FabSwingers.com forum: Bulls that are not bulls

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I seemed to notice that the second you mention you are a cuckold then every man claims to be a bull and they get pissed off when you tell them they are not a bull.

To me a bull is a dominant alpha male who is A well build Big strong man with an absolute weapon of cock,

I don’t see small guy or out of shape guys with small dicks as alpha males ,

Am I being harsh ?

What do you guys think ?

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"I seemed to notice that the second you mention you are a cuckold then every man claims to be a bull and they get pissed off when you tell them they are not a bull.

To me a bull is a dominant alpha male who is A well build Big strong man with an absolute weapon of cock,

I don’t see small guy or out of shape guys with small dicks as alpha males ,

Am I being harsh ?

What do you guys think ? "

I think a “bull” is at least in part a mental attitude, and so a bull is what or whoever the particular male or couple says it is. The key, for me, is to know your place or role in the dynamic of the couple. I guess that can only come from clear communication. Thank you for the question!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Surely if a couple invite the person they meet to fulfil the role of the bull, that’s all that matters?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, you shouldn't consider yourself the arbiter of who is and isn't a bull.

All sorts on Fabs - articulate who YOU are and what makes you think YOU are a good bull, then let couples select the people they think are most suitable.

Live and let live.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I seemed to notice that the second you mention you are a cuckold then every man claims to be a bull and they get pissed off when you tell them they are not a bull.

To me a bull is a dominant alpha male who is A well build Big strong man with an absolute weapon of cock,

I don’t see small guy or out of shape guys with small dicks as alpha males ,

Am I being harsh ?

What do you guys think ? "

Very harsh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of Bulls on here are not Bulls. But the vast majority of men on here will say anything just to get some action.

Bulls for me need to be great at sex most importantly. So dominant, controlling, and well equipped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bull is not in short supply on this site surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alpha males have nothing to do with physical appearance or height. They are “a strong and successful man who likes to be in charge of others”, it’s more a mental state. You can have a small, out of shape guy who is a dominant leader, you can also have a tall, physically strong guy who hasn’t got a clue about being dominant and who can’t lead a group.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The vast majority of Bulls on here are not Bulls. But the vast majority of men on here will say anything just to get some action.

Bulls for me need to be great at sex most importantly. So dominant, controlling, and well equipped."

Yes this is how I feel about it too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bull is not in short supply on this site surely"

lol I’m not saying that I just mean that every man thinks he’s a bull when they think it will lead to something for them , I’m sure if I posted a picture of my wife and said I want a guy to fuck her but the guy most be into wearing a red power rangers outfit I would get so many guys saying that they do that all that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don’t mean to offend anyone by my post, I guess a bull is only a bull to to right couple he suits,

Maybe I am picky, for me a bull would be

Big and strong

Bigger cock than me

Good a sex

In control

Alpha attitude

Reasonably good looking

Dominant

Well groomed

But I know everyone has there own ideas that work for them .

Feel free to private message if you have any thoughts but don’t wanna post here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t mean to offend anyone by my post, I guess a bull is only a bull to to right couple he suits,

Maybe I am picky, for me a bull would be

Big and strong

Bigger cock than me

Good a sex

In control

Alpha attitude

Reasonably good looking

Dominant

Well groomed

But I know everyone has there own ideas that work for them .

Feel free to private message if you have any thoughts but don’t wanna post here "

I agree. I see so many "bulls" it's the same as "doms". Blokes say anything to get their end away.

I think it's pretty hard to establish yourself as a bull when the cuck see you as "less of a man". I mean maybe if the cuck is really pathetic they might do it for some hot wives but I can't honestly see the dynamic working for me unless it's a humiliation aspect ... you know, hot wife fucks fat old guy infront of cuck.

The penis size matters for me though. Got to be bigger than mine!

I do chuckle at some of the "I'm a bull" brigade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually agree with the OP here to a point. Yes a bull should be a bigger more powerful man and hung. But he should be also be a dominant personality and be comfortable that he can dominate in almost any situation. He can't be a bull without both of these in my humble opinion

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

Boys playing a man's game?

I agree with the op, to me a bull should be a dominant big strapping fella with a bollard for a middle leg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a ‘bull’ and I have no interest in being one. To me being a ‘bull’ is the very antithesis of masculinity. Personal opinion and I know others have different views.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Most people who put cuckold on their profile are far from that too. They are merely guys who like to view their wife being fucked .

Appearance and size may be a factor to some couples but to many others it isn’t .

It’s more how he comes across ,maybe dominant and confident in attitude and intellect and good at fucking obviously .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you can even tell by messages from men if they are a genuine bull, a genuine bull will always seem very Chilled and in control of the conversation where as wannabes will just go straight to “I will fuck the shit out of your wife “ and all that juvenile kinda messages you would expect some horny teen to send ,

They get so offended then when you call them out on there lies lol

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I agree with some of the op’s comments..

Most couples I’ve met have wanted me to be bigger than hubby, in height and bigger cock ..

Dominance though is a mindset ..it’s not a guy who goes a gym most days, looking at himself in the mirrors ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with some of the op’s comments..

Most couples I’ve met have wanted me to be bigger than hubby, in height and bigger cock ..

Dominance though is a mindset ..it’s not a guy who goes a gym most days, looking at himself in the mirrors .."

Well I don’t mean a gym dude more a manly man kinda thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality is its a state of mind combined with testosterone levels and far less to do with a meathead appearance. A dominant man is naturally so ok some can play at it but is not not a natural state for someone to adopt. Saying that if someone is larger then visually hits the buttons for a submissive person but then its more a submissive's initial view and they are often let down with the mental ability to dominate being lacking.

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I’ve been a bull for two bi cuck couples. I’m a normal guy with a nice cock.

It’s Simply a role play , life choice, relationship with an other couple. The role performed is developed out of conversion and regular play. It only works well when all get to indulge and satisfy their needs. It’s not necessary with a muscular hulk with a huge cock. Regards H xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bull also need 2 horns and a nose ring if you want to be pedantic about the definition of the OP.

But I do agree with both sides tbh too, firm believer in freedom of choice and everyones opinion is different, but OP is also right as surely by definition the role play has to have something to define it.

Its like cops and robber role play turning up in a firemans outfit, its still role play but well you get what I mean.

Ultimatley though whatever your or my opinion is it means fuck all freedom of choice etc, this thread like many others wont change how others do it, so I wouldnt waste my energy trying to change anyones opinion rather put it into finding someone that matches mine.

Its just sex at the end of the day and if it means people get to enjoy it and do more, Im all for it whatever they think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems the OP has used his own personal characteristics to define what a bull should be.

The definition of a 'bull' for each person will differ as much as what a person defines as 'pretty'.

Each person has different views and pigeon-holing defined views id suggest is incorrect.

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By *22Bee222Man
over a year ago

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Being Alpha is like being Cool. If you have to tell people you are, then you are not. Its a mental thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Being Alpha is like being Cool. If you have to tell people you are, then you are not. Its a mental thing. "

Exactly

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By *ucasjessCouple
over a year ago

ask us

I don't think being an alpha has anything to do with size or shape or how loud you are it's about having that presence about you and being confident in yourself

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

"Being Alpha is like being Cool. If you have to tell people you are, then you are not. Its a mental thing. "

Lol you are right its more being one not saying you are one there are a lot of wannabees about though.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

The whole “alpha male” thing is debunked nonsense anyway so there’s that. Also curious as to how a solo male can be a cuckold. But most of all, this seems just as wrong to me as if someone came on here going “a woman can only be a unicorn if she’s a size 10 and blonde” or something like that. Just like unicorn, bull (or cuckcake or whatever) is a role, not a look.

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By *aturing bullMan
over a year ago

TOOTING

"Most people who put cuckold on their profile are far from that too. They are merely guys who like to view their wife being fucked .

Appearance and size may be a factor to some couples but to many others it isn’t .

It’s more how he comes across ,maybe dominant and confident in attitude and intellect and good at fucking obviously .

This is usually my experience. The couples who want a "dom" or dominant male seem few and far between. Of course everyone has their own experience and occupies their own niche in the hot wife/cuckold space, so maybe the experience of many of the bulls writing here is for a strong male type, but again to me its to be about respect, communication, and fucking the wife how she/they want. Interesting thread, thanks everyone.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

The fantasy of the Aloha male is just that, a fantasy that doesn't exist.

It was born out of a book on wolves in captivity, a theory that the author has since debunked.

As others have said Dominance is a mind set, not linked to any physical attributes. It is born out of confidence.

A bull for me does not have to meet anything other than fit the role needing to be portrayed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fantasy of the Aloha male is just that, a fantasy that doesn't exist.

It was born out of a book on wolves in captivity, a theory that the author has since debunked.

The fantasy of the Aloha male was created and perpetuated by Moana.

Men have never been able to measure up to this myth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this what alpha men and bulls do.....tell everyone about how alpha and bull like they are? I would have thought alpha and bull men lol were so alpha and bull that they wouldnt have to mention it?

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

"I seemed to notice that the second you mention you are a cuckold then every man claims to be a bull and they get pissed off when you tell them they are not a bull.

To me a bull is a dominant alpha male who is A well build Big strong man with an absolute weapon of cock,

I don’t see small guy or out of shape guys with small dicks as alpha males ,

Am I being harsh ?

What do you guys think ? "

Big difference between a bull elephant and a bull terrier, yet both serve the same purpose to thier species.

I would consider an older male over 50 doesn't have to be ripped but has the ability to take control.

Most of the younger guys that think they are bulls dont have a clue.

Just my opinion.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Its a state of mind, a natural aura of dominance that needs no pushing onto others, you look into his eyes and fall into submission naturally, rare as hens teeth, but when you do find one don't let him go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know you know.......

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Ha ha, you can’t stereotype attitude,.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes one thing we will fully agree as long as you say we are a cuckold hotwife couple straight away every second guy is most experienced bull on the planet! We tried so many times to find a so called family friend bull and had so many upsets when you come to the point to meet so called best bull you see a guy wants just a one off quick fuck!

Also most important thing is a mental attitude and the way the guy approach a cuckold couple no how he looks and a cock size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I seemed to notice that the second you mention you are a cuckold then every man claims to be a bull and they get pissed off when you tell them they are not a bull.

To me a bull is a dominant alpha male who is A well build Big strong man with an absolute weapon of cock,

I don’t see small guy or out of shape guys with small dicks as alpha males ,

Am I being harsh ?

What do you guys think ? "

No harsh at all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also we forgot to add. The most common story guys includes in their emails how experienced they etc etc...

And the main point I had years of experience and had a relationship with cuckold couple for years but sadly this couple move d abroad or moved to another end f the country. 99% of emails we do receive from bulls.

We do lately make a joke looks like guys just copy and paste the same text from each other xxx

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By *ayneandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Unfortunately threads like this highlight that it’s just a sex site. Many dreamers who are desperate for sex and then then nasty when questioned. It’s a very few who know a Hotwife dynamic in here. Mainly as most men are lying and cheating on their women at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, before the days of the net, we even had someone around with the smallet will we have seen. I was a bit angry it was our home and even Tej asked the man how his wife felt about it. He licked out my wife and fingered her hard and kissed her hard - it was a turn on but Tej prefers a bigger cock to mine that is almost 7 inches. now older I miss those days and my wife lacks confidence as she feels old but I'm sure when we go to guys place agreed he watches and masterbates if a ten incher, Tej wil try iy. But you are right OP, too many bulls that are lillte pussys.

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"Surely if a couple invite the person they meet to fulfil the role of the bull, that’s all that matters?"

Exactly this

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

My name is Bond, James Bond....

Bull ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fantasy of the Aloha male is just that, a fantasy that doesn't exist.

It was born out of a book on wolves in captivity, a theory that the author has since debunked.

The fantasy of the Aloha male was created and perpetuated by Moana.

Men have never been able to measure up to this myth."

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

In a true cuckold relationship the husband wouldn’t even get a say who the bull is.

It would be the wife blatantly fucking the “ bull “ or her lover. Whether hubby knows or not it wouldn’t bother the wife either way. The bull wouldn’t give a toss he’s only there to fulfil his sexual needs and the wife is there for that .

Whether he’s bigger or cleverer or more dominant has little to do with it. It’s all down to what the wife wants in her “ bull”

Cuckold definition has been blurred by swinger sites.

There are cuckold sites if you want to experience the real deal

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We have been in search of a regular reliable bull for some time now.Would seem everyman and his dog is a experienced bull by the amounts of idiots who contact us with no verifications and clearly living in a fantasy .Little wonder the phrase bullshit is connected to Bull...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I could find a real dominant bull

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By *22Bee222Man
over a year ago

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Glad you agree

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Any guy could do if it was of interest, those who shout about it, are the obnoxious pricks you pass by in bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have been in search of a regular reliable bull for some time now.Would seem everyman and his dog is a experienced bull by the amounts of idiots who contact us with no verifications and clearly living in a fantasy .Little wonder the phrase bullshit is connected to Bull..."

I honestly think you can thank 50 shades for this - it's introduced a whole new audience to sexual exploits that they would never have innately considered.

I see see so much dom and bull bullshit on all corners of the internet these days - it's been massively diluted.

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By *ary Queen Of CocksWoman
over a year ago

Cumbria

There are a lot of pretenders.wannabees who grow a beard and suddenly think they are dom/bull/alpha. The reality is many pretend to be and only a few are naturally that way.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Many claim to be Alpha but the reality is being Aplha is how others view you and just because you are Aplha in one area of life you may not be in another.

My boss is a tiny man, in his 60's with a bad heart and a pace maker, yet he has the respect of everyone who works for him.

He has built his little empire through hard work and the hard work of those who work for him, and we work hard because of the respect we have for him.

He is without a doubt the Aplha in our work environment and no man questions that.

We find it an instant turn off when guys message and have names like AlphaDomBull or need to tell us they are those things

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By *nique_GymMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think the waters have been muddied by an increase in focus on Cuckolding. There are many sites, stories and resources all available that give the would be Bull information. That information is probably written by single men who fantasise about being a Bull or cuck.

For me there is no other simple way to describe it other than as the gentleman earlier in the thread rightly said. The perfect Bull, lover, fwb etc is whoever the wife chooses. Now if she, the significant other and the newly acquired lover enjoy role playing to whatever extent that’s when they as a trio discuss boundaries, likes dislikes, limits etc.

The stories, resource sites fuel cucks, they in turn encourage the wife. Some of you might be too young to recall a film called Indecent proposal, had Demi Moore and Woody Harleson. That pretty much defines the dynamic, the husband pushy (in this case for money) encourages his wife. The wife reluctantly goes along with it and is systematically seduced by a fantastically rich, very good looking Robert Redford.

The humiliation the husband felt was that he couldn’t compete on any level with the Robert Redford character. However the one thing his insecurities overlooked was the Demi Moore character loved him and did it for him. Realising maybe the rich guy wanted what the poor guy had!

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By *orthing-cplCouple
over a year ago

worthing

Finding a genuine bull is very hard. We have met guys in the past who say all of the right things when chatting but when you meet them they do not do any of the things they talked about in chats beforehand. Basically they just want a Shah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive taken cuckold stuff off my single and our couple account due to the amount of guys who say they are confident and understand cuckolding ..see not evey cuckold couple want a bull i dislike the term i want a confident assertive guy who can give me what cuck cant its really that simple oh and i have to like him too

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"The vast majority of Bulls on here are not Bulls. But the vast majority of men on here will say anything just to get some action.

Bulls for me need to be great at sex most importantly. So dominant, controlling, and well equipped."

This.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Had a message from a man today claiming to be a big bull dom. I just smile cos to me a man is just a man no matter what fancy tìtle you choose to give yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alpha males have nothing to do with physical appearance or height. They are “a strong and successful man who likes to be in charge of others”, it’s more a mental state. You can have a small, out of shape guy who is a dominant leader, you can also have a tall, physically strong guy who hasn’t got a clue about being dominant and who can’t lead a group."

Amen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, it’s all’s about the confidence for me when it comes to a bull. A guy that can confidently take over the situation and lead is my definition of a bull

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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

No coincidence the phrase bullshit is used.

99% of guys claiming to be bulls on this site are total fantasist in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've got to have a decent tool or the bull behaviour just comes off as over compensating. I've met couples where the guy is just angry due to size insecurity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen "

I am always wary of anyone who describes themselves as an alpha male. Such a streak of arrogance about that. In a group situation it is the group that ultimately decides who is the alpha if any.

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

travel around a lot.

I was a bull for a cpl many yrs ago. I think the attraction of the scenarios intrests other men that don't understand the responsibility of the position thats expected and cuck cpls soon find that out. Not a case of alpha or big dick, although it all depends on the cpls desires. The male half of the cpl I used to meet, he was at least 2" taller and had a slightly bigger dick. But I brought in other qualities that were missing. One of the main ones being discretion and trust.

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By *xford_geekCouple
over a year ago

Cotswolds

Yeah I get messages from guys who say they're bulls but dont even list cuckolding as an interest

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