FabSwingers.com forum: Fake straight guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Question to people only looking for straight guys.

As a bi couple we have lots of messages from guys and the majority claim on their profile to be straight. Whenever we quiz this, the response is usually that stating bi would put straight people off.

So these guys that are really bi are conning couples that only want to meet straight men. How does / would that make you feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question to people only looking for straight guys.

As a bi couple we have lots of messages from guys and the majority claim on their profile to be straight. Whenever we quiz this, the response is usually that stating bi would put straight people off.

So these guys that are really bi are conning couples that only want to meet straight men. How does / would that make you feel. "

From a single Bisexual male prespective i would say having been with a few couples over the years its all down to men being affraid to admit openly that they are Bi and the other are just not saying to edge ther bets on finding more pussy ....just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree, men do find it hard to admit being bi, I did for a long time.

I get quite a few winks or messages from guys that even have "not interested in meeting single guys" tick box checked and say they are straight on profile so it seems to be a common thing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I get all that and understand. But there are people who really don't want to meet bi guys and that should be their perrogative, yet the guys that edge their bets are taking that decision away from then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the term 'conning' is a bit harsh. I think guys list themselves as straight for the reasons you mentioned -people judge.

Just because a guy is bi doesnt mean he cant control himself.

Im not bi in the sense I would engage in full sex with a man or kiss a man. I dont even find men attractive! However I list myself as bi curious as quite frankly I dont care who sucks me and in fact some blokes give great head when I have had threesomes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I think guys would be more honest if people werent so judgemental. Again just because someone is bi doesnt automatically mean they fancy the male half of the couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well as soon as we have a straight couple reply we'll know!!

It makes no odds to us but some people don't want partners who have played bi. We know because we have to skip them profiles by ourselves - even though we can both play straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also I think guys would be more honest if people werent so judgemental. Again just because someone is bi doesnt automatically mean they fancy the male half of the couple"

I don't think it's because they don't want to risk bi play themselves...

And I don't think if that's their preference that's up to them I don't consider them judgemental... Hey more bi guys for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It makes no odds to us but some people don't want partners who have played bi. We know because we have to skip them profiles by ourselves - even though we can both play straight. "

And thats sort of my point - you can play straight so whats the problem?

I have met a lot of couples with either 'straight' or 'curious' guys who gobble me down like there is no tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting!! Fake couples too lol.

Maybe you have a yummy irresistible cock ..... Off to look at ur profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hidden!! Tease lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unhidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and definately a lot of couples who are bi but dont say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I get all that and understand. But there are people who really don't want to meet bi guys and that should be their perrogative, yet the guys that edge their bets are taking that decision away from then. "

the thing is, how would you know and

why do some couples not play with bi guys?

is it a latent homophobia because they dont agree with that or is it just that they dont want any bi male contact?

i am a bi guy although i am predominantly hetro,and i play straight most of the time. i have been to clubs and parties and had MMF meets and not had any male contact and no-one would have known i was anything other than straight.

interested to know the reasons why some people wont play with bi guys at all.

do they think they may catch something???

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do not think people are as judgemental as they used to be, maybe 5 years ago.

Judgemental gets confused with preference and being turned off by the thought of man2man sex.

There are guys who try and con others by pretending to be bi, they need their hole and will do anything to get it.

and some 'bi' fems who will be lay down and be licked and fingered by other females as part of their quest to get hubby meets.....

it's a strange world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is out there somewhere!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"unhidden

And very nice too mmm. I've forgot what I was saying now

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't play with bi men. I get turned on by the "fear/shame" of straight men being rogered by my strap on and other toys. You can't fake blushing, add to that I like them to wear frillies...

I've tried playing with bi men, and they enjoy the anal play to the extent it doesn nothing for me...and it's all about me.

I always meet socially before a play meet. I've lost count of the number of "straight" men who, after relaxing and becoming comfortable with me some how share they've had same sex experiences, then get offended when I state I won't play with them.

There'll always be someone somewhere offended that people dare have preferences that exclude them, but hey ho!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't play with bi men. I get turned on by the "fear/shame" of straight men being rogered by my strap on and other toys. You can't fake blushing, add to that I like them to wear frillies...

I've tried playing with bi men, and they enjoy the anal play to the extent it doesn nothing for me...and it's all about me.

There'll always be someone somewhere offended that people dare have preferences that exclude them, but hey ho! "

Mr notts is only oral bi. Any talk of strapon fun and he's like a rabbit in the headlights. If its fear you like I will send him down lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who checks out our profile will see we are pretty active on the scene and from our experiences there is a he'll of alot of anti bi guys from the straight guys in a couple .

Since many couples have criteria driven primarily by what the guy wants a bi guy would be blocked from day one .

So bi guys and indeed bi couples will limit opportunities by admitting their bisexuality .

And if the male bisexuality doesn't involve anal penetration by stating you are bi you will be doing yourself no favours as most folk against male bisexuality for sexual health reasons will assume you either give or take it anally .

As long as folk are honest upon meeting I see no problem - if a do called straight guy tries it on with me I just say no - no worries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would people be against bi guys that give or take anal for health reasons???

its no different to MF anal and plenty of couples practice that.

if a guy plays safe all the time it shouldnt make any difference...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get more messages from Single Straight Guys than anyone else, and when I ask them about their sexuality, the reason is always the same, you get more action stating your straight on your profile, unfortunately this is a fact for this site anyway, I state I'm bi so when I message anyone I'm not hiding anything and they know exactly what they are getting, unfortunately us Bi guys get quite a rough deal dealt to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well as soon as we have a straight couple reply we'll know!!

It makes no odds to us but some people don't want partners who have played bi. We know because we have to skip them profiles by ourselves - even though we can both play straight. "
we have both played bi in the past but dont go looking for it if we were asked to play with a couple that were both bi then we would not say no but for ether of us to play bi we realy have to be in the right mood for it and some bi women will expect a women who has bi on her status to play bi and its rare jane does or i do for that so we leave it as straight for that reason and as its been along time since we have met a couple then dont see the need to change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This comment is based on what we hear on virtually every visit to clubs or couple meets - not saying it's right or wrong - just stating a fact !

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

many bi guys allow themselves to feel second rate on here and other swinger sites, if they focused on the many people who will meet them and not the ones who won't.... they would have a happier time, more fun and less angst.

I am no better than straight people and no worse... I just have sex with people who want to have sex with me and people that turn me on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wicked lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good topic and has created lots of interest in a short period of time; which goes to show there are lots of "hidden" secrets to be unearthed still in the world of FAB lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"unhidden

And very nice too mmm. I've forgot what I was saying now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have decided that we now only like to meet bi guys and couples - odd exception. But to us it's double the fun!!! I'm quite surprised at some of the comments as other threads on bi guys seem to have a very popular and positive response.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why would people be against bi guys that give or take anal for health reasons???

its no different to MF anal and plenty of couples practice that.

if a guy plays safe all the time it shouldnt make any difference..."

because bi/gay guys as a community are classed as a higher risk group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"many bi guys allow themselves to feel second rate on here and other swinger sites, if they focused on the many people who will meet them and not the ones who won't.... they would have a happier time, more fun and less angst.

I am no better than straight people and no worse... I just have sex with people who want to have sex with me and people that turn me on.

I dont feel second rate im a first rate cool guy and couldnt give a toss what people think of me being bisexual - life is to short to worrying about covering up lies and deceat dont you think ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

Absolutely!!! Lol. Dirty in a good way though maybe?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

I'll take greedy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

Absolutely!!! Lol. Dirty in a good way though maybe?!!!"

agreed - see my new topic on personal hygine to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

I'll take greedy! "

i take anything lol hehehehheh

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

we always check there friends and if they have bi or any other funny friends they get a no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would people be against bi guys that give or take anal for health reasons???

its no different to MF anal and plenty of couples practice that.

if a guy plays safe all the time it shouldnt make any difference...

because bi/gay guys as a community are classed as a higher risk group."

fair comment but if they play safe there is no extra risk. there are many straight couples on here who are far more risk, because they practice BB, than a lot of bi and gay men who always go safe..

sadly the 'community' still think STIs are restriced to gay men and prostitutes. which just isnt true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was bi...I'd like to see the hubby on a profile...his wife/partner might have a tasty paira tits n hot fanny...perhaps a pretty face.But I'd be seeking nice male cock, chiseled looks and a clean arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we always check there friends and if they have bi or any other funny friends they get a no

I'm straight, I have male friends bi and straight...but I dont play with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we always check there friends and if they have bi or any other funny friends they get a no

bi or funny friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would people be against bi guys that give or take anal for health reasons???

its no different to MF anal and plenty of couples practice that.

if a guy plays safe all the time it shouldnt make any difference...

because bi/gay guys as a community are classed as a higher risk group.

fair comment but if they play safe there is no extra risk. there are many straight couples on here who are far more risk, because they practice BB, than a lot of bi and gay men who always go safe..

sadly the 'community' still think STIs are restriced to gay men and prostitutes. which just isnt true.

That last comment.... Exactly that....

I think there will also be some straight people that are very straight and don't like the idea that someone might fancy them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really?

Why would you fake your preferences?

I dont think there someone will say he is straight when he is not

The only fake i came cross here are fake lady and fake couple

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Really?

Why would you fake your preferences?

I dont think there someone will say he is straight when he is not

they are horny, need to empty their scrotum into a willing orifice and will close their eyes and think of Elle McPherson......

then

zip up and leave.

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

"Question to people only looking for straight guys.

As a bi couple we have lots of messages from guys and the majority claim on their profile to be straight. Whenever we quiz this, the response is usually that stating bi would put straight people off.

So these guys that are really bi are conning couples that only want to meet straight men. How does / would that make you feel. "

Why is it that some couples and women only want to meet str8 men as opposed to bi or either.

Is it that they think bi men are 'dirty' or do couples think a bi man will jump on their str8 hubby??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

Why would you fake your preferences?

I dont think there someone will say he is straight when he is not

they are horny, need to empty their scrotum into a willing orifice and will close their eyes and think of Elle McPherson......

then

zip up and leave."

"oh fuck...just realised, I left the oven on at home.Gotta go!!..nie meeting u both...and wow...whatta pussy Mis/Mrs..cheerio.I had a great time!!!!"

as the hubby sits waiting on his cock to be sucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really?

Why would you fake your preferences?

I dont think there someone will say he is straight when he is not

they are horny, need to empty their scrotum into a willing orifice and will close their eyes and think of Elle McPherson......

then

zip up and leave."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Question to people only looking for straight guys.

As a bi couple we have lots of messages from guys and the majority claim on their profile to be straight. Whenever we quiz this, the response is usually that stating bi would put straight people off.

So these guys that are really bi are conning couples that only want to meet straight men. How does / would that make you feel.

Why is it that some couples and women only want to meet str8 men as opposed to bi or either.

Is it that they think bi men are 'dirty' or do couples think a bi man will jump on their str8 hubby??"

I dont know but if that's their choice who are we to criticise. The point I'm trying to make - albeit very badly lol - is that guys who claim straight on their profile who are really bi are taking that right away from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Question to people only looking for straight guys.

As a bi couple we have lots of messages from guys and the majority claim on their profile to be straight. Whenever we quiz this, the response is usually that stating bi would put straight people off.

So these guys that are really bi are conning couples that only want to meet straight men. How does / would that make you feel. "
Don't think they are 'conning' anyone just because they have bi tendancies doesn't mean its compulsary to play with the male.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said I'm making this point very badly lol.

From the straight couples point of very they wanted a straight guy. They assume the straight guy profiles mean just that. So therefore they are potentially meeting non straight guys. Irrelevant of the fact that bi place doesn't take place, some people don't want to play with bi guys.

Simples

... Off for a lie down now lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It pisses me off to be honest, (I have my own personal reasons) but the main issue is that they are lying to me from the very begining

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It pisses me off to be honest, (I have my own personal reasons) but the main issue is that they are lying to me from the very begining

And thats your perrogative completely. But judging by the number of messages we get from "straight guys" how do you know who is who!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the term 'conning' is a bit harsh. I think guys list themselves as straight for the reasons you mentioned -people judge.

Just because a guy is bi doesnt mean he cant control himself.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It pisses me off to be honest, (I have my own personal reasons) but the main issue is that they are lying to me from the very begining

And thats your perrogative completely. But judging by the number of messages we get from "straight guys" how do you know who is who!!"

It's very difficult, but I found a few yesterday through verification lol I was bored and went hunting and put notes on some that have been in recent contact so that I remember who is who

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"also me being Bi does not make me dirty; just greedy - simples

I'll take greedy! "

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By *a and kaCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire(ish)

Even though we state clearly on our profile that we will only meet single males who are bi, the amount of 'I'm bi but it says straight on my profile because it puts couples off' messages is ridiculous!

Also just because we're Bi it doesn't mean we'd shag anything! There has to be mutual attraction or it just doesn't work for us!

It would be a lot better World if everyone was more open and honest about not only their sexuality but also their marital status, weight, looks and a lot of other things!

But let's face it, it's not going to happen so we'll still have to sort the wheat from the chaff on a daily basis and in answer to your forum post 'IF' we were a straight couple and we met a male who we found to be lying about his sexuality, we would feel very upset about being lied to!

But on this site, you kinda get used to being lied to by single males. So on goes the game.

P.S. If there are any 'disgusting, dirty, disease-ridden bisexuals' (as we are classed by certain members of the community) please feel free to give us a shout

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

P.S. If there are any 'disgusting, dirty, disease-ridden bisexuals' (as we are classed by certain members of the community) please feel free to give us a shout

We'd love to but your age is set too low

Perhaps we'll have a drink at Paradise sometime instead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As fully paid up 'disgusting, dirty, disease-ridden bisexuals' we have come to the conclusion that bi men do not exist on Fab. Try advertising for a bi guy and all you get is the 'I will give your cock a quick feel to get off with the female' brigade. That's our experience so far anyway. So do not worry all you straights, you are very safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I said I'm making this point very badly lol.

Simples

... Off for a lie down now lol"

from a straight guy's perspective if we met a bi bloke whose profile said straight how would we know? to all intents and purposes we're meeting a straight guy,because we haven't been informed otherwise.

Are we being conned? I'm not sure,maybe,maybe not.

Would he be getting two blow jobs? Nope

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

Being bi doesn't mean I want to suck every mans cock on this site infact I think most of the cock pics some men portray as there profile pics are hideous but I do say on my pro I'm bi, no point meeting and not doing what you enjoy is it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We mostly get messages off 'straight' guys. Their message usually begins with "I know my profile says straight but...." (insert excuse).

We had to change our stipulation at the top of our profile from "If you are straight" to "If your profile says you are straight" simply because of the guys you mention.

Thing is that most of them are not bi at all. They just lie so that we will agree to meet them. It's funny, once the boyf starts talking to them (he's quite upfront and confident in discussing guy/guy) suddenly they become vague or steer the convo back to what will happen with the female.

It can be difficult in sorting out who is bi and not happy to openly say so on their profile, and who is faking it to get some! Our only recourse has been to refuse to consider anyone with 'straight' listed as their sexual preference.

In so far as the idea that there are some straight men on here who actually play bi....well duh. I think that is true of many swingers in general. So long as everything is safe, what's the issue there?

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