complaint is that they don’t know when to stop.

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By *ama Raised a RebelWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

It would have taken fat less effort just to block them than put up this thread. Its almost as though you like the attention from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would have taken fat less effort just to block them than put up this thread. Its almost as though you like the attention from them.

Shh you're being logical. That's not allowed on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block forget and move on.

But remember to block them if they block you first,that’s a nuisances oldest trick.

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London

There is a "BLOCK" button

unless of course you are seeking attention with this thread.

This

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By *9 kisses.Man
over a year ago

clacton on sea

When I look at a profile I go to there photos, if I like them il fab them, then I read there profile if it states not looking for single men then I won't message them,

I have more in my block list than my hot list,

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Omg this happened to us, it was almost like he believed we were in a 3 way relationship.. had to block him in the end as it was relentless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I look at a profile I go to there photos, if I like them il fab them, then I read there profile if it states not looking for single men then I won't message them,

I have more in my block list than my hot list, "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when we get a message (usually hello or hi), a wink and a friend invite all at once from a guy we’ve never spoke to even though our profile says not after single guys.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

They do themseles no favours. If we've met one,sometimes they think its an open invite. Some can then bombard you morning noon and night, throwing dates and times at us. They get blocked. Just cos were online, dose not mean were looking. I'm normally poking around the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do themseles no favours. If we've met one,sometimes they think its an open invite. Some can then bombard you morning noon and night, throwing dates and times at us. They get blocked. Just cos were online, dose not mean were looking. I'm normally poking around the forums. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We block after the third or fourth message in a row.

Its 3 strikes and out for us.

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