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"Hi Mrs P Do you have orgasms during sex? Or when you have a wank? I get turned off really easily. They do something and my horny gets switched off. I call it my female ED. I think everyone is different so everyone is normal. Hope that makes sense. " Oh phew! That’s such a relief... Haven’t cum for anyone else but my partner for so long. Find it hard to let go. Mixed with sometimes incompatibility.... X | |||
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"Hi Mrs P Do you have orgasms during sex? Or when you have a wank? I get turned off really easily. They do something and my horny gets switched off. I call it my female ED. I think everyone is different so everyone is normal. Hope that makes sense. Oh phew! That’s such a relief... Haven’t cum for anyone else but my partner for so long. Find it hard to let go. Mixed with sometimes incompatibility.... X" There was a thread in the Lounge last week asking women if they cum during sex. The majority said they don't. They still have fun but the orgasm isn't their goal. | |||
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"I’ve just posted in another post about adoring giving BJs. It made me reflect how much of a ‘hurdle’ I have with receiving cunnilingus myself. Due to being on the Autistic spectrum, I find my brain can really not focus purely on the sensual act of oral. It may seem mad to some of you but my brain starts to focus on the spider over there; the tractor zooming by; the hair or the duvet cover I can’t quite reach! I know! Crazy and completely silly but real life for this household. It’s taken me to completely trust my husband and listen to him that I don’t smell. My senses are much higher than yours and I can smell things most others can’t. Then there is the mental hurdle I have that I have to switch off my brain that it should only be done a certain way. I’ve learnt that my nature is that I think there is only one way to do things. But in reality that’s not true is it... so if said gent is enjoying himself but I’m not getting that kick- then my mind is off on all of things above and many, many more. Do any other women have similar hurdles and what do you do? Have any men come across anyone similar? I’m finding that we’re slowly gathering a few close friends that I can admit these thoughts with. They’ve been very patient. Sometimes, mid play; when someone is really pleasing me and turning me on, I just Become overwhelmed and I have to jump up and stand somewhere and calm my senses. I pretend to get a drink or that I need the loo. But really my head is fucked and I am not coping with the sensory overload. I’ve had a few ex’s become very angry at me. Would that freak you out? I now know in my old age that I couldn’t express it and hope now I may be able to articulate things better. All advice welcomed to what you’ve experienced and also what you would do. Mrs P x " close you're eyes and out a peg on ya nose. | |||
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"I’m not sure if this is directly in the same realms as this topic but quite an interesting point based on what has been said. I’ve found quite often with ex’s and with my missus that after sex they’ll ask “did you cum”. There have been many times were actually I haven’t cum but that doesn’t mean that I have enjoyed myself. The question is there is to be a question should be “did you enjoy that”. I think far too much attention is put onto both partners having an orgasm or cumming. Sometimes things seem so rushed too. I actually prefer to take things slow, learn what each other likes and enjoy the actually moment and not just the climax. " | |||
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"I’ve just posted in another post about adoring giving BJs. It made me reflect how much of a ‘hurdle’ I have with receiving cunnilingus myself. Due to being on the Autistic spectrum, I find my brain can really not focus purely on the sensual act of oral. It may seem mad to some of you but my brain starts to focus on the spider over there; the tractor zooming by; the hair or the duvet cover I can’t quite reach! I know! Crazy and completely silly but real life for this household. It’s taken me to completely trust my husband and listen to him that I don’t smell. My senses are much higher than yours and I can smell things most others can’t. Then there is the mental hurdle I have that I have to switch off my brain that it should only be done a certain way. I’ve learnt that my nature is that I think there is only one way to do things. But in reality that’s not true is it... so if said gent is enjoying himself but I’m not getting that kick- then my mind is off on all of things above and many, many more. Do any other women have similar hurdles and what do you do? Have any men come across anyone similar? I’m finding that we’re slowly gathering a few close friends that I can admit these thoughts with. They’ve been very patient. Sometimes, mid play; when someone is really pleasing me and turning me on, I just Become overwhelmed and I have to jump up and stand somewhere and calm my senses. I pretend to get a drink or that I need the loo. But really my head is fucked and I am not coping with the sensory overload. I’ve had a few ex’s become very angry at me. Would that freak you out? I now know in my old age that I couldn’t express it and hope now I may be able to articulate things better. All advice welcomed to what you’ve experienced and also what you would do. Mrs P x " Great post. Like yourself i am on the spectrum. It's difficult to explain to each new encounter so i dont . I was made to gush for the first time last year and cried after as i felt a little more normal sexually. I adore sex and have gone to extreme lengths and circumstances to " feel ". I to disassociate and attach myself to other things around me. But as im getting older it is getting better and having great meets with fantastic people all adds. All the best Vivienne. | |||
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"Very enlightening Mrs P. Thanks for taking the time to post and get it out there " Thank you for your love and kind comment x | |||
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