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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many same sex experiences does it take before you officially qualify as being bi?

I assume the first is a trial, the second a confirmation and the third gives you the title?

Might be tempted to give it a go with the right couple if I get to keep my "straight" sexuality after a few dabbles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see it's much different from straight sex. For instance, I'd guess that most people didn't really enjoy their first heterosexual encounter - you're nervous, you're not sure what you're doing, you're worried you're not pleasing your partner etc. It's only when you've done it a few times you think, Oh I see, this is what it's about.

When I first had sex with a man I thought I'd got it out of my system and realised it wasn't for me. But I had a second encounter with another guy not long after and thoroughly enjoyed that. Looking back, I think I was bi for a long time before I started having bi sex, maybe even as when I was a teen. I could have started a lot earlier.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

You have to go on a course and get a certificate. The one day course qualifies you as bi-curious and the three day course means you’re fully bisexual

In all seriousness though I think it’s more about how you feel than your sexual CV.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...Looking back, I think I was bi for a long time before I started having bi sex..."


"...I think it’s more about how you feel than your sexual CV."

That's kinda how I've seen it and it would be more of a detached thing if I tried I'd but then, so was broccoli at some point...

Nice baps Mrs CC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity why is it so important to class yourself as straight even if you experience some bisexual encounters?

V

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For yourself it's not, of course, it's just the advertising of yourself on here that makes a difference.

Well, it doesn't make a difference going by the amount of offers I get from men despite my profile saying I'm straight

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

there’s no amount of sexual experiences that you need to validate your bisexuality. Even if you prefer a certain gender to another, if you like both, you’re bi. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0. If people identify as bisexual because they're attracted to both sexes, then there is no requirement for them to have had sex with both (or either) genders. Same principle as hetero and homosexual folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until you’re pushing back you’re just curious.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Until you’re pushing back you’re just curious. "

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Pretty sure its a state of mind and nothing to do with experience

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By *.A.ExperienceMan
over a year ago

cambridge

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By *.A.ExperienceMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Rachael-funny answer

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By *orthfieldsNickMan
over a year ago

West London

I’ve done my trial shift but need a bit more experience before I graduate as bi.

Seriously it’s nothing to do with what sexual acts you have or haven’t done, it’s about who you’re attracted too. I’m not attracted to guys however, but seem to enjoy a bit of cock fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really need label though. Can it not just be enjoying some different kind of sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men love to make this so difficult, just get on and do it or don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men love to make this so difficult, just get on and do it or don't"

Never thought about this but you’re so right. Not sure I’ve even seen a thread like this from a woman.

V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell. Does the sight of a mans body do the same as a ladys. Its not all about the sucking. He he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Until you’re pushing back you’re just curious. "

Lol

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"men love to make this so difficult, just get on and do it or don't"

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You know, that's sooooo true

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull

Dont think im bi but i tried it once didnt fancy him. Wanted to try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No experience necessary.

Sexuality exists regardless of actually having sex.

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont think im bi but i tried it once didnt fancy him. Wanted to try"

But did you enjoy the intamacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit to having more of a certainty with guys than women but have found different guys attractive if they are sexy just as with women its what you do as much as what you look like

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By *oner HornCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think the way you choose to label yourself is entirely personal.

I believe Tom Robinson thinks of himself as gay/queer even though he's been a relationship with a woman for years.

Equally, first time I knew I was bi ages before I actually met a partner of any gender. Just knew I fancied men and women.

(If anything I'd say I fancy men a bit more, but Mrs is the love of my life and the best fuck).

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I'm more into not needing to categorise who you have fun with. Fun is fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm more into not needing to categorise who you have fun with. Fun is fun. "

Totally agree!

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

I don't fancy men but having fun with men is different and like having guy fun now and again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men love to make this so difficult, just get on and do it or don't

Never thought about this but you’re so right. Not sure I’ve even seen a thread like this from a woman.

V"

Possibly because being female and bi is soooooo much more acceptable to society as a whole.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax


"How many same sex experiences does it take before you officially qualify as being bi?

I assume the first is a trial, the second a confirmation and the third gives you the title?

Might be tempted to give it a go with the right couple if I get to keep my "straight" sexuality after a few dabbles "

Just put yourself on thee continuum we are all on. Each successive positive experience you may have nudges you a little further along it.

Thing is, you can slide either way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men love to make this so difficult, just get on and do it or don't

Never thought about this but you’re so right. Not sure I’ve even seen a thread like this from a woman.

V

Possibly because being female and bi is soooooo much more acceptable to society as a whole. "

Sadly I think you’re right, I just struggle to understand it

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

It never interested me until my wife said she would love to see me with a guy.I'm now glad she did.

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By *acial giverMan
over a year ago

hull


"Dont think im bi but i tried it once didnt fancy him. Wanted to try

But did you enjoy the intamacy."

No just wanted to try cock up my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It never interested me until my wife said she would love to see me with a guy.I'm now glad she did."

You must have been pretty open minded to give it a go if it’d never interested you though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally as someone who has been bi as long as i can remember i don’t believe its determined by encounters. But by the fact would you actually get into a relationship with either sex? if the answer is no then your bi curious. Toe dopping and experimenting does not mean that you are bi. Just my opinion. But fun is fun not everything needs a label

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