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Why do men assume they're speaking to the female in a couple account?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

Thay think with there dicks, they want it to be the woman so it must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.

Usually it's a wrong assumption.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

This happens a lot and gets them an instant block.

Although our profile doesnt state its run by the male, if any guy with half a brain reads it they will work that out.

Guys who write a message to both of us get point's but guys who come in with a message to Daddy complimenting Babygirl get a golf star!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Get this alot but doesn't really bother us.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

In my case, it is always the male who messages me- mamy times pretendomg it is the female

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.

Usually it's a wrong assumption."

Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We often find it's the other way. They assume its him on the other side of the screen when 99 percent of the time its me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.

Usually it's a wrong assumption.

Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile."

Eh. Yeah.

Plenty of people don't bother with reading profiles!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.

Usually it's a wrong assumption.

Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile."

Exactly this!

On top of this for us, I'm not overly happy with how I look so I'm all for my wife having her pictures on here because then our profile looks great and I dont put a downer on it!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Loads of guys want to lick my pussy, apparently!

- Jack

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my case, it is always the male who messages me- mamy times pretendomg it is the female "

That's kinda creepy honesty is the best policy!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Is it just us where the majority seem to think they're addressing the guy of the couple?! Eg "I'd love to bang your wife" and other variations on the theme......

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Loads of guys want to lick my pussy, apparently!

- Jack "

Too good!

I also have a fantastic ass and they can tell I'd love to be dommed....

Certainly not the case for me and definitely not for the wife if it's a stranger!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too. "

That's the best way to be! If a message is addressed the both of us its way more likely to get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of guys want to lick my pussy, apparently!

- Jack "
this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my case, it is always the male who messages me- many times pretending it is the female "

Yup this is often my issue or the guy messaging alone no sign of the lady at all....cant have a threesome with only 2 people

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I daresay that the guys who just "assume" they're dealing with the female on a Couple's profile, haven't either read the respective profile (which often describes who exactly will be handling any approach messages!) OR, they lack the brain cell to automatically address both partners in a Couple!

Simple really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always address them both female and male. Besides if you wanna join them you need to get on with both

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too.

That's the best way to be! If a message is addressed the both of us its way more likely to get a response"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always address them both female and male. Besides if you wanna join them you need to get on with both "

Exactly the point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often get a message from the female half of a couple. It’s obvious it’s him not her tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always address them both female and male. Besides if you wanna join them you need to get on with both

Exactly the point! "

The guys who assume it's the female only have interest in her , and no interest in his needs ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get a message from the female half of a couple. It’s obvious it’s him not her tho. "

Really ? That is funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often get a message from the female half of a couple. It’s obvious it’s him not her tho.

Really ? That is funny "

It’s very common.

There’s also a lot of couples profiles where the female half is unaware or has left the profile.

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray


"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.

Usually it's a wrong assumption."

Well in that case then that just goes to show that some men don't read the profiles and just look at pics and msg them based on them, we have had many of them and they just get deleated

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

I always assume it’s the male im speaking to, only happened a few times that it’s turned out to be the female, sometimes there’s no female at all lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the opposite and have many a man tell us you’re wife is....’

When really it’s ‘the wife’ chatting with them

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By *immychefMan
over a year ago

BSE

Good morning you lovely people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always address them both female and male. Besides if you wanna join them you need to get on with both "

Same here

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

We get this alot even thought our profile clearly states that the husband is running the profile until we are back being active.

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

I always message addressing both but 9 times out 10 its the male have im talking too so strange most men think its the female half that will be doing most of the chatting

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I always assume it's the male talking.

Although I have had the lady message.

But that has only happened with one couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always address to both.. Its a couples profile after all. Usually its the male that responds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many people think that couples Swing because the man is shit in bed and is handing out the woman for other men to shag.

Or the woman can't control her horny urges (same with single women obviously) so they offer to shag her because they are kind and putting her out of her horny misery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

For us it seems that the bottom line is that all they want is to drop their muck and therefore not for us.

But on the up side it kills a few minutes just playing with the poor tit blind fools that can’t read a profile..

T

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I always assume it's the male talking.

Although I have had the lady message.

But that has only happened with one couple."

Why do you assume that?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We get daily messages aimed just at me, Over freindly, calling me pet names, talking directly and blanking other half.

It's a sure fire way to get a sarcastic reply and a block. Clearly says Stag and Vixen. So if they want to get anywhere near me, they have to go through him to get to me. But there so busy thinking with their knobbs, they don't read the profile.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We chat to people but always initial our messages so the others know exactly who they're talking toXxM

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Because all the photos are her ?

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By *isstonguetasticjoWoman
over a year ago

widnes

Nothing worse when reading couoles profiles tho sayin about thrm 'both'

But when u see the piccys

They all tend to be just one half of the sex

Mainly alot of the femails,

If u are a couole to show ur real mayb u shud both have piccys of u on

Mind you thst is if you really are a proper couole at times bevit married or pzrtners

I tend to see a lot on here who bake profiles up who are just fuck buddies but both also have their own partners

TOTAL turn off for me unfortunately

Honesty is the best policy for me

Im not into liars n cheats

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Which one of you has posted this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

not all of us do, as most times its the male online

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

We find the exact opposite

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

I find the opposite ,even though it says in our profile wife does most of the chat due to having more time ,but i still get "hey id love to fuck your wife " messages ,but saying that the ones who say "How are you both " are more respectful ...

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We get this all the time but 90 percent of time first message is hubby he deletes the nasty messages we receive if we don't reply quick enough etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only address as couple as should be couple intrested in

And what will be

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

As you mention cuckolding, maybe they feel that's the vibe you're looking for?

If it's a problem, why not make it clearer on your profile who they should write to.

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By *ont you just loveCouple
over a year ago

Banbury


"We often find it's the other way. They assume its him on the other side of the screen when 99 percent of the time its me.. "

Thats how it is with us, sometimes hubby dictates message. And I type it, other times I do them in my own but hubby never does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always assume I'm talking to the male. Experience tells me that many "couple" accounts don't actually have a female involved - so often she's "taking a break". Sad, but that's the way of the world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get a mix of both. Sometimes it’s hey beautiful or hey babe or something about her arse or how they’d love to be deep inside ‘me’ ....

Other times it’s oooooh you’re a lucky guy or oh your missus is the hottest thing on here and blah blahhhhh.

Never both get addressed in opening messages from single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blind optimism?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the guys ask who is here if we chat in the rooms. Sometimes, just for devilment, Dave will say it's me just to see how fast it goes from courtesy to cock

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Even put it in our profile that it's the guy but...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most of the guys ask who is here if we chat in the rooms. Sometimes, just for devilment, Dave will say it's me just to see how fast it goes from courtesy to cock "

This was my favourite part of having a couple profile Leading them on, never correcting them, and then enjoying the outrage or confusion when I start talking about having a cock

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By *xotic indianCouple
over a year ago

leicester

Depend who handle the account and check the mail .

I do and only show my wife is a couple who tick our boxes wink or mail us .If she say ok then we reply or take things further .

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes


"I always assume it's the male talking.

Although I have had the lady message.

But that has only happened with one couple.

Why do you assume that? "

Because, with the above exception, it has always been the male.

Don't get me wrong. I have no issue with corresponding with the male.

If I did how would I expect to handle when everyone gets naked?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Why do couples only show wife or gf pics? if you can answer that, you have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to avoid doing this as much as possible. Usually start with "hey guys" or something similar until I know who I'm talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get the opposite and have many a man tell us you’re wife is....’

When really it’s ‘the wife’ chatting with them"

This.. All the bloody time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I daresay that the guys who just "assume" they're dealing with the female on a Couple's profile, haven't either read the respective profile (which often describes who exactly will be handling any approach messages!) OR, they lack the brain cell to automatically address both partners in a Couple!

Simple really!"

DEFINITELY this - especially the last part. Or they're too busy practising their oral technique on the windows

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Our account is 95% of the time me the Mrs, but I tend to find when talking to single girls they tend to ask questions or refer to both of us as a couple. But when having chats with couples they tend to only focus on me and don't seem to have any interest in the Mr (even though we state in our bio we don't play with other men) however the majority we speak too are polite so I don't mind chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "

If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too?

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

I always address both as its impolite not to, Yorkshire manners

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

It's definitely a lack of etiquette and understanding of swinging. They are effectively ruling themselves out with a message addressed to the Mrs only, especially as Mr generally filters the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Agree with that op.

It happens a lot.

I would in that case tell them. My opinion

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

You shouldn't have to but maybe add it to your profile that you're a couple and want both of you to be spoken to,

Yellow card the first time they do it

Red card and block if they do it again.

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By *erms and conditionsCouple
over a year ago

Alton


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

This!!! Or they immediately presume a cuck relationship. It's not even a small amount either, it's every message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say it happens to us a lot. Most messages either address both of us or no one in particular (hey, how ya doin?).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't say it happens to us a lot. Most messages either address both of us or no one in particular (hey, how ya doin?)."

I ask, it's easier I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.

If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too? "

But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?

It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I assume every couples account that contacts me is gonna be the man/a man talking.

9 times out of 10 it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iff it’s a couples profile you should always address both of them I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.

If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too?

But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?

It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude"

True, but many couples are looking for ladies too.

I’ve looked at couples profiles and it’s all pics of her and the bio is too. It really makes you feel it’s a female profile. Easy to forget he exists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.

If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too?

But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?

It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude

True, but many couples are looking for ladies too.

I’ve looked at couples profiles and it’s all pics of her and the bio is too. It really makes you feel it’s a female profile. Easy to forget he exists. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the message ends with xxx I’d assume it was the female?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Because they are only interested in the female and want to forget there is another male involved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I assume every couples account that contacts me is gonna be the man/a man talking.

9 times out of 10 it is.

"

Probably true. Though tempted to say 99 out of 100

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By *ountessmarchCouple
over a year ago

Beverley

We always Fab as a couple, thus a couples profile but we do get a lot of attention for T.

It doesn't bother us because she is an awful tease and she will jump me if riled up too much

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

I'm surprised that happens as to be honest if I was making any assumption, I'd assume it was the Mr who was doing most of the leg work. But I'd always address to both. It's only polite.

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By *ove outsideCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ha I have the opposite too. I’ve even stated it’s Lucy who is always on and I get messages directed to my bf. Usually block them.

Just shows the people who read profiles and don’t get pass the pics!

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By *ornyWhoviansCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

haha yeah, it got so bad for us that we just had to block them! which is a huge shame to the genuine guys but, blame your gender! hey btw new couple from Blackpool

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By *ornyWhoviansCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Same, wonder if they do realise we get the rewards for there work! same on another site we post too, she loves reading them and masturbating and i get one of the best sites iv ever laid eyes on, so cheers guys haha

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "

Yes, I get all that, ours is, but surely you look to see if it's a couples profile or a single womans before messaging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??

Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??

Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated "

Before you even look at a pic you have to open the profile which clearly tells you whether it's, male, female, whatever and still. It's all a bit odd tbh.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

I always assume I am talking to the male half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How very dare they!

You just keep looking pretty their sweetheart and if you’re feeling horny then by all means send me some pictures of your tits xx

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By *av_55Man
over a year ago

NE

Alas it’s a regular topic of discussion at clubs and parties

But I think you will find .. most of the men who are .. should I say of an older eek tend to realise the way to a couples( heart) (bed) is to chat as if you where in there company

But that’s just this old chaps opinion .. and as they say .. opinions are like arsholes ..we all have one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??

Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated "

If men see women in photos that's all they can think about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are only interested in the female and want to forget there is another male involved? "

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Always put my message to the two of you ,never assume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens every single time without fail but think it's more to do with the fact it's all her pictures on here so they get the impression it's her they are speaking to . We find it more respectful when we're addressed as a couple though.

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By *cottyl1983Man
over a year ago

Tyne and Wear

It's always the male when I've messaged couples once or twice the female has replied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do alot of men assume alot of things when messaging?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

I always address the couple and put the males name first, this world is about respect and manners. If a couple is looking for a guy to join them, then it is just that, the single guy is being invited into the couples relationship and not the other way around, it's really quite simple and basic manners...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do alot of men assume alot of things when messaging?! "

Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups Xx

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

I always say "hi guys "or" hi both " to couples profiles never assume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea this has happened to us and when say it’s the man that the woman of the couple they say bye horrible people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do alot of men assume alot of things when messaging?! "

It's not their fault. It's difficult typing out a message using the tip of a spunky cock.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??

Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated

If men see women in photos that's all they can think about. "

I shouldn't laugh but it's true

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By *r GLTMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

I always refer to both in a polite well mannered way.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Maybe because the couples’ profile is usually only filled with pics of the female, so it’s natural to assume it’s the female running the profile

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

We get same and this is when the block button comes in handy, if they cant acknowledge both of us in a message then no chance they will get any further

Mrs Gs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

Thoughts? Yes they disregard me. We get their standard copy and paste crap. Even though it clearly states who runs the profile in the profile.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

(MrK) I never assume that I'm talking to the lady as in our case it's me that run our profile.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?

Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together

Thoughts?"

I (The Boy) run the account. I find it’s basically 50:50 either “your misses is well fit/ god you’re well fit”

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over a year ago

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

Just had a message from a Guy

wanting to know "Does she satisfy, is she really filthy and is she a real handful"

My response was

"Thanks for the questions, when my hubby gets in, I will ask him, if i measure up and depends on his reply, i will get back to you at some point"

The cheeky Sod came back with "ok thanks"....

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Not that I speak to many couples but the ones that I have it always seems to be the female controlling the account.

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