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Are you really a “swinger” as a single man ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or are we just horny fellas ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or are we just horny fellas ? "

Could say the same about us single woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sportfuckers"

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

I think you have to have a partner to be a swinger as such....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a sadly prevalent attitude here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a filthy animal

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Austin Powers was a single guy but he still managed to put the Grrrrr into swinger, baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion.

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By *e Kinky FewMan
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

I feel you should be in a consenting couple to be considered a true swinger, all us other folks are just horny bastards. Lol x

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By *e Kinky FewMan
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Austin Powers was a single guy but he still managed to put the Grrrrr into swinger, baby "

Love this

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I think that if single guys or gals are up for group fun then that seems more like swingers than just hooking up with singles.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I think you have to have a partner to be a swinger as such...."

Why? You’re looking for single women, what are those women if not swingers? And if single women can be swingers, why can’t single men?

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We have met men who understood swinging and were perfect meets we have chatted with men who think its a site full of free prostitutes but some are definitely singers don't get nervous with couples or stage fright

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."

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Yes would agree with that

Some get the whole swinging scene thing and embrace it

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion."

Quite an accurate observation

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Swinging used to mean having sex with persons other than your partner with your partner's consent. By that definition, a single could not be a swinger although they might be meeting swingers.

Maybe fab started out catering for true swingers, but it has become a site for anyone interested in sexual encounters. At least it used to be that way. Nowadays, it's a vehicle for people who don't have meets to pass our time posting on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."

This, it’s how you view others and what you’re looking for

I’m single and class myself a swinger, I’ve been in a relationship as one and single as one, my views didn’t change per my status and I wouldn’t have a relationship just for the label

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me swinging is a lifestyle choice based around the enjoyment of being in the ompany of other like minded people, with everybody's aim to gain social and sexual satisfaction in a clandestine world, away from the judgement of others.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Whether I qualify as a "true swinger" or not, I'd like to believe that I can prove useful to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.

This, it’s how you view others and what you’re looking for

I’m single and class myself a swinger, I’ve been in a relationship as one and single as one, my views didn’t change per my status and I wouldn’t have a relationship just for the label "

A guy asked me (away from here) why I'm on here if I'm not going to be naughty, my response: to find a swinging partner.

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."

Definitely the case.

Swinging is essentially a social activity with the potential to develop into playtime.

I see lots of singles, especially guys, going into clubs thinking it is some sort of free-for-all but those who settle in to the swinging scene know it is all about the personal interactions, not just a quick hookup.

Of course there is a time & place for quickies but on the whole it is the attitude of caring about other's pleasure that defines swingers from shaggers

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

Never understand the need to constantly put labels on people.... Let's just have fun and play

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Or are we just horny fellas ? "

There have always been singles at swingers meets, even in the 60s and 70s.

Why worry about labels, instead enjoy the fun

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By *imBanksMan
over a year ago

Letchworth

I played years ago with my ex mrs & after a while came back to the swinging world but as a single.

The buzz of group fun never goes

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

I've been told as me and my wife play separately we aren't swingers. Perhaps but I would say we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are some arent I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a swinger, I am single.

I believe it is a mindset and lifestyle. I have been in a swingers relationship, and looking for that again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or are we just horny fellas ? "

Ask yourself some very simple questions....

"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"

"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"

Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time.

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

I was a swinger when I was single, but the line is often a little more blurred with guys for some reason.

A good measure is if a single guy 'swinger' gets a girl friend, does he bring her along to have fun? Or does he say, no way, not MY girl?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Or are we just horny fellas ?

Ask yourself some very simple questions....

"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"

"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"

Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time."
spot on I agree

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham


"Or are we just horny fellas ?

Ask yourself some very simple questions....

"Is this something I only do when I'm single or horny?"

"Would I be jealous of another guy fucking my partner like I fuck other guy's partner?"

Basically if your answers are focused towards being selfish and jealous. You're not a swinger, you're a fuckboy/player. If your answers are focused towards being inclusive on both sides, you're a swinger that just happens to be outwith a relationship at this point in time."

Very much agree with this.

Personally I really enjoy watching my play partners playing with others.

A large part of the reason I'm long term single is I don't think I'd be happy in a relationship with somebody who wasn't part of or at least in tune with the swinging lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Austin Powers was a single guy but he still managed to put the Grrrrr into swinger, baby "

So does that means James Bonds a swinger.

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By *ohn67123Man
over a year ago

Accrington


"As a single guy you’re definitely swinging with another couple as the lady is having sex with another guy with her partner. If a single guy is meeting a single girl then ‘swinging’ maybe the wrong description. Just my opinion."

Agree. Also being watched while playing is not what the general population would do either.

Therefore swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just a horny lass.

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham


"I'm just a horny lass."

My god do you look great in that dress.... can only imagine how good you look out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just a horny lass.

My god do you look great in that dress.... can only imagine how good you look out of it "

Even better

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

What about couples that just look for single women or men?

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I'm a player with respect for my partners or just some desperate wannabe looking for thrill in his mundane life.

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham


"I'm just a horny lass.

My god do you look great in that dress.... can only imagine how good you look out of it

Even better "

Of that I have no doubt at all, not the slightest xx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player."

Basically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but that's more to do with me being a miserable, antisocial cunt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or are we just horny fellas ? "

Just horny lol

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

North Wessex Downs

I guess single guys shagging single girls are just shaggers LOL! Ditto guys that shag the odd couple. However, single guys that mix and converse with singles and couples, get to know them, and focus on adding something to a more 'group' environment are probably swingers.....

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.

Definitely the case.

Swinging is essentially a social activity with the potential to develop into playtime.

I see lots of singles, especially guys, going into clubs thinking it is some sort of free-for-all but those who settle in to the swinging scene know it is all about the personal interactions, not just a quick hookup.

Of course there is a time & place for quickies but on the whole it is the attitude of caring about other's pleasure that defines swingers from shaggers "

Spot on! I had never had an orgasm until I joined the swinging lifestyle. Swingers are very generous lovers and are generally more respectful.

I'm a single woman but am definitely a swinger

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"The 'mindset' makes a swinger for us even if they are a single player.

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Yes would agree with that

Some get the whole swinging scene thing and embrace it "

Thirded

It's all about attitude

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