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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK, so you meet someone from here and you end up having great sex.

But do you need a cuddle afterwards?

Can honetly say that over our ten years of swinging, neither of us has ever felt the need to cuddle a playmate after sex.

Maybe it's a singles thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even hug my wife after sex, so no, not really.

If there is some romance involved maybe, but if it's just fucking, why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK, so you meet someone from here and you end up having great sex.

But do you need a cuddle afterwards?

Can honetly say that over our ten years of swinging, neither of us has ever felt the need to cuddle a playmate after sex.

Maybe it's a singles thing?"

I play solo and as a couple with my boyfriend and we both love a cuddle with play friends we are fond of.

Her x

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We have a regular FWB that will occasionally stay the night so cuddles always happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very tactical if it's people we've played with a couple of times we like cuddles xx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Always had cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first Threesome we all fell asleep spooning I was in the middle and I loved it.

Cuddles are priceless. It is however your choice to Not cuddle.

Jo.Xx

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Pandora 30 Aug

Can't say I have, I cuddle my dog, he appreciates them

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham

I think it very much depends on the individual and the circumstances.

I've a friend who I play with at clubs and she absolutely needs to be held for a while after playing, another lady who insists on spending the night as she likes to fall asleep in my arms.

I've also met others who are happy with a quick kiss and a couple who might as well just shout "NEXT".

Personally I like the tactile side of things & would never refuse a cuddle if it is what the lady wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OK, so you meet someone from here and you end up having great sex.

But do you need a cuddle afterwards?

Can honetly say that over our ten years of swinging, neither of us has ever felt the need to cuddle a playmate after sex.

Maybe it's a singles thing?"

I love a cuddle after sex. I also love a good kissing session before, during and after sex.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Cuddles are lovely. I’m not sure I’d feel good about just getting dressed and legging-it.

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By *ittleCurvyChickWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the rainbow

I wouln't say i'm overly tactile but no cuddles at all is far to clinical for me

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I get cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't even hug my wife after sex, so no, not really.

If there is some romance involved maybe, but if it's just fucking, why?"

Why don’t you hug your wife?

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I’m definitely a cuddler - but not all night. I’m used to sleeping alone so for me it’s cuddles after sex - separate to sleep - then morning cuddles and sleepy sex - which generally turns into rampant sex!

Amazing where a cuddle can lead.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I like cuddles all the time. I've had that with most of my meets

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By *ittykat94Woman
over a year ago

Gatwick-ish

Depends on the person and dynamic you have with them I guess!

Often have some kind of 'down time' be it a cuddle or a chat, feels wrong for me to just go!

Each to their own though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to have a cuddle after. It was just feel robotic to me otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally tend to meet with women that I connect with,not just for a "shag and go", so some cuddles and affection after sex is something I like doing.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

If I can't hug someone then nothing else is going to happen

Hugs are (were pre covid, will be post covid) my hello and goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to HATE cuddles!

But a couple of people have changed my mind and I find I do quite enjoy a cuddle after nowadays

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Police Squad.


"Always had cuddles "

If you are making it lazy all day session, there is always room for cuddles.

But if the husband there, it is a bit awkward. So it depends on the situation in my eyes.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"If I can't hug someone then nothing else is going to happen

Hugs are (were pre covid, will be post covid) my hello and goodbye "

Hugs are like kisses they just feel so good

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

I love cuddles after sex or just spoon together when it takes longer and when we have all night.

I now enjoy every single touch and the time of "wam-bam, thank you mam" is over and gone

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

I'm definitely a cuddler regardless of whether it's with my hubs, a couple or a single male meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need the cuddles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair enough. We may have to rethink our position on cuddling

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"OK, so you meet someone from here and you end up having great sex.

But do you need a cuddle afterwards?

Can honetly say that over our ten years of swinging, neither of us has ever felt the need to cuddle a playmate after sex.

Maybe it's a singles thing?"

I enjoy a cuddle after sex, I also enjoy lots of touching, stroking, kissing and wait for it; talking!

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Cuddles are great.

To me it's like kissing, it's part of the intamacy and as such part of what makes the sexual connection stronger and better.

I couldn't have sex without kissing or cuddles. Might as well just use a toy.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish

Sex without cuddles is like plain rice without a curry. Fills a basic need, but does NOT satisfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cuddle is a must, to not cuddle would feel rude.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

A cuddle is always a good idea in my book

her head on my chest usually , or a spooning. Get our breath back and a bit of recovery time.

maybe chat if the moods right.

A nice rest before the next bout

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham


"Sex without cuddles is like plain rice without a curry. Fills a basic need, but does NOT satisfy."

I'm stealing that, great analogy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it depends on what you want from your swinging experiences.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Most single men we've .met have actively avoided cuddles. Come to think of it so have the couples

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

The ladies i have met on fab, single or married always like a cwtch (cuddle) after sex. I have no problem with it.

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By *atBottomGirlsWoman
over a year ago

St Austell-ish


"Sex without cuddles is like plain rice without a curry. Fills a basic need, but does NOT satisfy.

I'm stealing that, great analogy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without cuddles is like plain rice without a curry. Fills a basic need, but does NOT satisfy.

I'm stealing that, great analogy.

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I agree too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I'd usually do. A bit too intimate for me.

If it's a regular meet, then possibly. I tend to save any cuddling or hand holding for if I'm dating someone, not one off meets

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Essential if there has been impact play.

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By *miler6969696969Man
over a year ago

Doncaster/Sheffield

I cuddle with play friends if that's wot they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without cuddles is like plain rice without a curry. Fills a basic need, but does NOT satisfy.

I'm stealing that, great analogy.

I agree too "

Haha absolutely

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We both love to give cuddles. And kissing too.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

If a overnighter we tend to just chill with me the filling in the sandwich, or they have kept me on the edge for hours and i finally let go into a orgasmic haze, and wake up being teased again, nothing hotter, im no wham bam thank you man, unless its a outdoor quickie scenario, same as kissing and eye contact also a huge turnon for me

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By *av_55Man
over a year ago

NE

Cuddles .. every time.. if the offer is there .

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

Cuddles are for anyone who likes them! I love cuddling, I wouldn't expect or insist on it, but I'd be happy to cuddle after a play meet.

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast

Is there a difference in a cuddle and a hug? Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too many restrictions can spoil things, too often there are too many rules: no kissing, no cuddling, no stroking yada yada yada. I had it where the man listed all those things as "she doesn't do". She sat scowling and through the whole thing looked as miserable as sin and never said a word. Not my best night out despite the fact she was stunning to look at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles all the way. People were meant to be held, that’s what arms are for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need no. But I usually do cuddle xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuddles are the best.. but not for everyone

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

It's very rare that I don't go for some sort of cuddle / contact afterwards. It's arguably the best part of the whole experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to HATE cuddles!

But a couple of people have changed my mind and I find I do quite enjoy a cuddle after nowadays "

I hope I feel that way one day, and about kissing too

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

It very much depends on the scene and the connection. I do like a good cuddle with those I'm close to, sex or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing and cuddling

J

X

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By *ilf3423Man
over a year ago

Beds

I’d, with tears of loneliness and self loathing rolling down my cheeks

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Depends if their friends or randoms.

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I have found that during a long session . When your having a break lying together kissing and cuddling it reignites the passion so much quicker..

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

I think it all depends on the people and situation, but now I think about it, more often than not if there are three or more of you cuddles don't happen unless with your own partner. Possibly to reaffirm their relationship status after having a mind blowing orgasm with someone else. Now I want a cuddle.

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By *andemanMan
over a year ago

bedforshire

I don't tend to fuck someone i would not wish to cuddle. They are sometimes not into it and that's fine but no love a good cuddle.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I just love cuddles from anyone! A random in the street would b welcome lol! I miss them so much! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. If you have feelings for them then I love a cuddle. I never leave my fwb without one

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Westbury (Wiltshire)


"I'm very tactical if it's people we've played with a couple of times we like cuddles xx"

In camouflage and no lights kind of tactical? So how long have you had this fetish?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For us swinging and romance are at opposite ends of the spectrum, and cuddles are definitely at the romance end.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Holibobs


"I’m definitely a cuddler - but not all night. I’m used to sleeping alone so for me it’s cuddles after sex - separate to sleep - then morning cuddles and sleepy sex - which generally turns into rampant sex!

Amazing where a cuddle can lead. "

I do this as well

Also every single one of the hothusbands I play with is very happy to romantically cuddle with me, I wouldn't play if the couple wasn't happy with that

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"For us swinging and romance are at opposite ends of the spectrum, and cuddles are definitely at the romance end. "
Same I only cuddle my husband never really wanted or felt the need to cuddle anyone we have had fun with..

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