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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Does your wife know you are bi?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have played with couples where I have played with the guy both giving and receiving oral

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

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By *plforme500Man
over a year ago

Shirley


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

She started it! Lol

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Does your wife know you are bi?

She started it! Lol"

Interesting

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By *lueyes69Man
over a year ago

coventry


"Does your wife know you are bi?

She started it! Lol"

Tell us more

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

She knows about my "curiosity" yes, likes to tease me about it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I know and I positively encourage it. Nothing sexier than a man that is completely se ure in his own sexuality.. And i get to watch.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes well curious

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

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On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine did

Thankfully, I told her early on about my curiosity (and early life experiences)

My honesty did, however, drive a wedge between us

If, for any reason, I wasn't 'up for it' or 'couldn't rise to the occasion' it was pretty much always thrown back in my face and she wasn't afraid of telling me how bad it had made her feel

I was never unfaithful, but it was sex that drove us apart as she used it to seek the approval of other men

So, whilst honesty should always be a preferred course of action, that in itself may steer the relationship down a new road - and not always for the better

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction."

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

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By *lueyes69Man
over a year ago

coventry

Mrs don’t know I’m on here or that I want nice hard cock in my mouth.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Mrs don’t know I’m on here or that I want nice hard cock in my mouth. "

Do you feel bad hiding your bi side from your wife?

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Mrs don’t know I’m on here or that I want nice hard cock in my mouth.

Do you feel bad hiding your bi side from your wife?"

Must be like leading a double life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males"

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

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By *lueyes69Man
over a year ago

coventry

Ye do feel bit bad but she’s quiet old fashioned. What she don’t know won’t hurt her .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No she doesn’t

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

Well, she’s watched me suck cock...

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Mine did

Thankfully, I told her early on about my curiosity (and early life experiences)

My honesty did, however, drive a wedge between us

If, for any reason, I wasn't 'up for it' or 'couldn't rise to the occasion' it was pretty much always thrown back in my face and she wasn't afraid of telling me how bad it had made her feel

I was never unfaithful, but it was sex that drove us apart as she used it to seek the approval of other men

So, whilst honesty should always be a preferred course of action, that in itself may steer the relationship down a new road - and not always for the better"

Ahh man, I'm really sorry to hear it went that way for you. I'd like to think it's rare that someone would react that way, but in truth I've no idea. My ex very much valued the 'typical' manly man - straight, alpha, and dominant, but wasn't open about it and that was part of the issue between us so I think that whilst it absolutely sucks that honesty caused issues for you, I wouldn't think doing it any differently in future would be beneficial.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating""

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women."

May I ask why? Just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women."

Because it made him 'less of a man'?

Because the idea of male bi-sexuality is distasteful to you?

Because you'd think you weren't what he REALLY wanted?

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

May I ask why? Just curious "

Because it would be as if our whole relationship was a lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine did

Thankfully, I told her early on about my curiosity (and early life experiences)

My honesty did, however, drive a wedge between us

If, for any reason, I wasn't 'up for it' or 'couldn't rise to the occasion' it was pretty much always thrown back in my face and she wasn't afraid of telling me how bad it had made her feel

I was never unfaithful, but it was sex that drove us apart as she used it to seek the approval of other men

So, whilst honesty should always be a preferred course of action, that in itself may steer the relationship down a new road - and not always for the better

Ahh man, I'm really sorry to hear it went that way for you. I'd like to think it's rare that someone would react that way, but in truth I've no idea. My ex very much valued the 'typical' manly man - straight, alpha, and dominant, but wasn't open about it and that was part of the issue between us so I think that whilst it absolutely sucks that honesty caused issues for you, I wouldn't think doing it any differently in future would be beneficial. "

I wouldn't change a thing

If she wanted a man who lived in the shadows to suit her own ideals, then we weren't suited

If she wanted a man too 'scared' to share his sexual thoughts and his emotional / sexual dilemma, then we weren't well suited

We had a ball for 7 years - I look at that and not the shit times that reared up on the odd occasion I was too tired, too pissed or too wrapped up in 'life' to be wanting and enjoying sex

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Mine did

Thankfully, I told her early on about my curiosity (and early life experiences)

My honesty did, however, drive a wedge between us

If, for any reason, I wasn't 'up for it' or 'couldn't rise to the occasion' it was pretty much always thrown back in my face and she wasn't afraid of telling me how bad it had made her feel

I was never unfaithful, but it was sex that drove us apart as she used it to seek the approval of other men

So, whilst honesty should always be a preferred course of action, that in itself may steer the relationship down a new road - and not always for the better

Ahh man, I'm really sorry to hear it went that way for you. I'd like to think it's rare that someone would react that way, but in truth I've no idea. My ex very much valued the 'typical' manly man - straight, alpha, and dominant, but wasn't open about it and that was part of the issue between us so I think that whilst it absolutely sucks that honesty caused issues for you, I wouldn't think doing it any differently in future would be beneficial.

I wouldn't change a thing

If she wanted a man who lived in the shadows to suit her own ideals, then we weren't suited

If she wanted a man too 'scared' to share his sexual thoughts and his emotional / sexual dilemma, then we weren't well suited

We had a ball for 7 years - I look at that and not the shit times that reared up on the odd occasion I was too tired, too pissed or too wrapped up in 'life' to be wanting and enjoying sex"

I really applaud the maturity and level headed in that, and I'm equally glad it hasn't in any way put you off being yourself

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

May I ask why? Just curious

Because it would be as if our whole relationship was a lie. "

If he's bi, that doesn't have any bearing on how he does or doesn't feel about you though? I mean sure it's absolutely cheating and definitely wrong, but it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't still love and care for you.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

May I ask why? Just curious

Because it would be as if our whole relationship was a lie.

If he's bi, that doesn't have any bearing on how he does or doesn't feel about you though? I mean sure it's absolutely cheating and definitely wrong, but it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't still love and care for you. "
My hubby came out to me as bi ,long story but he has no intention of setting up home with a guy im his main focus and his life ,but doesnt mean we cant be on here for mutually agreed fun ..

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

Yes. My wife knows that I'm bisexual and I have been an 'active' bi man for about twenty years now although I have had a fascination for other guys since I was in my teens although for years I did nothing about it.

I 'confessed' to my wife because I didn't want her to find out from a third party. We have been married for 46 years now and have two grown up kids and three grandkids. I love my family more than anything or anyone but there is another physical and emotional need that I have that only other guys can satisfy.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give? "

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him. "

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would not choose to settle down with someone who i knew was bi but if i married a man without knowing i would like to think he could later discuss his feelings with me rather than meet men behind my back.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don’t think it’s alpha and dominant OR bisexual. I have a friend who is all of those things and his wife does not know about his bisexuality, she would find it unpalatable.

V x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship"

Yes I would, and have.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows I’m bi. Not even fab....until now

Ps....I don’t have a wife/partner before anyone decides to say anything.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

My ex said the following to me

"I don't care if it's a woman or a man, cheating is cheating"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

May I ask why? Just curious

Because it would be as if our whole relationship was a lie.

If he's bi, that doesn't have any bearing on how he does or doesn't feel about you though? I mean sure it's absolutely cheating and definitely wrong, but it doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't still love and care for you. My hubby came out to me as bi ,long story but he has no intention of setting up home with a guy im his main focus and his life ,but doesnt mean we cant be on here for mutually agreed fun .."

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You guys have got it sorted lol

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

This is a great question and fascinating topic it does demonstrate the macho image men still have to maintain. If you asked the same question of the female in the relationship how different it would all be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she Knows.. We have no secrets. life is much more simple that way...

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


" Yes she Knows.. We have no secrets. life is much more simple that way..."

And that is the way it should be.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship"

.

I don't know, I can understand where bluebell is coming from with the "living a lie" thing, I would say though that "curiosity" can come later in life to many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship

.

I don't know, I can understand where bluebell is coming from with the "living a lie" thing, I would say though that "curiosity" can come later in life to many "

I'm not out to demonise anyone, let alone the OP

We all draw our lines in the sand in different places

That's what makes life a true dynamic

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship

.

I don't know, I can understand where bluebell is coming from with the "living a lie" thing, I would say though that "curiosity" can come later in life to many

"

Yes, our society does have a tendency to cause blokes to bury this element of themselves (if it's there).

Later as we mature and become more confident in ourselves, and place in the world. We can be braver about not being in the "normal" group (which of course does not really exist anyway)!

;-)

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

some gay men are in denial but in recent years its become easier to come out as gay, A lot of men & quite a few women are genuinely bi enjoying fun with both sexes, in my experience men are more available for casual sex than women

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship

.

I don't know, I can understand where bluebell is coming from with the "living a lie" thing, I would say though that "curiosity" can come later in life to many

I'm not out to demonise anyone, let alone the OP

We all draw our lines in the sand in different places

That's what makes life a true dynamic"

.

No didn't think you were demonising lol, it's just an interesting topic of discussion tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she knows I get turned on at the site of a nice big thick hard cock.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside.

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside."

Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and denial were the cocktail of emotions I had (and still have) to a degree surrounding my curious tendencies. Almost certainly social stigma (or at least the fear of it).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we share cock together x

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Yes we share cock together x"

Couples who play together, stay together, or so the saying goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we share cock together x

Couples who play together, stay together, or so the saying goes "

Haha indeed, we play lots together x

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside.

Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and denial were the cocktail of emotions I had (and still have) to a degree surrounding my curious tendencies. Almost certainly social stigma (or at least the fear of it). "

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If it helps, the older you get the less you give a monkeys what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside."

I can only speak from personal experience

99.9% of the time it wasn't a factor

Then a trigger, maybe seeing a good looking guy getting hot & sticky on the TV, and it would yet again be in the forefront of my mind for a few days

I did tinker with lads when I was a teenager and the experience never left my head

Undoubtedly, there are unhappy men out there and unhappy wives who suffer as a result, but most just get on with life and seldom, if ever, act on their curiosity - or, if they do, they wait til they are single to test it out

There are also women who positively encourage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes and is happy that I’m open about my sexuality with her.

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Yes we share cock together x

Couples who play together, stay together, or so the saying goes

Haha indeed, we play lots together x"

C and I wouldn't mind a little play either

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"the other way of looking at it is: if your husband is cheating with another women then you are not satisfying him sexually if he is cheating with a man perhaps he needs something you cant give?

This is true but i would always wonder if he ever wanted to be with me in the first place or just done what was expected of him.

So, putting a little spin on this... would you go into a relationship with a guy knowing he was bi, or would his craving for an occasional bit of cock just put you off right from the start?

I only ask because, reading between the lines, it sounds like a little bit of your brain tells you that there is no such thing as a bi-man, just a load of gays who are in denial and seek the conformity of a straight relationship

.

I don't know, I can understand where bluebell is coming from with the "living a lie" thing, I would say though that "curiosity" can come later in life to many

Yes, our society does have a tendency to cause blokes to bury this element of themselves (if it's there).

Later as we mature and become more confident in ourselves, and place in the world. We can be braver about not being in the "normal" group (which of course does not really exist anyway)!

;-)"

.

You're probably right there

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside.

Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and denial were the cocktail of emotions I had (and still have) to a degree surrounding my curious tendencies. Almost certainly social stigma (or at least the fear of it).

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If it helps, the older you get the less you give a monkeys what others think "

Well, I'm quite fortunate to have found kink and swinging relatively young so I guess that's a big help. If I'm honest though I find the kink world ridiculously accepting (to the point of absurdity), but the swinging world is a lot more opinionated

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By *ocusMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

Yeah my wife knows I’m bi. I think she finds it a bit of a turn on to be honest.

I lived away from home for a while for work a few years ago and recently I joked that i should have taken the opportunity to exercise my bi side. She replied she was surprised I hadn’t. I said if I had she would have shouted at me to which she replied it wouldn’t have been the end of the world.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside.

Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and denial were the cocktail of emotions I had (and still have) to a degree surrounding my curious tendencies. Almost certainly social stigma (or at least the fear of it).

.

If it helps, the older you get the less you give a monkeys what others think

Well, I'm quite fortunate to have found kink and swinging relatively young so I guess that's a big help. If I'm honest though I find the kink world ridiculously accepting (to the point of absurdity), but the swinging world is a lot more opinionated "

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You sound pretty level headed anyway lol, we're not exactly experienced but we've found folks in both worlds (in clubs) to be just the friendliest bunch of people you could hope for

We did find on kink nights, everything seems to be more laid back and relaxed though lol

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside.

Guilt, shame, embarrassment, and denial were the cocktail of emotions I had (and still have) to a degree surrounding my curious tendencies. Almost certainly social stigma (or at least the fear of it).

.

If it helps, the older you get the less you give a monkeys what others think

Well, I'm quite fortunate to have found kink and swinging relatively young so I guess that's a big help. If I'm honest though I find the kink world ridiculously accepting (to the point of absurdity), but the swinging world is a lot more opinionated

.

You sound pretty level headed anyway lol, we're not exactly experienced but we've found folks in both worlds (in clubs) to be just the friendliest bunch of people you could hope for

We did find on kink nights, everything seems to be more laid back and relaxed though lol "

Oh absolutely. In terms of how friendly and accepting I personally find people, vanilla folk are the worst by far

We've only been to a few clubs, but the Attic on party nights is outstanding. It's such a good laugh - like going out on the town, only with considerably fewer of the idiots looking to cause trouble, and everyone is liberally-minded. That and good grief there's some hot bodies about the place

Ahh why did I have to go and reminisce? Now I'm missing it all over again

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By *ikerP1000Man
over a year ago

Durham


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge"

Yes she does.....but does’nt want to see it so I am careful not to be too obvious

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

I know my husband is bi and have done since we started dating, I have no problem with him and another guy, in fact that's pretty hot. I'm bi myself so it works well for us being open and honest is the best way. 19 years and counting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No she dosnt know We dont have sex havnt for at least 15 years

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By *hyandtwistedCouple
over a year ago

loughborough

Mine knows (before anyone says profile says straight, I don't play bi) we even experimented together but it's not something she enjoyed seeing or being part of any play we have. I couldn't imagine having to keep it secret, I told her before we got married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes my wife is aware and is fully supportive.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

She knows now that we are divorced etc. Never knew before.

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By *traightrimmerMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

No x

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By *ull_on_4_funCouple
over a year ago

Town Centre

Yes. Elaboration can be overrated.

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

No she doesn't know and we don't have any sex anymore and a man needs to have some attention some times and you guys know that it's easier to get a blow job from a guy who is in the same situation as you

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By *UNANDNICEMan
over a year ago

Basildon

And any guys who fancy having a chat with me tonight about this then please message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and she liked to join in also she let me join her with a female

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. But then I dont think my wife even notices that Im in the house at times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know this feeling well lol

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women."

That's the opposite to what my Mrs said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was married to a secretly gay man who kept it hidden from me.when i found out(after we had been married 8 years,and had a son together). i kicked him out. But before i did i found the man my ex was seeing and got him to come back to my home with me to confront my ex husband who was home from work having he's tea.the look on my ex'es face said it all. He left that same evening. We are long divorced.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"i was married to a secretly gay man who kept it hidden from me.when i found out(after we had been married 8 years,and had a son together). i kicked him out. But before i did i found the man my ex was seeing and got him to come back to my home with me to confront my ex husband who was home from work having he's tea.the look on my ex'es face said it all. He left that same evening. We are long divorced."

Obviously I don't know the circumstances but that snapshot sounds unnecessarily mean and vindictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was married to a secretly gay man who kept it hidden from me.when i found out(after we had been married 8 years,and had a son together). i kicked him out. But before i did i found the man my ex was seeing and got him to come back to my home with me to confront my ex husband who was home from work having he's tea.the look on my ex'es face said it all. He left that same evening. We are long divorced.

Obviously I don't know the circumstances but that snapshot sounds unnecessarily mean and vindictive."
he lied to me making me believe he was straight. How should have i reacted then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

In one word (NO)

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


" Yes she Knows.. We have no secrets. life is much more simple that way...

And that is the way it should be."

I am not convinced that life/ sexuality is that simple.

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By *obyorkMan
over a year ago

Keighley

My wife doesn't know I like cock. Most of the men I meet have wives or gfs who are in the dark about their man's bi side too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes the wife knows, we're in fact both Bi, we both a singles profile and a couples profile... we do find a lot of women aren't interested and are turned off by Bi guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

We are both bi.

I encourage the fun for the guys.

The fun thing we find is the amount of secret bi guys.

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She sure does, I told her very early in our relationship. I knew I was going to marry M after about a week and just felt I had to tell her.

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By *.A.MGUY55Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

knows am bi from day 1 of rship and knows I am on fab and fab guys

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"

If i were married i think it would hurt me more knowing that my husband had been having sexual encounters with a male rather than a women.

That's the opposite to what my Mrs said."

It’s so interesting that what unites us to be in a place like this also has so many different unique perspectives.

I’m the exact opposite too. Loved my ex boyfriend meeting men. (but then again I loved him meeting any variety of humans)

V x

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By *allnlongMan
over a year ago

Torpoint & Stonehouse


"My honesty did, however, drive a wedge between us"

I dont currently have a partner, but have experienced this too so keep it quiet unless I think its going to be welcome news

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

The dishonesty would mean the end not the sex with other men.

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males"

I get loads of messages from males looking for bi fun even though my profile says I’m straight.........the fact is some Men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough !

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that."

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

I get loads of messages from males looking for bi fun even though my profile says I’m straight.........the fact is some Men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough ! "

So long as they didn't do it in their car.. They might get toad away... Sorry, I'll get me coat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong."
Think you'll find bi is having sex with both sexes bi meaning two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i was married to a secretly gay man who kept it hidden from me.when i found out(after we had been married 8 years,and had a son together). i kicked him out. But before i did i found the man my ex was seeing and got him to come back to my home with me to confront my ex husband who was home from work having he's tea.the look on my ex'es face said it all. He left that same evening. We are long divorced.

Obviously I don't know the circumstances but that snapshot sounds unnecessarily mean and vindictive.he lied to me making me believe he was straight. How should have i reacted then?"

Why did the guy come back with you ? Was he a gay man that the ex hubby had lied to as well, So was equally pissed off ? What was the benefit / reason the guy felt bothered to come back with you and confront ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but then she s bi too plus I live a totally open life with my gf...I dont keep anything at all from her.

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong.Think you'll find bi is having sex with both sexes bi meaning two "

Yes that is what i meant. Sorry i am crap at wording stuff. I did mean same sex as well as opposite sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong.Think you'll find bi is having sex with both sexes bi meaning two

Yes that is what i meant. Sorry i am crap at wording stuff. I did mean same sex as well as opposite sex "
its early you're excused

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"

Obviously I don't know the circumstances but that snapshot sounds unnecessarily mean and vindictive

he lied to me making me believe he was straight. How should have i reacted then?"

I don't think I want to clog up this interesting thread with this and add to your anger. It may be best to just leave it there.

Maybe in another thread.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

I get loads of messages from males looking for bi fun even though my profile says I’m straight.........the fact is some Men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough !

So long as they didn't do it in their car.. They might get toad away... Sorry, I'll get me coat "

.

Yes get your coat.... and hop to it

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By *bthreeCouple
over a year ago

Yeovil

Yes we love bimmf or more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge

On FAB without their wive's knowledge? Or that are bi without their wive's knowledge?

Asking because I think it's an interesting distinction.

Both. I get alot of messages from men who admit they are married. I notice alot are bi or looking to meet tvs and wondered if their wives were aware of their interest in males

I get loads of messages from males looking for bi fun even though my profile says I’m straight.........the fact is some Men would fuck a frog if it stopped hopping long enough !

So long as they didn't do it in their car.. They might get toad away... Sorry, I'll get me coat "

Ok. I’m sad. I liked that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peach was certain I was bi before I was

Fuzz

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By *cutebum9Couple
over a year ago

wallsend

Yes she knows im bi and also on a sister site for gay and bi guys she ecourages me to meet and play with guys and loves hearing all about what ive been upto. She also loves to watch too

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Yes I know my husband is bi I actually prefer him meeting men to meeting other women

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

Wife introduced bi play after using her strapon and wanted to take things further , haven't looked back since , it's good fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I know my husband is bi I actually prefer him meeting men to meeting other women"

Why is that, do you think? Is it because you percieve them as less of a threat/competition, maybe?

Fuzz

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Oh yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife knows of my bi past, but i play alone

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk


"Yes I know my husband is bi I actually prefer him meeting men to meeting other women

Why is that, do you think? Is it because you percieve them as less of a threat/competition, maybe?

Fuzz"

I honestly don't know considering my ex left me for a man he was seeing behind my back it surprises me I'm more comfortable that way round

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Wife introduced bi play after using her strapon and wanted to take things further , haven't looked back since , it's good fun "

I find it incredibly hot when that's the situation.

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough


"Does your wife know you are bi?

Oh yes! "

Well, there's certainly no confusion about it in your username

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By *urygent1Man
over a year ago

North West

Nope.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

We don't keep secrets from each other. She knows that I occasionally enjoy playing with men, and the first couple of times it happened she was present as the F in MMF threesomes. Turns out its not her thing so I do it with my other wife

Gets confusing when you have two. That's no secret either.

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By *cd and scruffCouple
over a year ago

Rochester

Yep. We share everything.

Oh, we are both bi.

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By *SCouple81Couple
over a year ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

We are both bi and we know what we like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I know my husband is bi I actually prefer him meeting men to meeting other women

Why is that, do you think? Is it because you percieve them as less of a threat/competition, maybe?

Fuzz

I honestly don't know considering my ex left me for a man he was seeing behind my back it surprises me I'm more comfortable that way round"

That is surprising.....hard, ingrained social conditioning/expectancy is difficult to recondition, although having said that I suppose we have different levels of trust with the different people we meet.

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course not that is what makes it fun, naughty secrete cock sucking meetings, or at least there used to be, lol

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

We're both bi and always play together, never alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s alpha and dominant OR bisexual. I have a friend who is all of those things and his wife does not know about his bisexuality, she would find it unpalatable.

V x "

So would mine!

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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago

Bradford


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Of course!

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By *ymrocruMan
over a year ago

penygroes

No she doesn't but she knows i like to wear lingerie.

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By *lutonicMan
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *lutonicMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Something I've thought Of Trying but.. to afraid too.. Say if I didnt like it or worse if 'I didt'.. I'd be in no mans land then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me

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By *hezzie BikersCouple
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

Yes and encourages it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me "
ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me ditto "

Double ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me ditto

Double ditto"
sounds painful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me ditto

Double dittosounds painful "

Depends

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By *nly us 4448Couple
over a year ago

London

Wife knows I'm bi and loves it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife knows I'm bi and loves it"
lucky you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my partner has no idea, ide like to have people joining us in the bedroom, but don't know how to tell her???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me ditto

Double dittosounds painful

Depends"
if it's a double ended ditto ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wife has no idea am bi

Wife has no idea am on here

If she finds out am on here am dead

Am here because it’s a sexless marriage

I have needs so please don’t judge me ditto

Double dittosounds painful

Depends if it's a double ended ditto ?"

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By *nly us 4448Couple
over a year ago

London


"Wife knows I'm bi and loves it lucky you "
, thanks, she can't wait for the next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wife knows I'm bi and loves it lucky you , thanks, she can't wait for the next time"
post some pics of the next meeting

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By *nly us 4448Couple
over a year ago

London


"Wife knows I'm bi and loves it lucky you , thanks, she can't wait for the next time post some pics of the next meeting "
hope to if we ever get round to it

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By *mooth4uMan
over a year ago

Kings kynn

We have had long conversations around my bi side , told my wife almost immediately in our relationship. We have swung with couples and 3somes . Some worked some didn’t. Now at the stage where red doesn’t want to play but is keen for me to meet guys ,

My problem is I don’t want to feel like I’m cheating , but I love sex , not sure where I go with this . She assured me it didn’t matter but I have reservations , any advice ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know that I was until my late wife broached the subject. I took a bit of convincing at first but after the first step it was brilliant. Never looked back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes told her before we were married and turns out she is / was very bi herself

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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago

Newport

We have played with Trans so yes, Mrs would love to watch Mr with a Gay guy and he would happily go along with it.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"We have had long conversations around my bi side , told my wife almost immediately in our relationship. We have swung with couples and 3somes . Some worked some didn’t. Now at the stage where red doesn’t want to play but is keen for me to meet guys ,

My problem is I don’t want to feel like I’m cheating , but I love sex , not sure where I go with this . She assured me it didn’t matter but I have reservations , any advice ? "

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Now that really is a moral dilemma and probably not that uncommon

If she really doesn't want to play any more then only you can decide if she's being honest with you that she doesn't mind you scratching your itch

I'm guessing that she would rather you swinging with fellow bi guys as it's less threatening to your relationship and a fair compromise now that she doesn't want to take part.

Is it cheating if you have permission, I'd say no but I'm sure others would say different and that if one wants to give up the other should too.

Oh it's a dilemma for you right enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I told her when we first met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She knows I have played in the past with guys but doesn't know I'm still active

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

As an obedient cuck, I am often used as a fluffer by my mistress.

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Hell no conventional sex is a disgusting thing as far as she is concerned, bisexual activity would be reason enough to murder in her eyes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my wife got me into it,she loves bi mmf so guys and dolls we are always on look out

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong.Think you'll find bi is having sex with both sexes bi meaning two

Yes that is what i meant. Sorry i am crap at wording stuff. I did mean same sex as well as opposite sex "
..... I get that but I don't FANCY blokes at all. A man who fancies men and women could be described as "bi" . I only like the COCK and spunk ... I have no desire to have a LOVING relationship with a guy . It's not simple is it

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall


"I just feel sad for the men. They must feel really tormented inside."
..nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes she knows im bi and also on a sister site for gay and bi guys she ecourages me to meet and play with guys and loves hearing all about what ive been upto. She also loves to watch too"

Same here.. Although we don't meet separately, it help finding genuine bi guys

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster


"Define "bi". I love to suck and wank cock and love to get a faceful of hot spunk. I look at women and girls in the street or in the pub and lust after them .However I have NEVER looked at a guy and thought that.

I would define bi as someone who engages in sexual activities with someone of the same sex. Feel feee to correct me if i am wrong.Think you'll find bi is having sex with both sexes bi meaning two

Yes that is what i meant. Sorry i am crap at wording stuff. I did mean same sex as well as opposite sex ..... I get that but I don't FANCY blokes at all. A man who fancies men and women could be described as "bi" . I only like the COCK and spunk ... I have no desire to have a LOVING relationship with a guy . It's not simple is it "
I don't understand how you can have any sexual contact with someone you don't find sexually attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

No.

Do your relations Know your a swinger?

Mine know I am a naturist, some disagree with it. each to their own.

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By *essiejamesABCCouple
over a year ago

Salisbury

I'm orally bi only and my wife knows this. Bi mmf are things we have tried a few times and Jessica seems to like watching me giving or getting oral from a bloke.

Strange thing is the thought of sucking cock without her present is totally repulsive to me, I do not find men attractive but show me a nice hard cock and I want to drop to my knees and share it with Jessica.

Am I bi? Or do I just like to share a cock with my wife? Who knows and frankly who cares. It works for us and we have both enjoyed our bi mmf experiences.

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By *ndecidedMan
over a year ago

London

For me, this rings true as well

I would suck a cock if there's a woman present. I have no sexual feelings towards men unless a woman is involved in some way, even if she's just watching.

My wife is aware of my bi tendancies, but doesn't always wrap her head around how I can still be interested in women but want to suck a guy.

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By *oss11Man
over a year ago

eastleigh

I totally agree with this, there has to be a woman present otherwise I find sucking a man abhorrent, very strange

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What we don't agree with are the people that use bi-sexuality as some sort of get out of jail free card. Cheating is cheating whether you are bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual.

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By *plforme500Man
over a year ago

Shirley


"What we don't agree with are the people that use bi-sexuality as some sort of get out of jail free card. Cheating is cheating whether you are bisexual, homosexual or heterosexual."

Times like this I wish there was a like button!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes she knows and to be honest she encouraged it more and we only ever play together never alone, she even helps to dress me as well as doing make up we even go out to buy clothes and we both enjoy same sex and male female fun. So bi sex is you like both sexes.

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

Yes to both I think lol

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Yes she knows and to be honest she encouraged it more and we only ever play together never alone, she even helps to dress me as well as doing make up we even go out to buy clothes and we both enjoy same sex and male female fun. So bi sex is you like both sexes. "
How have I not seen you two before now? Fantastic profile and pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the amount of straight men who contact us thinking were stupid and try to tell us they're bi all of a sudden, we just block males and females as if they can cheat on there partners with others then what else are they lying about std who knows not worth the risk.

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

She knows, yes.

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By *lackdog231bMan
over a year ago

spring grove

Ditto

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Can anyone show me a thread, any thread older than one day, that doesn't have a self-righteous 'cheat' comment on it please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can anyone show me a thread, any thread older than one day, that doesn't have a self-righteous 'cheat' comment on it please?"
well said mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first wife didn’t and would have had kittens if she knew (perhaps I should have come out sooner and saved years of boredom ).

My lovely wife guessed (she’s bi too) and positively encouraged me to explore and still does. I’m incredibly lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto Bisexfun! You get it so much more right on Marriage number 2 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry i was really referring to the bi married men on fab without there wives knowledge"

lol problematic

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"As an obedient cuck, I am often used as a fluffer by my mistress."

Good man Terry keep the cocks hard for June

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By *W55Man
over a year ago

Brecon

My Ex partner did not know about my Bi side, although sometimes I would feel guilty for deceiving her, I agree if your in a relationship and you indulge, it is cheating.

I am looking for my first MMF threesome, I hope someone local reads this and gets in touch ???? PLEASE

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By *lutonicMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Reading these thread.. I'm confused..

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By *lutonicMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Mate, I know what your going through. 'fuck it' do what u have yo do. You get one crack at life and your dont want to miss any corners.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Does your wife know you are bi?"

I think that when Char was playing with her pussy while watching me suck another guys cock, then she got a pretty good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a man enjoys playing with another man it erodes his masculinity, in the eyes of a lot of women. In ancient Rome it was considered acceptable to be the active partner, but not the passive one, as that was considered femenine. There were loads of gay and bisexual emperors and a few transgender ones to, like elegabalus, who declared himself empress of Rome and was murdered and dragged through the streets. The Romans were obsessed by penises, and believed they brought good luck. In pompei the walls of some of the houses are pictured men with huge penises and women with huge breasts.Servants would be used for sex as a matter of course, men and women. Romans used to enjoy orgies to ha ha ??

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