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Stage fright and failure

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This happens to all of us from time to time, any tips to get back going again

And don’t be twat saying never happens no one cares about how big a team twat you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot depends on the situation and your playmate(s). Are you talking about one-on-one or a group?

We've had a couple of meets where our male playmate had stage fright. Both times we simply took a break, had a drink and a chat, and then took things very slowly. We also made it very clear to the guys that it was no problem, so they didn't feel under pressure. It worked out OK in the end.

It must be difficult though if you have an unsympathetic or intolerant playmate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Either I heard bananas during the day were good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Either I heard bananas during the day were good "

If you're looking for a chemical cure, try viagra or cialis.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any other suggestions here

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

look into cock rings.

Get ones tight enough to help restrict blood flow out of the penis, as opposed to those that are designed to stretch or separate your balls or have vibrating crap on them.

I have gone through so many types and keep going back to some cheap ones from love honey for the better results.

Obviously YMMV with all the different materials, firmness etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big blue V. Never fails.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

A totally care free state of mind is a great starting place.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Honestly OP the biggest and best tip you'll get is find an understanding partner, as much as you can try and relax and not think about it, accept that it doesn't matter if it happens, there is still plenty of fun to be had if it doesn't - so focus on that and try and keep your mind away from yourself - you'll be surprised how he recovers/reappears after a while.

As you said, it happens to all of us, and can be for any number of reasons, but don't immediately reach for the blue pills either - while they *can* help, they may also not be needed.

If it is an ongoing problem, certainly take a trip to the GP to be sure there are no underlying physical problems but chances are it will be an in your head thing.

Remember too, there's no shame in it, even though there are those here that will suggest there is, any partner that makes you feel ashamed for not being able to perform was not the right partner for you in the first place.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

I always get nervous started having quick socials at start of meet that seemed to sort it avoiding alcohol the week before as well although 1 or 2 on night to help settle the nerves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do couples suggest for stage fright, have they had this happen much with their meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reasons for male erectile dysfunction are myriad. Could be psychological or physical. Apparently there is a new wonder drug available without prescription. I’ve taken it myself and I thought my head was going to explode. Speaking from personal experience don’t take it with alcohol or cocaine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s it called?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s it called? "

C22H30N6O4S is the chemical formulae. Sildenafil?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long did you stay hard for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 hours. It became too painful and I wanted it to stop. Viagra. You must of heard of viagra. You can buy it from boots the chemist now. Book an appointment an you have a 10 minute consultation with the pharmacist.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes but I prefer natural

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but I prefer natural "

That’s all well and good. But viagra is the only proven remedy.

No such thing as natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

L-Arginine can help some guys with ED.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"L-Arginine can help some guys with ED."

According to whom?

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey


"Yes but I prefer natural "

Diet, excercise and adequate sleep are good starting points. There are are herbal (natural) remedies available from Chinese medicine shops but just because a chemical is present in a plant it is still a chemical.

I suggest you try Sildenafil, it works well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes but I prefer natural

Diet, excercise and adequate sleep are good starting points. There are are herbal (natural) remedies available from Chinese medicine shops but just because a chemical is present in a plant it is still a chemical.

I suggest you try Sildenafil, it works well. "

I suggest that you read earlier posts

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey


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I suggest that you read earlier posts "

I did and was making my suggestion which was in support of viagra. There have been 100's of threads on the Fab forums about performance issues should you wish to do a search and yes the conclusions are often the same but that shouldn't stop someone adding their persional perspective which is what I was doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I suggest that you read earlier posts

I did and was making my suggestion which was in support of viagra. There have been 100's of threads on the Fab forums about performance issues should you wish to do a search and yes the conclusions are often the same but that shouldn't stop someone adding their persional perspective which is what I was doing."

Wouldn’t it have been easier just to say read the above posts?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers all let’s not get into a scrap hey all here for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers all let’s not get into a scrap hey all here for fun "

I know. I’m just being a arse. Sorry all.

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By *urrey Dave 69Man
over a year ago

Epsom, Surrey


"Cheers all let’s not get into a scrap hey all here for fun

I know. I’m just being a arse. Sorry all."

Agreed, The vast majority of my post wasn't mentioned in the previous posts on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheers all let’s not get into a scrap hey all here for fun

I know. I’m just being a arse. Sorry all.

Agreed, The vast majority of my post wasn't mentioned in the previous posts on this thread.

"

How about agreeing that you are a sanctimonious bore

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yes but I prefer natural

That’s all well and good. But viagra is the only proven remedy.

No such thing as natural. "

Viagra is *not* the only proven remedy, in fact it's not even a remedy, it still relies on arousal to work - but there are many different drugs that can do that all of which work in different ways - not disputing that Viagra (which is actually a brand name) doesn't help a lot of guys but to say it's the *only* remedy is somewhat misleading.

There are also no end of natural remedies that can help too - Ginseng is one, finding an understanding partner who you feel both relaxed and comfortable with is another, sometimes simple changes to diet and lifestyle can help overcome the problem.

The vast majority of ED problems are mental rather than physical, and while viagra and other pills/creams can help overcome either way they are also not an instant and guaranteed fix that give you an immediate erection just because you take one - and they also come with a number of possible side effects, including if you take them too often having the opposite effect to that intended.

So whilst drugs *are* undoubtedly an answer, they're not the *only* one and not to be taken lightly either.

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